I never thought I would be one of the lucky ones. My son is desisted. And as more time passes, I’m seeing him become more and more comfortable in his own skin, building a well-adjusted, well-rounded life for himself. It’s almost to the point where I am not worried about him getting sucked back into the cult when he goes off to college. Not quite to that point of course—as you all know, once you are touched by gender ideology, your life will and can never be the same. There will always be that lingering, persistent doubt, not to mention your lost faith in humanity. That said, I see a path now to a normal life, or at least one more similar to the life I had pre-gender ideology.
This renews my energy to keep trudging through the muck of gender ideology, that is doing its best to ruin my child and therefore me. I KNOW i must not let it take me down. Its been one year. I think its time to say enough- and get back to me hobbies and my friends. We started with new puppy. A bundle of happy distraction. I take comfort in your hope that our older kids will grow past this.
Hopeful piece, thank you for sharing. I'll add my adult son to the desisters. I wanted to see how our visit with him out of state went last week. He looks good, sounds good. Still some challenges, but he is even starting to joke about his prior identity (he and his dad have the same dry sense of humor I love).
We were estranged for over a year. Like you, I'm not letting my guard down for fear of his regressing. But things look more hopeful than a year ago. My son seems healthier.
For those of you still waiting, hoping and praying, don't give up fighting for your children, find strength, and rest, and care for your own future as well. We are all with you in praying or hoping, the culture of desistance will be in all our futures. We are here to keep listening and sharing your burdens with you.
Thank you for continuing to fight on for those of us who continue on in this madness. Until I take my last breath, I’ll be there with you to stop the insanity.
So, the support group has more and more desistors. This is heartening. The trans hysteria is spread from kid to kid. Perhaps the road away from the madness will be a similar process, where those who desist speak, from lived experience, to those who are still in the midst of the glamour.
Huge and encouragement. I am going to endeavor to write about how we can love our children while not affirming their choices. I also want to write about how society plays an important role in shaping masculine and feminine sex roles and sexual orientation. And that we have a responsibility to shape those sex roles and sexual orientation based on the biological sex. This is exactly the opposite of what most people believe. But, this is common sense that we believed until a few decades ago when everything broke down into sexual anarchy.
So very happy for you, your son, your family. And your New Year's Resolutions sound great, adaptable for all of us. I pray that some day we might all be parents of desisters or detransitioners. My best to everyone for 2024.
I agree, the tide is turning. As just one example from mainstream media(!), NBC had a headline yesterday to the effect that things were not going well for trans rights, but it had a different flavor than those usual stories. It came across as that they could finally be a little more open to the tide turning and be a bit more honest or balanced - just a bit. They still referred to gen-crits as "anti-trans," etc., but it had just a hint of more balance. Maybe I was reading into it, but it did seem there.
I bet the desisters and detransitioners like your son will lead the way out of this madness, not those adults who are supposed to be our best and brightest doctors, shrinks, electeds, medical safeguarding agencies, and policy makers.
So happy for you that your son has desisted. As you say ,desistance from this pernicious cult is becoming more common ,so obviously many more young people are regaining their common sense and critical thinking skills ,and realising how damaging it is both physically and mentally. I pray that 2024 will see a huge fight back against ALL of these toxic "ideologies " and the hatred that drives them. God Bless ,all.x
I'm so so happy for you. I am sure that is a tremendous weight off your heart. My Daughter has also shown signs of desistance, but once in a while she will put on the T-shirt she wore when she was "trans" or the cologne I naively got her when I didn't know any better and it TRIGGERS me like you wouldn't believe. I'm suddenly RUSHED right back to the beginning and the panic, fear, depression, despair hits me with a force that makes me want to just crawl away to a place where none of this exists. I wish I had the courage to flat out ask her if she's done with this whole mess, but I can't. I'm too afraid of what she will say. I'd rather live in ignorant bliss for now. Am I wrong? I' always so scared to say the wrong thing, do the wrong thing. you are 100% right when you write that our lives WILL NEVER be the same before this reached our homes. how can they?
I feel the same about living in ignorant bliss…patiently waiting for this to be over. There definitely doesn’t seem to be a right or wrong way to handle this mess or we’d all be doing it. Staying sane is an achievement in itself & for me, accepting that control is limited & trying not to feel guilty or a failure..sigh
I'm happy for you and for all the other parents of desisted/detransed youth/young adults....but I have to admit that I am very envious of you all. I likely have way more time on this train wreck with a very stubborn and strong willed young adult who has never been able to admit wrong or to just let a topic drop without having to have the last word about it. I think the younger they are when they start this fad, the easier it is that they grow out and grow beyond it.....even if it is terrifying for parents and hard on the entire family. I hope you had the Merriest of Christmases and that you have a Happy and Healthy New Year!
In the same boat here. It does seem that having a younger child gives a chance for a better outcome. My situation seems hopeless, unless my child has extreme health consequences that wake her up. I’m holding out hope that it will become more celebrated to be detrans.
I do believe our adult kids will someday realize their parents loved them all along, but it will be a long road to get there.
I’m praying they will come to their senses very soon.
