Wow! She Ghosts us because she is a Ghost! Such powerful words - the real truth. Cling to God, your heavenly Father who will never abandon you or disappoint you. Focus on yourself and find ways to be happy and to give back "as in giving we receive" so try some volunteering by reading to the elderly in a nursing home, organize a bake sale for a small local library branch, be a cross-guard for a school near you, make a pie for a fire station near you, go to thrift stores and buy gently used baby clothes to donate to a shelter. There are many things we can channel our energy into, and each blessing we give comes back tenfold. Proverbs 10:4 states, “Lazy hands make for poverty, but diligent hands bring wealth,” emphasizing that diligent work, coupled with godly wisdom, can yield substantial blessings. This principle echoes throughout scripture, illustrating how God honors our efforts and faithfulness. In Luke 6:38, Jesus articulates this idea by saying, “Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap.” Here, Jesus highlights the generous heart of God, suggesting that when we give—be it time, resources, or love—God reciprocates in abundance. Praying for your peace and joy.
I have also been estranged from my father for most of my life. It’s been 30 years since he’s responded to any of my letters. And it still hurts that he doesn’t seem to want me in his life in any way, that’s been a lifelong wound I’ve had to bear and still struggle to reconcile. But for my own child to reject me in such a manner, it’s beyond comprehension. In the last few years, we’ve lost all of our parents, two of our beloved pets, a couple of friends, and our oldest child. It’s a strange thing to mourn the living amongst the dead, but we grieve them all the same. But estrangement is such an ambiguous loss, with no closure, no ceremony, no comforting words from loved ones, that often if feels as though we are the ones who died, and we are just walking around like ghosts in chains.
My son cut me off December 2025 and he’s been in the trans cult since Jan 2023.
I tried the first 6 months talking and then I finally went silent the last 2 years. The elephant was in the room but never mentioned, I was just trying to keep a connection.
Now that it’s been 6 months of silence, I looked for self help book for myself to move forward with my life and I used his Amazon account, that we share and bought the book, Done with Crying. A book to help healing mothers of Estranged Adult Kids. So far a great read.
But here’s the werid part… I went back on Amazon to look for a summer dress and my son must of saw the book I ordered. So in browsing section he must of wanted me to see this book to make a point to me “How to deal with a Narcissistic Mother”.
I’m dumbfounded that I got a book to heal myself on him being estranged from me and he says I’m Narcissistic?
I goggled trans thinking and it says they want to cut out anyone who doesn’t believe what they say. It’s their way or no way.
Mind blowing to me.
I pray every night and day for him. Someday, I hope my prayers are answered this cult needs to stop.
You clearly articulated what many of us are experiencing with our kids (our daughter included). There is a tension between feeling hopeless and remaining steadfast in our faith. Hoping beyond hope that the deception will be broken and relationships restored, both with the God and with us. Praying for you and with you.
My daughter is just a ghost now too!! She believes her name to be dead. It is not, it waiting for it's rightful & glorious owner to reclaim it!
I am grateful for your thoughtful & honest post! Relationships are always difficult but they cannot exist when the ghost demands to be affirmed & demands us to adhere to all their boundaries!
Bless all the grieving parents & may our pain be gone soon!
Wonderfully honest....I too pray for strongholds to be broken and that Christ can restore what is broken in my child...Prayers fellow prayer warrior mom. Prayers for us all who have been cast aside. The years lost keep adding up, with each one I give more and more over to God and let him take care of my child. Love cannot be forced. But I wait ready to run to meet her when my child wants to come home.
I am posting this on behalf of my husband who shares my deep concern.
“have married a Christian woman whose daughter has transitioned. My wife’s experience is very close to yours. To me it seems unjust and unfair to be cancelled by your daughter. How can a Christian go along with this? I am deeply pondering your message. Thank you.”
That right there summarizes the trans life as I knew it and the same one she's now going through.
In a world of confusion, your clarity of mind, your faith and your hope when there is seemingly no hope is refreshing.
She's not dead to you and neither is she to God. There is indeed hope. Keep your faith strong. I pray her coming home to you and those who truly love her happens soon.
Thus saith the Lord; Refrain thy voice from weeping, and thine eyes from tears: for thy work shall be rewarded, saith the Lord; and they shall come again from the land of the enemy.
And there is hope in thine end, saith the Lord, that thy children shall come again to their own border.
Beautifully written, telling the harsh truth that sometimes those we love get caught in a mentality of denial or anger or whatever else and become Cancel Culture People, hoping to make someone dead in their minds, to act as if they are. As believers in Jesus, we can pray for them. We can remember as your amazingly appropriate quote of Ephesians 6:10-18: We're not wrestling against people but against dark spirits that are keeping them from being free to love others even where they disagree.
