Thank you for putting words to thoughts I often have of what will happen to our daughter when this has passed and her friends are on with their lives. I got a mammogram yesterday and sat in the car crying as I realized she will never need to get one-she has no breasts. Where will she be in the sisterhood that she left so far behind? Where will her cheerleaders be when the game is over? What will be left is family to pick up the pieces, if she'll have us. I so wish someone, anyone would write a movie or series of what parents have to go through. We're still isolated in many ways from mainstream coverage and the truth of what we go through.
I've often pondered on such thoughts. Especially, when he is in his 30's and 40's when his peers are off living a busy life with careers, spouses and children and my son is left alone wondering why all the love bombing disappeared. Praying for us all!
Brutally honest essay. Whole thing disguised as compassion. It’s anything but. Won a lot of minds though & gave everyone a cause. Oh & a bunch of grown ups lots of money.
What percentage (I don't know how else to ask it without referring to numbers) is the typical trans person's satisfaction/happiness dependent on others perceiving them as their desire sex? Why is it that we have a ton of young people yearning for flexibility, for binary identities and orientations, while we have this other group that is focused on stereotypes in terms of presentation to the public? A neighbor's son is making noises about being trans. He's 6'3" and weighs 300 lbs. Does he, in particular, not care about how others perceive him? Or, does he not care?
He wants people to love and admire him--as do we all--and the Trans panic being marketing to him online promises him constant love-bombing. What depressed person wouldn't desperately want that?
As Jennifer Bilek keeps saying, "trans" is not a real thing.
It's marketing.
He doesn't realize that, once he voluntarily steps through that self-harm door, he can never give up the self-harm and step back out again, without being showered with vicious abuse and threats from the very people claiming to love and admire him now.
It's not about anyone loving or admiring him. It will never be about that.
I wonder about this question a lot. Maybe the 300 lb young man would rather blame his loneliness on ‘transphobic hate’ than do the much harder work of improving his natural body and mind so as to compete for love in real life. Maybe that option feels so out of reach that the nihilism of opt-in misery looks like a rational alternative. He knows there’ll be an instant payout of online sympathy and ‘community,’ and might just think he’s got nothing to lose.
So much of this exploits the normal anxieties and self-questioning of teens and young adults.
"I don't have an adult identity! What do I do?"
"Here! We made one just for you!"
That pre-packaged identity is simply merchandise, and the young targets don't realize this because they don't pay for it.
I had a conversation once on Twitter with someone who told me he was a 15-year-old on estrogen, and he sincerely believed no one was making money off it because he didn't pay for it himself. As though the tranny fairies were just showering him with their free largesse out of the kindness of their hearts.
These people are SO young. They've never paid for anything serious in their lives--everything they've ever needed has been paid for by their parents.
Multiply that normal teenage ignorance by the damage those hormones are doing to his brain, and you can see how this whole generation is being deliberately dumbed-down out of their natural birthright of intelligence.
It's unconscionable.
And, yes, their parents are the only ones who love them unconditionally enough to take them back in and try to nurture the damage out of them, once the exploiters have moved on to other prey.
I’ll second that - dress how you like, love whoever you love, pursue whatever interests you like without worrying about stereotypes, but once you medicalize, you are just pursuing self destruction. I tried to explain to my son that I would not help him pay for his cross sex meds because to me it was no different than subsidizing an alcoholic or a drug user in their addiction. That is, no doubt, part of why he has now estranged me. But I just could not enable and abet him in self destruction.
I pray he’s still out there somewhere - hopefully happy and as healthy as possible given that he is disrupting his body with the wrong hormones. And I’m hoping he has not chosen to mutilate his body through surgery, but I may never know. I watch Cori Cohn and I ache for him and all our sons and daughters who have medicalized and will never be the same.
this is a sobering read. More should be made of these insurance statistics. And maybe, insurance risk - assessors should quit funding such obviously harmful and fraudulent medical inflictions.
But seriously, I wish I could share your optimism about trans dying out like the hulla-hoop or 1970s men's long hair & bell bottoms. I don't see it happening, but I hope you're right.
I've been bringing up the gender stereotype lobby to friends and acquaintances since 2020. I know they have no idea what's going on, so, as much as I hate having these conversations over and over ad nauseum with people who don't want to believe me, it's my responsibility.
I don't have a child in this cult, so I can't be accused of making it personal. I'm an atheist, so I can't be accused of religious prejudice. And I'm an old-school far-left Democratic, so I can't be accused of being a right-wing shill. In fact, I happen to know who James Pritzker is, so I can accuse THEM of being right-wing shills.
