This is so sad, I can't imagine how their mom is handling this. It's so unfair. Boy, I feel sorry for how the dad is going to feel when he "wakes up" from this and realizes the damage he has caused.
Nietzsche has what I consider to be the greatest evaluation ever of liberalism as a political system. From Beyond Good and Evil. He says, the value of a thing sometimes does not lie in by which one attains it, but in what one pays for it, what it costs us. I'll give an example. Liberal institutions cease to be liberal as soon as they are attained. Later on they are worse and more thorough injurers of freedom than liberal institutions. Their effects are well known enough. They undermine the will to power, they level mountain and valley, and they call that morality. They make men small, cowardly, and hedonistic. Every time, it is the herd animal that triumphs with them. Liberalism, is herd animalization. People who had some value, who attained value, never attained it under liberal institutions. It was great danger that made something of those people.
Common to all trans instances is the insistence of self before others. It’s selfish and that means any others will have to suffer along with the trans person. Selfishness is not a gift to anyone.
Love your resilience. Thank you for sharing this grim story opening up yet another of the great harms this ideology causes. Why are we so unmoored these days that so many people succumb to these pernicious, so obviously absurd, ideas... and so many others about race, climate and on and on?
Thanks for your thoughtful response. Love to your family, including your son, as well:) I agree with your thoughts about our young men fearing adulting responsibilities. My husband is definitely a workaholic and I can’t say I blame our 2 sons from wanting to escape his lifestyle, if that’s how they perceive man responsibilities. I’ve wondered where we went wrong, but it’s multi-faceted. It’s not our faults. The agenda is in the airways and our technology has betrayed us and our children, as strangers with nefarious intentions or selfish ambitions have entered our world through the www. Our older son is being groomed via VR right now and I have little power, as he’s living in a college dorm away from home. I can’t imagine what challenges are ahead for us with AI capabilities. Our middle son started the trans quest first. We keep in touch often, but they are stubborn and argue that affirmation is the equivalent of acceptance and love. Maybe I should follow my best friend’s advice not to give the topic any energy. At this point, I’m blue in the face with my warnings and attempts to educate and persuade both of them. It’s time to try something new since that approach isn’t working. I wonder how the feminist movement has had an effect on our young men. Men aren’t given much encouragement and have little experience courting ladies, dating and kissing. Those experiences are so formative in relationships. Your family is in my prayers and I hope your son comes home soon too. Sending love from afar..
Wow! Just wow! There are no words for this kind of evil. I am so sad for those boys and their mom. Thank goodness they have her and they have you. I pray they can grow to be resilient despite what they have been through.
This story is tragic and reminds me of my husband’s plight..having his gay father leave his wife and 4 children to “be true to himself” and pursue a gay partner.
He convinced himself that he was a noble trailblazer who would help in pioneering gays alike from social oppression.
If we’d all stop discriminating against people who don’t dress and look like us, have the same skin tone, or share our lifestyle, gender ideologists and gay/lesbian activists would have far less fuel to work with.
This discrimination deceives people into thinking because they don’t adhere to gender stereotype, they must be the opposite sex or same-sex attracted if they don’t fulfill typical gender roles. Let’s allow boys to play with dolls and be hairdressers, girls to drive tractors, and people to look more or less feminine, while maintaining and honoring their biological sex. Let’s celebrate and truly love people just as they are!! Nobody can help how they were born, so let’s all play the hand we’re given to the best of our abilities and expose this cult for being the unloving, uncaring, narcissistic group of humans they are..but wait…most of these people are victims themselves, of themselves. I don’t believe most of them are evil.
People believe in these lies that lead them and their loved ones down paths of destruction. Imagine the judgment a straight person would experience if they told a friend they wanted to pursue a different partner because their spouse (forgetting the kids’ needs) didn’t allow them to be fully who they truly are. I think marriage would be virtually obsolete at that point. I’m tired of the virtue signaling and mental gymnastics employed by people who ultimately choose sexual and personal gratification over the needs and wants of the people they claim to love. Men owe their children protection, love, dedication, and care from the moment they choose to bring life into this world. The fight should be for the family, not self-gratification.
In the case of my father-in-law, most view him as someone who was too self-absorbed to think about the effects of his actions on his family. That said, I adore my father-in-law and love him dearly. I only consider him another victim to the lies of the LGBTQ+++… cult.
My father-in-law is paying the price for his choices with loneliness and a broken family. He once admitted that before he came to when awaking in the morning, for just a moment..he thought he was still married and his 4 beautiful young children and wife were all in the kitchen. He felt so extremely happy until he realized he’s alone and his path led him to that loneliness and a history of unfulfilling relationships. It’s a cautionary tale.. a situation not far from the one described.
