“I am NOT a girl. ” That was the text our 14 year old sent us. This came after an hour of her being locked in the bathroom, crying and telling us to “go away”, as my wife and I tried to coax her out and talk to her. She couldn’t even bring herself to say it, she had to text it to us. Not because she was embarrassed, but because she was afraid. Afraid that we would hate her, that we would kick her out of our home. “You won’t accept me.” “You always say that it’s wrong.” “You don’t want me to be a boy.” “You aren’t going to let me be who I am.” Those are the texts that followed.
Thank you for sharing your story. We went through this with my daughter two years ago and we are now on the other side of it with her embracing her female identity and all the beauty that goes with it. Our faith and prayer 100 percent got us to this point. When my daughter was in the midst of the transgender cult, I had the horrifying realization that it is rooted in evil. That is when I fully leaned into my faith in Jesus. (The opposite of evil is God.) We never affirmed my daughter but we also never rejected what she was feeling. I just kept telling her that if what she was telling me was "real" then it would get stronger over time and we'd take it slow and do what was right. I am sorry you are going through this madness, I know it is an absolute nightmare. Like you said, you are not alone!
A make believe god won't help you to fix this, your child is mentally ill with an entirely human condition that needs to be addressed with direct and lasting treatment to overcome.
A good start would be to teach her meditation techniques that focus on the basic principle of assertive calmness. What most people don't know about meditation is that it's real benefit is not about regulating your heartbeat and blood pressure, but that it will actually change your brain wave pattern when fully under its entirely earthly human spell. When you're awake, your mind is operating on Alpha waves, but when you're meditating these patterns change themselves into Theta waves, the same kind that get produced when we sleep. So meditation is very akin to being in a dream like state but for which you're entirely awake and conscious for. In this state you can then think on and confront the problems that would otherwise cause you great anxiety and distress if dewelled on in a normal setting. Because when problems get thought about in a meditative state while producing Theta waves, your brain will not induce the same levels of anxiety you would otherwise feel if you imagined those same issues while running on Alpha waves in a non-meditative state.
The coolest thing to know is that after some practice, you'll actually start to develop a new style of Alpha waves that are different than the ones you had before meditating, and which will then carry on being produced throughout the rest of your day. Basically, the Alpha waves you woke up with will not look the same as the ones your brain will create after meditating. If we were to hook you up to a monitor and do a before and after reading of them we would see the difference, because not all alpha patterns look alike. And it's these fully awake but "Different" Alphas that are the goal. And with enough practice you'll actually begin to wake up from your sleep already producing these new Alpha patterns even before you've done your morning's meditation. Really it feels like a rexaling, non-chemically induced nicotine high that you've trained your brain to experience.
Therefore my happy atheistic advice is to abandon looking for a heavenly solution and go research the effects that meditation can have on her brainwaves. It can cure all sorts of mental problems without the need for any silly goose modern day medical interventions that push worthless happy pills.
Meditation? Well I just attended an event at a school that pushes meditation and they push the gender lunacy too. It seemed to go hand in hand. So yes, maybe it’s great for coping after what you have done to your body.
hey! so, my sister went through this too. and guess what! shes still a girl. turns out she was sexually assaulted in school and didnt know how to talk about it because no one believed her, and it just came out that the kid who assaulted her was lying about his age pretending to be a minor because he got held back a bunch. also i am a biologist who just graduated with a a bachelors and im doing a masters at harvard next year so......... yeah
So sorry that your sister and your family had to walk through this. Thank you for sharing your story; it’s always encouraging to hear when someone is able to recognize the root cause and hopefully get the help they need. Many desisters and detransitioners are reporting similar traumas in their backgrounds, and hopefully as more speak up it will empower others.
Great article. SEGM is a great resource. Your ability and willingness to digest the actual science, along with your voice of experience from your own family’s perspective, will no doubt help others like your sister find the help they need. Especially in your field. Keep speaking up! I know it can be difficult to do in the academic world, but it’s so needed.
btw obviously if my comment gets deleted its a moderator and not me because i do see other ppl’s stuff getting deleted so no need to get on a high horse suddenly besties
There's little doubt that the daughter's ideas and behavior were learned from numerous sources. Social media and the Internet are so pervasive that the notion of trying to insulate your child from them seems as impossible as damming the Mississippi River with your hands. One source of trans contagion that seems less formidable by comparison is your child's public K-12 school system.
