Thank you for your post. I am so sorry to hear of your trauma, but I am very glad you came through it. The whole thing is quite evil in concept, driven as much by pharmaceutical drugs as anything and the desire of those who wish to profit by the chaos.
Getting people onto anti-depression or anti-anxiety drugs is part of pharma's game plan.
And much of this started with the vaccine schedule where toxic substances are injected into growing bodies , a receipe for disaster as we witness today.
Peaceful birthday wishes to you my friend. I also think "they" pushed too far. When this pendulum swings in the opposite direction, it's going to be a wrecking ball. Tgis whole thing being accepted and worse,pushed, onto children is an absolute cruel and heinous act of medical negligence. No, not even adults should be allowed to cut their privates off. Just cross dress if you're am adult and have am obsession. I'll go as far to say I think it's unfair to straight people to have to possibly meet a trans person without knowing they were trans only to find out later. Hiding behind the opposite sex and pretending to be so thin you're not, it's a lie and it's pernicious.
I have come to detest this movement, whereas BEFORE, I was kind of "whatever, you do you" attitude. Once personally affected, you realise just how evil and sock tgis whole thing is.
Us parents have just been cast aside, swept under the carpet, disregarded and even ridiculed and taargeted. This thing has taken me to a very dark place.
Heads need to roll. It is evil!!
I hear you. Sending you love my dear, as us parents who are in this with you do understand and we hear yr pain.
Please remember that none of this is "affirming" anything. That is part of the positive jargon invented for this dystopian marketing campaign.
What they demand of parents is ENFORCING: enforcing the lie that humans can change sex, enforcing the lies of sexist gender stereotypes, enforcing the lies of a predatory Big Pharma/medical industry lobby created by a tiny handful of billionaire men *specifically* to profit grotesquely off the butchery of vulnerable young people's bodies.
It is insanity. Cruel, brutal, extreme self-harm insanity.
Gender ideology is an attack on kids and parents. looking at the Dentons legal report that gives instruction to activists on how to promote gender ideology, its clear that removing parental safeguards has always been the goal and their bogus talking points only the method to achieve that goal. Its a misinformation campaign. parents should become familiar with gender critical responses to the dogma, this helps ID where the cult wall is built but use caution not to let on you know this right away. interaction with affected can be like communicating with narcissists. so some of those strategies are helpful. but studies show that anyone can be more entrenched in their opinion even when shown they are wrong. so the direct approach is more likely to backfire. keep the relationship, like mao fought the japanese, know when to run to live to fight another day, dont burn bridges. your relationship is the lifeline even if its separated. also withdraw when its needed to protect your mental health. you didnt cause this. people who have been scammed by gender ideology talking points have. like a parent aboard an airliner that lost cabin pressure, use the O2 on yourself first, if you are incapacitated you cant help anyone. I dont have a trans ID kid. so really everything i say isnt from experience. my heart goes out to anyone who has had to deal with this. but i sometimes communicate and argue with affected people on twitter . i post a gender critical comment and they attack me with their spoon fed talking points. from the safety of their screen they tell me the reasons why they believe this scam. so im familiar with all of the talking points, and the ones dems have been spoon fed as well. my starting point is that every gender ideology stat and claim is a lie. and if your good at reading the methods sections from these "studies" that are presented as the reasons why they are convinced and other GC info one can go on quite a while countering these talking points. . but the talking points are only a means to take a mental vacation. give them one. thats what they are insisting on. but dont affirm dance around it. how many boundaries and environment changes you can make is on a case by case basis but include limiting internet use, take PC out of kids room and place in common area where you can seen screen, getting kid a gabb phone (no apps and no browser) change schools, move to change schools, change your job schedule. i realise none of this may help. just some ideas.
