Societal change starts with linguistic change. It was "sex" until the mid-90's when the transition to "gender" started to gain ground. Quit calling it "gender" when you mean biological sex. In any type of warfare, it's always harder to take back lost ground, but we need to try to do that every chance we get. God bless you all.
Our local Petsmart now lists cats' gender, which is so open-minded and inclusive of them. For example, my cat must be non-binary: She was AFAB, had a nullification surgery, and her preferred pronoun is HISS
Essays like this and others signal that we parents are also laboratory specimens. The cult and its minions are testing our limits, not because they care about the damage they do to families, but because they want to see how much they can get away with.
We spent 16 years taking care of our son, hoping that he would come to his senses. He didn’t. We gave him the tangible support he needed. We gave him the moral support he needed, but not the support he wanted.
This is an excellent essay - well done! You hit all the nails on the head regarding this trans ideology cult. You are exactly right that we must question everything now. Experts have been fooled, too. All these new "labels" are not helping any confused child or parent navigate these rough waters. Mental illness can definitely play a huge part in this cult but more than that it is the pressure and influence and brainwashing that causes a perfectly normal and healthy child/teenager/young adult to question their gender. Drink the Poison. The affirmation and encouragement by the media, internet, doctors, therapists, teachers, friends, and even some family members just push a distressed child into this darkness further. Those who support and affirm are the ones with mental illness issues.
Most of the so called professionals who affirm this are Godless people who worship at the altar of the almighty dollar! To their demise in the end we all have to stand before Jesus at judgement time and justice will be given then. God will ask them “why did you lead my children astray? “What will these people say?
As a former clinical therapist who became a Christian after I left the field… I agree with this statement but for the fact that not all therapists are really "in it" for the money (though there are some for sure!)
I think they really believe in the narrative... as the script is powerful and seductive.
The enemy is wily. He knows how to package this horror under the guise of "love and acceptance".
I am grateful for the many that are digging deeper and realizing how utterly deceptive and destructive this agenda is.
I believe it’s all started with the DemocratsDemocrats, pushing compassion in their eyes compassion! But it’s really the devil, pushing division and breaking up families and hurting children and hurting young adults. That’s what the devil does. That’s what he wants. If psychologists are not smart enough to know that this is wrong, then they shouldn’t be psychologists or psychiatrists!
Shouting this out in our newsletter end of week. Thank you PITT for the thoughtful, first-hand articles on parents inside the world of kids who believe they are born in the wrong bodies. You are a powerful source.
If the general definition of mental illness is being out of touch with objective reality, then anyone who believes they are the opposite 'gender', (something that doesn't even exist, but has been created to confuse the issue - if they use the word 'sex' it would immediately undermine their 'logic'), is obviously mentally ill.
The obvious first step, if 'do no harm' is the bedrock of medicine, is to counsel the patient. There is no reasonable argument that supports affirmation therapy (which is actually conversion therapy!), only straw man arguments such as 'if you don't affirm you'll have a dead child'.
There is a grave danger in not speaking up. We are most easily manipulated and misled by those we are loyal too, by those who have helped us, by those who we admire. It is very easy to speak up against "gender affirming " therapists and clinicians, as we all know they are evil. But what about speaking up when gender exploratory therapists we grew to love suddenly become vague, change their vocabulary and move in the direction of "AGP child"?
It is probably even more important to speak up and ask questions when gender critical therapists say something we don't agree with because they are the ones we rely on. Gratitude and loyalty to those who help doesn't mean we should treat them as infallible and never question what they say. Our loyalty is first and foremost to our children, not the therapists.
Happy you change your mind and share it! Smart people admit when they are wrong, the definition of madness use to be try to do the same things over and over and wait for different results, now we live in the “ doing it over and over”. We don’t have to do nothing special or consult any therapist to know the obvious, that we cannot change our biological imprint, yes we can have a nose job or wear different color lenses and dye our hair, but I cannot became a 6 ft 140 pounds man, there are things that we cannot become, period. Yes, we social construct gender to the reality of the gender we have borne with, it’s the obvious thing to do at less you want to go against nature and go against nature is never good, it is created an artificial world, where trans human would be the norm, tranhumanism is the next frontier, all these trans ideology leads to everything trans, an artificial world where people are not more humans but something else, we will become discardable, a dystopian society with an elite and the rest of us who will be spare parts for the powerful so they can live forever, or they believe.