Your title alone is worthy of applause. It's a great slogan to remember: I can love you even though we are not the same, I don't need you to please me in everything you think or do to still want you in my life - I may be dead to you, but "You are not dead to me." You correctly call the trans movement a cult. It is a vortex that lies to them and threatens to swallow them up. And they and others have the power to cut us off, but they don't have the power to stop us from praying. One prayer song I especially love is "I Speak Jesus." It was written by Here Be Lions, but the video I watch the most on YouTube is Charity Gayle's version that has over 153M views now, for good reason. A person can hold the estranged loved ones in mind, and listen and when you come to the line "Jesus for my family" - you really are praying a prayer - a powerful prayer for them, and for you.
One last thing, if anyone who is a Christian has some love to give and family (relatives) or others you know don't want it, remember that you have millions of brothers and sisters in Christ, and there is a hurting world that needs love too. This is an excellent piece, and you have made a valuable contribution here in writing this. I will remember the line, "You are not dead to me."
To the author, you are brave & a good person to keep reaching out to your daughter. I’ve lost 2 of my children & I can’t bring myself to try anymore. Often I feel guilty for it, but the stress & disappointment of no response…or potentially more vitriol renders me mute.
All the let downs, the disappointments, the demands & the pain are exhausting. It drains our soul to the point where we must detach & go back to the well of love & truth so we might continue the fight against this death cult. Bless you!
"DEATH CULT". Yes....that is more accurate than just calling it a cult, IMO. And whoever refuses to see it for what it is and the malign force at the heart of it is intentionally blind.
You're also a brave and good person. The fact that you're on this platform to listen and reply is a way to reach out to your kids. Nobody ever said you need to keep smashing your heart on a closed door to qualify as a good parent. You still love them, think of them and talk about them despite all the crap they put you through. That qualify you as a loving parent. Live your life as happy as you can. Do things that make you happy. When their trans house of cards collapse, as it eventually will, and they hit rock bottom, as it always happens, then they'll reach out to you. And then something can get going. In the meantime, don't volunteer to be the victim of cult- mandated parental emotional torture. It's not helping. And you deserve better
Love your truth and wisdom when I need to read it at times of rejection. Thank you for telling us parents what it’s like because none of us understand how they can ignore us to easily. And oh how we hurt and want to fix it. You are a God send to us parents helping us understand their craziness and anger. Thank you again for helping me.
Thank you for sharing your heartfelt thoughts! I feel the same exact way about this whole wicked transgender ideology! I stand with you in praying for our captured children and believe God is our only true hope! 🙏
"It’s a spiritual battle being waged in the unseen realm. We see only the physical world results, which make no sense in our present reality."
This reminds me of 1 Cor. 2:14 - The person without the Spirit does not accept the things that come from the Spirit of God but considers them foolishness, and cannot understand them because they are discerned only through the Spirit.
Can it be that seeing this evil also requires spiritual discernment?
Your article resonates deeply with me. I too believe this fight is against not flesh and blood but demonic principalities and the evil battling in the spiritual realm to separate each of us from the love of God. I have found the Surrender Novena very helpful. It is a surrender not to the evil, but to Jesus Christ who conquered death. It is running into the Father’s arms and trusting Him and His will completely. There is an excellent version on the Hallow App led by Johnathan Roumie. I highly recommend it.
Thank you so much! This is my life too with the always overhanging THREAT of HER cutting us off... we are not allowed to talk about what SHE is doing, so it's the elephant in the room of every rare conversation and text and call we get with HER. My heart is breaking every moment. I PRAY for my DAUGHTER nearly "without ceasing". And I often cry for HER. But I know GOD is my REFUGE, my HOPE, my STRENGTH. I also focus on "I can do all things through Christ who STRENGTHENS me." Phil 4:13 and Psalm 23 and The Lord's Prayer. ❤️ God, please give us ALL the STRENGTH we need to get thru this. Please save our babies' SOULS, please save their bodies from the things they are trying to do to themselves, and please bring them back to us. We LOVE them and we NEED them! In Jesus' name we pray. Amen. 🙏🙏🙏 (My prayer every moment I can think of it...)
