I am a parent of female child who has Rapid Onset of Gender Dysphoria (ROGD). This is a new phenomenon where a child, who was perfectly happy in his or her body until right around puberty, suddenly announces that he or she is the opposite sex. In the case of my daughter, when she developed this condition, she threw away all of her feminine clothes, cut her hair super short, refused to go out in public without a chest binder and stopped shaving her legs. And, of course, she came up with a new male-sounding name and insisted that everyone use it, along with the associated male pronouns.
Terrifying post, I recognise some of it, my kid was also exposed to this what sexuality are you when she was innocent by another girl whose mother is not so present. Also that girl showedx her some Japanese manga porn, called 'hentai' and then that was it. She shifted from being good at school horse riding, piano drama, to being anxious, having panic attacks ( I do suspect Gardasil has somehting to do with the panic attacks, anxiety and depression, my dad's a doctor and i hate most docs after the Coronacircus) etc , and we're still sruggling though she is slowly getting better, with time and zero medication. A lot of these kids have been dangerously deviated from their innocence due ot internet. I never imagined such stuff would be easily accessible. But if they have quasi zero access to internet, they will heal and come back to their innocent selves.
" She is no longer [] interested in [] anything unless it related to being trans."
Bingo. The obsessive quality of this horrid movement is never mentioned. I've known two friends who had coworkers who'd be in a meeting and out of nowhere they interrupt everything to talk about their fucking "gender identities." Trying to steer back to work was "transphobia." These horrid people had to be managed out, a paper trail of unproductive work and creating conflict, and still they tried to sue for discrimination. They'd spend half their days in HR sobbing about being "misgendered."
Employers are catching on; pronoun resumes go into the trash. It's time to go further.
I think this kid needs pulled out of school last year. It’s pretty obvious that the internet isn’t the only issue.
I was homeschooled. I had unlimited access to the internet but as a general rule, I would leave if I saw someone using the f-word. I didn’t hang around bad crowds so I was fine.
It's nice being able to keep in contact with friends back in the USA on Facebook but aside from a few stressful weeks on Twitter I've never been on other social media. If I had my way the executives of Transtok and Tumblr would go to the guillotine for the harm they've done.
Discord is Smile, and I have told employers that I would find another job before I'd use it. Animation, emoji, everyone on it sounds like 14-year-olds. Accomplishing a simple task is "awesome."
The harm that social media are doing is as established as anything could be. A graph of the rise in smoking among women and a graph pf lung cancer in women is the same graph with a 20 year separation; graphs of the growth of social media and mental illness, including "trans," in teens, are tyhe same graph, without the gap.
I actually love Discord. I have a little Christian group there where we pray for each other and offer encouragement.
I also have a Tumblr. I don’t like how it’s impossible to avoid the f-word but I followed Catholics and Christians so my Tumblr feed is full of pro-life arguments and cool Lord of the Rings stuff. Many of the bad people left Tumblr when the site banned nudity.
TikTok, Facebook, and Instagram, even X and Substack can be a problem because they are so algorithm driven, especially Instagram. This makes them addictive and reduces the ability to keep up with friends.
I wonder how the author’s daughter is fairing now? Any updates? Porn is hideous. And org called NCOSE is fighting to enact age controls. In this situation, it wouldn’t have helped because she was groomed by an older student, but it will help for access to other porn.
Porn does seem to play a part in pushing transgender ideology and sexual deviancy. It’s more than that though. The online forums give people who feel misunderstood a place to connect and it’s those connections that are more toxic than porn. It normalizes deviant behaviors and beliefs.
I spent most my life 40+ years feeling misunderstood. I felt out of place. I took hormones and hormone blockers to change how I looked. In the end, it didn’t matter, it didn’t change who I was and that was a person with a lot of hurt.
A friend introduced me to a study called Experiencing God by Henry Blackaby. I knew of God throughout my life but I never really had a relationship with him. 3/4 of the way through the study, I knew that I was wrong and repented.
I cannot imagine how hopeless it feels to have your daughter struggle like that. I cannot imagine the pain. I do want to share that there is indeed hope and there can indeed be healing. I will pray for you both.