Sometimes I wonder…do they not wake up every day & think ‘how am I going to make it through the day without thinking about my mom or dad’. They think about us, but in bad light. It’s horrible being hated by your own kid
I read this after finding out the singer Sade has accepted her daughter as a "trans son" and is making an album to celebrate her daughter's transition. It's sad Sade gave up the fight and I pray for her baby girl :(
Of course she's going to make an album. It makes her relevant if she does. A lot of celebrities have kids who've gone down this road. I suspect more than we know--that there are celebrity parents struggling too and just keeping it on the down low.
I haven't seen my son in 2 1/2 years. The last time was at his cousin's wedding at the end of August. He arrived 5 minutes before it started (we'd been in town for two nights by then) and left without saying goodbye before dinner was served. That fall he started posting pics on social media of himself wearing women's clothing (to all kinds of accolades, of course) and by April the following year he was bragging on social media about taking estrogen.
We've never had a conversation about this. His (much older) lady friend is 100% supportive. He too is quite tall and broad shouldered and had a wonderful beard. He's also on the autistic spectrum like so many others, yet funny, gentle, kind and so smart. He had a job with the state that he threw away for better paying job that he managed to get fired from. He was unemployed for almost a year and now he's working for a dispensary. All if it just breaks my heart.
My second Thanksgiving, Christmas and then my Birthday without my son. With each one that passes I feel like he gets further away from me and I will never see him again. He is just forgetting about us all. My once loving son.
I haven’t been with my son in years. He has gotten further from me. It’s almost like he went off to war and was killed. My 75th birthday coming up and all I can wish for is to see him before I die but as the handsome 6 foot man that left my home when he was 19😒
Same. My handsome 6 feet 3 started his poisonous daily mix of off label drugs at 19. Three years later he is obese in ill fitting awful, stereotyped dresses and skirts. I yearn to see him as he was before this horrid mess.
The distance my son is willing to have from his loving parents in favor of a pathetic charade, which is destroying his mental and physical health, is a tender core of my pain (though the tendrils of suffering around this horror are many.) While my son is a vulnerable young "adult" on the autistic spectrum who was preyed upon, this perspective co-exists with my deep, incredulous hurt by his nonchalance about dismissing the guidance and effortful caring that my husband and I offered him for 19 years. This pain of an unnatural separation with my son stabs several times a day. I, too, feel this acutely on birthdays (his , mine, his sister, his father) and on holidays. It seems so sad to consider that there may be a time when I need to take time to calculate how many milestones have passed since my son was part of my life in any meaningful way.
Please listen to Julie Bindel’s Genderland. It’s UK based, but do you know anyone who could put something similar together in the US? Documentary or Podcast? There must be some media interested??
Love and appreciate her. I wish they would bring her on to some of the “liberal”‘podcasts like Pod Save America or The Bunker. These hosts are outrageously ignorant about the impact of this ideology on women and children. Or they don’t care.. or they’re too busy not upsetting the left loons..
I highly recommend that all parents struggling with a transitioning child read Elizabeth Mondegreen's essay from the book, Gender Rebels by Sybilla Claus:
Thank you for writing this essay. I want to particularly emphasize, as you wrote, that the result of gender affirmation is to “chemically castrate them, break down their bones, and degrade their brain function. This is an absolute horror. Which parent could bear this destruction of their children. Our hopes for children’s future shattered. The perpetrators of this inhumanity are monsters. How do we stop the monsters?
Thank you for reposting. This one stopped me in my tracks. It is me. All of it. Except Xanax, but truly I struggled to function. I think Sasha and Stella and PITT were my self medication. I was obsessed morning noon and night. I still am. I came I to this a year after this author and still, here we are. Parents suffering in nearly identical ways. This writing captures our pain so well.
One of the worst parts of all of this he’ll to me is that with cigarettes or a devastating event like cancer or other illness - even drug addiction, at least society supports you and wraps their arms around you in your suffering and grief. With gender ideology, we are judged as horrible parents and unsupported. People want to stay away from us rather than rally around us and support us and our families and our children.
You are so right!! Us parents that care and love our kids are treated like the “bad people” when we just would like your kids to be safe and truly happy!!
