Why We Write about Gender Ideology (aka Trans)

There are three types of people that are threatening and are, therefore, absolutely intolerable, to the trans ideology narrative - desisters (people that thought they were trans, but then stopped thinking that way), detransitioners (people who “transitioned” to the other sex, and are now reverting back), and parents who question.

We are part of the third group. We are parents who do not go along with the insane affirmative model, whereby children who say they are a different sex than their biology indicates, must be agreed with, celebrated, and then physically and socially modified to support the delusion - making them lucrative medical patients for life. This model, against all reason, is the current accepted way of thinking in most liberal Western societies.

The writings on PITT are by a number of moms and dads of all different political and religious persuasions, who found each other through underground support groups across the world. We have just one thing in common - we all have children who, suddenly, out-of-the-blue, announced they were “trans”. After learning more, we came to realize that something was rotten in Denmark, and some of us decided to work together to consolidate our voices and speak our minds in a forum where we could speak as directly and bluntly as necessary.

We are not writers. We are not activists by design. We’re your neighbors - regular people with regular jobs who have found ourselves secretly whispering into phones to journalists and penning emotional anonymous essays and first person accounts as we fight for our children’s mental and physical wellbeing in the shadows.

Why are we doing this all anonymously and in secret? Simple - we are scared that you will take away our kids, dox us and destroy our livelihoods and, much more importantly, our families. Think we’re being overly dramatic? Just ask Abigail Shrier. Across the world this is exactly what is happening as our so-called liberal societies become increasingly illiberal, anti-free speech, and anti-family.

The easy thing to do would be to go along. But, we’ve been inspired by vocal detransitioners like Sinead Watson, Grace, Garrett, Helena and more who have been bravely speaking out about how they were let down by the medical community. We’ve decided that we are not going to stand silently by while our children are experimented on and misled by a quasi-religious cult ideology. We’re not going to let our children down, like our society let down the detransitioners. We are the adults in the room and we’re not going away.

It’s way past time for the world to understand that all three of these counter-ideology groups exist, that parents have been silenced for years, emotionally blackmailed and held hostage by threats to take away our kids, and that the narrative of so-called real transgender as a biological fact has gone unquestioned and has been permitted to run amok, with unfettered access to our schools, government, and media for far too long.

So, what do we hope to accomplish with our writing?

We write so that you know we are here. For every glitter/rainbow mom you see on the news, repeating harmful stereotypes about girl and boy behaviors, gushing about how their little girl is a boy or vice versa and how could you be so cruel as to deny their very existence?! there are 10, 20 - maybe even hundreds of us - unable to speak publicly but working hard behind the scenes to expose the complete lack of evidence and science behind trans.

We write so that you can see that the things people say never happen, do happen, and we can prove it because they happened to us.

“No teen would get wrong sex hormones on their first visit without exhaustive exploration!” Not true. Some of our kids have easily obtained wrong sex hormones on a first visit to a clinic. Doctors and clinics even readily give hormones to kids with well-documented physical and mental health conditions that should make them ineligible. We would know - this has happened to our kids, many of whom have other serious conditions.

“No one would be censored for writing about their experiences in the US - free speech is alive and well and reports to the contrary must be hoaxes!” Not true, a number of us have been censored on Medium and other platforms when writing about trans topics, this author included.

“Trans kids just know who they are!” Not true. Some of our kids thought they were trans, passionately and vocally, and have since changed their minds. And we know first hand that our teens are no different than the average teen - immature, impulsive, changeable, and risk-taking and prone to taking regrettable action.

“No one would take away your child just because you disagree about ideology!” Oh yes, frighteningly, they would, and that too has happened within our parent groups. Schools and community groups currently exercise free rein to usurp parental prerogative and safeguarding when it comes to trans.

We write in the hopes that our stories open your eyes. That our stories might lead you to think critically and question the prevailing narrative, as we have been forced to do. We hope to raise questions in your mind that you will seek to answer and, when you seek those answers, you will see the vast multitudes of people and communities that are pushing back against trans ideology too. Once your eyes are open, you will see them everywhere. Feminists, the LBG community, the medical community that feels their profession has been overrun by politics and ideology and is now causing harm instead of helping. Detransitioners that were irreparably harmed after going down a transgender “medicine” track. Journalists, academics, and writers speaking out with reasonable concerns and questions and being cancelled for so doing. And, other parents, like those of us from PITT.

We write so that you might see that when parents do not agree that their kid is trans it is not abusive, neglectful and evil. There are thousands of parents like us who saw their teens identifications as trans emerge suddenly, after immersion in porn, internet chat groups, anime, and strong social influence from peer groups. Unlike those horrible non-supportive parents you’ve ready about, we don’t hate our kids. We don’t beat them or throw them out of the house. Quite the opposite. We protect and shield them, and work to give them the space to be kids as they work through their kid issues in a world trying with all its might to thrust them into adult situations with adult problems. We lovingly support our children while holding the line against “affirming” because, unlike other modes of teen expression like emo and goth, trans comes at a much higher cost — drugs and surgeries are a key part of this fad. We see that elective cosmetic surgeries on sex organs for no physical reason, with myriad known side-effects and a lifetime of required medication are not good for our children’s long-term health. Helping your kid grow up healthy of body and mind, and comfortable in their own skin is good parenting, not child abuse.

We write because maybe, just maybe, our stories will be the straw that breaks the camel’s back for you. That it brings about that peak moment where you say, okay, now this gender thing has gone too far and I don’t want any part of it any more - maybe my blind-faith in the idea of trans as noble and inclusive was misplaced. Maybe we can help you see that there are other viewpoints, and that disagreeing with or being skeptical of trans ideology is not synonymous with bigotry and that that one-sided attitude has stigmatized even having a conversation about these very real and serious concerns.

We write so you have the courage to join us and speak up, knowing that you are not alone. Trans ideology falls apart like a house of cards under even the most superficial scrutiny. If you see us - with our families at stake - speaking out, maybe you will feel brave enough to speak up too - after all, your child may very well be the next kid captured by this new ideological fad.

We write because we believe that, with our voices and our writing, we can do our part to change how the public sees trans ideology and its associated corrupt medical practices before our children’s lives are forever damaged.