I’ve been on the internet for 30 years and I have never once trolled.
If Jesus existed, he has been dead over 2000 years. He’s dust
Anyway, if you want to believe absurdities, that’s your business. Whatever gets you through the night.
But it’s kind of rude to invoke them to an audience of strangers. I’m an atheist (no, not agnostic) and I don’t go around evangelizing it.
In my view to invoke the untouchable/immunity from question of faith in a conversation not about it is akin to rescuing an ineptly prepared cake by covering it with sugary icing. I admire more that the bakery that can make a good CAKE.
And don’t have a hissy. You’re the one brought it up.
You are trolling and your own posts are positive proof. No one invited you to join in and disparage my faith. You chose to do that on your own. Random posts designed to elicit contention is trolling sir. My story is one that includes God. If that offends you, you have the ability to mute or block me.
I am so sorry that you have had to go through such a dreadful experience. You have really been going through a Valley of the shadow of death period. Your daughter "died" and you saw a grotesque caricature of her. The only consolation is that your daughter is detransitioning back to being a girl, which is such a joyful thought.
You are right porn is not simply pictures of naked women, it is so much worse than that, so much darker than that.
My prayers are for you and your daughter that you can gently guide her and she will put behind her these dark times. God bless. Robert
I feel terribly for the authors son. Awful parent, shouldn’t have kids if you can’t handle your kid being something you’re unprepared for. Trans people are never going to win, because of people like you. Awful article full of assumptions and accusations. Be ashamed
thank you for your good work. I get your stories and essays.
Thank you for the post. I am presently preparing and will be doing a post on Friday on the subject of pornography.
Paul wrote, “It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.” When we believe in Jesus Christ as Saviour and Lord, over time our life is meant to be transformed, so that we can be like Christ. However, the sad reality is that pornography has a vice-like grip on us.
59% of pastors said that married men seek their help for porn use.
57% of pastors say porn addiction is the most damaging issue in their congregation.
69% say porn has adversely impacted the church.
May I suggest these figures are on the low side, as members are too ashamed to come forward for help and pastors don’t want to say that their church is being impacted.
However, the Good News of Jesus Christ, the gospel message for us today, is that we can find freedom from the bondage of pornography.
I will be repeating this announcement on Wednesday.
I hope you will find the post worthwhile. God bless you and have a great day. Robert
Sweeping generalizations are not the way to the truth. You can’t just use a story of some trans people being creeps and then assume that all transgender people are creeps.
There's nothing in this post that suggests trans people are creeps. No one is generalizing. You're free to tell the stories of real happy trans people. The truth here is that there are predators and pretending such people don't exist makes the pretender complicit. That's bad. It's evil, and should be stopped.
That is a huge part of the story. Transgender people are hurting, they struggle. I know I was transgender for much of my life. It’s does not make them evil, just broken and hurt. The main issue as you said are predators and those come in all shapes, sizes and colors. Some can be trans but some are just as likely to be school teachers or Catholic preachers,…it’s the new availability of access and anonymity that the internet offers that makes this a growing and real threat.
They elect it. It's chosen, unlike gay and transsexual. Some people get a thrill from the idea that they're important enough to be marginalized and persecuted.
This is a heart-breaking story. I have heard it many times, although this is the first time that there was a strong porn angle.
Now, before I continue, I have to say that I'm a gay man. I am older and no longer attractive enough to attract a mate. I look at porn and masturbate (that's my sex life now). The porn I look at is, by and large, loving and tame, and I've never understood why anyone goes in for the heavy stuff. Because gay porn is meant for gay men and usually doesn't have female figures in it, I have never seen it as harmful to women. I think that even the men who go in for the heavy stuff are just acting out their sexual proclivities. Straight porn is different because it portrays women in humiliating ways.
So as I said, this porn angle (insofar as the exploitation of girls by trans activists is concerned) is new to me. Understanding trans activists is another matter, and needs a book to be explained. Trans people want to increase their numbers. They believe that they are the most deserving of minority groups (for reasons I won't go into here), so any harmful thing they do to increase their numbers is justified.