I believe we need to consult with the Good Book so the lies of society are seen for what they are…
Until the truths and road map from our Maker are honored once again, our world will continue to be broken.
I think you are so right in saying we to stop discriminating on the basis of skin color and ethnicity, because that discrimination only feeds into the transgender ideology.
I agree..discrimination is the problem. In some ways, I don’t blame the LGBTQ+ movement affiliates for speaking out for their rights and shouting in the pain of their experiences of feeling marginalized. They’re angry and for good reason, but I beg them to not take it out on our children by indoctrinating them and influencing them to harm their bodies before their precious brains are even developed. Their aggressive orientation feels like retaliation..the furthest thing from loving.
Some people genuinely love all people..religious, atheist, rich, poor, gay, straight, and “sinners” alike..by the way, in terms of the Bible, we ALL fall into that category, so let’s not boast in our “righteousness” or in God’s blessing of good fortune. Sadly, some so-called Christian groups have given Christ a bad name. Christ never differentiated sin, but paid the ransom for all and asked us not to boast in our goodness. He elevated the sinner who acknowledges his/her sins over the “righteous” religious bragger who portrays himself to be clean and good-an attempt to elevate himself above others, and often a hypocrite. Comparison is pride. It’s also the thief of joy. I’ve heard people say at the core of gender ideology is the sin of envy…another thought-provoking assertion.
Prior to Christ’s teachings, human rights were nonexistent. Even Richard Dawkins acknowledges the benefits of living in our Christian-inspired society..think the Red Cross, hospitals, orphanages..humanitarianism in action. People were left to die in the streets in societies prior to Christ’s life and resurrection. Christ is the answer to this mess, and all other messes. If we were like Jesus, our society would be kind and truly accepting of all. Billionaires and homelessness wouldn’t exist. Inequity wouldn’t be so prevalent and the wealthy would realize their gifts are from God and they’d honor the concept of where much is given, much is expected..putting God’s kingdom above their pleasures and seeking to eradicate idols from their lives.
This gender ideology issue would be addressed with compassion and seeking to heal what is broken in our hearts and minds. Let’s heal the world through truth and love for ALL. Yes, even beautiful, rich, white privileged people. We all must answer to God in the end and were commanded to care for each other’s needs. Love God first, then your neighbor as yourself (not in emotion, but in provision).
I won’t bend the truth in order to appease even my wayward son even in my desperation to have a wonderful relationship with him, because God sits on the throne of my heart. I’ll never be unkind to any marginalized person and hope to offer aid within my capacities. If our children could only understand that what they see as rejection is genuine care for their health and bodies. I’ll never shut the door on my grown children and I’ll always seek loving relationship with them, no matter what they do because love never fails and I love beyond what they’ll ever know, unless they have children of their own. Maybe one day we’ll have that vindicating talk. Maybe not. I’d take their burdens from them if I could. I’d die for them, if necessary. That remains and will never change.
Thank you for your insightful comments. I agree with you that there is some envy in the transgender ideology. I think those who have fallen prey to the trans ideology want to things that heterosexual people in healthy relationships have, but for whatever reason, these things have not come into their lives, so they wish to destroy what they do not have. I also think fear. I truly believe some of the men who have decided they are women are simply doing that because they are afraid of the responsibilities of being an adult male. (Sadly, I would include my son in that number, along with some mental health struggles.) If these poor, deluded individuals only understood it is hard to be an adult man or woman; both genders have struggles and challenges. I, too, would give my life for my son and would take all his burdens, if it meant he left the trans delusions behind and came home. But I CANNOT be complicit in the lies he tell himself. I have spent so much time asking God what went wrong or what his dad and I did wrong; I still do not know the answer to that question. But we pray every day for him to come home. I pray all our children come home soon. My love to you and your family!
You did NOTHNG wrong. When you stop trying to take the blame for their misdeeds, it is much easier to cope with the situation. Some people make some terrible mistakes and it is just a fact of life. People have free will but they need to understand that there are consequences (to self, family and society) that apply to their actions. The only thing that parents can do for their children when they are young is to guide them through their destiny of free will.
This is so sad, I can't imagine how their mom is handling this. It's so unfair. Boy, I feel sorry for how the dad is going to feel when he "wakes up" from this and realizes the damage he has caused.