What about them? They do exist but I cannot speak upon their behalf. My sense is the butchering of our language along with the fear of “saying the wrong thing” are 2 variables that continue to take hold.
While I agree that child transition is fraught with problems and so is much of what is consistently being discussed as gender dysphoria is problematic. I’m going to disagree with the author. Their thinking, also falls for a similar problem of overly simplifying a very complex situation and misses the bigger picture. Gender dysphoria isn’t one thing and the children and adults involved aren’t all thinking and experiencing the same thing. For more information I’m sharing a link written by some of the experts who have many decades of experience working with and studying the trans population.
There are multiple sub-types of GD, but they are united by a complete delusion about reality. Men cannot become women. They can have a sexual fetish about wearing women's clothes, and they can try to get others to use the wrong pronoun. But they are pathetic losers and failures. The ROGD kids are part of the current hysteria.
The most pernicious lie is that there are "trans children" who are, as soon as they are talking, convinced that they are in the wrong body. I am not convinced that there is any validity to this. My daughter tells us the our granddaughter decided that she wanted a new thumb, since she had a boo-boo. My daughter did not cut off the thumb, and granddaughter is now over the notion of "thumb dysphoria". But why do parents go along with this delusion? Why do parents affirm the delusion?
I encourage you to read what I linked to, because the authors make no argument for, nor do they believe anyone can change sex. There were are comments about pronoun requirements, and they don’t make any argument in favor of kids transitioning either. Instead they offer a better understanding and some valuable perspective what your kids might be experiencing from both a research and scientific perspective that goes many decades back. This is not the candyland stuff nor the overly simplistic critical view either.
Being better informed will help parents and kids make better decisions and understand their own situation. You might consider reading this yourself so you can better discuss this topic.
What a superb article! It's like seeing the evil within the shadows; it needs to be brought into the light, challenged and dispensed with before more children are destroyed.
Therapists, after all, are just human. There are good and bad ones as in any profession. The problem with therapists who are now proclaiming to be the experts in trans identified communities cannot possibly be. ROGD is a relatively new phenomenon. Detransitioners are rarely studied except for the few people willing to do interviews with them. The research is horribly lacking so how can anyone be an authority? It would take years of study and as other countries are now changing the direction of affirmation therapy, caution should be the way forward. And sadly, some therapists have used the desperation of parents and an all too curious public to cash in on being "the experts". We can only hope that through all of the noise, there are still those who truly want to help our kids disentangle themselves from the mire and escape as much harm as possible.
Thank you for this. Just recently, people I like on YT, etc, have been saying 'transgender people'. I find it annoying and disconcerting. Are they saying they believe you can be born in the wrong body, have a gendered soul? I believe it was Dr Debra Soh who said gender dysphoria is the medical label and transgender is the political label. I'll never say 'transgender people'. I'll say 'men who say they're women' or 'trans-identifying male', but to say 'transgender people' is to buy into the belief system that a man can be a woman.
Words matter. Definitions matter. How quickly overlooking words in the interest of being "nice" has led us to this place! I agree with you, and I agree that Stella's words have me concerned. They put our boys in a box that is neither compassionate nor accurate. More than that, they will lead to harm. I'm not sure what their goal is though. Is it to appeal to a wider base in the interest of raising more support for GenSpec? It doesn't really matter though, does it? We need to pay close attention and call it out before it goes there. I hope they listen. Our children have been harmed far too much already.
Is it even accurate that AGP is a sexual orientation? One can theorize all you want, but that doesn't make it so. I agree with you that her stance on this is concerning. I am hoping that there are therapists ,who are critical of this take, reading this and will speak out about it so discussion can be had.
No, AGP is not a sexual orientation, because it's not a sex. Phil Illy calls it "autoheterosexuality," but I think he's just putting flowers on it for his own purposes.
Agree. Phil Illy admits to be an AGP, but does he have any credentials which qualify him to be considered an expert in gender and sexuality other than is personal experience as an AGP? All I can find on him is that he was a circus acrobat at one point.
I saw him on a symposium. Stopped listening after he said he did the research for a year and thought he'd turn it into a book otherwise it would be a waste of his time.
Heterosexuality and homosexuality are sexual orientations: oriented toward your own sex or the opposite sex.