Perhaps as an outgrowth of the racial social justice movement or possibly through the efforts of trans activists, many school systems have taken it upon themselves to indoctrinate children into gender-identity ideology starting in the early grades. The school sees itself as the protector of "trans kids," who are assumed to be at great risk of suffering emotional and even physical harm from other children, society at large and, yes, even "transphobic" parents.
In order to discharge its self-appointed responsibilities to so-called trans kids, schools feel compelled to teach every single pupil all the tenets of gender ideology, starting with the alleged fact that some boys are born in girls bodies and vice versa. Teachers explain the different types of gender identity, all of which are imaginary, in the sort of detail once reserved for teaching fifth graders about 50 states, their capitals and their leading agricultural products. The overarching message is that trans kids should be celebrated and defended.
The fact is that indoctrinating children into gender identity ideology is no more a school's responsibility than teaching kids alchemy would be. Gender critical parents, especially those whose children have been driven to the brink by the barrage of lies and misinformation from teachers, peers, social media and popular culture, need to organize and demand that their local school boards or their state department of education cease the teaching of gender identity ideology immediately. The stories in these comments would be persuasive testimony in support of abandoning gender indoctrination.
Another avenue to consider is lobbying your local legislators to prohibit the teaching of any materials having to do with sex or gender unless they have a solid and undisputed foundation in accepted empirical science. That is not the case with gender identity ideology. Though some of the academics who dreamed up gender call themselves "theorists," their output bears no resemblance to scientific theories that have undergone rigorous testing according to the scientific method. They might as well be the disjointed and irrational memoirs of some mad poet's opium dreams.
This may or may not apply and I apologize for those who may be offended …but your child’s story reminded me of something a friend in college said. This friend was having mental health challenges and her psychologist told her when she started to feel emotional to eat a steak. I truly believe there are vitamins and minerals in red meat that calm the body. I also know of several persons who when were vegan cried and cried and had emotional dis regulation…I am not saying that this is the only thing going on but did want to share the info in that it may help someone somewhere.
This line is something my son has done too: “She studied the traits and symptoms of Autism and ADHD, and began mimicking them”. He didn’t see a therapist because he had the internet to coach him in all things ASD and trans. Google neuroqueer if you’re needing to see the link between the two. Someone who wrote a thesis, self published gained traction. It’s not peer reviewed in a credible journal that I have seen. But we all know that credible journals is now a thing of the past.
Thank you for sharing your story.I am so sorry your family has to go through this traumatic time. This video might help in understanding the deeper roots and lures of Gender Ideology: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7_XesZeST3E
Thank you for your candid, and heartfelt essay. And, thank you for being so open, honest, and brave. My sincerest best wishes for you and your family. Sincerely, Frederick
You are where we were at 18 years ago. Our son is now fully mutilated and hates us, but we still have hope and this does not have to be the end result for you. If you want to benefit from my hindsight, lovingly take the computer and social media away from your daughter. Now. I found out too late the evil influencers that were working on my son through the years.
Wow, I am so sorry for your pain & share your hope. unfettered internet access I agree. I’m curious though, if he is living what he thinks is a happy life, any contact with other family members, have a job?? Trying to make sense if it all
The pressure we face at work and school is another thing, but children being able to access the darkest most deranged ideas of humanity in the isolation of their bedroom is extremely destructive to their young mental health. 
Simply install software on their devices to protect, just like you lock the door and windows on your home.
It's interesting in your article it said " 4000% increase in cases in less than a decade" so what's changed in those 10 years? And why is not one asking that question?
The Britains have asked. The Skandinävians have asked. They have changed the country policy after that. Puberty blowers are prohibited in GB and Sweden now. But you can get them through Internet.
A particularly egregious example is dismissing the dramatic recent rise in young children being referred to gender clinics or claiming a trans identity as no more than people expressing their true selves, analogous to the rise in left-handedness over the last century.
Where would Mary Curie have ended if she would have run with a transflag, threatening with suicide and demand a male identity instead of just doing things that were supposed not to be suitable... Probably in a psychiatric facility. This transideas is such an offence for womanhood.