Nietzsche has what I consider to be the greatest evaluation ever of liberalism as a political system. From Beyond Good and Evil. He says, the value of a thing sometimes does not lie in by which one attains it, but in what one pays for it, what it costs us. I'll give an example. Liberal institutions cease to be liberal as soon as they are attained. Later on they are worse and more thorough injurers of freedom than liberal institutions. Their effects are well known enough. They undermine the will to power, they level mountain and valley, and they call that morality. They make men small, cowardly, and hedonistic. Every time, it is the herd animal that triumphs with them. Liberalism, is herd animalization. People who had some value, who attained value, never attained it under liberal institutions. It was great danger that made something of those people.
Does their father want to be more involved in their lives, or does he seem satisfied with the status quo?
He probably just wants them as validation props.
Prayers for you and your grandsons. So sad.
Common to all trans instances is the insistence of self before others. It’s selfish and that means any others will have to suffer along with the trans person. Selfishness is not a gift to anyone.
Love your resilience. Thank you for sharing this grim story opening up yet another of the great harms this ideology causes. Why are we so unmoored these days that so many people succumb to these pernicious, so obviously absurd, ideas... and so many others about race, climate and on and on?
Thank you for showing yet another dimension of pain and loss that gender ideology does to families. It is so sad.
I too am grateful for this platform to share our stories. Thank you PITT.
Thanks for your thoughtful response. Love to your family, including your son, as well:) I agree with your thoughts about our young men fearing adulting responsibilities. My husband is definitely a workaholic and I can’t say I blame our 2 sons from wanting to escape his lifestyle, if that’s how they perceive man responsibilities. I’ve wondered where we went wrong, but it’s multi-faceted. It’s not our faults. The agenda is in the airways and our technology has betrayed us and our children, as strangers with nefarious intentions or selfish ambitions have entered our world through the www. Our older son is being groomed via VR right now and I have little power, as he’s living in a college dorm away from home. I can’t imagine what challenges are ahead for us with AI capabilities. Our middle son started the trans quest first. We keep in touch often, but they are stubborn and argue that affirmation is the equivalent of acceptance and love. Maybe I should follow my best friend’s advice not to give the topic any energy. At this point, I’m blue in the face with my warnings and attempts to educate and persuade both of them. It’s time to try something new since that approach isn’t working. I wonder how the feminist movement has had an effect on our young men. Men aren’t given much encouragement and have little experience courting ladies, dating and kissing. Those experiences are so formative in relationships. Your family is in my prayers and I hope your son comes home soon too. Sending love from afar..
Great Mom and loving Grandfather to provide a male role model
Wishing best for your two grandsons
Good on you, for being strong. Sadly, your boys don't have a father but in this case, you had no choice. I wish all the best for the three of you.
So very sad. The victims of this cult just keep mounting up. We have to keep fighting back.
How awful. Poor kids!
Heartbreaking and maddening! Those poor boys and I can’t even imagine what their mom is going through 💔
Wow! Just wow! There are no words for this kind of evil. I am so sad for those boys and their mom. Thank goodness they have her and they have you. I pray they can grow to be resilient despite what they have been through.
Before my own daughters became seduced by the cult, my first indication that mental illness was behind all this was from Bruce Jenner.
I agree. I lost friends over that one who called him 'brave' as he accepted awards meant for women. No.
This story is tragic and reminds me of my husband’s plight..having his gay father leave his wife and 4 children to “be true to himself” and pursue a gay partner.
He convinced himself that he was a noble trailblazer who would help in pioneering gays alike from social oppression.
If we’d all stop discriminating against people who don’t dress and look like us, have the same skin tone, or share our lifestyle, gender ideologists and gay/lesbian activists would have far less fuel to work with.
This discrimination deceives people into thinking because they don’t adhere to gender stereotype, they must be the opposite sex or same-sex attracted if they don’t fulfill typical gender roles. Let’s allow boys to play with dolls and be hairdressers, girls to drive tractors, and people to look more or less feminine, while maintaining and honoring their biological sex. Let’s celebrate and truly love people just as they are!! Nobody can help how they were born, so let’s all play the hand we’re given to the best of our abilities and expose this cult for being the unloving, uncaring, narcissistic group of humans they are..but wait…most of these people are victims themselves, of themselves. I don’t believe most of them are evil.
People believe in these lies that lead them and their loved ones down paths of destruction. Imagine the judgment a straight person would experience if they told a friend they wanted to pursue a different partner because their spouse (forgetting the kids’ needs) didn’t allow them to be fully who they truly are. I think marriage would be virtually obsolete at that point. I’m tired of the virtue signaling and mental gymnastics employed by people who ultimately choose sexual and personal gratification over the needs and wants of the people they claim to love. Men owe their children protection, love, dedication, and care from the moment they choose to bring life into this world. The fight should be for the family, not self-gratification.
In the case of my father-in-law, most view him as someone who was too self-absorbed to think about the effects of his actions on his family. That said, I adore my father-in-law and love him dearly. I only consider him another victim to the lies of the LGBTQ+++… cult.
