I was sitting in the school councillor's office, but I felt like I was on a completely different planet. It was March 2016 and a few days earlier my husband and I had found a well written letter on our 13 year old son's phone stating that he had gender dysphoria and that he was transgender.
I am going through the same with my son. Exact same thing with the anime girl stuff. That’s how he dresses. He does nothing else to be a girl though. No makeup, can’t do his hair, nothing. He even says he doesn’t have gd. I’m at my wit’s end. He’s away at college. He’s 20 now, and looking to get on hormones. I hope he gets a wake up call too.
If I may ask, is there anything that you did that helped your son see differently. My daughter has just turned 13 and has been saying she wanted to be a boy since age 11. As a Christian, I will never agree with her actions , but as my only child, I love her more than I can say. This gender ideology has put a wedge between the close bond we shared. She loved me with her whole being, but now rarely says a word to me- except when she wants something. She lies, steals and is very angry, unless on the phone with her so called affirming friends. She has gone against every good moral teaching that I taught her. I’m at a loss to know how to help her. I know that I’m not alone in this fight for the return of my daughter. Thank you .
Oh what a emotional rollercoaster I'm so happy for you all that he desisted. I really want to stop all internet and devices in our home. I really think it would help long term but I don't have the strength to do it alone
BowWow made me think of this: Would PITT consider making a new tab/section (super-easy in Substack. One click in Settings) and list the key orgs and people of the space as a glossary?
A PITT-following mom originally gave a me a bunch of names she recommended in a private email (this probably happens a lot), but a section would help us all.
The learning curve for outsiders coming to the trans insanity is crazy-steep. The names and orgs are dizzying. It doesn't help, for example, that a key org like WPATH, which purports to be a professional health org, appears to be fully peopled by outright freaks, fetishists and deviants. I'm too new/outsider to know, but it certainly looks that way.
[I came from the psychiatry space, and WPATH makes the morally bankrupt board of the DSM of Mental Disorders look like saints and angels sent straight from heaven.]
It's been around for quite few years. Often follows the words "digital" or "virtual." Seems appropriate these days when there are so many ways that people come together.
Thank you so much for sharing as I am sure all this was very painful to document. I praise and thank God your son is HOME and was able to see the light from his period of darkness. You have blessed us all by sharing!
I am commenting again on your post. I have always considered myself a fighter for Truth. The twin of my “ transgender” son had leukemia twice, and another experimental drug regimen which almost killed him. When I hear about other children who died with the same diagnosis I realize we were successful in our fight, as our son is alive and well. However this is SOO different, we are alienated if we believe anything other than the dysphoric rhetoric. And the alienation and hostility comes directly from our own child who we are trying to help. I want to say that you are one strong woman and it gives me hope. Tell us should we speak that direct truth to our children who it will then alienate further from us. The way I’ve been approaching it is with love and kindness and gentleness and hope. He actually knows my stance since I am a follower of Christ. After 10 years, I’m not confirming, avoiding pronouns but using his now legal name. When attending weddings I purchase gender neutral clothes for him, (that he willingly receives since he has a government assistance income) although he wears makeup and a bra.
Will this madness ever end? I feel too afraid to tell him how I feel, that he’s ruining his life, and believing a lie. He lives away from home and spends many hours into the night on his computer.
It's remarkable to hear about your twins, Kate, and how the one son could fall down the trans rabbit hole even after witnessing his twin's struggle for health and life. One would think that the healthy son would have had or learned a greater appreciation for his healthy body--or maybe he learned that having a medicalized body earns him extra attention? I'm not blaming you, just commenting on this interesting phenomenon. Much love and hope to you all.
What a remarkable story. Thank you so much for sharing this. You are to be commended for your courage, your tenacious adherence to your principles, and your thoughtful parenting. I hope that your story is widely shared. I wish the absolute best for you and your family. They're lucky, indeed, that you are in their lives.
… tell our own kids over and over again the “truth” forget about the rest of the world – “never lie to your child” – what are we teaching them by doing so. Fight to tell the truth and only the truth that is how we raised them from the beginning and want them to be truthful with us in turn.
… I will never lie to you because I love you, protect you and keep you safe from harm.
