Our daughter, 27 now, dropped the bombshell of her “transition” to “manhood” last October. My first meeting with her after that went ok, but I was dismayed to learn that she had begun taking testosterone the previous month. I knew then that I had a limited window in which I
Wow. Wow. Wow. Thank you for this. I needed it this morning. It is exactly how I feel, yet, haven’t had anyone who truly understands what we go through. You say it so perfectly... so spot on. This helps me to exhale bits of guilt I carry for my needing to move forward and focus on those around me (and me). I’ll be saving this and revisiting it when I need a reminder. Thank you for the much needed validation of my feelings.
Yes, oh, so true..."Whether my daughter will return or not, I don’t know. Even if she does, I will never be the same again. I am hoping and working to make the new me better." I agree 100% with this letter.
What they do with retracting papers powerful enough to seriously wound a false narrative, they did all through covid, and before, but much more during covid. The same media that smugly lied about "horse de-wormer", that had to protect us from crazy doctors (some of the best people on the planet), using repurposed medicines - off label, sometimes for a week or so - to save lives or make an illness much less severe, has no problem with off label use of far more dangerous drugs for much longer, by children with no ability to consent.
And of course, the can't-make-this-stuff-up level hypocrisy - "The pressure then shifted to a bogus claim — by Springer itself — that the study’s participants did not provide written informed consent to have their data published in the article."
Informed consent. For having (probably anonymized / name protected) data published. When the real issue is complete lack of informed consent when children poison and maim themselves. And those who push medical experiments with no informed consent, while - of course - calling it an "informed consent" model, force a legit paper to be retracted, because they claim lack of informed consent in submitting data. Meanwhile, children submit their breasts, bone marrow, genitals, self confidence, present and future family, and so much more ...
I'm glad you brought up loss. My 4 1/2 year old brother died when I was 12. When my son turned 5, I breathed a huge sigh of relief. Then trans hit when he was a Senior. I'm divorced, he's my only child. He's been on hormones for 5 years, been castrated, added breasts. It makes me sick that such a healthy young man is destroying his body.
"I have realized that my identity cannot be wrapped up in hers. I have a purpose in life and a meaningful job. I have another child whose relationship I value and a husband who loves and supports me. I cannot allow her to control my life." - My husband reminds me of this daily because I'm prone to letting this overtake and overwhelm me, our family life, and even our marriage. When we allow that to happen, the ideology wins.
Listen, if you are a doctor - that means you are part of the great deceit that happened. Covid if there is a Covid - it was never isolated, was made in a lab. It is now so weak it doesn’t count as anything other than a cold. We aren’t getting a shot that isn’t even effective on the current strain which is nothing. Besides there is a cure should anyone get Covid. Hospitals were paid to kill people. I know because they locked up my son in a Covid ward becuase they swabbed his nose when he needed something else looked at.
Why would I care about a strangers dead relatives? Do you care about mine? It’s stupid comment. And I would say this to your face. And yes- prolonging old people to live forever while sickly is stupid. Quality of life is more important. You should be asking why your dead relatives weren’t given the proper medicine to keep them alive. And you should sue if they were given remedesiviwre or intubated. Only 10% of anyone lives after being intubated. It’s dangerous. Go gets those medical records and you will see they were probably killed.
If you are a biologist or anyone that works on vaccines- shame on you. Most diseases were cured through sanitation and refrigeration - not vaccines. Outbreaks of polio happened more after the vaccine. So they changed the time frame of how soon it he paralysis set in after the sickness - again changing the definition to make it appear to go away. It went away on its own. Polio was first time we figured out you can’t vaccinate during an outbreak.
Hpv bullshit. Meningitis bullshit. Hep
B bullshit. Many viruses are actually parasites. That’s why the ivermectin worked so well.
You are strong and brave - thank you for sharing your wisdom with us. Once a child leaves home who is 18+ years-old a parent loses the control to make that child’s decisions. Focusing on ourselves is the best advice - eat right, exercise, get plenty of sleep. Continue to live. Control what you can. Let go of what you can’t. We are all in this limbo stage together wondering if or when we will see our estranged family member who is caught up in this dangerous trans cult. It is heartbreaking knowing that our loved one cannot become the opposite sex (they can only pretend to be) and taking hormones or testosterone and even having surgery will not “fix” anything. Sad but true.
