This made me emotional in a really good way. Very happy for your daughter. I know what’s it like to come out on the other side of medical intervention not curing anything but creating more problems.
Thank you for sharing this very honest and practical essay. You wrote "I believe that the medical fast tracking of trans-self-identifying children and young adults is a contemporary twist on American individualism taken to its point of absurdity." This is indeed the truth, the horrid truth of what is happening. I am glad you were able to shield your daughter, move away and that she is blossoming into the beautiful daughter she was intended to become. It should be a crime for therapists to affirm any patient, especially after just a few sessions - you brought up excellent points that that therapist should have been exploring but he was ignorant and thought he knew more than you - her Mother! Bravo. Thank you for this lesson and I hope many readers will be able to use your bravery tools to help their son or daughter. Best wishes to you and your daughter.
As someone who also lives in a "city in the former Soviet Union"... This child is likely being held against his will in some extreme conservative countryside and will be forced into marriage and childbirth in two years or so. I've seen those cases. The reason he appears to be getting "better" is because the anti-trans legislations that Russia has implemented (along with many other terrible laws) are currently rubbing off and impacting plenty of Post-Soviet countries, and he is likely extremely scared for his life. Congratulations on putting your son's life in danger. I know you don't want him to die, so... Please, try to think rationally. "Getting back to your roots" in some granola homeopathy essential oil way will not heal your child's ADHD, body dysmorphia or eating disorder. Even if the community you are currently at is genuinely nice and will accept your son when he figures himself out, if you won't... If you just take him somewhere else and rip him away from his community because you want to keep him in your grip and destroy who he is... You are going to lose your kid. Your kid will die. Because of you. That's horrible, and you don't want that. No one wants that. Please do not deny your child healthcare and education about who he is.
Agree 100%. I’m a therapist and appalled, although I understand why your daughter’s therapist is a chump. They get paid to get them “stamped” so the money makers can benefit and do the procedures. A therapist should NEVER make a firm diagnosis so cut and dry, especially not over 4 sessions. I do addiction as well and never diagnose anything until a person is at least 6 months clean.
Thank you!! You have sense, you are a smart Mother who didn't lose the focus in reality and decided to do what is right regardless the environment of self deception and hypocrisy. But let's say things how they are without euphemism, the "health" professionals, therapist, doctors and the like are monsters, because they should know better and if they don't know the college system in this country is collapsing or its approach is wrong. Many years ago with my sons starting College one by one because they are close in age, the first son in the first year that was his first year away, he came back, not during the Christmas, but after a whole year and I noticed he was hesitant to talk about things, like we used to (we used to have dinners where we talk about politics, social issues, etc) he told me once"I have a more comprehensive knowledge now so we shouldn't talk about it". I looked at him and I said "Is not that a contradiction? Why you don't teach us your new knowledge so we all learn", I think we were talking about Jim Crow laws or the law about inter race marriage that was lift up in 1963, we always taught our children that history was one of the most important subjects because we learned from the errors of the past so not to repeat things that not work. The story short is that he thought now that "some things" were better not talked about because the "feelings" of people can be "hurt" and that it is all in the past but he also said something very interesting that there were "groups or organizations" that took care of that". We were naive we didn't see the extent of what education is in America for the most part, not all. My husband told me "it looks like knowledge or access to history had been hijacked for certain groups that dictate what the others should think or not think, and cancel any kind of descent or question that other students could have", I thought about that, we did not know the extent, now we know that universities are places of indoctrination. I mention this because this relates with something you mentioned "American individualism" when maybe what did you mean is "American egoism or egotism or selfishness" because believe me, Americans are not individualists, that is why "peer pressure" works in this country, that is why we have "influencers" that dictate what we must buy or wear or think about something, that is why we have propaganda (ads) about the most popular products as Pepsi, why this companies have to still paying for ads when they are in the more remotes areas of the planet and its brand known in the whole Earth?? Why we say "keeping up with the Jones"?? An individualist person has his/her own mind, and it is not a follower at all, has critical thinking and common sense and if he or she mistakes or is wrong about something he/she owns it, they don't blame others and they don't justify themselves. Of course a pure individualist person is hard to find because we are humans and we are influenced by our environment and education, etc but still we have to be able to distinguish what influences are