You will always be as you were born; gender can never be changed 100%; it’s a delusion.
I am mother The Monarchy of the family in devotion of love; not the Government. Do not bow down to gender dysphoria because it is a confusion state of mind and that – is when our children need us the most to stand strong – for them when they cannot, themselves.
Yell, scream, protest, demand to media, no more lobotomizing of body parts of gender dysphoric minors that is exactly what it is!!!!
We are what we believe to be: How to dissolve gender dysphoric; youth’s to Re-Believe in whom they once believed in comfort, within their own body and mind—first facing their inner dysphoric (illusion turned into reality belief) senses without medical intervention for lobotomizing their body parts?
Neuroscience is the key to saving a generation of youth’s; tomorrow’s leaders. Under developed cognitive development-believe in Freedom of Choice but comes at a future; yet to be fully unraveled, deep regrettable and irreversible cost.
Illusions of belief are not reality=(RO)GD; science stop the madness write articles of factual Scientific truths. Government must amend Constitution to exclude minors from lobotomizing body parts due to gender dysphoria.
I am so relieved and happy for you, your son, your family. Stories like this are going to be hard for gender ideologues to cope with. How can institutions and doctors and therapists collude and encourage kids to transition, when stories like yours prove that it is addiction, mental illness, and a cult?
Thank you for sharing your inspirational outcome. It gives the rest of us hope that our children will also turn from the evil of this world. As another post stated: we love our children so much and would do anything for them, but the internet and phone somehow has a far greater pull on them. My daily prayer ,for all who are experiencing this devastating loss in our children and family, is: 2 Chronicles 7:14.. would you join me?
Can you please let us know what made him change his mind!
So, so happy for your son and family. It gives us hope that miracles happen. Thank you for sharing
Thanks for sharing... and hope many ideology-affected families will arrive at the good outcome as yours...
I am going through the same with my son. Exact same thing with the anime girl stuff. That’s how he dresses. He does nothing else to be a girl though. No makeup, can’t do his hair, nothing. He even says he doesn’t have gd. I’m at my wit’s end. He’s away at college. He’s 20 now, and looking to get on hormones. I hope he gets a wake up call too.
What changed in your son’s life that caused him to came back to himself again? I often feel so hopeless for this.
I’m glad you have your son back, but what a nightmare you had to go through. I’m still living in mine.
Your story is much like the parable of the prodigal son. There is hope.
If I may ask, is there anything that you did that helped your son see differently. My daughter has just turned 13 and has been saying she wanted to be a boy since age 11. As a Christian, I will never agree with her actions , but as my only child, I love her more than I can say. This gender ideology has put a wedge between the close bond we shared. She loved me with her whole being, but now rarely says a word to me- except when she wants something. She lies, steals and is very angry, unless on the phone with her so called affirming friends. She has gone against every good moral teaching that I taught her. I’m at a loss to know how to help her. I know that I’m not alone in this fight for the return of my daughter. Thank you .
I'm so glad that you have your son back. Too many stories are yet to get their happy endings. It's also good to hear from a parent in the UK.
Oh what a emotional rollercoaster I'm so happy for you all that he desisted. I really want to stop all internet and devices in our home. I really think it would help long term but I don't have the strength to do it alone
So glad your story had a happy ending. It sounded just horrendous, and you've been so strong.
Hi PITT Admin,
BowWow made me think of this: Would PITT consider making a new tab/section (super-easy in Substack. One click in Settings) and list the key orgs and people of the space as a glossary?
A PITT-following mom originally gave a me a bunch of names she recommended in a private email (this probably happens a lot), but a section would help us all.
The learning curve for outsiders coming to the trans insanity is crazy-steep. The names and orgs are dizzying. It doesn't help, for example, that a key org like WPATH, which purports to be a professional health org, appears to be fully peopled by outright freaks, fetishists and deviants. I'm too new/outsider to know, but it certainly looks that way.
[I came from the psychiatry space, and WPATH makes the morally bankrupt board of the DSM of Mental Disorders look like saints and angels sent straight from heaven.]
Thanks for considering, in any case.
Why has “space” become the new buzz word?? 🤮
It's been around for quite few years. Often follows the words "digital" or "virtual." Seems appropriate these days when there are so many ways that people come together.