I think you are doing the right thing by actively fighting it in your daughter's life. Many parents just "roll over" and let their daughters do what they want. Someone needs to say: "This isn't right. This isn't healthy. Your ideas are wrong. You can't harm yourself this way."
If your daughter has a lick of sense, she'll come to her senses eventually, and I think she will appreciate that you tried to correct the unhealthy course she decided to take. Eventually she'll thank you for it -- i.e., IF she has a lick of sense. If she doesn't, she'll be taking testosterone at 18 (if she isn't already), and cutting off her breasts before she is 20. In the worst-case scenario, she'll become a detransitioner somewhere between 22 and 35. By then, if she has really harmed herself, she may commit suicide. I certainly hope not.
The best comfort I can offer you is something you will probably dismiss out of hand, and that is that I believe in reincarnation. Some lives are spent learning difficult lessons. (This life's lesson: Think for yourself; don't allow yourself to be influenced by people with an agenda.) When I was young, I was suspicious of medicine, and I assiduously resisted any kind of surgery until just a month ago when I had cataract surgery. I remember taking growth hormone supplements when I was young and promptly had an outbreak of cold sores. After that, I resolved: No more experimentation. I hope your daughter has enough sense not to go in for the heavy stuff (psychologically speaking). However, she is already going in for the heavy stuff (speaking of porn now), so perhaps she doesn't have the sense to be moderate.
I can imagine that your daughter won't accept any life advice from you, and that's a shame: People who are grounded don't have to be taught the truth: You must accept yourself as you are. There are only two genders. You have only one body and you must let it develop naturally. You must be cautious of new ideas. You must look before you leap. Et cetera. (There are thousands of truths.)
As for Pflag, almost every gay organization has been taken over by trans ideology (the trans people were very clever when they added the T to LGB).
interesting article, i think this issiue is about the times we are living in. i would encourage you into looking who you are as a person in order to find more meaning between you and your daughters, this may or may not help your daugher find her authentic self, but i would start with the question `how authentic i am`. as parents there are things outside of our control and our childern's identity might be one, atleast the limit we can effect it intentionally is very small and that what we do rather than what we say is much more impactful
My middle child was allowed a flip-phone when she was 10 so she could call me when she was visiting her dad every other weekend (we had recently split; he wouldn't allow her to use his cell phone & he didn't have a landline). She had no access to the internet on this phone, and she was not allowed social media accounts, so she set them up during her unsupervised time at her dad's, and through friends computers. She also communicated with creeps through the computer games she played at her dad's house; I discovered these conversations when she made the mistake of signing on through my computer, ipad & ipod. She was relentless, but her addiction was to social media, not porn. (This was also a few years before this trans agenda exploded everywhere.)
Your story is very disturbing and though I have long been concerned what young people are being offered on certain websites, it seems to be much worse than I thought. I shall share your narrative so that parents are more informed about how their children's minds and bodies are being messed up. Good luck to you and your daughter.💜
I say this without a hint of snark or irony. Why do parents allow their children to have screens in their rooms? Why do parents allow them to have free, unsupervised access to phones, computers, tablets, etc.? Our daughter was not allowed to have any screens in her room until she left for college. Why did the daughter in this family have hundreds of porn accounts, according to the list of sites and passwords she gave her mother? Does anyone have answers?
