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What is going on with these boys that this grabs them at all the same time? Is it sexual or not? Iatrogenesis seems to be at play which I have to believe is coming from early exposure to online porn... but the cultural elements at play are immense. I still believe an event in their own life causes them to seek out this coping mechanism. This is a coping mechanism for shame and to avoid pain or inflicting pain as a male. There are so many layers to all things trans. We just have to keep pulling back the onion. It is going to be a long journey so we must stick together and work together to heal from this dreadful human experiment!

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Sounds a lot like my story. Except yours got a job. My son, I found out after prom when a Band mom broke the news to me. That was 7 years ago. He moved out 3 years later, now is supposed to be in Law school, bit skipped semesters. He is a different person. Castration, breast implants, has cut me off. He says I really don't love him. He is my whole world. And, no matter what I do or say is not good enough or too late. He is all I have.

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I really feel for you & your family I have a similar story. I am in the Uk my son 17 has socially transitioned for about 5-6 years now. I just can’t seem to get through to him. He is an intelligent beautiful human & I just pray constantly that he will see the lie for what it is & come through before any lasting damage is done. He is living at home at the moment. Wanting to become a commercial pilot ( I’m not sure if his being trans will be detrimental to his career choice although looking at the virgin advertisment maybe not ) he is quiet strongly a Christian & we are just trying to love him through this.

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My heart goes out to you!! We adopted two boys that are now young men and although we had our issues they never doubted or questioned that they were boys. Sometimes those of us that don't go through what you have need to understand how blessed we are!

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As a mother of four I understand your heartbreak. Raising children is a real challenge and a great learning experience. In 1979 I wrote a 300 page manuscript on raising chldren with 23 years of experience. It didn't go because the AMA did not approve as I did not have a Doctorate. The publisher needed to get the approval of the AMA. I am sure the AMA would not approve, because of what I had written about vaccines from first hand experience; and the incompetency of the pediatrician, which led to a very sickly child. I was young and naive; and knew nothing about nutrition. M son's doctor told me what to feed my son from the time he was born. I had intended to nurse, but was given pills in the hospital which dried up my milk. When I questioned the nurse about the pills she handed me, she snapped at me, "The doctor ordered them. Take them!" I obeyed instantly, then I found out what they were. I cried for three days. I knew mother's milk was the best. Then, the formula the pediatrician told me to give the baby was totally deficient in nutrients and the child screamed for 3 months. Being ignorant about nutrition...I didn't know what was wrong. I didnt wake up, until he was 4-1/2, when a good friend handed me books and told me to start reading. After opening the first book, my entire life changed. It was that eureka moment! For 62 years I have been on a search for the truth. There are so many lies that if things don't change there will be no more problems...the world will be gone. I am writing a free substack entitled Journey to Wellness...based on health and nutrition research I have done, since 1961, I want to give people the benefit of my personal , non-funded research: barbaracharis.substack.com

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All I can say is, "I'm sorry!" In a way, I'm glad others have a similar story. I don't have to feel so alone. But, I would rather be alone in this than have so many other children and parents hurting. So, once again, "I'm sorry!"

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Thank you for your article. I am struggling with nearly the exact same situation and I feel so alone. I have lost my sweet boy to brainwashing and indoctrination. He is angry, spiteful, and defensive in all aspects of conversation. I don’t know where he is living. His thoughts make no sense and I can tell, if we talk, his answers are scripted. His medication and ideals were encouraged by the college he attends. That WE paid for (no longer). He is ruined forever. There is no happy ending. I appreciate your words so I don’t feel so alone.

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Brilliant, and well done. I’m in Edinburgh but if there’s any way I can get there, I will. Primark is absolutely irresponsible. So is childline it seems.

Joining terf calender now. It’s a fab idea as they always seem to be one step ahead.

Well done you, I’m assuming you may be linked with posy? Really well done for all that we so need to collectively go for the same target.

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This will get you on the GC path. Lots of good names here: https://michaelnayna.substack.com/p/word-from-london

London is where TERFs are most organised and active. !

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In US: have you come across MassResistance.org? Kara Dansky? International Women's Declaration? HandsAcrossTheAisle - Women in Coalition?

Here in the UK we have a campaigning group called Sex-Matters..org who cover the range of harms from Gender Identity Ideology - see their list of links to allied campaigns.

There are now many "Gender Critical" therapists in UK. E.g. "genspect" and "Thoughtful Therapists".

The UK's Equality and Human Rights Commission is headed by a Chair who understands the harms from GI.