Same here. Thank you for writing & sharing your thoughts. I feel less alone in my grief. Today is my birthday but I don’t feel like celebrating. I feel ‘this’ pain constantly underneath my smiles (when I do). I struggle to fully function properly each day for the last two years…
Keep your head up Anne-Marie and celebrate your birthday even in your grief. My birthday is 12-1 so I know I won’t hear from my son but I do get to spend time with my daughter and her husband and their barking dog! lol anyway I count the small blessing while I wait for my son to become sane again. I’m hoping and praying for change. 🙏
Happy Birthday!! You are not alone at all but I fully understand the feeling! It is so very hard to function or truly smile some days. I pray that you feel love and support from all of us parents! I believe God is working each and every day on our behalf! Happy Birthday!
I feel this to my core. I'm so sorry. I pray that today you know that you are not alone.
So many of us are in the same situation, and I do have a tiny glimpse of hope that the world is starting to wake up to this, and it will fall out of fashion like the anorexia craze.
Today I wish you a Very Happy (or at least peace filled) Birthday, and I pray that you feel God's presence carrying you through until our kids all come to their senses. We humans all realize our own foolishness eventually!
I choose to remember my daughter when she was happy. If she ever decides to speak to me again, it can NEVER be the same as the family trust bond has been broken.
Well written. Thank you for re-posting. Yes, the trauma for parents is highly under reported or acknowledged.
I must tell you, since becoming part of this group I am able to voice my opposition more strongly when I need to. The strength of numbers here has given me strength too.
Thank you for your post. I am so sorry to hear of your trauma, but I am very glad you came through it. The whole thing is quite evil in concept, driven as much by pharmaceutical drugs as anything and the desire of those who wish to profit by the chaos.
Getting people onto anti-depression or anti-anxiety drugs is part of pharma's game plan.
And much of this started with the vaccine schedule where toxic substances are injected into growing bodies , a receipe for disaster as we witness today.
Extremely well stated.
As a threat for promoting trans idealogy ...School Leaders & Teachers are rapidly becoming more dangerous than social media.
Peaceful birthday wishes to you my friend. I also think "they" pushed too far. When this pendulum swings in the opposite direction, it's going to be a wrecking ball. Tgis whole thing being accepted and worse,pushed, onto children is an absolute cruel and heinous act of medical negligence. No, not even adults should be allowed to cut their privates off. Just cross dress if you're am adult and have am obsession. I'll go as far to say I think it's unfair to straight people to have to possibly meet a trans person without knowing they were trans only to find out later. Hiding behind the opposite sex and pretending to be so thin you're not, it's a lie and it's pernicious.
I have come to detest this movement, whereas BEFORE, I was kind of "whatever, you do you" attitude. Once personally affected, you realise just how evil and sock tgis whole thing is.
Us parents have just been cast aside, swept under the carpet, disregarded and even ridiculed and taargeted. This thing has taken me to a very dark place.
Heads need to roll. It is evil!!
I hear you. Sending you love my dear, as us parents who are in this with you do understand and we hear yr pain.
Be gentle with yourself.
Treat yourself today.
❤
Please remember that none of this is "affirming" anything. That is part of the positive jargon invented for this dystopian marketing campaign.
What they demand of parents is ENFORCING: enforcing the lie that humans can change sex, enforcing the lies of sexist gender stereotypes, enforcing the lies of a predatory Big Pharma/medical industry lobby created by a tiny handful of billionaire men *specifically* to profit grotesquely off the butchery of vulnerable young people's bodies.
It is insanity. Cruel, brutal, extreme self-harm insanity.
There is nothing "affirming" about any of it.
Well said, and as has been written, the love of money is the root of all kinds of evil.