I don't have kids, but I admire my sister and my BIL for their parenting so, so much! My niece is 11. They all watch one movie per week on Friday night, as a family, and often it is Disney or some other family movie, except sometimes that they choose something a bit more mature, but still appropriate for a girl her age. She has an ipad that she can use 30 minutes a day, but it has all parental controls on. She has to ask permission to download any new programs. They bought one for kids with very little memory, so if she wants to download something new, she has to decide which old one to delete. She doesn't have access to computers. She is not allowed to play on phones, be it of her parents' or friends'. She is the sweetest girl one can imagine. She is very creative because most of her free time she is not on a screen, but playing with friends or a member of our family - my mom and I are also VERY present in her life, playing, painting together (pieces of furniture or decorations), etc - or entertaining herself with her hobbies. She is an A student and her monthly reports from school (in Spain they write very long and detailed reports) always make us emotional (I cry every time) because they describe a healthy, beautiful soul and mind. All this didn't happen out of nothing - it happened with a LOT of investment of time and care from her parents and many other members of our family (her father's family, too). She has 4 grandparents and 7 uncles and aunts, but only one cousin, so a LOT of attention. I am NOT blaming parents at all, who suffer so much. But I do believe that access to social media and to computers are PURE VENOM and we need to stop that. We are never going to win this war against the evil cult unless we are able to limit access of children and teenagers to the digital world, and bring them back to reality, physical reality.
Because most teens (as a teen myself) are sucidial and depressed and the parents don't care to spend time with us and/or to help us with our problems. So we turn to other means of coping because we cry out and nobody hears, then we turn to a false sense of reality and self-sexual gradification as we discover of privates of our bodies although not willing nor intending to we fall prey into this sin. I still battle this issue on my own, without help, but I fight daily against my porn addiction again without any support or friends to talk to. It is difficulf but I try my best. Sometime I laps but I don't give up. My best advice is to spend time with you kids. Lord knows that I would be in a lot better place if my parents would have done that. You as the parent, politely ask us the hard questions. Why did this daughter hide this from her Mom for so long? It was probably a lack of trust. Even though you love and care about your child, you have to make us realized your love, then you will gain our trust. And when we first cry for help, we will turn and ASK you the parents for help while the issue is small. I say these things out of warning so that may not make the same mistake my parents and I made. Learn from me!!! I would not wish the hell of this battle on my worst enemy. (From a 17 yr teen)
Pineapple Support looks like the kind of place that provides "affirmative" support and advice. You have to be cautious with such organizations. And let me point out that porn addiction is only a symptom of other problems. People who have well balanced personalities can integrate it into their lives without any harm. I've had a mostly lonely life, and I've looked at porn since I was young, and it never impacted me in any negative way.
Thank you for being courageous and sharing your experience. Its really hard to recover from habits and addictions in isolation. I hope you will consider reaching out for support so you can not only succeed but also FEEL cared for in a safe community. Here are a couple options:
Your response is very insightful and hits the mark. This problem is about the time we live in but also its related to the parents we have, and who our parents are. I think we are holding the problem from the wrong end. I understand, we must protect our children i am my child's guardin until i die, but who am i? While i am questioning my child about his authenticiy, how authentic i am. Are we understanding the suffering the are going through, or as a parent has anyone stood still and looked at me and listened to my pain. We have alot work to do.
Thank you for this insight and honesty. My middle daughter barely missed this insanity but my grandson is young and I worry for him at night. I worry so much for the kids and parents going through this. I absolutely agree with you that screens are an issue. I get on my children - who are adults - all the time for just staring at them for hours. I grew up without technology and I wish we could go back. Humans living in a dark room, in a fantasy world is NOT REALITY. Thank you again for these brave words.
Thank you so much for posting this. It takes a lot of courage to write about and share your experience. I'm sorry your parents weren't there in the way you needed them. I hope you can move beyond any shame you feel to realize that you are not alone. SO many people suffer from this. May I suggest calling Sex Addicts Anonymous? They are 100% confidential and use a 12-step program for recovery. https://saa-recovery.org/am-i-a-sex-addict/ I hope this helps you. Remember, this is one phase of your life and what you are struggling with can be temporary!
Terrifying post, I recognise some of it, my kid was also exposed to this what sexuality are you when she was innocent by another girl whose mother is not so present. Also that girl showedx her some Japanese manga porn, called 'hentai' and then that was it. She shifted from being good at school horse riding, piano drama, to being anxious, having panic attacks ( I do suspect Gardasil has somehting to do with the panic attacks, anxiety and depression, my dad's a doctor and i hate most docs after the Coronacircus) etc , and we're still sruggling though she is slowly getting better, with time and zero medication. A lot of these kids have been dangerously deviated from their innocence due ot internet. I never imagined such stuff would be easily accessible. But if they have quasi zero access to internet, they will heal and come back to their innocent selves.