Heartbreaking. The same sad stories over and over again - children who suddenly reject who they are and become so desperate for change that they lose their way. Parents stand frozen in fear, unable to stop the momentum. Is this generation not going to be spared from this cruelty? It is inconceivable that anyone would think this is normal behavior or acceptable. I worry daily about my 19 year-old nephew and wonder if I will ever see him again, and if I do, will I even recognize him? What harm is he doing to his healthy body? I am shocked at the media coverage and the support the trans-cult receives. Listening to one detransitioner's story is enough to realize how dangerous this movement really is and it should be stopped immediately! Did we have to listen to more than one person's account of Auschwitz in order to believe what happened there? NO! I hope that your daughter will desist and that you can keep your family safe from the trans-cult - this fight is not easy. Too many traps, and escape routes, and groomers, and on-line poisons to harm the mind and then the body. The medical field workers take an oath "To do no harm" but that is all they seem to be doing. What will their excuses be one day? Will we have a mass suicide from the medical field once they realize the permanent damage that they have actually caused on all these young, innocent children? Some days I start to waver in my faith and I worry that God is going to allow this genocide to continue because it is the end of the world... but then I remember that God created us and loves us and I know He hears our prayers. My faith gives me the hope I need to fight this, for my nephew, for my sister, for all of you.
Probably we should have raised concerns as some individuals proclaimed, that Auschwitz and the Holocaust has never happened. Now about 17% in Germany support radical right who openly proclame e. Nazi statements. In average these supported are living in countryside, are male and middle age. So, they gave nothing to do with liberal youth, more likely they are frustrated about the liberals and scared to shit about the future. It shows horrific similarities to the 30th of the last century.
Thank you! This ROGD scares me so much I can only read my PITT emails a few days at a time then I have to take a break and file what comes in for later. Your experience is the same as mine except I was fortunate not to get COVID. Now I’m a mother without a daughter. I’m also a Democrat without a party. But you reminded me I’m not alone. I can’t wait for you to publish your research.
There is a forbidden book of wisdom some call hate speech today that talks about what would be better for people who knowingly intentionally harm and deceive children, and it is not something anyone would want.
I am so grateful for all the parents that are sharing their stories because you do feel alone even though you hear about so many kids out there struggling. My daughter was 18 when she laid it on us and took off from our home and has found Help in the arms of the state (and we live in Florida!) and like-minded people that she has met through TikTok and discord. It’s been nearly 2 years, but I do believe the Lord will lead her back home and like many, will speak out about this, and our family will be stronger than ever. Thank you for speaking out and for the support you all are providing.
Thank you for sharing your story. We went through this with my daughter two years ago and we are now on the other side of it with her embracing her female identity and all the beauty that goes with it. Our faith and prayer 100 percent got us to this point. When my daughter was in the midst of the transgender cult, I had the horrifying realization that it is rooted in evil. That is when I fully leaned into my faith in Jesus. (The opposite of evil is God.) We never affirmed my daughter but we also never rejected what she was feeling. I just kept telling her that if what she was telling me was "real" then it would get stronger over time and we'd take it slow and do what was right. I am sorry you are going through this madness, I know it is an absolute nightmare. Like you said, you are not alone!
A make believe god won't help you to fix this, your child is mentally ill with an entirely human condition that needs to be addressed with direct and lasting treatment to overcome.
A good start would be to teach her meditation techniques that focus on the basic principle of assertive calmness. What most people don't know about meditation is that it's real benefit is not about regulating your heartbeat and blood pressure, but that it will actually change your brain wave pattern when fully under its entirely earthly human spell. When you're awake, your mind is operating on Alpha waves, but when you're meditating these patterns change themselves into Theta waves, the same kind that get produced when we sleep. So meditation is very akin to being in a dream like state but for which you're entirely awake and conscious for. In this state you can then think on and confront the problems that would otherwise cause you great anxiety and distress if dewelled on in a normal setting. Because when problems get thought about in a meditative state while producing Theta waves, your brain will not induce the same levels of anxiety you would otherwise feel if you imagined those same issues while running on Alpha waves in a non-meditative state.
The coolest thing to know is that after some practice, you'll actually start to develop a new style of Alpha waves that are different than the ones you had before meditating, and which will then carry on being produced throughout the rest of your day. Basically, the Alpha waves you woke up with will not look the same as the ones your brain will create after meditating. If we were to hook you up to a monitor and do a before and after reading of them we would see the difference, because not all alpha patterns look alike. And it's these fully awake but "Different" Alphas that are the goal. And with enough practice you'll actually begin to wake up from your sleep already producing these new Alpha patterns even before you've done your morning's meditation. Really it feels like a rexaling, non-chemically induced nicotine high that you've trained your brain to experience.
Therefore my happy atheistic advice is to abandon looking for a heavenly solution and go research the effects that meditation can have on her brainwaves. It can cure all sorts of mental problems without the need for any silly goose modern day medical interventions that push worthless happy pills.
