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Ypur daughter is an example of how every child should be at the end of this journey, without any damage done. This so all so tragic, but I am happy your daughter is out xxxx

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Thank you for this. My daughter is still in this hell. We have a similar story though we were late enough to the game that we never affirmed. I had resources that supported that decision where others did not. This tool kit will be useful when I go public and fight back. And fight I will.

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Can we talk? My twelve year old is in this.

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Thank you for sharing this amazing story. I rejoiced to read: "At seventeen, she has learned to love her quirky, non-stereotypical female self and emerged as what she calls a "fully healed human."

Many gifted and creative people are non-stereotypical. They should be allowed to be nonconformist.

I wish you and your family the very best!

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Does anyone know a therapist that can talk to an incoming freshman college kid struggling with gender dysphoria, hudson valley area of New York.

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Indeed, we need more resources.

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Please look at TherapyFirst and search under New York. https://www.therapyfirst.org/find/

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Not a criticism of the author because I can understand the stress she was under, but children can no more "consent" to have their healthy breasts and genitalia removed or take puberty blockers than they can

"consent" to have sex with an adult.

Similarly, parents and doctors can no more approve such permanent mutilation simply because a minor child desires it than they can approve pedophilia.

Ultimately society will see the truth and ban the practice as we have banned female genital mutilation. Do people support that practice if the parents consent? I truly hope not

It is monstrous to believe otherwise and those who do will ultimately be held to account for their actions.

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Thank you. As the mom who wrote this, I 100% agree. However, this journey for us started in 2019 before we had the kinds of resources we have today. We were desperate and we thought we had to "truth the PhDs". We now know how wrong we were. We are lucky our child emerged with her body intact, which is why it is so important to get this toolkit in the right hands. If you want to read more about my story (written before the desistance), feel free to visit my page here: https://bettercare.substack.com/p/an-open-letter-to-the-mental-health

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The video of Vanderbilt UMC - being so delighted to get into the trans market because it's a big money maker is so cynically evil. her quote:

Dr. Shayne Taylor explained how she convinced Nashville to get into the gender transition game. She emphasized that it's a "big money maker," especially because the surgeries require a lot of "follow ups" - it's referenced in the Tennessee star section quoted by lovingmother below (remember these are the "experts" who ask if you want a live sterile Frankenstein child or a dead one)

https://x.com/MattWalshBlog/status/1572313523232931840?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw%7Ctwcamp%5Etweetembed%7Ctwterm%5E1572313523232931840%7Ctwgr%5Ebc1e088280c22cb55abbf0cb268a26fb6e5b3764%7Ctwcon%5Es1_&ref_url=https%3A%2F%2Ftennesseestar.com%2Fnews%2Fvanderbilt-university-medical-center-doctor-called-transgender-surgery-big-money-year-before-covenant-killer-audrey-hale-was-referred-for-commitment%2Ftpappert%2F2024%2F06%2F21%2F

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Thank you so much for writing this post, PITT! We are grateful to have your support!

Please, download the toolkit everyone!

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Thanks for your advocacy Nikki!

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This is a great post. And, I am so glad to hear of your happy outcome.

By the way, I thought everybody would be interested to hear about this going to the Supreme Court: "Tennessee AG Skrmetti ‘Looks Forward’ to Defending State Law Banning Transgender Surgery for Minors in the Supreme Court" https://tennesseestar.com/justice/tennessee-ag-skrmetti-looks-forward-to-defending-state-law-banning-transgender-surgery-for-minors-in-the-supreme-court/khousler/2024/06/24/

Also, there is a lot of reporting going on at the Tennessee Star regarding Vanderbilt Medical Center including "Reporter Tom Pappert: Vanderbilt University Medical Center Appears to an Incubator for Teens with Mental Health Problems to Turn into Adults with Gender Identity Issues"

https://tennesseestar.com/news/reporter-tom-pappert-vanderbilt-university-medical-center-appears-to-an-incubator-for-teens-with-mental-health-problems-to-turn-into-adults-with-gender-identity-issues/khousler/2024/06/23/

and more information leaked about Audrey Hale: https://tennesseestar.com/covenant-school-shooting-investigation/

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"The Supreme Court Will Review a Ban on So-Called ‘Gender-Affirming’ Care for Kids"

https://townhall.com/tipsheet/madelineleesman/2024/06/24/puberty-blocker-case-scotus-n2640864

"The case, United States vs. Skrmetti, will be argued in the next term, which starts in October. "

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I sincerely hope that Tennessee makes a better factual records than say Arkansas did. https://badfacts.substack.com/p/lawsuit-update-arkansas-doesnt-contest

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Personally, I think that "gender identity" cult religion, changes to the DSM to make it not a mental issue but something to celebrate, the WH position, and those profiting off of the confused are reasons to keep the death penalty a legal option:

https://deathpenaltyinfo.org/states-landing

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I generally prefer life in prison over the death penalty. I don't like it, in the majority of general loss of temper killings. But opposition is not absolute. Nuremberg needed gallows. Leonard Lake and Charles Ng video taped the sexual abuse of mothers they kidnapped with their children. They killed infants but pretended the kids were alive to get cooperation and then killed the mothers too.

And believe me I feel the anger. The issue is how many are duped, and how many are opportunistic money makers.

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Just like with the Nuremberg doctors trial there would need to be different categories.

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What a travesty! Thanks for the link.

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i am wondering about a reference for the poll at https://www.gendertoolkit.com/ ?

while i like the results, any poll is only as accurate as it's designed to be.

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I will ask the toolkit authors if they have an answer to this question. Thanks for asking.

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I want to connect with other moms.

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As soon as I read this i sent this to my principal (Im a student). Wish me luck!!!

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Please keep us posted on the response! Thank you for bravely sharing it with decision-makers!

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the school day ended and so far no response

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Thank-you for sending this! We need more young women like you! Best to you in the future. Remember, you're beautiful!

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Thanks for this!

And don't get me started on Child Mind...

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I've spoken to my local school board. This will be part of my follow-up. God Bless.

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Look for a school site council to join. The school board only responds when they feel like it.

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Thank you for this resource!!

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Bravo. You have created something incredibly important. If I had a child or grandchild with this issue, I would immediately get your toolkit. I know so many people who could benefit from this information but who refuse to consider it. Keep up the good work!

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Hopefully they will consider our toolkit which is reasonable and nuanced and accepting of gender nonconformity.

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I’m happy to share this important new resource. I raised my child to be gender noncomforming absent all of the propaganda. Many of our daughters and sons have fallen victim to a culture that actively pushes this Newspeak. I simply raised my daughter in a vacuum of poisonous propaganda.

Now I am fighting back. I have seen conservative parents radicalized by their children. And I fear empassioned adults who believe they are somehow “helping” by overstepping professional boundaries. Even more so, the smug bureaucrats advancing a queer political agenda.

Let’s asking the right questions, speak our truth, and file ethical complaints. How many of you feel the same?

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My only hesitation is that the language of parental rights leaves very vulnerable kids out in the cold. Kids in care ( foster system) are being transed at really extraordinary rates. The rights of children to develop in open ended ways — which breast binding, hormones, and surgery all preclude — travel with them even when their parents do not.

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Good point.

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Did you see Leor Sapir’s recent amicus brief?

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Thank you for sharing your good news about your daughter. This gives us all hope. I hope she continues to thrive. This toolkit is great! Best wishes to you.

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PITT has been an incredible resource in helping us navigate this crazy world.

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Thank you for creating this toolkit.

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