I love that line, "Excuse me, I have work to do." Thank you for reminding me that I have work to do! I have another child. I have a granddaughter from my daughter who wants to be a boy. I have a mother with dementia. I have a brother with downs syndrome. I have a disabled sister living with me. I have work to do. I have a life to live. It's easy to forget the life I have when thoughts and worry seem to consume me, at times.
And you have to care for you! No one else can do that important work - eat well, sleep, walk, pray, be happy! You have many people who are counting on your happy example of self-acceptance and living a great life.
Quote by Matthew Kelly in his book Holy Moments which I think is relevant here:
“A people confused about The difference between right and wrong, good and bad, just an unjust, will grasp at anything that promises progress and find themselves bouncing from one oblivion to another”
I aspire for this philosophy to get through this long nightmare. I also try to focus on remaining blessings, and I appreciate the positive encouragement of this essay. That said, it is hard to sidestep misery after our sick culture stole my son, which indeed has diminished my sense of purpose. Some enduring misery is the invariable burden of the posionous trans cult.
"I refuse to dwell in misery; I have my life’s purpose to fulfill."
Great perspective. Those things that are held most dear are the hardest to lose, but the alternative would be to never hold anything dear at all. I hope your daughter will return to you soon with minimal damage to suffered.
Long ago, I heard someone say about parenting that the first 40 years are the hardest. I came to agree with that wry observation. Since the children passed that age, I’ve taken the position that I’m here to listen and enjoy the enjoyable. I have a life to live as well with my wife and their Mother. Her Belly Button stretches further still and that is ok. I love them and accept that they are not my ideal and neither am I. They are themselves. They have their life to live.
"They" (our children) are not "themselves" when they live a life in the pathetic delusion of medically altering their actual body in a destructive way to imitate the opposite sex. To say this is not "my ideal" as a parent of a son lost to the trans horrors is an understatement.
This is tragically beautiful 💔
So very full of hard-won wisdom. Parents walk a tightrope between letting go and embodying hope. Blessings and prayers to you and your family.
Wow. Wow. Wow. Thank you for this. I needed it this morning. It is exactly how I feel, yet, haven’t had anyone who truly understands what we go through. You say it so perfectly... so spot on. This helps me to exhale bits of guilt I carry for my needing to move forward and focus on those around me (and me). I’ll be saving this and revisiting it when I need a reminder. Thank you for the much needed validation of my feelings.
Yes, oh, so true..."Whether my daughter will return or not, I don’t know. Even if she does, I will never be the same again. I am hoping and working to make the new me better." I agree 100% with this letter.
What they do with retracting papers powerful enough to seriously wound a false narrative, they did all through covid, and before, but much more during covid. The same media that smugly lied about "horse de-wormer", that had to protect us from crazy doctors (some of the best people on the planet), using repurposed medicines - off label, sometimes for a week or so - to save lives or make an illness much less severe, has no problem with off label use of far more dangerous drugs for much longer, by children with no ability to consent.
And of course, the can't-make-this-stuff-up level hypocrisy - "The pressure then shifted to a bogus claim — by Springer itself — that the study’s participants did not provide written informed consent to have their data published in the article."
Informed consent. For having (probably anonymized / name protected) data published. When the real issue is complete lack of informed consent when children poison and maim themselves. And those who push medical experiments with no informed consent, while - of course - calling it an "informed consent" model, force a legit paper to be retracted, because they claim lack of informed consent in submitting data. Meanwhile, children submit their breasts, bone marrow, genitals, self confidence, present and future family, and so much more ...
I will write a letter and share this, thank you.
I'm glad you brought up loss. My 4 1/2 year old brother died when I was 12. When my son turned 5, I breathed a huge sigh of relief. Then trans hit when he was a Senior. I'm divorced, he's my only child. He's been on hormones for 5 years, been castrated, added breasts. It makes me sick that such a healthy young man is destroying his body.
"I have realized that my identity cannot be wrapped up in hers. I have a purpose in life and a meaningful job. I have another child whose relationship I value and a husband who loves and supports me. I cannot allow her to control my life." - My husband reminds me of this daily because I'm prone to letting this overtake and overwhelm me, our family life, and even our marriage. When we allow that to happen, the ideology wins.