Gender ideology is an attack on kids and parents. looking at the Dentons legal report that gives instruction to activists on how to promote gender ideology, its clear that removing parental safeguards has always been the goal and their bogus talking points only the method to achieve that goal. Its a misinformation campaign. parents should become familiar with gender critical responses to the dogma, this helps ID where the cult wall is built but use caution not to let on you know this right away. interaction with affected can be like communicating with narcissists. so some of those strategies are helpful. but studies show that anyone can be more entrenched in their opinion even when shown they are wrong. so the direct approach is more likely to backfire. keep the relationship, like mao fought the japanese, know when to run to live to fight another day, dont burn bridges. your relationship is the lifeline even if its separated. also withdraw when its needed to protect your mental health. you didnt cause this. people who have been scammed by gender ideology talking points have. like a parent aboard an airliner that lost cabin pressure, use the O2 on yourself first, if you are incapacitated you cant help anyone. I dont have a trans ID kid. so really everything i say isnt from experience. my heart goes out to anyone who has had to deal with this. but i sometimes communicate and argue with affected people on twitter . i post a gender critical comment and they attack me with their spoon fed talking points. from the safety of their screen they tell me the reasons why they believe this scam. so im familiar with all of the talking points, and the ones dems have been spoon fed as well. my starting point is that every gender ideology stat and claim is a lie. and if your good at reading the methods sections from these "studies" that are presented as the reasons why they are convinced and other GC info one can go on quite a while countering these talking points. . but the talking points are only a means to take a mental vacation. give them one. thats what they are insisting on. but dont affirm dance around it. how many boundaries and environment changes you can make is on a case by case basis but include limiting internet use, take PC out of kids room and place in common area where you can seen screen, getting kid a gabb phone (no apps and no browser) change schools, move to change schools, change your job schedule. i realise none of this may help. just some ideas.
Sometimes I wonder…do they not wake up every day & think ‘how am I going to make it through the day without thinking about my mom or dad’. They think about us, but in bad light. It’s horrible being hated by your own kid
I read this after finding out the singer Sade has accepted her daughter as a "trans son" and is making an album to celebrate her daughter's transition. It's sad Sade gave up the fight and I pray for her baby girl :(
Of course she's going to make an album. It makes her relevant if she does. A lot of celebrities have kids who've gone down this road. I suspect more than we know--that there are celebrity parents struggling too and just keeping it on the down low.
I haven't seen my son in 2 1/2 years. The last time was at his cousin's wedding at the end of August. He arrived 5 minutes before it started (we'd been in town for two nights by then) and left without saying goodbye before dinner was served. That fall he started posting pics on social media of himself wearing women's clothing (to all kinds of accolades, of course) and by April the following year he was bragging on social media about taking estrogen.
We've never had a conversation about this. His (much older) lady friend is 100% supportive. He too is quite tall and broad shouldered and had a wonderful beard. He's also on the autistic spectrum like so many others, yet funny, gentle, kind and so smart. He had a job with the state that he threw away for better paying job that he managed to get fired from. He was unemployed for almost a year and now he's working for a dispensary. All if it just breaks my heart.
My second Thanksgiving, Christmas and then my Birthday without my son. With each one that passes I feel like he gets further away from me and I will never see him again. He is just forgetting about us all. My once loving son.
I haven’t been with my son in years. He has gotten further from me. It’s almost like he went off to war and was killed. My 75th birthday coming up and all I can wish for is to see him before I die but as the handsome 6 foot man that left my home when he was 19😒
Same. My handsome 6 feet 3 started his poisonous daily mix of off label drugs at 19. Three years later he is obese in ill fitting awful, stereotyped dresses and skirts. I yearn to see him as he was before this horrid mess.
The distance my son is willing to have from his loving parents in favor of a pathetic charade, which is destroying his mental and physical health, is a tender core of my pain (though the tendrils of suffering around this horror are many.) While my son is a vulnerable young "adult" on the autistic spectrum who was preyed upon, this perspective co-exists with my deep, incredulous hurt by his nonchalance about dismissing the guidance and effortful caring that my husband and I offered him for 19 years. This pain of an unnatural separation with my son stabs several times a day. I, too, feel this acutely on birthdays (his , mine, his sister, his father) and on holidays. It seems so sad to consider that there may be a time when I need to take time to calculate how many milestones have passed since my son was part of my life in any meaningful way.