purely exterior and if they have our best interest at heart or we have been treated as "consumers" in this case of ideologies that are without a doubt hurtful, category "Mengele experiments". We are in awe when we learned about the sterilizations of women who were not consider very smart or the lobotomies that were done in mental patients in past decades, but we are not in horror when we see what they are doing to our children? Are we so desensitized? Where that "normalization" comes from? From the College system that teach you not to talk about certain sensitive topics, or peer pressure you (control) into comply to certain "sheep" behavior at less you are in that group that give you a sense of "belonging and purpose" that you don't have to start with because you don't have any individualist trace in you neither thought of self-worth because you depends on the opinions of others to know who your are?? Transgenderism is a symptom of a bigger issue in our society and we must address first all what is wrong to change the rotten societal landscape that give room for people want to change what is given by nature, at the end it is a war against nature, against the idea that we should to take care for the environment, being myself a real environmentalist it upsets me deeply because humans are at the center of any environment we want to take care of and we are inter-dependent of each other, what would be the purpose of have cleaner waters, or more trees or less pollution if we have deranged and lost humans that are suffering without sense? ? Ending in a positive note I congratulate you because you took your daughter out and moved abroad so she can find herself in a neutral field where all the "American problems" are left behind, now she has only "her inside" problems to deal with and you are helping her! You also mentioned that she is is developing in a quirky and fascinating way? Those are labels (Americans and their love for labels!) To me she is developing a personality on her own, a character, and she is not conventional. What is wrong with that? God creates us all different for a reason. I wish you the best of the out comings!!
This was a great story. We are fortunate we elected President Trump because he brought back common sense and he will to not bend to emotional non-scientific ideas. To those parents in countries with progressive (what an oxymoron) leadership, keep fighting for your kids.
Thank you. Restacked with a note that "This is what it looks like when I Mother fights for her daughter's bodily integrity against the trans-industry MOB".
What you have described here so well is that "diagnostic overshadowing" that these faux therapists LOVE to do. So, when they "diagnose" kids with "dysphoria", NOTHING ELSE MATTERS, least of all any trauma that may have brought them there.
This made me emotional in a really good way. Very happy for your daughter. I know what’s it like to come out on the other side of medical intervention not curing anything but creating more problems.
Thank you for sharing this very honest and practical essay. You wrote "I believe that the medical fast tracking of trans-self-identifying children and young adults is a contemporary twist on American individualism taken to its point of absurdity." This is indeed the truth, the horrid truth of what is happening. I am glad you were able to shield your daughter, move away and that she is blossoming into the beautiful daughter she was intended to become. It should be a crime for therapists to affirm any patient, especially after just a few sessions - you brought up excellent points that that therapist should have been exploring but he was ignorant and thought he knew more than you - her Mother! Bravo. Thank you for this lesson and I hope many readers will be able to use your bravery tools to help their son or daughter. Best wishes to you and your daughter.
As someone who also lives in a "city in the former Soviet Union"... This child is likely being held against his will in some extreme conservative countryside and will be forced into marriage and childbirth in two years or so. I've seen those cases. The reason he appears to be getting "better" is because the anti-trans legislations that Russia has implemented (along with many other terrible laws) are currently rubbing off and impacting plenty of Post-Soviet countries, and he is likely extremely scared for his life. Congratulations on putting your son's life in danger. I know you don't want him to die, so... Please, try to think rationally. "Getting back to your roots" in some granola homeopathy essential oil way will not heal your child's ADHD, body dysmorphia or eating disorder. Even if the community you are currently at is genuinely nice and will accept your son when he figures himself out, if you won't... If you just take him somewhere else and rip him away from his community because you want to keep him in your grip and destroy who he is... You are going to lose your kid. Your kid will die. Because of you. That's horrible, and you don't want that. No one wants that. Please do not deny your child healthcare and education about who he is.
Thank you
You really are the definition heroic parent. She is so lucky that you have her back. Good luck with the rest of your journey together.
What a wonderful mom you are.
Agree 100%. I’m a therapist and appalled, although I understand why your daughter’s therapist is a chump. They get paid to get them “stamped” so the money makers can benefit and do the procedures. A therapist should NEVER make a firm diagnosis so cut and dry, especially not over 4 sessions. I do addiction as well and never diagnose anything until a person is at least 6 months clean.
Many of the people who did this to children really do deserve to die.