Wow! She Ghosts us because she is a Ghost! Such powerful words - the real truth. Cling to God, your heavenly Father who will never abandon you or disappoint you. Focus on yourself and find ways to be happy and to give back "as in giving we receive" so try some volunteering by reading to the elderly in a nursing home, organize a bake sale for a small local library branch, be a cross-guard for a school near you, make a pie for a fire station near you, go to thrift stores and buy gently used baby clothes to donate to a shelter. There are many things we can channel our energy into, and each blessing we give comes back tenfold. Proverbs 10:4 states, “Lazy hands make for poverty, but diligent hands bring wealth,” emphasizing that diligent work, coupled with godly wisdom, can yield substantial blessings. This principle echoes throughout scripture, illustrating how God honors our efforts and faithfulness. In Luke 6:38, Jesus articulates this idea by saying, “Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap.” Here, Jesus highlights the generous heart of God, suggesting that when we give—be it time, resources, or love—God reciprocates in abundance. Praying for your peace and joy.
I have also been estranged from my father for most of my life. It’s been 30 years since he’s responded to any of my letters. And it still hurts that he doesn’t seem to want me in his life in any way, that’s been a lifelong wound I’ve had to bear and still struggle to reconcile. But for my own child to reject me in such a manner, it’s beyond comprehension. In the last few years, we’ve lost all of our parents, two of our beloved pets, a couple of friends, and our oldest child. It’s a strange thing to mourn the living amongst the dead, but we grieve them all the same. But estrangement is such an ambiguous loss, with no closure, no ceremony, no comforting words from loved ones, that often if feels as though we are the ones who died, and we are just walking around like ghosts in chains.
My son cut me off December 2025 and he’s been in the trans cult since Jan 2023.
I tried the first 6 months talking and then I finally went silent the last 2 years. The elephant was in the room but never mentioned, I was just trying to keep a connection.
Now that it’s been 6 months of silence, I looked for self help book for myself to move forward with my life and I used his Amazon account, that we share and bought the book, Done with Crying. A book to help healing mothers of Estranged Adult Kids. So far a great read.
But here’s the werid part… I went back on Amazon to look for a summer dress and my son must of saw the book I ordered. So in browsing section he must of wanted me to see this book to make a point to me “How to deal with a Narcissistic Mother”.
I’m dumbfounded that I got a book to heal myself on him being estranged from me and he says I’m Narcissistic?
I goggled trans thinking and it says they want to cut out anyone who doesn’t believe what they say. It’s their way or no way.
Mind blowing to me.
I pray every night and day for him. Someday, I hope my prayers are answered this cult needs to stop.
You clearly articulated what many of us are experiencing with our kids (our daughter included). There is a tension between feeling hopeless and remaining steadfast in our faith. Hoping beyond hope that the deception will be broken and relationships restored, both with the God and with us. Praying for you and with you.
My daughter is just a ghost now too!! She believes her name to be dead. It is not, it waiting for it's rightful & glorious owner to reclaim it!
I am grateful for your thoughtful & honest post! Relationships are always difficult but they cannot exist when the ghost demands to be affirmed & demands us to adhere to all their boundaries!
Bless all the grieving parents & may our pain be gone soon!
Wonderfully honest....I too pray for strongholds to be broken and that Christ can restore what is broken in my child...Prayers fellow prayer warrior mom. Prayers for us all who have been cast aside. The years lost keep adding up, with each one I give more and more over to God and let him take care of my child. Love cannot be forced. But I wait ready to run to meet her when my child wants to come home.
I am posting this on behalf of my husband who shares my deep concern.
“have married a Christian woman whose daughter has transitioned. My wife’s experience is very close to yours. To me it seems unjust and unfair to be cancelled by your daughter. How can a Christian go along with this? I am deeply pondering your message. Thank you.”
She ghosts us because she's a ghost.
That right there summarizes the trans life as I knew it and the same one she's now going through.
In a world of confusion, your clarity of mind, your faith and your hope when there is seemingly no hope is refreshing.
She's not dead to you and neither is she to God. There is indeed hope. Keep your faith strong. I pray her coming home to you and those who truly love her happens soon.
God have mercy. Please. On this precious family 🙏🩵🙏🩵🙏
Jeremiah 31:16-17
Thus saith the Lord; Refrain thy voice from weeping, and thine eyes from tears: for thy work shall be rewarded, saith the Lord; and they shall come again from the land of the enemy.
And there is hope in thine end, saith the Lord, that thy children shall come again to their own border.
Beautiful!
Beautifully written, telling the harsh truth that sometimes those we love get caught in a mentality of denial or anger or whatever else and become Cancel Culture People, hoping to make someone dead in their minds, to act as if they are. As believers in Jesus, we can pray for them. We can remember as your amazingly appropriate quote of Ephesians 6:10-18: We're not wrestling against people but against dark spirits that are keeping them from being free to love others even where they disagree.