Nobody asked you yo mention you silly "faith." This forum isn't about "My Absurd Beliefs.
You're free to disparage my homosexuality. See if I care.
" She is no longer [] interested in [] anything unless it related to being trans."
Bingo. The obsessive quality of this horrid movement is never mentioned. I've known two friends who had coworkers who'd be in a meeting and out of nowhere they interrupt everything to talk about their fucking "gender identities." Trying to steer back to work was "transphobia." These horrid people had to be managed out, a paper trail of unproductive work and creating conflict, and still they tried to sue for discrimination. They'd spend half their days in HR sobbing about being "misgendered."
Employers are catching on; pronoun resumes go into the trash. It's time to go further.
What would you do if your daughter was hallucinating spiders crawling over her body, snakes on the floor, mysterious lumps moving behind the walls?
Would you "affirm?"
Your daughter is that sick.
Get these kids into mental hospitals. Stomp their phones into dust.
Never affirm.
I think this kid needs pulled out of school last year. It’s pretty obvious that the internet isn’t the only issue.
I was homeschooled. I had unlimited access to the internet but as a general rule, I would leave if I saw someone using the f-word. I didn’t hang around bad crowds so I was fine.
It's nice being able to keep in contact with friends back in the USA on Facebook but aside from a few stressful weeks on Twitter I've never been on other social media. If I had my way the executives of Transtok and Tumblr would go to the guillotine for the harm they've done.
Discord is Smile, and I have told employers that I would find another job before I'd use it. Animation, emoji, everyone on it sounds like 14-year-olds. Accomplishing a simple task is "awesome."
The harm that social media are doing is as established as anything could be. A graph of the rise in smoking among women and a graph pf lung cancer in women is the same graph with a 20 year separation; graphs of the growth of social media and mental illness, including "trans," in teens, are tyhe same graph, without the gap.
We need to get candid about this.
I actually love Discord. I have a little Christian group there where we pray for each other and offer encouragement.
I also have a Tumblr. I don’t like how it’s impossible to avoid the f-word but I followed Catholics and Christians so my Tumblr feed is full of pro-life arguments and cool Lord of the Rings stuff. Many of the bad people left Tumblr when the site banned nudity.
TikTok, Facebook, and Instagram, even X and Substack can be a problem because they are so algorithm driven, especially Instagram. This makes them addictive and reduces the ability to keep up with friends.
I wonder how the author’s daughter is fairing now? Any updates? Porn is hideous. And org called NCOSE is fighting to enact age controls. In this situation, it wouldn’t have helped because she was groomed by an older student, but it will help for access to other porn.
Porn does seem to play a part in pushing transgender ideology and sexual deviancy. It’s more than that though. The online forums give people who feel misunderstood a place to connect and it’s those connections that are more toxic than porn. It normalizes deviant behaviors and beliefs.
I spent most my life 40+ years feeling misunderstood. I felt out of place. I took hormones and hormone blockers to change how I looked. In the end, it didn’t matter, it didn’t change who I was and that was a person with a lot of hurt.
A friend introduced me to a study called Experiencing God by Henry Blackaby. I knew of God throughout my life but I never really had a relationship with him. 3/4 of the way through the study, I knew that I was wrong and repented.
I cannot imagine how hopeless it feels to have your daughter struggle like that. I cannot imagine the pain. I do want to share that there is indeed hope and there can indeed be healing. I will pray for you both.
Ever tried muting/blocking on here? I have, and it didn’t work.
I wasn’t planning on blocking you.
I’ve been on the internet for 30 years and I have never once trolled.
If Jesus existed, he has been dead over 2000 years. He’s dust
Anyway, if you want to believe absurdities, that’s your business. Whatever gets you through the night.
But it’s kind of rude to invoke them to an audience of strangers. I’m an atheist (no, not agnostic) and I don’t go around evangelizing it.