All of us should be doing this. I think a whole lot of us are.
And I can tell you that the conversation has definitely shifted in the past 6 months or year, among those who think they support this garbage. Last month, I peaked two completely different men friends my own age, old lefties who just assumed this all somehow made sense to them.
But even before I peaked them, they both told me adamantly that we should NOT be letting men into women's sports, and we should NOT be doing this to children. They argued it as though I didn't agree. 'Refreshing' can't even describe the feeling.
These aren't TERFs. They're not women or lesbians in the trenches. They don't read the substacks or news articles. They're just entitled lefty men with no dog in this fight.
And these days--in spite of Trump being the one signing the EOs--even these lefty Trump-hating old men know what's gone horribly wrong.
I once was an old-school Democrat, so what you said resonates. The shift may be happening as you attest, and the trans project may be a losing proposition for the Democratic Party, but I have yet to see any organized retreat from the front lines. I think the strategists probably just want representatives to go silent so voters will forget about the issue, and forget about the Party's complicity in it. But I've also thought that it was too foundational an issue for the Left to abandon completely, and that it would continue the project more covertly.
That graph is eye opening however I don’t think any trans person emerged in their self centeredness would believe it or maybe they’d say yea good because deep down inside thy must hate themselves. Where that came from none of us will know. I just pray the Holy Spirit will come down upon each of our affected children and lead them on the correct path of life.
The line in the sands and the sands of life are kinda related. My son is on estrogen so thanks for the reminder of the damage as I try to live in a kind of denial to get on with living my own life with my dear husband. We only have one child so I don't even think about grandchildren anymore and my constant prayer is that these drugs are just no longer available to do the systemic harm to our sons and daughters and that the enemy is just catch out and kicked out of their lives. Lord have mercy. Thanks for sharing.
If it helps any, we only have one child too, and although he's not in the Trans panic, he's absolutely adamantly certain he doesn't want children. It's been over a decade, he's in his late twenties now, and he hasn't budged an inch. So we don't even think about grandchildren anymore either.
I believe this is getting far more common for our generation. Young people today are simply living in unprecedented times.
Thank you for putting words to thoughts I often have of what will happen to our daughter when this has passed and her friends are on with their lives. I got a mammogram yesterday and sat in the car crying as I realized she will never need to get one-she has no breasts. Where will she be in the sisterhood that she left so far behind? Where will her cheerleaders be when the game is over? What will be left is family to pick up the pieces, if she'll have us. I so wish someone, anyone would write a movie or series of what parents have to go through. We're still isolated in many ways from mainstream coverage and the truth of what we go through.
I've often pondered on such thoughts. Especially, when he is in his 30's and 40's when his peers are off living a busy life with careers, spouses and children and my son is left alone wondering why all the love bombing disappeared. Praying for us all!
As a Christian, my line is telling the lie in the first place...that we can change our God given sex.
Brutally honest essay. Whole thing disguised as compassion. It’s anything but. Won a lot of minds though & gave everyone a cause. Oh & a bunch of grown ups lots of money.
What percentage (I don't know how else to ask it without referring to numbers) is the typical trans person's satisfaction/happiness dependent on others perceiving them as their desire sex? Why is it that we have a ton of young people yearning for flexibility, for binary identities and orientations, while we have this other group that is focused on stereotypes in terms of presentation to the public? A neighbor's son is making noises about being trans. He's 6'3" and weighs 300 lbs. Does he, in particular, not care about how others perceive him? Or, does he not care?
He wants people to love and admire him--as do we all--and the Trans panic being marketing to him online promises him constant love-bombing. What depressed person wouldn't desperately want that?
As Jennifer Bilek keeps saying, "trans" is not a real thing.
It's marketing.
He doesn't realize that, once he voluntarily steps through that self-harm door, he can never give up the self-harm and step back out again, without being showered with vicious abuse and threats from the very people claiming to love and admire him now.
It's not about anyone loving or admiring him. It will never be about that.
It's just marketing.
I wonder about this question a lot. Maybe the 300 lb young man would rather blame his loneliness on ‘transphobic hate’ than do the much harder work of improving his natural body and mind so as to compete for love in real life. Maybe that option feels so out of reach that the nihilism of opt-in misery looks like a rational alternative. He knows there’ll be an instant payout of online sympathy and ‘community,’ and might just think he’s got nothing to lose.
Yes.
So much of this exploits the normal anxieties and self-questioning of teens and young adults.
"I don't have an adult identity! What do I do?"
"Here! We made one just for you!"
That pre-packaged identity is simply merchandise, and the young targets don't realize this because they don't pay for it.