Please listen to Julie Bindel’s Genderland. It’s UK based, but do you know anyone who could put something similar together in the US? Documentary or Podcast? There must be some media interested??
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/julie-in-genderland/id1767562982?i=1000668992288
Kara Dansky does the TERF Report, as well as written posts on her substack, specifically focused on the progress of legal issues in the US:
https://karadansky.substack.com/
It's extremely informative and gives a lot of hope that (as Kara says), if we can be heard, we will win.
Love and appreciate her. I wish they would bring her on to some of the “liberal”‘podcasts like Pod Save America or The Bunker. These hosts are outrageously ignorant about the impact of this ideology on women and children. Or they don’t care.. or they’re too busy not upsetting the left loons..
I highly recommend that all parents struggling with a transitioning child read Elizabeth Mondegreen's essay from the book, Gender Rebels by Sybilla Claus:
https://elizamondegreen.substack.com/p/talking-detransition-in-gender-rebels
She is brilliant.
Thank you for writing this essay. I want to particularly emphasize, as you wrote, that the result of gender affirmation is to “chemically castrate them, break down their bones, and degrade their brain function. This is an absolute horror. Which parent could bear this destruction of their children. Our hopes for children’s future shattered. The perpetrators of this inhumanity are monsters. How do we stop the monsters?
Organize.
Thank you for reposting. This one stopped me in my tracks. It is me. All of it. Except Xanax, but truly I struggled to function. I think Sasha and Stella and PITT were my self medication. I was obsessed morning noon and night. I still am. I came I to this a year after this author and still, here we are. Parents suffering in nearly identical ways. This writing captures our pain so well.
One of the worst parts of all of this he’ll to me is that with cigarettes or a devastating event like cancer or other illness - even drug addiction, at least society supports you and wraps their arms around you in your suffering and grief. With gender ideology, we are judged as horrible parents and unsupported. People want to stay away from us rather than rally around us and support us and our families and our children.
You are so right!! Us parents that care and love our kids are treated like the “bad people” when we just would like your kids to be safe and truly happy!!
Same here. Thank you for writing & sharing your thoughts. I feel less alone in my grief. Today is my birthday but I don’t feel like celebrating. I feel ‘this’ pain constantly underneath my smiles (when I do). I struggle to fully function properly each day for the last two years…
Happy birthday. Birthdays are hard, we feel for you
Thank you for your support! 💐
Keep your head up Anne-Marie and celebrate your birthday even in your grief. My birthday is 12-1 so I know I won’t hear from my son but I do get to spend time with my daughter and her husband and their barking dog! lol anyway I count the small blessing while I wait for my son to become sane again. I’m hoping and praying for change. 🙏
Thank you 🥰.
Happy Birthday!! You are not alone at all but I fully understand the feeling! It is so very hard to function or truly smile some days. I pray that you feel love and support from all of us parents! I believe God is working each and every day on our behalf! Happy Birthday!
Thank you.
I feel this to my core. I'm so sorry. I pray that today you know that you are not alone.
So many of us are in the same situation, and I do have a tiny glimpse of hope that the world is starting to wake up to this, and it will fall out of fashion like the anorexia craze.
Today I wish you a Very Happy (or at least peace filled) Birthday, and I pray that you feel God's presence carrying you through until our kids all come to their senses. We humans all realize our own foolishness eventually!
Thank you for your kind words. God bless!💐
Thank you 💐. The pain us parents feel every day cuts so deep. We miss our daughter so much - the way she was. Thank you for your post.
I choose to remember my daughter when she was happy. If she ever decides to speak to me again, it can NEVER be the same as the family trust bond has been broken.
Well written. Thank you for re-posting. Yes, the trauma for parents is highly under reported or acknowledged.
I must tell you, since becoming part of this group I am able to voice my opposition more strongly when I need to. The strength of numbers here has given me strength too.
Be strong and have courage in your heart. The only way to keep going is to keep struggling against evil.