I can relate to much of this. Such a waste of our lives and our children's lives, to have to deal with this insanity. PITT, when you repost essays from years ago, is it possible to try and give an update on the family's present situation?
So heartbreaking. Everyone’s accounts here are. I have no children of my own, tho have friends going through this same nightmare, and feel so much compassion and sadness for what is happening to our youth. It is sheer evil.
This morning I read this substack that was forwarded to me.. it’s worth a read. Written by Jennifer Bilek, parent, therapist, author, and advocate for sanity, who was successful in rescuing her daughter from the madness.. for what it’s worth. And please consider passing it around.
Yes, it is all consuming and at this point, dizzying with all the information out there now. This is much more mainstream than 4-5 years ago when many of us were launched face-first over this cliff. I keep looking for things to hold onto and words to say that that will bring us safely to the ground. At least there seems to be more conversation happening and I don't feel that I need to hide my views. Sadly, there are also so many trans young people working in stores and restaurants than there had ever been before. It seems impossible to avoid and I'm not sure how this ship will correct course.
As soon as the lawsuits end the government promoting and protecting James Pritzker's hideous lobby, all those young people will fade back into normality and go on with their lives as though nothing had happened.
They did it with the Satanic panic. They'll do it with the Trans panic. It's how moral panics work.
Unfortunately, those who have poisoned or butchered their bodies will live with the physical alterations and health problems all their lives. But they will do their best to hide them, so no one blames them for having be groomed into this terrible cult that has harmed so many.
The time accounting metaphor really captures the exhaustion. Every conversation becomes a calclation, every interaction gets scrutinized for signs. It's intresting how you mention waiting for mainstream coverage from outlets beyond Fox News. That gap in media attention speaks volumes about how certian stories get buried when they don't fit preferred narratives.
I wonder how this mother and child are doing 3 years later. This is me. The obsessive research. Checking desperately each day for the magic words from the sick and disgusting politicians, doctors, media, teachers or social media groomers that they got it wrong. The magic antidote. The detail or admission that cannot be ignored or argued away. It will never come. But hope keeps me going. This. Must. Stop. I now have a grandchild to worry about.
Try getting outside for a brief walk every day. It may not be much, but it can give some relief. Your spare time is too precious to waste on your phone or computer.
"There’s the writing or journaling, documenting this grim, grief-filled slog, either for posterity or some far-off, mythical criminal prosecution for medical negligence."
and
"if only they’d accept it, and that there’s no magic potion that will turn them into more than a cosmetic facsimile of something they are not and will never be"
Praying that, one day soon, your child (and everyone else’s children) will emerge from the darkness of the gender cult and you will be freed up to spend your time in more rewarding endeavors. I have no hope that the Post, Times, or Maddow will announce anything good on this, though.The breakthroughs aren’t coming from those quarters.
Yes. I’m agreeing with everything I read here and then suddenly run into the idea that Rachael Maddow is the magical goddess that will end this transgender nightmare?
Rachael is playing for the other team. Shes on team Joseph Mengele and endless janky surgeries that bring the victim closer and closer to death.
I feel your pain, anxiety & most of all your deep love for your child; I share that pain, anxiety and love for my daughter(aka Adam)! May a God far bigger than this insane, social media driven delusion break through to our children and bring them Truth.
And may He have mercy on the 'professionals: doctors, counselors, legislators, educators' who have swallowed these evil lies and are actively assisting in the delusion and mutilation of our precious ones. I shudder to think of their eternal destiny aside from the mercy and forgiveness provided by Christ!
And may you somehow rest in this difficult journey and receive His peace which passes all understanding!
Before I opened substack today, I was fighting feelings of wishing the same fate on the friends and family who have encouraged my daughter's self harm. Truly fighting to keep those thoughts out of my head. Thank you for the reminder that we all need mercy and part of that is sanctification in me, to hope for mercy for these friends and family members. It would be merciful for the Lord to open their eyes and bring repentance. I join you in praying for that day, and leave the vengeance to Him. Praying for all of our kids and families to be freed from this evil.
Thank you! I'm a parent of a ROGD daughter in her 20s and you've explained our experience perfectly.
Every day I wake up, hoping THIS is the day our administration, Congress and brave doctors finally "call out" this medical scam; and that the billionaires, academics and media that have pushed this lie and brainwashed our beautiful kids are brought to justice and prosecuted. I pray this is the day the performative trans activist moms, who have tried to shame us for not affirming this medical scam, realize the horrific pain they've caused fellow parents. (I want an apology from them!) I pray this is the day we, the parents, file for a Class Action Suit against the people that pushed this lie, the fake "studies" from Harvard and Stanford, the profiteering nonprofits and the creepy globalists. (They need to pay to fix this and heal our kids from the damage they've done! ) And, most importantly, I pray that this is the day our daughter wakes up from this cult and realizes harming her healthy body will not make her the opposite sex, and will not fix her internal struggles. Working to save our kids from trans medicalization is a full time job. It's exhausting. I don't wish this experience on any parent. It's a living hell, but you're not alone!
