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Emily Ann's avatar

I'm sorry you're going through this. I worked in abuse and neglect court for several years. Hopefully you are seeking an attorney. You need to understand on what basis the state has taken custody of your daughter, and by now there should have been several court hearings in this regard. Additionally, there would typically be temporary guidelines in place for you to see your daughter, even if she is in an acute facility. You are still her parent and you do have rights until the state petitions to terminate them (hopefully, it won't get to that point).

I'd also recommend that to the extent you can, understand what they are treating her for at the acute facility and why. My daughter's psychiatric nurse practitioner cautioned me to avoid putting my child into an inpatient facility at all costs, because social contagion on OTHER disorders apparently runs rampant between adolescent girls at facilities of those types (eating disorders being one example).

Finally, I would recommend you start keeping a Google document of everything that happens - with CPS, the hospital, the courts, the schools. Write down a summary of every conversation you have with the date and time. I'd go back retroactively and start constructing an even more detailed timeline of what has happened in the past as this will help your lawyers. Do not leave anything out. Every little detail matters here, even things that may not seem significant now. Request records from every school she attended and include that as well.

Don't give up. Hopefully your daughter's case is assigned to a good judge who may see this for what it is, but with this ideology infecting every institution, legal representation will be essential.

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Polly's avatar

This is so terrible and I am so so sorry for what you are going through.

Please check out Genspect's parental advocacy page: https://genspect.org/advocacy/

You need support! Hugs and prayers that your dear daughter will soon be returned to you.

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