In my view to invoke the untouchable/immunity from question of faith in a conversation not about it is akin to rescuing an ineptly prepared cake by covering it with sugary icing. I admire more that the bakery that can make a good CAKE.
And don’t have a hissy. You’re the one brought it up.
You are trolling and your own posts are positive proof. No one invited you to join in and disparage my faith. You chose to do that on your own. Random posts designed to elicit contention is trolling sir. My story is one that includes God. If that offends you, you have the ability to mute or block me.
Just as we should take responsibility for our failures, we should take credit for our achievements.
You effected good changes in yourself. Congratulations. Be proud. And leave nonexistent kozmik spirits out of it.
Don’t marginalize my faith.
Don’t insult my intelligence
Don’t read or troll my posts. You can deny God all you wish but one thing remains true…..Jesus will still not deny you.
I am so sorry that you have had to go through such a dreadful experience. You have really been going through a Valley of the shadow of death period. Your daughter "died" and you saw a grotesque caricature of her. The only consolation is that your daughter is detransitioning back to being a girl, which is such a joyful thought.
You are right porn is not simply pictures of naked women, it is so much worse than that, so much darker than that.
My prayers are for you and your daughter that you can gently guide her and she will put behind her these dark times. God bless. Robert
I feel terribly for the authors son. Awful parent, shouldn’t have kids if you can’t handle your kid being something you’re unprepared for. Trans people are never going to win, because of people like you. Awful article full of assumptions and accusations. Be ashamed
Troll
That was pretty callous. You be ashamed
thank you for your good work. I get your stories and essays.
Thank you for the post. I am presently preparing and will be doing a post on Friday on the subject of pornography.
Paul wrote, “It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.” When we believe in Jesus Christ as Saviour and Lord, over time our life is meant to be transformed, so that we can be like Christ. However, the sad reality is that pornography has a vice-like grip on us.
59% of pastors said that married men seek their help for porn use.
57% of pastors say porn addiction is the most damaging issue in their congregation.
69% say porn has adversely impacted the church.
May I suggest these figures are on the low side, as members are too ashamed to come forward for help and pastors don’t want to say that their church is being impacted.
However, the Good News of Jesus Christ, the gospel message for us today, is that we can find freedom from the bondage of pornography.
I will be repeating this announcement on Wednesday.
I hope you will find the post worthwhile. God bless you and have a great day. Robert
Sweeping generalizations are not the way to the truth. You can’t just use a story of some trans people being creeps and then assume that all transgender people are creeps.
There's nothing in this post that suggests trans people are creeps. No one is generalizing. You're free to tell the stories of real happy trans people. The truth here is that there are predators and pretending such people don't exist makes the pretender complicit. That's bad. It's evil, and should be stopped.
The face of "trans" is Dylan Mulvaney, Jeffrey Marsh, India Willoughby, and Elliot and Jazz,
Are you really saying they aren't creeps?
Really?
That is a huge part of the story. Transgender people are hurting, they struggle. I know I was transgender for much of my life. It’s does not make them evil, just broken and hurt. The main issue as you said are predators and those come in all shapes, sizes and colors. Some can be trans but some are just as likely to be school teachers or Catholic preachers,…it’s the new availability of access and anonymity that the internet offers that makes this a growing and real threat.
They elect it. It's chosen, unlike gay and transsexual. Some people get a thrill from the idea that they're important enough to be marginalized and persecuted.
They aren't. They're just spoiled brats.
This is a heart-breaking story. I have heard it many times, although this is the first time that there was a strong porn angle.
Now, before I continue, I have to say that I'm a gay man. I am older and no longer attractive enough to attract a mate. I look at porn and masturbate (that's my sex life now). The porn I look at is, by and large, loving and tame, and I've never understood why anyone goes in for the heavy stuff. Because gay porn is meant for gay men and usually doesn't have female figures in it, I have never seen it as harmful to women. I think that even the men who go in for the heavy stuff are just acting out their sexual proclivities. Straight porn is different because it portrays women in humiliating ways.
