kids don’t really want to just abandon their parents, if your kids distanced themselves from you it’s for good reason! i’m trans and my father is a transphobic bigot, i still want to be family with him, im not being urged to abandon him for no reason
It’s so funny watching all these estranged parents feel sorry for themselves. They’re so far away from learning the truth of how terrible they are. And the thing is they can keep feeling sorry for themselves, but what’s not gonna happen is ,Christmas is surrounded by their full family ..phone calls about grandchildren‘s big accomplishments or milestones or even having somebody give a shit about them as they slowly wither away into their old age all because these parents can’t hold themselves accountable. They’re still so addicted to feeling sorry for themselves and blaming it on how “the new generation just sees things differently” rather than their generation just normalizing the abuse of children.
I once volunteered at a Battered Women's Shelter to work with the women's children.
They were the sweetest and most present children you could imagine. In spite of the horrors they'd witnessed, the abuses they'd survived, the nightmares that still haunted them. . .they were lively, funny, cooperative, and affectionate.
It was because they knew the value of kindness. When we were kind to them, they blossomed.
Of course, I never wanted any child--much less my own--to have to learn that lesson the way they'd learned it. But I never forgot how they spontaneously transformed their suffering into appreciation for goodness.
Agreed, the society has changed but from a spiritual point of view this is not a surprised because evil is chaos and wants to destroy what God's creates out of His love because the rebels don't understand LOVE, love is a over used word in society but probably the most misunderstood. Love is charity and charity is "care for the goodwill of others" sometimes that implies correction and discipline. In a society that children are given anything for free or without having done anything to earn it it is not surprise children and youth have an identity crisis. Who I am? What is life? Why I exist? What is the purpose of my suffering? A society that doesn't allow people to suffer, a society that cannot accept suffering for what really is, a human condition that comes from our sins, a society that needs to numb themselves with food, drugs legal and illegal, entertainment of any kind including porn that is so bad for the soul and cause the destruction of the relationship between men and women. Where men are weak fathers because they don't know how to be fathers because they also are confused about their roles in a society that encourage effeminate men that are easily to control, and women trying to balanced out or supplement for what they don't have, a strong husband that will protect the whole family and will be a role of a man for his sons as mothers have to be for their daughters.
Evil wins these battles because we are not connecting the dots. Transgenderism is not an isolate phenomenon, we are fighting many different fronts here so girded it up.
More important, LOVE is sacrificial so we shouldn't say that we love others or that is about love in a superficial or virtue signaling way, we shouldn't say it unless we are willing to die for the ones we love. Here also I noticed that people say "I love you" when they really want to say "I like you" we should start to say "I like you" more and be more meaningful when we say "I love you"or it is all about love, yes but you would be willing to change your plans, or to change your routine, or do what is good for the one you love that maybe is not the best for you? Are you wiling to give your life for those unknown that could need you? or for Jesus? as the Christians who are dieing everyday in Nigeria or other parts of the world? ""And if I should distribute all my goods to feed the poor, and if I should deliver my body to be burned, and have not love, it profit nothing. ..If I have all the knowledge and know all the mysteries, or my faith is so strong that moves mountains, and have not love, I am nothing." We should learn from the prophets.
Ambiguous grief can be managed they say, 6 months after the event you see improvement. The current definition of ambiguous grief excludes those parents who live with the out of the blue loss of their child to trans identifying. It’s the most cruel and never ending form of ambiguous grief. To “end it” requires denial of your own reality - that is coercive control and may have arisen in the child with trans identity because of abuse online around puberty and the vulnerable developmental years. I know I’m a loving Mum, I have a son. The female name being used to create a new persona - I don’t like the persona, nothing like my son.
What a thoughtful piece. Hopefully we are now seeing the “worst” generation in a 5 generational historical cycle, and the next generation to come will be more like the Greatest Generation, our parents, grandparents, and great grandparents from the WWII years. I for one am praying that the cycle continues and that we can return to personal responsibility and making the world a better and safer place. Returning to the old ways of sacrifice and investing in our future generations will make us stronger and healthier once again! 🙏🏻
I cannot even begin to explain how horrible this estrangement movement is. And I speak as someone that was legit abused by an alcoholic emotionally stunted parent. The social media posts are everywhere, encouraging & justifying cutting parents off & if you try to present a different view you are lambasted as an example of the problem. What's that term for this kind of faulty logic? Anyway, these people also often state that they aren't going to have children. So where TF do they get off judging? Their parents were so horrible but they're too chicken of selfish or whatever to have kids? Cry me a river. Sorry that's harsh LOL.
Be sure to check out Rachel Haack's substack on estrangement. She is a therapist who began specializing in estrangement when the issue came up repeatedly in sessions with her clients. She's very insightful.
Romans 12:20-21 The kindness causes the enemy to feel a "burning" sense of shame or conviction for their bad behavior. Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. This is what we do with our FtM Daughter, it's not easy, I would love to tell her how I really feel. I am glad she is states away because she was violent towards us. I hate Trans, sick of it.
This emotional distance creates such a feeling of sadness it is hard to describe to others. Actually it is useless to try to explain. I kow the feeing well, as all of you do. Keep praying and never lose hope.. Gratefull for my other three children who know the real story, the one we all lived together, not the one he is making up and always remind me of such an incredible family that we are. We are all loving and waiting for him to come back to his real family
kids don’t really want to just abandon their parents, if your kids distanced themselves from you it’s for good reason! i’m trans and my father is a transphobic bigot, i still want to be family with him, im not being urged to abandon him for no reason
It’s so funny watching all these estranged parents feel sorry for themselves. They’re so far away from learning the truth of how terrible they are. And the thing is they can keep feeling sorry for themselves, but what’s not gonna happen is ,Christmas is surrounded by their full family ..phone calls about grandchildren‘s big accomplishments or milestones or even having somebody give a shit about them as they slowly wither away into their old age all because these parents can’t hold themselves accountable. They’re still so addicted to feeling sorry for themselves and blaming it on how “the new generation just sees things differently” rather than their generation just normalizing the abuse of children.