You can see a WPATH panel in action talking about educating parents of transing "littles" here. https://rumble.com/v1kpvhb-september-19-2022.html
Thanks for link. Watched it. I'm assuming WPATH is funded by pharma/WHO/UN?
Great question. The go-to site for finding out funding sources is Jennifer Bilek’s site The 11th Hour. https://www.the11thhourblog.com/
Thank you so much for sharing as I am sure all this was very painful to document. I praise and thank God your son is HOME and was able to see the light from his period of darkness. You have blessed us all by sharing!
I am commenting again on your post. I have always considered myself a fighter for Truth. The twin of my “ transgender” son had leukemia twice, and another experimental drug regimen which almost killed him. When I hear about other children who died with the same diagnosis I realize we were successful in our fight, as our son is alive and well. However this is SOO different, we are alienated if we believe anything other than the dysphoric rhetoric. And the alienation and hostility comes directly from our own child who we are trying to help. I want to say that you are one strong woman and it gives me hope. Tell us should we speak that direct truth to our children who it will then alienate further from us. The way I’ve been approaching it is with love and kindness and gentleness and hope. He actually knows my stance since I am a follower of Christ. After 10 years, I’m not confirming, avoiding pronouns but using his now legal name. When attending weddings I purchase gender neutral clothes for him, (that he willingly receives since he has a government assistance income) although he wears makeup and a bra.
Will this madness ever end? I feel too afraid to tell him how I feel, that he’s ruining his life, and believing a lie. He lives away from home and spends many hours into the night on his computer.
So happy yours turned around.
Hopeful still.
It's remarkable to hear about your twins, Kate, and how the one son could fall down the trans rabbit hole even after witnessing his twin's struggle for health and life. One would think that the healthy son would have had or learned a greater appreciation for his healthy body--or maybe he learned that having a medicalized body earns him extra attention? I'm not blaming you, just commenting on this interesting phenomenon. Much love and hope to you all.
What a remarkable story. Thank you so much for sharing this. You are to be commended for your courage, your tenacious adherence to your principles, and your thoughtful parenting. I hope that your story is widely shared. I wish the absolute best for you and your family. They're lucky, indeed, that you are in their lives.
… tell our own kids over and over again the “truth” forget about the rest of the world – “never lie to your child” – what are we teaching them by doing so. Fight to tell the truth and only the truth that is how we raised them from the beginning and want them to be truthful with us in turn.
… I will never lie to you because I love you, protect you and keep you safe from harm.
You will always be as you were born; gender can never be changed 100%; it’s a delusion.
I am mother The Monarchy of the family in devotion of love; not the Government. Do not bow down to gender dysphoria because it is a confusion state of mind and that – is when our children need us the most to stand strong – for them when they cannot, themselves.
Yell, scream, protest, demand to media, no more lobotomizing of body parts of gender dysphoric minors that is exactly what it is!!!!
"I will never lie to you because I love you" is probably the most important rule of good parenting.
We are what we believe to be: How to dissolve gender dysphoric; youth’s to Re-Believe in whom they once believed in comfort, within their own body and mind—first facing their inner dysphoric (illusion turned into reality belief) senses without medical intervention for lobotomizing their body parts?
Neuroscience is the key to saving a generation of youth’s; tomorrow’s leaders. Under developed cognitive development-believe in Freedom of Choice but comes at a future; yet to be fully unraveled, deep regrettable and irreversible cost.
Illusions of belief are not reality=(RO)GD; science stop the madness write articles of factual Scientific truths. Government must amend Constitution to exclude minors from lobotomizing body parts due to gender dysphoria.
I am so relieved and happy for you, your son, your family. Stories like this are going to be hard for gender ideologues to cope with. How can institutions and doctors and therapists collude and encourage kids to transition, when stories like yours prove that it is addiction, mental illness, and a cult?
Thank you for sharing your inspirational outcome. It gives the rest of us hope that our children will also turn from the evil of this world. As another post stated: we love our children so much and would do anything for them, but the internet and phone somehow has a far greater pull on them. My daily prayer ,for all who are experiencing this devastating loss in our children and family, is: 2 Chronicles 7:14.. would you join me?