I’m tearing up while reading this because I can relate to everything! I’ve done it all! It’s heartbreaking. I’m grateful for PITT and all the support and prayer groups that are helping us get through the days, weeks, months and years! God will prevail, even in this!!
Thank you. I had yet another restless night after being told I am possibly unsafe to be around since I won't participate in my son's delusion. It's good to hear more confirmation that I'm not alone in this. I hate it so much.
I'm considering the thought that my daughter, who has cut contact again because I avoid names and pronouns, my formally kind daughter, is actually the one who has become 'unsafe.' Of course they are uncomfortable around people who don't celebrate the harmful life choices. But their harmful actions and cruelty honestly wouldn't be tolerated in any other relationship. Our living in reality is not 'toxic' or 'unsafe.' I'm considering voicing that thought to her if it comes up again.
Do you think she'd hear you? Or would it just feed into the narrative she's being groomed into: that you'll attack her and make her even more of a victim than they've told her she already is?
I have toxic parents. They don't care what happens to me. They have made no effort to be in touch with me in 25 years, and now my father is dying and refuses to even answer email.
When my brother was in the Satanic panic, they did none of the things cited in this article. They simply went on with their lives feeling sorry for themselves. I was the only one in my family who made an effort to find a solution for what was happening to us all.
Your daughter needs to know that this difference exists between parents who care and parents who don't. Toxic parents do nothing. Loving parents keep trying.
Very good question. Before she started taking testosterone she was a deep thinker, compassionate, and would have thought about it if I presented it gently, maybe in question form. But I have to remember I'm not talking to that person any longer. It would likely feed the narrative. I think I will wait.
The last time I brought up the difference in her personality (didn't call or visit beloved grandmother in hospice care) it made her upset. I felt guilty about that afterwards. So I'll wait. Of course she currently cut me off for wishing her a 'beautiful year' on her birthday. As I always have, just didn't think before I typed it. Holidays are here and I don't want to feed that narrative during the holidays.
I'm trying hard to be loving and not reactive. I agree, loving parents try to help. I just have to slow down my words and wait for the right time, so that she will see the difference between toxic and caring.
I can relate to much of this. Such a waste of our lives and our children's lives, to have to deal with this insanity. PITT, when you repost essays from years ago, is it possible to try and give an update on the family's present situation?
"the medical community has followed up their complete failure of the opioid epidemic with the cosmic-level betrayal of vulnerable, confused children"
This is it, isn't it?
The whole thing in a nutshell.
I hear your pain🫂
So heartbreaking. Everyone’s accounts here are. I have no children of my own, tho have friends going through this same nightmare, and feel so much compassion and sadness for what is happening to our youth. It is sheer evil.
This morning I read this substack that was forwarded to me.. it’s worth a read. Written by Jennifer Bilek, parent, therapist, author, and advocate for sanity, who was successful in rescuing her daughter from the madness.. for what it’s worth. And please consider passing it around.
https://open.substack.com/pub/jbilek/p/when-non-binary-entered-my-home-a?r=egu6k&utm_medium=ios
Yes, it is all consuming and at this point, dizzying with all the information out there now. This is much more mainstream than 4-5 years ago when many of us were launched face-first over this cliff. I keep looking for things to hold onto and words to say that that will bring us safely to the ground. At least there seems to be more conversation happening and I don't feel that I need to hide my views. Sadly, there are also so many trans young people working in stores and restaurants than there had ever been before. It seems impossible to avoid and I'm not sure how this ship will correct course.
As soon as the lawsuits end the government promoting and protecting James Pritzker's hideous lobby, all those young people will fade back into normality and go on with their lives as though nothing had happened.
They did it with the Satanic panic. They'll do it with the Trans panic. It's how moral panics work.
Unfortunately, those who have poisoned or butchered their bodies will live with the physical alterations and health problems all their lives. But they will do their best to hide them, so no one blames them for having be groomed into this terrible cult that has harmed so many.
The time accounting metaphor really captures the exhaustion. Every conversation becomes a calclation, every interaction gets scrutinized for signs. It's intresting how you mention waiting for mainstream coverage from outlets beyond Fox News. That gap in media attention speaks volumes about how certian stories get buried when they don't fit preferred narratives.
I wonder how this mother and child are doing 3 years later. This is me. The obsessive research. Checking desperately each day for the magic words from the sick and disgusting politicians, doctors, media, teachers or social media groomers that they got it wrong. The magic antidote. The detail or admission that cannot be ignored or argued away. It will never come. But hope keeps me going. This. Must. Stop. I now have a grandchild to worry about.
"I wonder how this mother and child are doing 3 years later"
This is a REALLY good question.
PITT, would it be possible to get a follow-up post from her?
What a nightmare. I can relate to so much of it. T I hope the author's prayers have been answered since this essay was first posted 4 years ago.
OK, thank you, I hadn’t known this article is four years old. That somewhat explains this odd belief that Rachael Maddow will save us.
Yes, I was thinking the same thing. Rachel Maddow? Why would you count on one of the Trans Toddlers believers and groomers to flip?
Try getting outside for a brief walk every day. It may not be much, but it can give some relief. Your spare time is too precious to waste on your phone or computer.