Listen, if you are a doctor - that means you are part of the great deceit that happened. Covid if there is a Covid - it was never isolated, was made in a lab. It is now so weak it doesn’t count as anything other than a cold. We aren’t getting a shot that isn’t even effective on the current strain which is nothing. Besides there is a cure should anyone get Covid. Hospitals were paid to kill people. I know because they locked up my son in a Covid ward becuase they swabbed his nose when he needed something else looked at.
Why would I care about a strangers dead relatives? Do you care about mine? It’s stupid comment. And I would say this to your face. And yes- prolonging old people to live forever while sickly is stupid. Quality of life is more important. You should be asking why your dead relatives weren’t given the proper medicine to keep them alive. And you should sue if they were given remedesiviwre or intubated. Only 10% of anyone lives after being intubated. It’s dangerous. Go gets those medical records and you will see they were probably killed.
If you are a biologist or anyone that works on vaccines- shame on you. Most diseases were cured through sanitation and refrigeration - not vaccines. Outbreaks of polio happened more after the vaccine. So they changed the time frame of how soon it he paralysis set in after the sickness - again changing the definition to make it appear to go away. It went away on its own. Polio was first time we figured out you can’t vaccinate during an outbreak.
Hpv bullshit. Meningitis bullshit. Hep
B bullshit. Many viruses are actually parasites. That’s why the ivermectin worked so well.
You are strong and brave - thank you for sharing your wisdom with us. Once a child leaves home who is 18+ years-old a parent loses the control to make that child’s decisions. Focusing on ourselves is the best advice - eat right, exercise, get plenty of sleep. Continue to live. Control what you can. Let go of what you can’t. We are all in this limbo stage together wondering if or when we will see our estranged family member who is caught up in this dangerous trans cult. It is heartbreaking knowing that our loved one cannot become the opposite sex (they can only pretend to be) and taking hormones or testosterone and even having surgery will not “fix” anything. Sad but true.
I love that line, "Excuse me, I have work to do." Thank you for reminding me that I have work to do! I have another child. I have a granddaughter from my daughter who wants to be a boy. I have a mother with dementia. I have a brother with downs syndrome. I have a disabled sister living with me. I have work to do. I have a life to live. It's easy to forget the life I have when thoughts and worry seem to consume me, at times.
And you have to care for you! No one else can do that important work - eat well, sleep, walk, pray, be happy! You have many people who are counting on your happy example of self-acceptance and living a great life.
Beautiful, true, and strong--I really enjoyed your essay despite the underlying source (trans ideology, not your daughter).
I think your points are very good and ones that all of us in similar situations need to remember.
Quote by Matthew Kelly in his book Holy Moments which I think is relevant here:
“A people confused about The difference between right and wrong, good and bad, just an unjust, will grasp at anything that promises progress and find themselves bouncing from one oblivion to another”
I aspire for this philosophy to get through this long nightmare. I also try to focus on remaining blessings, and I appreciate the positive encouragement of this essay. That said, it is hard to sidestep misery after our sick culture stole my son, which indeed has diminished my sense of purpose. Some enduring misery is the invariable burden of the posionous trans cult.
"I refuse to dwell in misery; I have my life’s purpose to fulfill."
Great perspective. Those things that are held most dear are the hardest to lose, but the alternative would be to never hold anything dear at all. I hope your daughter will return to you soon with minimal damage to suffered.
Long ago, I heard someone say about parenting that the first 40 years are the hardest. I came to agree with that wry observation. Since the children passed that age, I’ve taken the position that I’m here to listen and enjoy the enjoyable. I have a life to live as well with my wife and their Mother. Her Belly Button stretches further still and that is ok. I love them and accept that they are not my ideal and neither am I. They are themselves. They have their life to live.
"They" (our children) are not "themselves" when they live a life in the pathetic delusion of medically altering their actual body in a destructive way to imitate the opposite sex. To say this is not "my ideal" as a parent of a son lost to the trans horrors is an understatement.
I'm right there with you. My son is 33
Yes. Everything you say 💛