I had a conversation once on Twitter with someone who told me he was a 15-year-old on estrogen, and he sincerely believed no one was making money off it because he didn't pay for it himself. As though the tranny fairies were just showering him with their free largesse out of the kindness of their hearts.
These people are SO young. They've never paid for anything serious in their lives--everything they've ever needed has been paid for by their parents.
Multiply that normal teenage ignorance by the damage those hormones are doing to his brain, and you can see how this whole generation is being deliberately dumbed-down out of their natural birthright of intelligence.
It's unconscionable.
And, yes, their parents are the only ones who love them unconditionally enough to take them back in and try to nurture the damage out of them, once the exploiters have moved on to other prey.
I’ll second that - dress how you like, love whoever you love, pursue whatever interests you like without worrying about stereotypes, but once you medicalize, you are just pursuing self destruction. I tried to explain to my son that I would not help him pay for his cross sex meds because to me it was no different than subsidizing an alcoholic or a drug user in their addiction. That is, no doubt, part of why he has now estranged me. But I just could not enable and abet him in self destruction.
I pray he’s still out there somewhere - hopefully happy and as healthy as possible given that he is disrupting his body with the wrong hormones. And I’m hoping he has not chosen to mutilate his body through surgery, but I may never know. I watch Cori Cohn and I ache for him and all our sons and daughters who have medicalized and will never be the same.
I'm there with you as we took our daughter of our insurance-part of her ban on us. I still feel we did the right thing.
You can't pay for the mutilation of your own child.
You just can't.
this is a sobering read. More should be made of these insurance statistics. And maybe, insurance risk - assessors should quit funding such obviously harmful and fraudulent medical inflictions.
But seriously, I wish I could share your optimism about trans dying out like the hulla-hoop or 1970s men's long hair & bell bottoms. I don't see it happening, but I hope you're right.
It's happening.
I've been bringing up the gender stereotype lobby to friends and acquaintances since 2020. I know they have no idea what's going on, so, as much as I hate having these conversations over and over ad nauseum with people who don't want to believe me, it's my responsibility.
I don't have a child in this cult, so I can't be accused of making it personal. I'm an atheist, so I can't be accused of religious prejudice. And I'm an old-school far-left Democratic, so I can't be accused of being a right-wing shill. In fact, I happen to know who James Pritzker is, so I can accuse THEM of being right-wing shills.
All of us should be doing this. I think a whole lot of us are.
And I can tell you that the conversation has definitely shifted in the past 6 months or year, among those who think they support this garbage. Last month, I peaked two completely different men friends my own age, old lefties who just assumed this all somehow made sense to them.
But even before I peaked them, they both told me adamantly that we should NOT be letting men into women's sports, and we should NOT be doing this to children. They argued it as though I didn't agree. 'Refreshing' can't even describe the feeling.
These aren't TERFs. They're not women or lesbians in the trenches. They don't read the substacks or news articles. They're just entitled lefty men with no dog in this fight.
And these days--in spite of Trump being the one signing the EOs--even these lefty Trump-hating old men know what's gone horribly wrong.
The rest of it is not far behind.
I once was an old-school Democrat, so what you said resonates. The shift may be happening as you attest, and the trans project may be a losing proposition for the Democratic Party, but I have yet to see any organized retreat from the front lines. I think the strategists probably just want representatives to go silent so voters will forget about the issue, and forget about the Party's complicity in it. But I've also thought that it was too foundational an issue for the Left to abandon completely, and that it would continue the project more covertly.
That graph is eye opening however I don’t think any trans person emerged in their self centeredness would believe it or maybe they’d say yea good because deep down inside thy must hate themselves. Where that came from none of us will know. I just pray the Holy Spirit will come down upon each of our affected children and lead them on the correct path of life.
I share your prayer. May everyone live with peace and happiness. May they be free from accidents and from fraudulent medicine.
The line in the sands and the sands of life are kinda related. My son is on estrogen so thanks for the reminder of the damage as I try to live in a kind of denial to get on with living my own life with my dear husband. We only have one child so I don't even think about grandchildren anymore and my constant prayer is that these drugs are just no longer available to do the systemic harm to our sons and daughters and that the enemy is just catch out and kicked out of their lives. Lord have mercy. Thanks for sharing.
If it helps any, we only have one child too, and although he's not in the Trans panic, he's absolutely adamantly certain he doesn't want children. It's been over a decade, he's in his late twenties now, and he hasn't budged an inch. So we don't even think about grandchildren anymore either.
I believe this is getting far more common for our generation. Young people today are simply living in unprecedented times.
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