So as I said, this porn angle (insofar as the exploitation of girls by trans activists is concerned) is new to me. Understanding trans activists is another matter, and needs a book to be explained. Trans people want to increase their numbers. They believe that they are the most deserving of minority groups (for reasons I won't go into here), so any harmful thing they do to increase their numbers is justified.
I think you are doing the right thing by actively fighting it in your daughter's life. Many parents just "roll over" and let their daughters do what they want. Someone needs to say: "This isn't right. This isn't healthy. Your ideas are wrong. You can't harm yourself this way."
If your daughter has a lick of sense, she'll come to her senses eventually, and I think she will appreciate that you tried to correct the unhealthy course she decided to take. Eventually she'll thank you for it -- i.e., IF she has a lick of sense. If she doesn't, she'll be taking testosterone at 18 (if she isn't already), and cutting off her breasts before she is 20. In the worst-case scenario, she'll become a detransitioner somewhere between 22 and 35. By then, if she has really harmed herself, she may commit suicide. I certainly hope not.
The best comfort I can offer you is something you will probably dismiss out of hand, and that is that I believe in reincarnation. Some lives are spent learning difficult lessons. (This life's lesson: Think for yourself; don't allow yourself to be influenced by people with an agenda.) When I was young, I was suspicious of medicine, and I assiduously resisted any kind of surgery until just a month ago when I had cataract surgery. I remember taking growth hormone supplements when I was young and promptly had an outbreak of cold sores. After that, I resolved: No more experimentation. I hope your daughter has enough sense not to go in for the heavy stuff (psychologically speaking). However, she is already going in for the heavy stuff (speaking of porn now), so perhaps she doesn't have the sense to be moderate.
I can imagine that your daughter won't accept any life advice from you, and that's a shame: People who are grounded don't have to be taught the truth: You must accept yourself as you are. There are only two genders. You have only one body and you must let it develop naturally. You must be cautious of new ideas. You must look before you leap. Et cetera. (There are thousands of truths.)
As for Pflag, almost every gay organization has been taken over by trans ideology (the trans people were very clever when they added the T to LGB).
Good luck to you, and good luck to your daughter.
https://u.cubeupload.com/JanCarol/LGBandTQ.jpg
Best meme I've seen regarding this.
interesting article, i think this issiue is about the times we are living in. i would encourage you into looking who you are as a person in order to find more meaning between you and your daughters, this may or may not help your daugher find her authentic self, but i would start with the question `how authentic i am`. as parents there are things outside of our control and our childern's identity might be one, atleast the limit we can effect it intentionally is very small and that what we do rather than what we say is much more impactful
My middle child was allowed a flip-phone when she was 10 so she could call me when she was visiting her dad every other weekend (we had recently split; he wouldn't allow her to use his cell phone & he didn't have a landline). She had no access to the internet on this phone, and she was not allowed social media accounts, so she set them up during her unsupervised time at her dad's, and through friends computers. She also communicated with creeps through the computer games she played at her dad's house; I discovered these conversations when she made the mistake of signing on through my computer, ipad & ipod. She was relentless, but her addiction was to social media, not porn. (This was also a few years before this trans agenda exploded everywhere.)
Your story is very disturbing and though I have long been concerned what young people are being offered on certain websites, it seems to be much worse than I thought. I shall share your narrative so that parents are more informed about how their children's minds and bodies are being messed up. Good luck to you and your daughter.💜
I say this without a hint of snark or irony. Why do parents allow their children to have screens in their rooms? Why do parents allow them to have free, unsupervised access to phones, computers, tablets, etc.? Our daughter was not allowed to have any screens in her room until she left for college. Why did the daughter in this family have hundreds of porn accounts, according to the list of sites and passwords she gave her mother? Does anyone have answers?