This renews my energy to keep trudging through the muck of gender ideology, that is doing its best to ruin my child and therefore me. I KNOW i must not let it take me down. Its been one year. I think its time to say enough- and get back to me hobbies and my friends. We started with new puppy. A bundle of happy distraction. I take comfort in your hope that our older kids will grow past this.
Hopeful piece, thank you for sharing. I'll add my adult son to the desisters. I wanted to see how our visit with him out of state went last week. He looks good, sounds good. Still some challenges, but he is even starting to joke about his prior identity (he and his dad have the same dry sense of humor I love).
We were estranged for over a year. Like you, I'm not letting my guard down for fear of his regressing. But things look more hopeful than a year ago. My son seems healthier.
For those of you still waiting, hoping and praying, don't give up fighting for your children, find strength, and rest, and care for your own future as well. We are all with you in praying or hoping, the culture of desistance will be in all our futures. We are here to keep listening and sharing your burdens with you.
I'm so happy for you. Pls can you share how and when and what turned him back?
❤❤❤
So happy for you!
Thank you for posting. Thrilled for you and your son and your whole family!
My heart sings for you and your family!
Thank you for continuing to fight on for those of us who continue on in this madness. Until I take my last breath, I’ll be there with you to stop the insanity.
So, the support group has more and more desistors. This is heartening. The trans hysteria is spread from kid to kid. Perhaps the road away from the madness will be a similar process, where those who desist speak, from lived experience, to those who are still in the midst of the glamour.
So pleased for you, I hope it's a permanent break from the gender madness 🤞
Huge and encouragement. I am going to endeavor to write about how we can love our children while not affirming their choices. I also want to write about how society plays an important role in shaping masculine and feminine sex roles and sexual orientation. And that we have a responsibility to shape those sex roles and sexual orientation based on the biological sex. This is exactly the opposite of what most people believe. But, this is common sense that we believed until a few decades ago when everything broke down into sexual anarchy.
So very happy for you, your son, your family. And your New Year's Resolutions sound great, adaptable for all of us. I pray that some day we might all be parents of desisters or detransitioners. My best to everyone for 2024.
Very uplifting message for the new year!
Congratulations - I'm so happy for you!
I agree, the tide is turning. As just one example from mainstream media(!), NBC had a headline yesterday to the effect that things were not going well for trans rights, but it had a different flavor than those usual stories. It came across as that they could finally be a little more open to the tide turning and be a bit more honest or balanced - just a bit. They still referred to gen-crits as "anti-trans," etc., but it had just a hint of more balance. Maybe I was reading into it, but it did seem there.
I bet the desisters and detransitioners like your son will lead the way out of this madness, not those adults who are supposed to be our best and brightest doctors, shrinks, electeds, medical safeguarding agencies, and policy makers.
So happy for you that your son has desisted. As you say ,desistance from this pernicious cult is becoming more common ,so obviously many more young people are regaining their common sense and critical thinking skills ,and realising how damaging it is both physically and mentally. I pray that 2024 will see a huge fight back against ALL of these toxic "ideologies " and the hatred that drives them. God Bless ,all.x
I'm so so happy for you. I am sure that is a tremendous weight off your heart. My Daughter has also shown signs of desistance, but once in a while she will put on the T-shirt she wore when she was "trans" or the cologne I naively got her when I didn't know any better and it TRIGGERS me like you wouldn't believe. I'm suddenly RUSHED right back to the beginning and the panic, fear, depression, despair hits me with a force that makes me want to just crawl away to a place where none of this exists. I wish I had the courage to flat out ask her if she's done with this whole mess, but I can't. I'm too afraid of what she will say. I'd rather live in ignorant bliss for now. Am I wrong? I' always so scared to say the wrong thing, do the wrong thing. you are 100% right when you write that our lives WILL NEVER be the same before this reached our homes. how can they?
I feel the same about living in ignorant bliss…patiently waiting for this to be over. There definitely doesn’t seem to be a right or wrong way to handle this mess or we’d all be doing it. Staying sane is an achievement in itself & for me, accepting that control is limited & trying not to feel guilty or a failure..sigh
Same.
Big hugs. I pray it will pass for you1🙏🧡
I'm happy for you and for all the other parents of desisted/detransed youth/young adults....but I have to admit that I am very envious of you all. I likely have way more time on this train wreck with a very stubborn and strong willed young adult who has never been able to admit wrong or to just let a topic drop without having to have the last word about it. I think the younger they are when they start this fad, the easier it is that they grow out and grow beyond it.....even if it is terrifying for parents and hard on the entire family. I hope you had the Merriest of Christmases and that you have a Happy and Healthy New Year!
In the same boat here. It does seem that having a younger child gives a chance for a better outcome. My situation seems hopeless, unless my child has extreme health consequences that wake her up. I’m holding out hope that it will become more celebrated to be detrans.
I do believe our adult kids will someday realize their parents loved them all along, but it will be a long road to get there.
I’m praying they will come to their senses very soon.
I hope yours will come around too. I know the desperation for it. Wishing you a happy 2024 & good health.
So happy for you. I hope the New Year will bring me the same joy.