Yes, all true. I especially appreciate:
"There’s the writing or journaling, documenting this grim, grief-filled slog, either for posterity or some far-off, mythical criminal prosecution for medical negligence."
and
"if only they’d accept it, and that there’s no magic potion that will turn them into more than a cosmetic facsimile of something they are not and will never be"
Praying that, one day soon, your child (and everyone else’s children) will emerge from the darkness of the gender cult and you will be freed up to spend your time in more rewarding endeavors. I have no hope that the Post, Times, or Maddow will announce anything good on this, though.The breakthroughs aren’t coming from those quarters.
Yes. I’m agreeing with everything I read here and then suddenly run into the idea that Rachael Maddow is the magical goddess that will end this transgender nightmare?
Rachael is playing for the other team. Shes on team Joseph Mengele and endless janky surgeries that bring the victim closer and closer to death.
I feel your pain, anxiety & most of all your deep love for your child; I share that pain, anxiety and love for my daughter(aka Adam)! May a God far bigger than this insane, social media driven delusion break through to our children and bring them Truth.
And may He have mercy on the 'professionals: doctors, counselors, legislators, educators' who have swallowed these evil lies and are actively assisting in the delusion and mutilation of our precious ones. I shudder to think of their eternal destiny aside from the mercy and forgiveness provided by Christ!
And may you somehow rest in this difficult journey and receive His peace which passes all understanding!
Before I opened substack today, I was fighting feelings of wishing the same fate on the friends and family who have encouraged my daughter's self harm. Truly fighting to keep those thoughts out of my head. Thank you for the reminder that we all need mercy and part of that is sanctification in me, to hope for mercy for these friends and family members. It would be merciful for the Lord to open their eyes and bring repentance. I join you in praying for that day, and leave the vengeance to Him. Praying for all of our kids and families to be freed from this evil.
Thank you! I'm a parent of a ROGD daughter in her 20s and you've explained our experience perfectly.
Every day I wake up, hoping THIS is the day our administration, Congress and brave doctors finally "call out" this medical scam; and that the billionaires, academics and media that have pushed this lie and brainwashed our beautiful kids are brought to justice and prosecuted. I pray this is the day the performative trans activist moms, who have tried to shame us for not affirming this medical scam, realize the horrific pain they've caused fellow parents. (I want an apology from them!) I pray this is the day we, the parents, file for a Class Action Suit against the people that pushed this lie, the fake "studies" from Harvard and Stanford, the profiteering nonprofits and the creepy globalists. (They need to pay to fix this and heal our kids from the damage they've done! ) And, most importantly, I pray that this is the day our daughter wakes up from this cult and realizes harming her healthy body will not make her the opposite sex, and will not fix her internal struggles. Working to save our kids from trans medicalization is a full time job. It's exhausting. I don't wish this experience on any parent. It's a living hell, but you're not alone!
I’m tearing up while reading this because I can relate to everything! I’ve done it all! It’s heartbreaking. I’m grateful for PITT and all the support and prayer groups that are helping us get through the days, weeks, months and years! God will prevail, even in this!!
Thank you. I had yet another restless night after being told I am possibly unsafe to be around since I won't participate in my son's delusion. It's good to hear more confirmation that I'm not alone in this. I hate it so much.
I'm considering the thought that my daughter, who has cut contact again because I avoid names and pronouns, my formally kind daughter, is actually the one who has become 'unsafe.' Of course they are uncomfortable around people who don't celebrate the harmful life choices. But their harmful actions and cruelty honestly wouldn't be tolerated in any other relationship. Our living in reality is not 'toxic' or 'unsafe.' I'm considering voicing that thought to her if it comes up again.
Do you think she'd hear you? Or would it just feed into the narrative she's being groomed into: that you'll attack her and make her even more of a victim than they've told her she already is?
I have toxic parents. They don't care what happens to me. They have made no effort to be in touch with me in 25 years, and now my father is dying and refuses to even answer email.
When my brother was in the Satanic panic, they did none of the things cited in this article. They simply went on with their lives feeling sorry for themselves. I was the only one in my family who made an effort to find a solution for what was happening to us all.
Your daughter needs to know that this difference exists between parents who care and parents who don't. Toxic parents do nothing. Loving parents keep trying.
She's being *told* there's no difference.
But your behavior proves there is.
Very good question. Before she started taking testosterone she was a deep thinker, compassionate, and would have thought about it if I presented it gently, maybe in question form. But I have to remember I'm not talking to that person any longer. It would likely feed the narrative. I think I will wait.
The last time I brought up the difference in her personality (didn't call or visit beloved grandmother in hospice care) it made her upset. I felt guilty about that afterwards. So I'll wait. Of course she currently cut me off for wishing her a 'beautiful year' on her birthday. As I always have, just didn't think before I typed it. Holidays are here and I don't want to feed that narrative during the holidays.
I'm trying hard to be loving and not reactive. I agree, loving parents try to help. I just have to slow down my words and wait for the right time, so that she will see the difference between toxic and caring.
Thanks for the insight.
I'm "not the mom she needs right now." My husband and I are out here fighting withy you. You're not alone. There are thousands and thousands of us.