Good luck with your kid.
Meditation? Well I just attended an event at a school that pushes meditation and they push the gender lunacy too. It seemed to go hand in hand. So yes, maybe it’s great for coping after what you have done to your body.
Thank you so much as I feel very alone in all of this. Your words give me the support I need right now.
hey! so, my sister went through this too. and guess what! shes still a girl. turns out she was sexually assaulted in school and didnt know how to talk about it because no one believed her, and it just came out that the kid who assaulted her was lying about his age pretending to be a minor because he got held back a bunch. also i am a biologist who just graduated with a a bachelors and im doing a masters at harvard next year so......... yeah
So sorry that your sister and your family had to walk through this. Thank you for sharing your story; it’s always encouraging to hear when someone is able to recognize the root cause and hopefully get the help they need. Many desisters and detransitioners are reporting similar traumas in their backgrounds, and hopefully as more speak up it will empower others.
yes definitely! heres a link i really liked about detransitioning and why it happens: https://segm.org/transition-regret-and-detransition
Great article. SEGM is a great resource. Your ability and willingness to digest the actual science, along with your voice of experience from your own family’s perspective, will no doubt help others like your sister find the help they need. Especially in your field. Keep speaking up! I know it can be difficult to do in the academic world, but it’s so needed.
btw obviously if my comment gets deleted its a moderator and not me because i do see other ppl’s stuff getting deleted so no need to get on a high horse suddenly besties
There's little doubt that the daughter's ideas and behavior were learned from numerous sources. Social media and the Internet are so pervasive that the notion of trying to insulate your child from them seems as impossible as damming the Mississippi River with your hands. One source of trans contagion that seems less formidable by comparison is your child's public K-12 school system.
Perhaps as an outgrowth of the racial social justice movement or possibly through the efforts of trans activists, many school systems have taken it upon themselves to indoctrinate children into gender-identity ideology starting in the early grades. The school sees itself as the protector of "trans kids," who are assumed to be at great risk of suffering emotional and even physical harm from other children, society at large and, yes, even "transphobic" parents.
In order to discharge its self-appointed responsibilities to so-called trans kids, schools feel compelled to teach every single pupil all the tenets of gender ideology, starting with the alleged fact that some boys are born in girls bodies and vice versa. Teachers explain the different types of gender identity, all of which are imaginary, in the sort of detail once reserved for teaching fifth graders about 50 states, their capitals and their leading agricultural products. The overarching message is that trans kids should be celebrated and defended.
The fact is that indoctrinating children into gender identity ideology is no more a school's responsibility than teaching kids alchemy would be. Gender critical parents, especially those whose children have been driven to the brink by the barrage of lies and misinformation from teachers, peers, social media and popular culture, need to organize and demand that their local school boards or their state department of education cease the teaching of gender identity ideology immediately. The stories in these comments would be persuasive testimony in support of abandoning gender indoctrination.
Another avenue to consider is lobbying your local legislators to prohibit the teaching of any materials having to do with sex or gender unless they have a solid and undisputed foundation in accepted empirical science. That is not the case with gender identity ideology. Though some of the academics who dreamed up gender call themselves "theorists," their output bears no resemblance to scientific theories that have undergone rigorous testing according to the scientific method. They might as well be the disjointed and irrational memoirs of some mad poet's opium dreams.
This may or may not apply and I apologize for those who may be offended …but your child’s story reminded me of something a friend in college said. This friend was having mental health challenges and her psychologist told her when she started to feel emotional to eat a steak. I truly believe there are vitamins and minerals in red meat that calm the body. I also know of several persons who when were vegan cried and cried and had emotional dis regulation…I am not saying that this is the only thing going on but did want to share the info in that it may help someone somewhere.
Good suggestion. I too am one of those former vegans. Make it a rare steak.
This line is something my son has done too: “She studied the traits and symptoms of Autism and ADHD, and began mimicking them”. He didn’t see a therapist because he had the internet to coach him in all things ASD and trans. Google neuroqueer if you’re needing to see the link between the two. Someone who wrote a thesis, self published gained traction. It’s not peer reviewed in a credible journal that I have seen. But we all know that credible journals is now a thing of the past.