But being turned on by your husband in his jammies is not a sexual orientation. Nor is a man being turned on by pretending to be a woman. Those are sexual turn-ons, not orientations.
The problem is that those in the research field believe sexual orientation has to do more than what sex one is attracted to. They also theorize that age and location can be a sexual orientation too. This is where lots more discussion needs to take place. I’m not aware of researchers, therapists who rebut this They could be out there, but I haven’t come across them.
They know perfectly well what sexual orientation is. Pedophilia is not a sexual orientation. Having sex with the elderly is not a sexual orientation. And I don't even know what they think location has to do with any of it.
There is a drive to turn every paraphelia into an "orientation." It is worrisome. Any theorizing should be actively prefaced as theorizing. More discussion would be great.
Thanks for writing about this. I relate. I don't believe what I used to believe. I do still affirm the trans identified adults I know, but I don't believe people are born in the wrong body. Having the new brand of trans walk into my house really shifted it all.
I don't affirm any trans person, adult or child. I will tolerate adults. I do not use the preferred pronoun. I don't use any pronoun for the trannies. We have one in church. He is completely un-believable (no one could believe him as a female), so I call him by his name.
I would possibly use a name for an adult trans. Out of a need to keep the peace or just try to get along. Never pronouns. But even if I used a woman name for someone I know to be a man I would know it's a sham. A lie we are agreeing to go along with. And I feel sorry for that person
For the love of God get some real mental health treatment is what I'd think the whole time.
Yeah, I agree. If an adult introduces himself as Nancy, I will call him Nancy (what else can I call him if I don't know his birth name? ). Names are different from pronouns in my opinion. Unlike sex, names are "assigned" and can be changed , they do not represent any kind of biological reality.
Societal change starts with linguistic change. It was "sex" until the mid-90's when the transition to "gender" started to gain ground. Quit calling it "gender" when you mean biological sex. In any type of warfare, it's always harder to take back lost ground, but we need to try to do that every chance we get. God bless you all.
Our local Petsmart now lists cats' gender, which is so open-minded and inclusive of them. For example, my cat must be non-binary: She was AFAB, had a nullification surgery, and her preferred pronoun is HISS
Absolutely. It drives me nuts when someone has a "gender-reveal event". They mean "sex-reveal". I correct this whenever I can.
Essays like this and others signal that we parents are also laboratory specimens. The cult and its minions are testing our limits, not because they care about the damage they do to families, but because they want to see how much they can get away with.
We spent 16 years taking care of our son, hoping that he would come to his senses. He didn’t. We gave him the tangible support he needed. We gave him the moral support he needed, but not the support he wanted.
This is an excellent essay - well done! You hit all the nails on the head regarding this trans ideology cult. You are exactly right that we must question everything now. Experts have been fooled, too. All these new "labels" are not helping any confused child or parent navigate these rough waters. Mental illness can definitely play a huge part in this cult but more than that it is the pressure and influence and brainwashing that causes a perfectly normal and healthy child/teenager/young adult to question their gender. Drink the Poison. The affirmation and encouragement by the media, internet, doctors, therapists, teachers, friends, and even some family members just push a distressed child into this darkness further. Those who support and affirm are the ones with mental illness issues.
Most of the so called professionals who affirm this are Godless people who worship at the altar of the almighty dollar! To their demise in the end we all have to stand before Jesus at judgement time and justice will be given then. God will ask them “why did you lead my children astray? “What will these people say?
As a former clinical therapist who became a Christian after I left the field… I agree with this statement but for the fact that not all therapists are really "in it" for the money (though there are some for sure!)
I think they really believe in the narrative... as the script is powerful and seductive.
The enemy is wily. He knows how to package this horror under the guise of "love and acceptance".
I am grateful for the many that are digging deeper and realizing how utterly deceptive and destructive this agenda is.
The prayer is many more wake up to it!
(And yes we will all be judged!)
🙏🙏🙏
I believe it’s all started with the DemocratsDemocrats, pushing compassion in their eyes compassion! But it’s really the devil, pushing division and breaking up families and hurting children and hurting young adults. That’s what the devil does. That’s what he wants. If psychologists are not smart enough to know that this is wrong, then they shouldn’t be psychologists or psychiatrists!
Professionals tend to act all professional-ly.
Shouting this out in our newsletter end of week. Thank you PITT for the thoughtful, first-hand articles on parents inside the world of kids who believe they are born in the wrong bodies. You are a powerful source.
