Thank you for all you have done for your daughter and standing up to the madness. I am a mother in a similar situation with my 14 yr old son. He has always presented as a stereotypical boy (rough housing, loving male centric toys like weapons, nerf-gun etc) and then fast forward to the onset of puberty where he struggled with fitting in …
Thank you for all you have done for your daughter and standing up to the madness. I am a mother in a similar situation with my 14 yr old son. He has always presented as a stereotypical boy (rough housing, loving male centric toys like weapons, nerf-gun etc) and then fast forward to the onset of puberty where he struggled with fitting in with a 'group'. He's always been well liked -bright, funny and kind. When he came out as gay at 13 his family and friends accepted him completely. But the following yr he started at a new conservative (mostly Christian) private school where the boys were not as accepting and my son felt bullied. Anxiety and body dysmorphia set in. He said that the thought of two guys together didn't seem right. I sent him to a gender therapist to help him with these opposing feelings and to be okay with who he is in a society that didn't always honor homosexuality. Instead, the gender therapist asked if he might be "happier as a girl" (!!!) and that he could go on puberty blockers "to push the pause button" (!!!) the rest was a nightmare I couldn't seem to wake from... I had to educate myself fast as I felt I was in a rush to save my son's life. Since then I have found a non affirming therapist. One willing to actually find out what is at the root cause of my son's feelings (which we both suspect comes from not having positive, gay role models and coming to terms with being okay with his highly sensitive nature). Fortunately, I have a deep bond with my son. He is still struggling with body dysphoria but he is bright and lucid enough to know that transitioning, mtf, is not being a girl and that he would always be a boy trying to be a girl and that sounded equally distressing to him. It's hard though, as the current zeitgeist / social media is filled with celebratory coming out narratives, influencers transitioning, supposedly living their best lives, as if the hormones and surgeries where of no consequence. I do believe that some children are born with a severe distress of feeling like they are not the sex they are told they are. In these unique cases transition may help them. I have compassion for them and would not want to keep treatment from them. But this is NOT what so many of us are speaking out about. It is the epidemic of confused, anxious teens. Please let's not fail them. Everyone, get your voice heard.
Thank you for all you have done for your daughter and standing up to the madness. I am a mother in a similar situation with my 14 yr old son. He has always presented as a stereotypical boy (rough housing, loving male centric toys like weapons, nerf-gun etc) and then fast forward to the onset of puberty where he struggled with fitting in with a 'group'. He's always been well liked -bright, funny and kind. When he came out as gay at 13 his family and friends accepted him completely. But the following yr he started at a new conservative (mostly Christian) private school where the boys were not as accepting and my son felt bullied. Anxiety and body dysmorphia set in. He said that the thought of two guys together didn't seem right. I sent him to a gender therapist to help him with these opposing feelings and to be okay with who he is in a society that didn't always honor homosexuality. Instead, the gender therapist asked if he might be "happier as a girl" (!!!) and that he could go on puberty blockers "to push the pause button" (!!!) the rest was a nightmare I couldn't seem to wake from... I had to educate myself fast as I felt I was in a rush to save my son's life. Since then I have found a non affirming therapist. One willing to actually find out what is at the root cause of my son's feelings (which we both suspect comes from not having positive, gay role models and coming to terms with being okay with his highly sensitive nature). Fortunately, I have a deep bond with my son. He is still struggling with body dysphoria but he is bright and lucid enough to know that transitioning, mtf, is not being a girl and that he would always be a boy trying to be a girl and that sounded equally distressing to him. It's hard though, as the current zeitgeist / social media is filled with celebratory coming out narratives, influencers transitioning, supposedly living their best lives, as if the hormones and surgeries where of no consequence. I do believe that some children are born with a severe distress of feeling like they are not the sex they are told they are. In these unique cases transition may help them. I have compassion for them and would not want to keep treatment from them. But this is NOT what so many of us are speaking out about. It is the epidemic of confused, anxious teens. Please let's not fail them. Everyone, get your voice heard.