Wondering if the author actually sent this letter to her child. I could not have said it better myself - I felt as if I could have written it myself! I have thought and said every single one of those things. The struggle is real - our children are young, naive, brainwashed and trying to make irreversible life decisions with no support! All I want is for my daughter to slow down, shut off the “noise”, and really listen to herself!
Gen Z females, daughters of second wave feminists are raised with the believe that man have more rights, more power, more status, that patriarchy still exists in America. That woman are repressed, hand maids of the white patriarch conservative male. That woman have no rights in America, therefore being a woman is like being a servant born to serve man. Second wave feminism and postmodern feminism played a big, huge roll in our Gen Z children confusion and delusion. Don't take me wrong all extremisms are equally bad, I count extremist religious people as well as extremist atheism. May our children heal and learn to accept and love the sex they were born as.
"Please let me in long enough to love you." This sums it all up. This letter is a beautiful plea to the daughter you love with all your heart. I relate to so much of what you have written, although my daughter is "non-binary" and just wants to have her healthy breasts amputated - no testosterone needed. Go figure. Please can you update us on your journey? The title says "And still true." Does this mean she is still caught up in the lie?
I think this is a great letter! I just pray that all our unstable trans kids could read it or at least have someone in their lives to tell them the truth about this horrible dilution!🙏🙏🙏
Beautiful letter. I really hope you get her back!! Plus something I’ve been thinking about a lot, being a lifelong misfit who never fit into all this dumb, vapid, dehumanizing, objectifying, misogynistic tripe that is expected of women and girls, myself either: we need to make sure that’s not only accepted! But also, ENCOURAGED!! Not that I think young girls who really ARE what society considers “feminine” should be in any way punished for that, either. And if they love to play with dolls, for instance..? They should get that! I think forcing adult politics on kids, who just want to have fun with their toys, and are not even thinking in those terms, is shitty. At least if one does it to the extent that it becomes a restriction that they NOTICE! Will admit, if I had a daughter who LOVED, and wanted to play with, mainly dolls..? I would at least also include some more DIVERSE dolls in there, and not only those pink and glittery ones! To model that there are all kind of dolls, just like there are also all kinds of women! Speaking as a woman who did in fact love dolls, as a little girl! And who in fact collects Monster High dolls, as an adult collector, now! Which are weird, badass, alternative looking dolls, that I so wish I had access to as a little girl, that absolutely DELIGHT the little kid in me now!! But yeah… I really just wanted dolls, back then, because I found them gorgeous and fun!! It wasn’t really anything deep, at ALL. But I would have been very sad, had I been denied them, and all the fun I ended up having with them, just because my parents deemed it not politically correct enough!
Haha, that turned into a whole long tangent about DOLLS, that I did not initially intend to go on. 😉 But my point, and what I really wanted to say, was: we need to not just make it acceptable to be a girl who does not fit these restrictive stereotypes, but to also make it COOL!! Speaking as a naturally rebellious soul, myself, (likely because I’ve never fit in with mainstream normie society), who especially felt a HUGE need for rebellion during my teens and twenties..? I think “trans” currently serves that function for these kids! As that is what they mistakenly think “cool and rebellious” means! Even though in all actuality, it is just Sexism 2.0, slightly new recipe, but featuring the exact same ingredients as before, in a new and pretty wrapping paper! And what I really keep wishing..? Is that these girls, (especially, but also misfit boys who don’t fit in), would come to see just how INFINITELY cooler and more ACTUALLY rebellious it is to insist on just defiantly being themselves, without concluding that their bodies are in some way “wrong”, adopting the whole nasty, sexist garbage belief system that is “trans”, and trying to simply fit themselves into a different box! I want them to see how truly radical and rebellious it is to embrace their bodies and their physical forms, and truly love and accept themselves, (or at least work towards it… It is usually a process, and often not an easy one), without being convinced that they can only be themselves if they take on a very special, fake “identity” label, harm their bodies, and dissociate from their sex!! Plus how cool it is, if you’re a girl, to refuse to shave, cut your hair short, boycott makeup, and wear baggy pants and T-shirts, as a deliberate way to say “EFF YOU!!”, and: “that is NOT what it means to be female!!”, to all the socially imposed misogyny and sexism that girls are subjected to!!! IF that is what you want to do anyway, of course… That is such a MUCH better, more liberating, and more ACTUALLY rebellious way to see it than all this “gender” BS!! And I really hope it becomes the new SUPER cool and radical youth rebellion, one day!!! Had I had a non-conforming, tomboyish daughter, I totally would have tried to sell her on it, too. 😉 That is all. 😛
Beautiful letter. Unfortunately I think most of our kids are so indoctrinated that they couldn’t be bothered to read such “hateful trash.”