Thank you for sharing your story.I am so sorry your family has to go through this traumatic time. This video might help in understanding the deeper roots and lures of Gender Ideology: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7_XesZeST3E
Thank you for your candid, and heartfelt essay. And, thank you for being so open, honest, and brave. My sincerest best wishes for you and your family. Sincerely, Frederick
You are where we were at 18 years ago. Our son is now fully mutilated and hates us, but we still have hope and this does not have to be the end result for you. If you want to benefit from my hindsight, lovingly take the computer and social media away from your daughter. Now. I found out too late the evil influencers that were working on my son through the years.
Wow, I am so sorry for your pain & share your hope. unfettered internet access I agree. I’m curious though, if he is living what he thinks is a happy life, any contact with other family members, have a job?? Trying to make sense if it all
Lives mostly off welfare and crowd funding in DC. In touch w one of his sisters. IDK if he is working.
Absolutely!
We used Mobicip for our youngest phone and computers and it helped tremendously.
https://www.mobicip.com/
The pressure we face at work and school is another thing, but children being able to access the darkest most deranged ideas of humanity in the isolation of their bedroom is extremely destructive to their young mental health. 
Simply install software on their devices to protect, just like you lock the door and windows on your home.
Prayers for you and the family.
It's interesting in your article it said " 4000% increase in cases in less than a decade" so what's changed in those 10 years? And why is not one asking that question?
We are asking. I think the answer is multi-faceted.
The Britains have asked. The Skandinävians have asked. They have changed the country policy after that. Puberty blowers are prohibited in GB and Sweden now. But you can get them through Internet.
https://www.voidifremoved.co.uk/p/the-left-hand-of-daftness
A particularly egregious example is dismissing the dramatic recent rise in young children being referred to gender clinics or claiming a trans identity as no more than people expressing their true selves, analogous to the rise in left-handedness over the last century.
Where would Mary Curie have ended if she would have run with a transflag, threatening with suicide and demand a male identity instead of just doing things that were supposed not to be suitable... Probably in a psychiatric facility. This transideas is such an offence for womanhood.
Heartbreaking. The same sad stories over and over again - children who suddenly reject who they are and become so desperate for change that they lose their way. Parents stand frozen in fear, unable to stop the momentum. Is this generation not going to be spared from this cruelty? It is inconceivable that anyone would think this is normal behavior or acceptable. I worry daily about my 19 year-old nephew and wonder if I will ever see him again, and if I do, will I even recognize him? What harm is he doing to his healthy body? I am shocked at the media coverage and the support the trans-cult receives. Listening to one detransitioner's story is enough to realize how dangerous this movement really is and it should be stopped immediately! Did we have to listen to more than one person's account of Auschwitz in order to believe what happened there? NO! I hope that your daughter will desist and that you can keep your family safe from the trans-cult - this fight is not easy. Too many traps, and escape routes, and groomers, and on-line poisons to harm the mind and then the body. The medical field workers take an oath "To do no harm" but that is all they seem to be doing. What will their excuses be one day? Will we have a mass suicide from the medical field once they realize the permanent damage that they have actually caused on all these young, innocent children? Some days I start to waver in my faith and I worry that God is going to allow this genocide to continue because it is the end of the world... but then I remember that God created us and loves us and I know He hears our prayers. My faith gives me the hope I need to fight this, for my nephew, for my sister, for all of you.
Probably we should have raised concerns as some individuals proclaimed, that Auschwitz and the Holocaust has never happened. Now about 17% in Germany support radical right who openly proclame e. Nazi statements. In average these supported are living in countryside, are male and middle age. So, they gave nothing to do with liberal youth, more likely they are frustrated about the liberals and scared to shit about the future. It shows horrific similarities to the 30th of the last century.
Thank you! This ROGD scares me so much I can only read my PITT emails a few days at a time then I have to take a break and file what comes in for later. Your experience is the same as mine except I was fortunate not to get COVID. Now I’m a mother without a daughter. I’m also a Democrat without a party. But you reminded me I’m not alone. I can’t wait for you to publish your research.
There is a forbidden book of wisdom some call hate speech today that talks about what would be better for people who knowingly intentionally harm and deceive children, and it is not something anyone would want.
Something about millstones comes to mind.
I am so grateful for all the parents that are sharing their stories because you do feel alone even though you hear about so many kids out there struggling. My daughter was 18 when she laid it on us and took off from our home and has found Help in the arms of the state (and we live in Florida!) and like-minded people that she has met through TikTok and discord. It’s been nearly 2 years, but I do believe the Lord will lead her back home and like many, will speak out about this, and our family will be stronger than ever. Thank you for speaking out and for the support you all are providing.