Your title alone is worthy of applause. It's a great slogan to remember: I can love you even though we are not the same, I don't need you to please me in everything you think or do to still want you in my life - I may be dead to you, but "You are not dead to me." You correctly call the trans movement a cult. It is a vortex that lies to them and threatens to swallow them up. And they and others have the power to cut us off, but they don't have the power to stop us from praying. One prayer song I especially love is "I Speak Jesus." It was written by Here Be Lions, but the video I watch the most on YouTube is Charity Gayle's version that has over 153M views now, for good reason. A person can hold the estranged loved ones in mind, and listen and when you come to the line "Jesus for my family" - you really are praying a prayer - a powerful prayer for them, and for you.
One last thing, if anyone who is a Christian has some love to give and family (relatives) or others you know don't want it, remember that you have millions of brothers and sisters in Christ, and there is a hurting world that needs love too. This is an excellent piece, and you have made a valuable contribution here in writing this. I will remember the line, "You are not dead to me."
Preach it sister! Joy comes in the morning. Blessings in the Lord be upon you,
To the author, you are brave & a good person to keep reaching out to your daughter. I’ve lost 2 of my children & I can’t bring myself to try anymore. Often I feel guilty for it, but the stress & disappointment of no response…or potentially more vitriol renders me mute.
I totally understand this Anon!
All the let downs, the disappointments, the demands & the pain are exhausting. It drains our soul to the point where we must detach & go back to the well of love & truth so we might continue the fight against this death cult. Bless you!
"DEATH CULT". Yes....that is more accurate than just calling it a cult, IMO. And whoever refuses to see it for what it is and the malign force at the heart of it is intentionally blind.
🙏
You're also a brave and good person. The fact that you're on this platform to listen and reply is a way to reach out to your kids. Nobody ever said you need to keep smashing your heart on a closed door to qualify as a good parent. You still love them, think of them and talk about them despite all the crap they put you through. That qualify you as a loving parent. Live your life as happy as you can. Do things that make you happy. When their trans house of cards collapse, as it eventually will, and they hit rock bottom, as it always happens, then they'll reach out to you. And then something can get going. In the meantime, don't volunteer to be the victim of cult- mandated parental emotional torture. It's not helping. And you deserve better
Prayers to us all who are suffering. Father forgive them for they don’t know what they are doing.
Love your truth and wisdom when I need to read it at times of rejection. Thank you for telling us parents what it’s like because none of us understand how they can ignore us to easily. And oh how we hurt and want to fix it. You are a God send to us parents helping us understand their craziness and anger. Thank you again for helping me.
Gosh Helene, I guess I needed to hear that 😮💨 thank you for your words
Thank you for sharing your heartfelt thoughts! I feel the same exact way about this whole wicked transgender ideology! I stand with you in praying for our captured children and believe God is our only true hope! 🙏
Amen 🙏
"It’s a spiritual battle being waged in the unseen realm. We see only the physical world results, which make no sense in our present reality."
This reminds me of 1 Cor. 2:14 - The person without the Spirit does not accept the things that come from the Spirit of God but considers them foolishness, and cannot understand them because they are discerned only through the Spirit.
Can it be that seeing this evil also requires spiritual discernment?
That is an insightful comment.
Your article resonates deeply with me. I too believe this fight is against not flesh and blood but demonic principalities and the evil battling in the spiritual realm to separate each of us from the love of God. I have found the Surrender Novena very helpful. It is a surrender not to the evil, but to Jesus Christ who conquered death. It is running into the Father’s arms and trusting Him and His will completely. There is an excellent version on the Hallow App led by Johnathan Roumie. I highly recommend it.
Thank you so much! This is my life too with the always overhanging THREAT of HER cutting us off... we are not allowed to talk about what SHE is doing, so it's the elephant in the room of every rare conversation and text and call we get with HER. My heart is breaking every moment. I PRAY for my DAUGHTER nearly "without ceasing". And I often cry for HER. But I know GOD is my REFUGE, my HOPE, my STRENGTH. I also focus on "I can do all things through Christ who STRENGTHENS me." Phil 4:13 and Psalm 23 and The Lord's Prayer. ❤️ God, please give us ALL the STRENGTH we need to get thru this. Please save our babies' SOULS, please save their bodies from the things they are trying to do to themselves, and please bring them back to us. We LOVE them and we NEED them! In Jesus' name we pray. Amen. 🙏🙏🙏 (My prayer every moment I can think of it...)
Amen.
In Jesus name Amen 🙏
Amen