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happy_puppy's avatar

umm ok maybe if u tried taking her to the park? or like what if u gave her head scritches... i loveee head scritches!!

maybe she looks like a mutt thats ok most of us are mutts!! but in her heart she is still a beautiful good girl... maybe u can see that one day...

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spoingus's avatar

this is why you will die alone btw

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Delightful Oddling's avatar

Beautiful

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Elle's avatar

Everyone with boys : https://youtu.be/AaiicS2HXW4?feature=shared

Very well done. Breaks your heart but also gives hope.

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Kayla Wildman's avatar

Yesterday evening I went to a poetry reading at a local college. I was horrified to see a young man dressed up as a woman. He looked to be about six feet three inches tall, and large-boned. He must taking estrogen because he has breasts big enough to need a bra. His voice was strange -- very much like the voices of young women who have taken testosterone and now "de-transed." He was wearing a flowered sundress and knee-high socks. He will never, ever be able to "pass."

Honestly, I feel our "trans" children have been hypnotized. How can this young man look in a mirror, or see his reflection in a large window, and not see how bizarre he looks, how grotesque?

How can we break the trances our kids are living in? How can we wake them up to reality? I've heard some detransitioners talk about having a sudden realization that "This was all a huge mistake!" I heard one mtf detransitioner say that he realized this as soon as he woke up in the recovery room after his bottom surgery. How horrible that must have been!

I want my child to wake up before she does anything irreversible. I want her to realize how futile it is to try to become male when she was born female. But I'm afraid that if she realizes that, she'll commit suicide...

We parents are living in dreadful double-binds.

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Erica Weinstein's avatar

Kayla, please go to the Therapy First website. It’s an international organization of mental health clinicians who practice psychotherapy (not automatic “gender affirming care”).

Therapyfirst.org

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Anon's avatar

..yes, & no one can hurt you like your own flesh & blood

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Mara U.'s avatar

I think if we want to help create a world where gender-nonconforming people don’t feel the urge to transition, we need to not be horrified by men in dresses. It’s one thing to oppose medical transition, or being forced to say that men are women, but the simple fact of a man wearing a dress shouldn’t be something horrific.

Knee socks sound ugly, though.

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Nisacatbo's avatar

The way this thing contorts a parent's love is the worst part.

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Bridget E Smith's avatar

Heartbreaking. May your future be the best possible. May your family heal and grow close again.

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Nicole's avatar

It does feel like the person they chose to become is the murderer of our own beloved. It's exactly how I feel.

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Kawika56's avatar

I found this link on the Patriot Post

Quick Path to Medical License in Cali:

California lawmakers are pushing a bill that would expedite medical licensing in the Golden State "for an applicant who demonstrates that they intend to provide gender-affirming health care and gender-affirming mental health care." Under the deceptive euphemism "gender-affirming care," medical professionals who engage in distributing puberty blockers, cross-sex hormones, or mutilation surgeries would qualify for expedited medical licensing by the state medical board. This flies in the face of new studies out of Europe and particularly the United Kingdom, which show that so-called "gender-affirming care" is anything but helpful and, indeed, is dangerous to children. As Stanley Goldfarb, chairman of Do No Harm, observes, "The problem is that [California lawmakers are] doing backflips to make it easier and easier for children to get these treatments" when they should be making it harder. This is all about pushing a radical ideology and political agenda over and against sound medical ethics and scientific evidence.

https://freebeacon.com/california/california-dems-want-to-fast-track-medical-licenses-for-applicants-who-will-provide-gender-affirming-care/

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LostMum's avatar

You brought me to tears 😢 I hope your son comes back soon ❤️

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Christine's avatar

I see you. Sending you love and support.

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Robyn N-R's avatar

This brings up so much for me! My much longed for and tried for second child (after 3 miscarriages and 3 unsuccessful rounds of IVF then miracle of miracles perfect you!) Knowing and seeing you in my womb in (3D no less) a perfect baby girl! So you see no matter how you see yourself at the moment, no matter how many Tik Tokkers or Reddittors or You Tubers try to tell you otherwise or convince you otherwise, I know you because I’ve always known you and you are the same girl I saw growing inside me and my beautiful one you cannot change that! Love, Mumx

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Jonah's avatar

I'm Jewish but I did read the Gospels once. And I got to say. the parable of the prodigal son is a good one. A very good one.

And I think of it a lot when I read these messages.

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Indio's avatar

Dearest Parent of "Hon",

Sending you much love.

I can only imagine what my grandchildren look like now.

Asking God for reality to come home to our beloveds.

We will be here waiting.

Love, Indio

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Olhab's avatar

Beautiful and heartbreaking 💔

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KH's avatar

Maybe one small bit of hope can be gleaned from knowing it likely won't be that hard for your son to pass as male when he detransitions, as he likely one day will. Unlike all the young women whose voices will never sound female again and who may always have facial hair. But I know it's a terrible, miserable situation for all parents, whatever sex their children.

You might want to check the YTer Ray Williams,who detransitioner a year ago after several years on E.

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Christine's avatar

Ritchie (https://substack.com/@tullipr) is another remarkable mtf detransitioner who referred me to this group. He is very open about his journey.

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Elle's avatar

Thank you for that mention. I’m very eager to see more mtf detrans stories…Sasha Bailey (uk) is another very articulate young man speaking out about transmaxing and others aspects going on

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Elle's avatar

https://youtu.be/AaiicS2HXW4?feature=shared

Amazing short documentary. Lost Boys

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