A Mother’s Story
A group of mothers are suffering. I am one of them.
My son is a sweet boy, a caring, gentle and sensitive boy. But everything changed since the day he turned into a different person who I do not recognize. His behaviour changed a couple of months before that day. I noticed significant and out of character behavioural changes from him. He limited his food intake and slept a lot during day time. He used a commanding tone when speaking to me. He tried to avoid conversation with the family.
I felt something wrong and started digging and digging. Then I found the cross-sex hormones in his room. It was a big shock. I had never noticed him having any issues or distress related to gender. When my husband and I tried to talk to him and tried to find out what was going on, he gave us the text book type of answer such as “This is what I want.” “I feel good.”, etc. When we asked why he wants to trans to a woman, his answer was so superficial. He talked about dressing in women’s clothes and wearing makeup. When we finally found a clinician who was willing to help him, our son left home and cut off contact with us.
That day was the darkest day in my life. Since then I lived in the hell. I can not believe this kind of thing happened in a modern era. A healthy, bright young man is willing to take harmful medicine for such superficial reasons, without ever seeding a non-harmful scientific solution first. When I think he is turning himself to a lifelong patient just for intangible feeling, my heart break.
The moment I realised I lost my loving boy, I lost control. I started hitting myself, cutting myself. In one stage, I could not get rid of suicidal thoughts and started looking for ways to end my life. But I still have a family to support. I still have parents who need I to look after. I kept telling myself “I need to be strong.” Even though every morning when I waken up, I am still wondering how this is could possibly be my life. My mind is floating in different stages of grief every day.
I started looking for answers. After reading lots of books, scientific papers and exploring online resources, I realised this kind of thing is happening across Australia and the world. It is happening to all different kinds of families, including “normal” families like mine. Our children grow up in a toxic culture and are brainwashed by gender ideology. They are being influenced by social media and groomed online to accuse their parents of not being understanding or supportive of their desire to “transition” to escape their authority and negate the need for consent. Trans activists are coaching younger kids on how to keep secret from parents, how to create stories to convince others they are truely trans, how to run away from families. There are thousands of families in the same situation right now.1 Each family has a mother like me who is stuck in the nightmare. Some mothers have daughters who run away from homes for years. Some mothers have sons who refuse to talk to them.
Why was my son captured in this sub culture? I keep asking myself. Then I read Dr. Lisa Littman’s paper2 and learned about ROGD (Rapid-onset gender dysphoria). I realised my son is a ROGD kid3. If he had not been influenced by peers, brain washed by media, he could have turned out differently and not used aggressive language to attack his parents or run away from the family who loves him most.
Almost 30% of those affected by ROGD since the mid-2000 are male. When I read ROGD boy profiles4, I recognize my son. He is highly intelligent, gifted, exceptionally creative. He is hypersensitive to environmental stimuli, has issues with body awareness and difficulty reading social cues. He has a strong interested in anime and plays a fantasy tabletop role-playing game “Dungeons & Dragon” a lot. Anime is tied to the transgender movement because anime is super-pornographized and hyper sexualized.5 D & D allows players to create character of different species, sexes and backgrounds and to explore their “gender identify”. Prolonged immersion in anime and D&D makes them unable to distinguish reality and fantasy. In the end, our son decided to turn himself into an anime character and play the game in the real world. So pathetic!
I do not know when he will wake up and face reality. People say trans kids hate their parents because parents are the reality. The reason I wrote my story is I want to warn parents. Gender identity ideology is impacting real lives and real families. Being alert to the tiny signs, such as the anime your kids are watching, games your kids are playing, social media your kids are using, friends your kids are hang on with, etc. Not like me. Too late to find out the truth.
Smith, Kirralie (2024). Devastated: How gender ideology is tearing Australian families apart. Gender Awareness Australia Ltd.
Littman, L. (2018). Rapid-onset gender dysphoria in adolescents and young adults: A study of parental reports. / Parent reports of adolescents and young adults perceived to show signs of a rapid onset of gender dysphoria. [sic]. PLoS ONE, 13(8), Article e0202330.
Parentsofrogdkids.com, Rapid-Onset Gender Dysphoria (ROGD).
ROGD Boys, Boys with rapid onset gender dysphoria. https://www.rogdboys.org/
@AllieBethStuckey. (2024, June 18). This lawsuit may topple the Trans: the anime-to-trains pipeline explained [Video]. YouTube.
I feel for your family. I somewhat know what its like to be your son I used to identify as transgender I have since desisted. I recognize the attitude he had before and I have a feeling that he may have been identifying as transgender longer than you'd think. It took me a while to tell my family I identified as trans even though I believed it was who I was in my soul. And that not affirming was killing me. I was told transitioning would solve all my mental health issues and that I would never feel better if I didn't transition. Idk if your son had mental health issues already but the comorbidity with trans identity and mental illness is very high. 70% of trans identified teenagers have depression, 80% have social anxiety, data from the CDC. If yoh read what people say in trans communities online they tell you that you will never feel better if you don't transition. They ignore any other possible cause. He probably left because he was afraid of you or thought you hated him for not affirming him. It is a persecutory delusion, but in these groups you are taught to fear criticism and questioning. I do wonder about the d&d and anime groups he was in. I know its common for trans identified people to be apart of these groups but I wouldnt necessarily blame them just because you can find trans ideology absolutely anywhere. Art communities, drama clubs, mental health resources, special needs groups, school, social media, just to name a few that I know for sure. To the author I'm with you and I want you to know that the world needs you and you are stronger than you think. I definitely know the deep pain of depression and suicidal ideation, and its hard for me to find words that would help because almost nothing helped me at the time. But I will say you're not alone in this and there are many people who support you, and to find something to live for even if its small even if it only gets you to tomorrow it is enough. And please don't give up hope on your son, people see the light even after years of delusion. I truly wish you the best
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