Great attitude and good advice. Mine is older now though so the conflict ended in her leaving and finding a shelter with trans activists. She has completely blocked us. We are devastated.
As the youngest son, I was not a leash kid per se, but my parents did tranquilize me using a variety of tactics and technologies.
I’m Harrison, an ex fine dining industry line cook. My stack "The Secret Ingredient" adapts hit restaurant recipes (mostly NYC and L.A.) for easy home cooking.
What do you do if your child is an adult? My daughter will be 22 next week. We have a relationship but when it comes to talking with her about this its so hard to get her to see the negative aspects about it. That's where the conflict lies. My ex is supporting her so it's me against them and unfortunately I don't think their open to a discussion about how harmful it can be for her taking testosterone . What do I do?
Don’t push it. Just ask questions. You don’t have to affirm but be careful. When one parent affirms and the child is an adult, it’s really tricky. Mine has cut off contact for over 3 weeks after a confrontation.
So do I. You can always message me to chat. It’s been four years of madness and all you can do is pray sometimes. I do believe that ultimately this is a spiritual war because of how transgender ideology acts as a religion and seems to take ideas from Christianity and twist them into something demonic.
Agreed. It's a cult and they're all soooooo brainwashed! My daughter and I have a relationship only because I don't speak to her about it. Thank you for the offer to message you. And I offer the same to you. We need people who are going through this to confide in. It really means a lot...
I wonder if this advice is more geared towards a teen who is still at home because it’s harder for them to cut you off. When your child has moved out already it’s more dangerous to pursue
questioning in case they cut you off. I’ve read many stories of young adult and adult detransitioners who do come to the truth on their own. I do try once in a while but it’s also hard to risk what little relationship you have with them.
I've read all your PITT articles and would love to discuss them with you on my podcast, UnMuted. Please email me if you'd like to discuss it: jen.poyerack@gmail.com
Either way, I hope you'll keep writing for PITT, as I think your advice is spot on, and your candor refreshing.
I wish the topic of changing names was discussed more, how hurtful & insulting it is, how it is designed to place a bigger wedge between a child & their family, making it easier for the cult to take over as their new glitter family, how it completely erases the time thought love and hope that goes in to choosing your child's name, the family history involved, and how evil it is. How thoughtless these teenagers are about their families & how easy it is to convince them we are evil. it seems like everything in modern society has primed this evil to take advantage of them.
Thank you. I think this is good advice because it is rooted in reality and honesty. Sadly, it doesn't always work because the Forces of Evil (physicians, therapists, teachers, etc.) seemingly can pour infinite energy and resources into bolstering the delusions of children. Our son formally informed us that he is cutting off contract until 2029 when we may deign to consider the possibility of further contact.
The advice is brilliant, balancing love, commonsense, facts and being a parent. Without it, a child has no rudder to steer his or her life into adulthood.
Encouragement of parents facing the inconvenient truths comes in many forms on this page. I have found every one of them helpful. The bullet point style on this one is great for keeping hope and action in sync.
I don't know who you are but we can be mother twins. You basically wrote my blue print on what I did to save my daughter who has desisted. It's not easy being the bad guy. But, it's worth every tear and fight.
Absolutely agree 100% unfortunately my child has taken up the strategy if threatening to go no contact & completely blocking me if I even try to discuss things that she doesn’t want to hear (too late for this article I guess) since she is an “adult” & moved out because of how “emotionally immature” I am.
Yep my adult son did go no contact because we didn't do all the things he thought we should. In hindsight I wished we had worked harder to build a stronger bond and ask more open ended questions and not been afraid to discuss things in front of the afirming girlfriend.
Great attitude and good advice. Mine is older now though so the conflict ended in her leaving and finding a shelter with trans activists. She has completely blocked us. We are devastated.
As the youngest son, I was not a leash kid per se, but my parents did tranquilize me using a variety of tactics and technologies.
I’m Harrison, an ex fine dining industry line cook. My stack "The Secret Ingredient" adapts hit restaurant recipes (mostly NYC and L.A.) for easy home cooking.