I don't have kids, but I admire my sister and my BIL for their parenting so, so much! My niece is 11. They all watch one movie per week on Friday night, as a family, and often it is Disney or some other family movie, except sometimes that they choose something a bit more mature, but still appropriate for a girl her age. She has an ipad that she can use 30 minutes a day, but it has all parental controls on. She has to ask permission to download any new programs. They bought one for kids with very little memory, so if she wants to download something new, she has to decide which old one to delete. She doesn't have access to computers. She is not allowed to play on phones, be it of her parents' or friends'. She is the sweetest girl one can imagine. She is very creative because most of her free time she is not on a screen, but playing with friends or a member of our family - my mom and I are also VERY present in her life, playing, painting together (pieces of furniture or decorations), etc - or entertaining herself with her hobbies. She is an A student and her monthly reports from school (in Spain they write very long and detailed reports) always make us emotional (I cry every time) because they describe a healthy, beautiful soul and mind. All this didn't happen out of nothing - it happened with a LOT of investment of time and care from her parents and many other members of our family (her father's family, too). She has 4 grandparents and 7 uncles and aunts, but only one cousin, so a LOT of attention. I am NOT blaming parents at all, who suffer so much. But I do believe that access to social media and to computers are PURE VENOM and we need to stop that. We are never going to win this war against the evil cult unless we are able to limit access of children and teenagers to the digital world, and bring them back to reality, physical reality.
Because most teens (as a teen myself) are sucidial and depressed and the parents don't care to spend time with us and/or to help us with our problems. So we turn to other means of coping because we cry out and nobody hears, then we turn to a false sense of reality and self-sexual gradification as we discover of privates of our bodies although not willing nor intending to we fall prey into this sin. I still battle this issue on my own, without help, but I fight daily against my porn addiction again without any support or friends to talk to. It is difficulf but I try my best. Sometime I laps but I don't give up. My best advice is to spend time with you kids. Lord knows that I would be in a lot better place if my parents would have done that. You as the parent, politely ask us the hard questions. Why did this daughter hide this from her Mom for so long? It was probably a lack of trust. Even though you love and care about your child, you have to make us realized your love, then you will gain our trust. And when we first cry for help, we will turn and ASK you the parents for help while the issue is small. I say these things out of warning so that may not make the same mistake my parents and I made. Learn from me!!! I would not wish the hell of this battle on my worst enemy. (From a 17 yr teen)
Well said! 🖤
https://pineapplesupport.org/
You could try reaching out to Pineapple Support for free therapy/resources to help you with your addiction.
Pineapple Support looks like the kind of place that provides "affirmative" support and advice. You have to be cautious with such organizations. And let me point out that porn addiction is only a symptom of other problems. People who have well balanced personalities can integrate it into their lives without any harm. I've had a mostly lonely life, and I've looked at porn since I was young, and it never impacted me in any negative way.
Thank you for being courageous and sharing your experience. Its really hard to recover from habits and addictions in isolation. I hope you will consider reaching out for support so you can not only succeed but also FEEL cared for in a safe community. Here are a couple options:
http://www.ypacenter.com/
https://fightthenewdrug.org/resources/#get-help
Sending you love and encouragement.
Your response is very insightful and hits the mark. This problem is about the time we live in but also its related to the parents we have, and who our parents are. I think we are holding the problem from the wrong end. I understand, we must protect our children i am my child's guardin until i die, but who am i? While i am questioning my child about his authenticiy, how authentic i am. Are we understanding the suffering the are going through, or as a parent has anyone stood still and looked at me and listened to my pain. We have alot work to do.
Thank you for this insight and honesty. My middle daughter barely missed this insanity but my grandson is young and I worry for him at night. I worry so much for the kids and parents going through this. I absolutely agree with you that screens are an issue. I get on my children - who are adults - all the time for just staring at them for hours. I grew up without technology and I wish we could go back. Humans living in a dark room, in a fantasy world is NOT REALITY. Thank you again for these brave words.
Go fuck yourself
Thank you so much for posting this. It takes a lot of courage to write about and share your experience. I'm sorry your parents weren't there in the way you needed them. I hope you can move beyond any shame you feel to realize that you are not alone. SO many people suffer from this. May I suggest calling Sex Addicts Anonymous? They are 100% confidential and use a 12-step program for recovery. https://saa-recovery.org/am-i-a-sex-addict/ I hope this helps you. Remember, this is one phase of your life and what you are struggling with can be temporary!