If the general definition of mental illness is being out of touch with objective reality, then anyone who believes they are the opposite 'gender', (something that doesn't even exist, but has been created to confuse the issue - if they use the word 'sex' it would immediately undermine their 'logic'), is obviously mentally ill.
The obvious first step, if 'do no harm' is the bedrock of medicine, is to counsel the patient. There is no reasonable argument that supports affirmation therapy (which is actually conversion therapy!), only straw man arguments such as 'if you don't affirm you'll have a dead child'.
There is a grave danger in not speaking up. We are most easily manipulated and misled by those we are loyal too, by those who have helped us, by those who we admire. It is very easy to speak up against "gender affirming " therapists and clinicians, as we all know they are evil. But what about speaking up when gender exploratory therapists we grew to love suddenly become vague, change their vocabulary and move in the direction of "AGP child"?
It is probably even more important to speak up and ask questions when gender critical therapists say something we don't agree with because they are the ones we rely on. Gratitude and loyalty to those who help doesn't mean we should treat them as infallible and never question what they say. Our loyalty is first and foremost to our children, not the therapists.
Thank you for articulating this so well.
Happy you change your mind and share it! Smart people admit when they are wrong, the definition of madness use to be try to do the same things over and over and wait for different results, now we live in the “ doing it over and over”. We don’t have to do nothing special or consult any therapist to know the obvious, that we cannot change our biological imprint, yes we can have a nose job or wear different color lenses and dye our hair, but I cannot became a 6 ft 140 pounds man, there are things that we cannot become, period. Yes, we social construct gender to the reality of the gender we have borne with, it’s the obvious thing to do at less you want to go against nature and go against nature is never good, it is created an artificial world, where trans human would be the norm, tranhumanism is the next frontier, all these trans ideology leads to everything trans, an artificial world where people are not more humans but something else, we will become discardable, a dystopian society with an elite and the rest of us who will be spare parts for the powerful so they can live forever, or they believe.
What about them? They do exist but I cannot speak upon their behalf. My sense is the butchering of our language along with the fear of “saying the wrong thing” are 2 variables that continue to take hold.
While I agree that child transition is fraught with problems and so is much of what is consistently being discussed as gender dysphoria is problematic. I’m going to disagree with the author. Their thinking, also falls for a similar problem of overly simplifying a very complex situation and misses the bigger picture. Gender dysphoria isn’t one thing and the children and adults involved aren’t all thinking and experiencing the same thing. For more information I’m sharing a link written by some of the experts who have many decades of experience working with and studying the trans population.
https://4thwavenow.com/2017/12/07/gender-dysphoria-is-not-one-thing/
There are multiple sub-types of GD, but they are united by a complete delusion about reality. Men cannot become women. They can have a sexual fetish about wearing women's clothes, and they can try to get others to use the wrong pronoun. But they are pathetic losers and failures. The ROGD kids are part of the current hysteria.
The most pernicious lie is that there are "trans children" who are, as soon as they are talking, convinced that they are in the wrong body. I am not convinced that there is any validity to this. My daughter tells us the our granddaughter decided that she wanted a new thumb, since she had a boo-boo. My daughter did not cut off the thumb, and granddaughter is now over the notion of "thumb dysphoria". But why do parents go along with this delusion? Why do parents affirm the delusion?
I encourage you to read what I linked to, because the authors make no argument for, nor do they believe anyone can change sex. There were are comments about pronoun requirements, and they don’t make any argument in favor of kids transitioning either. Instead they offer a better understanding and some valuable perspective what your kids might be experiencing from both a research and scientific perspective that goes many decades back. This is not the candyland stuff nor the overly simplistic critical view either.
Being better informed will help parents and kids make better decisions and understand their own situation. You might consider reading this yourself so you can better discuss this topic.
What a superb article! It's like seeing the evil within the shadows; it needs to be brought into the light, challenged and dispensed with before more children are destroyed.
Therapists, after all, are just human. There are good and bad ones as in any profession. The problem with therapists who are now proclaiming to be the experts in trans identified communities cannot possibly be. ROGD is a relatively new phenomenon. Detransitioners are rarely studied except for the few people willing to do interviews with them. The research is horribly lacking so how can anyone be an authority? It would take years of study and as other countries are now changing the direction of affirmation therapy, caution should be the way forward. And sadly, some therapists have used the desperation of parents and an all too curious public to cash in on being "the experts". We can only hope that through all of the noise, there are still those who truly want to help our kids disentangle themselves from the mire and escape as much harm as possible.