Wondering if the author actually sent this letter to her child. I could not have said it better myself - I felt as if I could have written it myself! I have thought and said every single one of those things. The struggle is real - our children are young, naive, brainwashed and trying to make irreversible life decisions with no support! All I want is for my daughter to slow down, shut off the “noise”, and really listen to herself!
Gen Z females, daughters of second wave feminists are raised with the believe that man have more rights, more power, more status, that patriarchy still exists in America. That woman are repressed, hand maids of the white patriarch conservative male. That woman have no rights in America, therefore being a woman is like being a servant born to serve man. Second wave feminism and postmodern feminism played a big, huge roll in our Gen Z children confusion and delusion. Don't take me wrong all extremisms are equally bad, I count extremist religious people as well as extremist atheism. May our children heal and learn to accept and love the sex they were born as.
"Please let me in long enough to love you." This sums it all up. This letter is a beautiful plea to the daughter you love with all your heart. I relate to so much of what you have written, although my daughter is "non-binary" and just wants to have her healthy breasts amputated - no testosterone needed. Go figure. Please can you update us on your journey? The title says "And still true." Does this mean she is still caught up in the lie?
I hope this letter had a positive impact. Please can you give us an update.
Hi! Since this was originally published 4.5 years ago, could we please get an update from the author?
I think this is a great letter! I just pray that all our unstable trans kids could read it or at least have someone in their lives to tell them the truth about this horrible dilution!🙏🙏🙏
Beautiful letter. I really hope you get her back!! Plus something I’ve been thinking about a lot, being a lifelong misfit who never fit into all this dumb, vapid, dehumanizing, objectifying, misogynistic tripe that is expected of women and girls, myself either: we need to make sure that’s not only accepted! But also, ENCOURAGED!! Not that I think young girls who really ARE what society considers “feminine” should be in any way punished for that, either. And if they love to play with dolls, for instance..? They should get that! I think forcing adult politics on kids, who just want to have fun with their toys, and are not even thinking in those terms, is shitty. At least if one does it to the extent that it becomes a restriction that they NOTICE! Will admit, if I had a daughter who LOVED, and wanted to play with, mainly dolls..? I would at least also include some more DIVERSE dolls in there, and not only those pink and glittery ones! To model that there are all kind of dolls, just like there are also all kinds of women! Speaking as a woman who did in fact love dolls, as a little girl! And who in fact collects Monster High dolls, as an adult collector, now! Which are weird, badass, alternative looking dolls, that I so wish I had access to as a little girl, that absolutely DELIGHT the little kid in me now!! But yeah… I really just wanted dolls, back then, because I found them gorgeous and fun!! It wasn’t really anything deep, at ALL. But I would have been very sad, had I been denied them, and all the fun I ended up having with them, just because my parents deemed it not politically correct enough!
Haha, that turned into a whole long tangent about DOLLS, that I did not initially intend to go on. 😉 But my point, and what I really wanted to say, was: we need to not just make it acceptable to be a girl who does not fit these restrictive stereotypes, but to also make it COOL!! Speaking as a naturally rebellious soul, myself, (likely because I’ve never fit in with mainstream normie society), who especially felt a HUGE need for rebellion during my teens and twenties..? I think “trans” currently serves that function for these kids! As that is what they mistakenly think “cool and rebellious” means! Even though in all actuality, it is just Sexism 2.0, slightly new recipe, but featuring the exact same ingredients as before, in a new and pretty wrapping paper! And what I really keep wishing..? Is that these girls, (especially, but also misfit boys who don’t fit in), would come to see just how INFINITELY cooler and more ACTUALLY rebellious it is to insist on just defiantly being themselves, without concluding that their bodies are in some way “wrong”, adopting the whole nasty, sexist garbage belief system that is “trans”, and trying to simply fit themselves into a different box! I want them to see how truly radical and rebellious it is to embrace their bodies and their physical forms, and truly love and accept themselves, (or at least work towards it… It is usually a process, and often not an easy one), without being convinced that they can only be themselves if they take on a very special, fake “identity” label, harm their bodies, and dissociate from their sex!! Plus how cool it is, if you’re a girl, to refuse to shave, cut your hair short, boycott makeup, and wear baggy pants and T-shirts, as a deliberate way to say “EFF YOU!!”, and: “that is NOT what it means to be female!!”, to all the socially imposed misogyny and sexism that girls are subjected to!!! IF that is what you want to do anyway, of course… That is such a MUCH better, more liberating, and more ACTUALLY rebellious way to see it than all this “gender” BS!! And I really hope it becomes the new SUPER cool and radical youth rebellion, one day!!! Had I had a non-conforming, tomboyish daughter, I totally would have tried to sell her on it, too. 😉 That is all. 😛