I once volunteered at a Battered Women's Shelter to work with the women's children.
They were the sweetest and most present children you could imagine. In spite of the horrors they'd witnessed, the abuses they'd survived, the nightmares that still haunted them. . .they were lively, funny, cooperative, and affectionate.
It was because they knew the value of kindness. When we were kind to them, they blossomed.
Of course, I never wanted any child--much less my own--to have to learn that lesson the way they'd learned it. But I never forgot how they spontaneously transformed their suffering into appreciation for goodness.
Yes🩵🙏🩷
Agreed, the society has changed but from a spiritual point of view this is not a surprised because evil is chaos and wants to destroy what God's creates out of His love because the rebels don't understand LOVE, love is a over used word in society but probably the most misunderstood. Love is charity and charity is "care for the goodwill of others" sometimes that implies correction and discipline. In a society that children are given anything for free or without having done anything to earn it it is not surprise children and youth have an identity crisis. Who I am? What is life? Why I exist? What is the purpose of my suffering? A society that doesn't allow people to suffer, a society that cannot accept suffering for what really is, a human condition that comes from our sins, a society that needs to numb themselves with food, drugs legal and illegal, entertainment of any kind including porn that is so bad for the soul and cause the destruction of the relationship between men and women. Where men are weak fathers because they don't know how to be fathers because they also are confused about their roles in a society that encourage effeminate men that are easily to control, and women trying to balanced out or supplement for what they don't have, a strong husband that will protect the whole family and will be a role of a man for his sons as mothers have to be for their daughters.
Evil wins these battles because we are not connecting the dots. Transgenderism is not an isolate phenomenon, we are fighting many different fronts here so girded it up.
More important, LOVE is sacrificial so we shouldn't say that we love others or that is about love in a superficial or virtue signaling way, we shouldn't say it unless we are willing to die for the ones we love. Here also I noticed that people say "I love you" when they really want to say "I like you" we should start to say "I like you" more and be more meaningful when we say "I love you"or it is all about love, yes but you would be willing to change your plans, or to change your routine, or do what is good for the one you love that maybe is not the best for you? Are you wiling to give your life for those unknown that could need you? or for Jesus? as the Christians who are dieing everyday in Nigeria or other parts of the world? ""And if I should distribute all my goods to feed the poor, and if I should deliver my body to be burned, and have not love, it profit nothing. ..If I have all the knowledge and know all the mysteries, or my faith is so strong that moves mountains, and have not love, I am nothing." We should learn from the prophets.
Could the author please share where he/she found that graphic/image in this post?
Ambiguous grief can be managed they say, 6 months after the event you see improvement. The current definition of ambiguous grief excludes those parents who live with the out of the blue loss of their child to trans identifying. It’s the most cruel and never ending form of ambiguous grief. To “end it” requires denial of your own reality - that is coercive control and may have arisen in the child with trans identity because of abuse online around puberty and the vulnerable developmental years. I know I’m a loving Mum, I have a son. The female name being used to create a new persona - I don’t like the persona, nothing like my son.
Your son has been brainwashed, and the persona he's acting out is the persona brainwashed into him by his groomers.
That is not him.
Agree.unfortunately his “friends” won’t challenge him
This hit home for lots of reasons. Thank you.
What a thoughtful piece. Hopefully we are now seeing the “worst” generation in a 5 generational historical cycle, and the next generation to come will be more like the Greatest Generation, our parents, grandparents, and great grandparents from the WWII years. I for one am praying that the cycle continues and that we can return to personal responsibility and making the world a better and safer place. Returning to the old ways of sacrifice and investing in our future generations will make us stronger and healthier once again! 🙏🏻
I cannot even begin to explain how horrible this estrangement movement is. And I speak as someone that was legit abused by an alcoholic emotionally stunted parent. The social media posts are everywhere, encouraging & justifying cutting parents off & if you try to present a different view you are lambasted as an example of the problem. What's that term for this kind of faulty logic? Anyway, these people also often state that they aren't going to have children. So where TF do they get off judging? Their parents were so horrible but they're too chicken of selfish or whatever to have kids? Cry me a river. Sorry that's harsh LOL.
Exactly. Parenting is for the brave of spirit. Unknown territory the whole way. They lack any bravery. But have lots of judgement.
beautifully put.
How utterly destructive and destabilizing to be discarded by your own beloved child..
Be sure to check out Rachel Haack's substack on estrangement. She is a therapist who began specializing in estrangement when the issue came up repeatedly in sessions with her clients. She's very insightful.
https://rachelhaack.substack.com
Hurts so much.
Romans 12:20-21 The kindness causes the enemy to feel a "burning" sense of shame or conviction for their bad behavior. Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. This is what we do with our FtM Daughter, it's not easy, I would love to tell her how I really feel. I am glad she is states away because she was violent towards us. I hate Trans, sick of it.
This emotional distance creates such a feeling of sadness it is hard to describe to others. Actually it is useless to try to explain. I kow the feeing well, as all of you do. Keep praying and never lose hope.. Gratefull for my other three children who know the real story, the one we all lived together, not the one he is making up and always remind me of such an incredible family that we are. We are all loving and waiting for him to come back to his real family
😢🙏
Spot on, I'm very sorry to say..