A good post, Kit. I can only ‘Like’ it once, but you make a great point.
Thank you for this. Just recently, people I like on YT, etc, have been saying 'transgender people'. I find it annoying and disconcerting. Are they saying they believe you can be born in the wrong body, have a gendered soul? I believe it was Dr Debra Soh who said gender dysphoria is the medical label and transgender is the political label. I'll never say 'transgender people'. I'll say 'men who say they're women' or 'trans-identifying male', but to say 'transgender people' is to buy into the belief system that a man can be a woman.
Do you mean people other than Sasha and Stella, who used to use different terms, are now using "transgender people?"
Words matter. Definitions matter. How quickly overlooking words in the interest of being "nice" has led us to this place! I agree with you, and I agree that Stella's words have me concerned. They put our boys in a box that is neither compassionate nor accurate. More than that, they will lead to harm. I'm not sure what their goal is though. Is it to appeal to a wider base in the interest of raising more support for GenSpec? It doesn't really matter though, does it? We need to pay close attention and call it out before it goes there. I hope they listen. Our children have been harmed far too much already.
Is it even accurate that AGP is a sexual orientation? One can theorize all you want, but that doesn't make it so. I agree with you that her stance on this is concerning. I am hoping that there are therapists ,who are critical of this take, reading this and will speak out about it so discussion can be had.
No, AGP is not a sexual orientation, because it's not a sex. Phil Illy calls it "autoheterosexuality," but I think he's just putting flowers on it for his own purposes.
You can read my comment below, but as for Illy, that's a good assessment - putting flowers on it for his own purposes.
Agree. Phil Illy admits to be an AGP, but does he have any credentials which qualify him to be considered an expert in gender and sexuality other than is personal experience as an AGP? All I can find on him is that he was a circus acrobat at one point.
I saw him on a symposium. Stopped listening after he said he did the research for a year and thought he'd turn it into a book otherwise it would be a waste of his time.
No, AGP is not a sexual orientation.
Heterosexuality and homosexuality are sexual orientations: oriented toward your own sex or the opposite sex.
But being turned on by your husband in his jammies is not a sexual orientation. Nor is a man being turned on by pretending to be a woman. Those are sexual turn-ons, not orientations.
The problem is that those in the research field believe sexual orientation has to do more than what sex one is attracted to. They also theorize that age and location can be a sexual orientation too. This is where lots more discussion needs to take place. I’m not aware of researchers, therapists who rebut this They could be out there, but I haven’t come across them.
They're just making garbage up as they go along.
They know perfectly well what sexual orientation is. Pedophilia is not a sexual orientation. Having sex with the elderly is not a sexual orientation. And I don't even know what they think location has to do with any of it.
There is a drive to turn every paraphelia into an "orientation." It is worrisome. Any theorizing should be actively prefaced as theorizing. More discussion would be great.
Thanks for writing about this. I relate. I don't believe what I used to believe. I do still affirm the trans identified adults I know, but I don't believe people are born in the wrong body. Having the new brand of trans walk into my house really shifted it all.
I don't affirm any trans person, adult or child. I will tolerate adults. I do not use the preferred pronoun. I don't use any pronoun for the trannies. We have one in church. He is completely un-believable (no one could believe him as a female), so I call him by his name.
I agree. I don't think it is kind to push confused individuals further into their delusions. It might be "nice, " but it isn't kind.
I would possibly use a name for an adult trans. Out of a need to keep the peace or just try to get along. Never pronouns. But even if I used a woman name for someone I know to be a man I would know it's a sham. A lie we are agreeing to go along with. And I feel sorry for that person
For the love of God get some real mental health treatment is what I'd think the whole time.
Yeah, I agree. If an adult introduces himself as Nancy, I will call him Nancy (what else can I call him if I don't know his birth name? ). Names are different from pronouns in my opinion. Unlike sex, names are "assigned" and can be changed , they do not represent any kind of biological reality.
Great essay! I think for kids and teens our motto should not be "Therapy First" but "Family First".
Renaming GETA into Therapy First doesn't look so innocent anymore! Family First is right.
A-friggin-men. (Meaning: Amen.)
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