My father-in-law is paying the price for his choices with loneliness and a broken family. He once admitted that before he came to when awaking in the morning, for just a moment..he thought he was still married and his 4 beautiful young children and wife were all in the kitchen. He felt so extremely happy until he realized he’s alone and his path led him to that loneliness and a history of unfulfilling relationships. It’s a cautionary tale.. a situation not far from the one described.
I believe we need to consult with the Good Book so the lies of society are seen for what they are…
Until the truths and road map from our Maker are honored once again, our world will continue to be broken.
Love and healing to all in your family, author.💗
How did your mother-in-law feel about the whole thing?
I think you are so right in saying we to stop discriminating on the basis of skin color and ethnicity, because that discrimination only feeds into the transgender ideology.
I agree..discrimination is the problem. In some ways, I don’t blame the LGBTQ+ movement affiliates for speaking out for their rights and shouting in the pain of their experiences of feeling marginalized. They’re angry and for good reason, but I beg them to not take it out on our children by indoctrinating them and influencing them to harm their bodies before their precious brains are even developed. Their aggressive orientation feels like retaliation..the furthest thing from loving.
Some people genuinely love all people..religious, atheist, rich, poor, gay, straight, and “sinners” alike..by the way, in terms of the Bible, we ALL fall into that category, so let’s not boast in our “righteousness” or in God’s blessing of good fortune. Sadly, some so-called Christian groups have given Christ a bad name. Christ never differentiated sin, but paid the ransom for all and asked us not to boast in our goodness. He elevated the sinner who acknowledges his/her sins over the “righteous” religious bragger who portrays himself to be clean and good-an attempt to elevate himself above others, and often a hypocrite. Comparison is pride. It’s also the thief of joy. I’ve heard people say at the core of gender ideology is the sin of envy…another thought-provoking assertion.
Prior to Christ’s teachings, human rights were nonexistent. Even Richard Dawkins acknowledges the benefits of living in our Christian-inspired society..think the Red Cross, hospitals, orphanages..humanitarianism in action. People were left to die in the streets in societies prior to Christ’s life and resurrection. Christ is the answer to this mess, and all other messes. If we were like Jesus, our society would be kind and truly accepting of all. Billionaires and homelessness wouldn’t exist. Inequity wouldn’t be so prevalent and the wealthy would realize their gifts are from God and they’d honor the concept of where much is given, much is expected..putting God’s kingdom above their pleasures and seeking to eradicate idols from their lives.
This gender ideology issue would be addressed with compassion and seeking to heal what is broken in our hearts and minds. Let’s heal the world through truth and love for ALL. Yes, even beautiful, rich, white privileged people. We all must answer to God in the end and were commanded to care for each other’s needs. Love God first, then your neighbor as yourself (not in emotion, but in provision).
I won’t bend the truth in order to appease even my wayward son even in my desperation to have a wonderful relationship with him, because God sits on the throne of my heart. I’ll never be unkind to any marginalized person and hope to offer aid within my capacities. If our children could only understand that what they see as rejection is genuine care for their health and bodies. I’ll never shut the door on my grown children and I’ll always seek loving relationship with them, no matter what they do because love never fails and I love beyond what they’ll ever know, unless they have children of their own. Maybe one day we’ll have that vindicating talk. Maybe not. I’d take their burdens from them if I could. I’d die for them, if necessary. That remains and will never change.
Thank you for your insightful comments. I agree with you that there is some envy in the transgender ideology. I think those who have fallen prey to the trans ideology want to things that heterosexual people in healthy relationships have, but for whatever reason, these things have not come into their lives, so they wish to destroy what they do not have. I also think fear. I truly believe some of the men who have decided they are women are simply doing that because they are afraid of the responsibilities of being an adult male. (Sadly, I would include my son in that number, along with some mental health struggles.) If these poor, deluded individuals only understood it is hard to be an adult man or woman; both genders have struggles and challenges. I, too, would give my life for my son and would take all his burdens, if it meant he left the trans delusions behind and came home. But I CANNOT be complicit in the lies he tell himself. I have spent so much time asking God what went wrong or what his dad and I did wrong; I still do not know the answer to that question. But we pray every day for him to come home. I pray all our children come home soon. My love to you and your family!
You did NOTHNG wrong. When you stop trying to take the blame for their misdeeds, it is much easier to cope with the situation. Some people make some terrible mistakes and it is just a fact of life. People have free will but they need to understand that there are consequences (to self, family and society) that apply to their actions. The only thing that parents can do for their children when they are young is to guide them through their destiny of free will.