Apart from the civil servants in Dept for Education, the Conservative Gov in UK now understands that it must debate and discuss this issue. On June 12th there will be a Parliamentary debate in an off-site Chamber on two petitions (1) That the word sex in the Equality Act 2010 means "biological sex" and (2) the opposite - a demand to keep the confused state of the meaning of sex.

A group of 10 parents is crowdfunding for a legal action against the Dept for Education to stop the indoctrination with GI ideology in state schools. This will be a very important legal case.

Please act in concert with other parents, women, gays and lesbians, etc. all those harmed by GI ideology.

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It will fall under the weight of its own illogicality and viciousness. All of these crazy ideologies do eventually. Imagine you are, say, living in France in 1941. The Nazis seem all powerful and unstoppable, but they were gone by 1945. Same for Maoism, communism etc etc. More to the point, Trans isn't about concepts such as who owns capital or the redistribution of resources. It is attacking the very nature of reality and the way in which we hominids have ordered societies since we before Homo Sapiens became the dominant species. It will eventually fall when it reaches a tipping point.

I'm in the UK, otherwise known as Terf Island. We are beginning to see changes here. Our Tory government will hopefully repeal the egregious Gender Recognition Act, which allowed all of this insanity. Our PM is a Terf and we got rid of the Scottish First Minister over self-id and we're getting the Tavistock closed down. And we have Posie Parker and LWS.

Elsewhere the struggle continues, I know. But I think it was instructive that Megyn Kelly has gone full Terf. As has Elon Musk. But it's going to happen from the bottom up. The sheer groundswell and numbers of families who have had to endure the destruction of the nuclear bomb that is Trans ideology will eventually spill over into wider public consciousness. Its just a matter of time. If you are on Twitter, look for @terfcalendar. We are going to start a global (western) walk-out of schools on the last Friday of every month, to protest Trans.

Stay strong. Dont be discouraged. Get hold of some stickers and plaster them anywhere you see Trans propaganda. It's about raising awareness and shifting positions one person at a time until we reach a critical mass.

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Absolutely heartbreaking. No way in HELL would my child attend a public school.

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Thank you for sharing your family's story. I got a chill up my spine when you wrote that kids at your son's school called non-gay, non-trans kids "breeders" -- OMG!!! You said you haven't found any help online. If that is still the case, let us know. I'm sure many people following the PITT substack can share links and contacts with you. Being with other parents living through similar tragedy is very, very helpful, and you can have that.

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Day after day, everyday, trying to find a way to bear the the unbearable.

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Jun 8, 2023·edited Jun 13, 2023

Our stories are so similar. We just found out our 19 year old autistic son with multiple other mental health issues was able to secretly obtain estrogen from a planned parenthood out of state with 1 short visit over the phone with the help of much older adults in an attempt to chemically castrate himself. We had made our rules on this very clear from the time we learned about this right before his 18th birthday (like so many others are coached to do), when he very suddenly identified as a woman & we were informed by much older family members (who both spoke for him). We told him from the beginning we loved him & that would never change, even though we didn't believe in gender theory as he does. We told him we would help him gain more independence so he could get out on his own, but our only firm rule from the beginning was that he could not live in our home & us pay for everything & him be on mind-altering hormones while he isn't emotionally or mentally mature enough to make a decision like this. There's so much he can't do that his peers can do, yet he thinks he is ready for this? He's never been in love or had a sexual relationship but he's ready for this? We begged him to stop & even told him we would do all these things to equip him so that in a few years when he's able to live on his own he could make that kind of decision & pay for it himself. We were hoping our ultimatum would wake him up & motivate him to focus on bettering himself, not further handicapping himself. Instead, he left that night to go live with the older family members. Of course he is telling everyone we kicked him out because he is trans which is not the case. We gave him a choice to live here but not on hormones, not while he can't possibly understand the longterm ramifications. Now I'm afraid the family is going to split over this, one side blindly affirming & not asking the hard questions, then us. Any encouragement or feedback would be greatly appreciated. We are facing so much confusion & doubt over whether we made the right decision or not as it's the hardest decision we've ever made & the most tragic thing we've ever been through. In the end though we abide by what is happening to our children & young people & the most vulnerable in our society. I see this same story played out again and again like it's right out of the same playbook.

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My heart aches for you! Your son was taken away from you by a evil cult. I hope that soon these cultists will be having to answer for the harm they have done.In the coming years, I hope that there will be lawsuits against those doctors and pharma companies that have profited off the bodies of so many children! I believe that truth in the end will prevail and this nightmare will end. It has to!

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