Thank you!! You have sense, you are a smart Mother who didn't lose the focus in reality and decided to do what is right regardless the environment of self deception and hypocrisy. But let's say things how they are without euphemism, the "health" professionals, therapist, doctors and the like are monsters, because they should know better and if they don't know the college system in this country is collapsing or its approach is wrong. Many years ago with my sons starting College one by one because they are close in age, the first son in the first year that was his first year away, he came back, not during the Christmas, but after a whole year and I noticed he was hesitant to talk about things, like we used to (we used to have dinners where we talk about politics, social issues, etc) he told me once"I have a more comprehensive knowledge now so we shouldn't talk about it". I looked at him and I said "Is not that a contradiction? Why you don't teach us your new knowledge so we all learn", I think we were talking about Jim Crow laws or the law about inter race marriage that was lift up in 1963, we always taught our children that history was one of the most important subjects because we learned from the errors of the past so not to repeat things that not work. The story short is that he thought now that "some things" were better not talked about because the "feelings" of people can be "hurt" and that it is all in the past but he also said something very interesting that there were "groups or organizations" that took care of that". We were naive we didn't see the extent of what education is in America for the most part, not all. My husband told me "it looks like knowledge or access to history had been hijacked for certain groups that dictate what the others should think or not think, and cancel any kind of descent or question that other students could have", I thought about that, we did not know the extent, now we know that universities are places of indoctrination. I mention this because this relates with something you mentioned "American individualism" when maybe what did you mean is "American egoism or egotism or selfishness" because believe me, Americans are not individualists, that is why "peer pressure" works in this country, that is why we have "influencers" that dictate what we must buy or wear or think about something, that is why we have propaganda (ads) about the most popular products as Pepsi, why this companies have to still paying for ads when they are in the more remotes areas of the planet and its brand known in the whole Earth?? Why we say "keeping up with the Jones"?? An individualist person has his/her own mind, and it is not a follower at all, has critical thinking and common sense and if he or she mistakes or is wrong about something he/she owns it, they don't blame others and they don't justify themselves. Of course a pure individualist person is hard to find because we are humans and we are influenced by our environment and education, etc but still we have to be able to distinguish what influences are purely exterior and if they have our best interest at heart or we have been treated as "consumers" in this case of ideologies that are without a doubt hurtful, category "Mengele experiments". We are in awe when we learned about the sterilizations of women who were not consider very smart or the lobotomies that were done in mental patients in past decades, but we are not in horror when we see what they are doing to our children? Are we so desensitized? Where that "normalization" comes from? From the College system that teach you not to talk about certain sensitive topics, or peer pressure you (control) into comply to certain "sheep" behavior at less you are in that group that give you a sense of "belonging and purpose" that you don't have to start with because you don't have any individualist trace in you neither thought of self-worth because you depends on the opinions of others to know who your are?? Transgenderism is a symptom of a bigger issue in our society and we must address first all what is wrong to change the rotten societal landscape that give room for people want to change what is given by nature, at the end it is a war against nature, against the idea that we should to take care for the environment, being myself a real environmentalist it upsets me deeply because humans are at the center of any environment we want to take care of and we are inter-dependent of each other, what would be the purpose of have cleaner waters, or more trees or less pollution if we have deranged and lost humans that are suffering without sense? ? Ending in a positive note I congratulate you because you took your daughter out and moved abroad so she can find herself in a neutral field where all the "American problems" are left behind, now she has only "her inside" problems to deal with and you are helping her! You also mentioned that she is is developing in a quirky and fascinating way? Those are labels (Americans and their love for labels!) To me she is developing a personality on her own, a character, and she is not conventional. What is wrong with that? God creates us all different for a reason. I wish you the best of the out comings!!
The trans cultists and the Covid cultists were often the same people.
"Gay conversion practices" so true, thank you for calling out the hypocrisy.
BRAVO for you and especially your wonderful daughter!
Such an articulate essay. Thank you.
This was a great story. We are fortunate we elected President Trump because he brought back common sense and he will to not bend to emotional non-scientific ideas. To those parents in countries with progressive (what an oxymoron) leadership, keep fighting for your kids.
Thank you. Restacked with a note that "This is what it looks like when I Mother fights for her daughter's bodily integrity against the trans-industry MOB".
What you have described here so well is that "diagnostic overshadowing" that these faux therapists LOVE to do. So, when they "diagnose" kids with "dysphoria", NOTHING ELSE MATTERS, least of all any trauma that may have brought them there.
Your daughter is so lucky to have you. I hope that she has continued to do well. Thank you for sharing your well written essay.