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What do you do if your child is an adult? My daughter will be 22 next week. We have a relationship but when it comes to talking with her about this its so hard to get her to see the negative aspects about it. That's where the conflict lies. My ex is supporting her so it's me against them and unfortunately I don't think their open to a discussion about how harmful it can be for her taking testosterone . What do I do?
Don’t push it. Just ask questions. You don’t have to affirm but be careful. When one parent affirms and the child is an adult, it’s really tricky. Mine has cut off contact for over 3 weeks after a confrontation.
Thank you. It's so hard I'm so unsure of how to handle this. I do a lot of praying....🙏
So do I. You can always message me to chat. It’s been four years of madness and all you can do is pray sometimes. I do believe that ultimately this is a spiritual war because of how transgender ideology acts as a religion and seems to take ideas from Christianity and twist them into something demonic.
Agreed. It's a cult and they're all soooooo brainwashed! My daughter and I have a relationship only because I don't speak to her about it. Thank you for the offer to message you. And I offer the same to you. We need people who are going through this to confide in. It really means a lot...
I wonder if this advice is more geared towards a teen who is still at home because it’s harder for them to cut you off. When your child has moved out already it’s more dangerous to pursue
questioning in case they cut you off. I’ve read many stories of young adult and adult detransitioners who do come to the truth on their own. I do try once in a while but it’s also hard to risk what little relationship you have with them.
I've read all your PITT articles and would love to discuss them with you on my podcast, UnMuted. Please email me if you'd like to discuss it: jen.poyerack@gmail.com
Either way, I hope you'll keep writing for PITT, as I think your advice is spot on, and your candor refreshing.
I wish the topic of changing names was discussed more, how hurtful & insulting it is, how it is designed to place a bigger wedge between a child & their family, making it easier for the cult to take over as their new glitter family, how it completely erases the time thought love and hope that goes in to choosing your child's name, the family history involved, and how evil it is. How thoughtless these teenagers are about their families & how easy it is to convince them we are evil. it seems like everything in modern society has primed this evil to take advantage of them.
This is excellent!! Thank you.
Thank you. I think this is good advice because it is rooted in reality and honesty. Sadly, it doesn't always work because the Forces of Evil (physicians, therapists, teachers, etc.) seemingly can pour infinite energy and resources into bolstering the delusions of children. Our son formally informed us that he is cutting off contract until 2029 when we may deign to consider the possibility of further contact.
I see no reason to trust any therapist in America, ever again. I know it seems extreme, but that is where our misery has brought us.
Let us, the parents who fought this battle, decide on how to prevent and how to heal.
Correct. You may be the only person in the world that your child hears truth from.
Refreshing advice. Thanks.
The advice is brilliant, balancing love, commonsense, facts and being a parent. Without it, a child has no rudder to steer his or her life into adulthood.
Great advice for dads too, and good for both parents to be operating from the same plan.
Encouragement of parents facing the inconvenient truths comes in many forms on this page. I have found every one of them helpful. The bullet point style on this one is great for keeping hope and action in sync.
God bless.
I don't know who you are but we can be mother twins. You basically wrote my blue print on what I did to save my daughter who has desisted. It's not easy being the bad guy. But, it's worth every tear and fight.
If you haven't done so already, please write your story for PITT. We need every single story!
I have written several times for pitt. One is published in the new book." Whose thinking about the parents"
I haven't written about my daughter desisting yet. Soon I will.
Absolutely agree 100% unfortunately my child has taken up the strategy if threatening to go no contact & completely blocking me if I even try to discuss things that she doesn’t want to hear (too late for this article I guess) since she is an “adult” & moved out because of how “emotionally immature” I am.
Yep my adult son did go no contact because we didn't do all the things he thought we should. In hindsight I wished we had worked harder to build a stronger bond and ask more open ended questions and not been afraid to discuss things in front of the afirming girlfriend.
Agree with FHL that more effort would have been construed as invasive probing in cases where the cult had already gained primary influence.
I had only asked a few open ended questions but it soon became obvious that he had been coached to believe that anyone who questioned was unsafe.
Stay in there however you can. Be creative. Stay positive. Pray