An Invitation from Stoicmom
Hi there,
I’m Stoicmom, the mother of a 20-year-old trans-identified daughter and founder of The Stoicmom Project. Like so many parents who find themselves in this situation, my husband and I were blindsided and destabilized when we discovered our oldest child was identifying as the opposite sex. We’ve been navigating this circumstance for about six years now.
Starting in early 2022, I wrote a handful of articles for PITT (including Defining “Trans”) . Around this same time, I launched a Substack where I create content for the parents of trans-identified kids. My aim is to help these parents reclaim their agency and get their lives back. The Stoicmom Project is intended to be a refuge from the Culture Wars, with articles and podcast interviews titled “conversations along the way.”
I invite professionals onto the podcast who I believe have expertise that can help parents get back on solid ground and reframe this experience in a way that encourages them to integrate the wisdom offered through this “dark night of the soul.”
Last year I launched a special series called conversations with stoic mamas along the way in which I talk with other moms of currently trans-identified kiddos; moms who’ve found healthy ways of navigating gender ideology in their homes and whose stories and strategies may inspire you.
***Please note that this is not a podcast that focuses on getting your child to desist; at the SMP we focus on personal and relational growth topics such as regaining stable ground, parenting with integrity and authenticity, finding inner peace regardless of external circumstances, etc.
The purpose of this article is to invite you to consider whether you might be a Stoic mama (or dad!) who would like to share what’s working for you with other parents who might benefit from your wisdom. If so, please consider having a conversation with me for this series.
To further explore whether this feels right for you and to express interest in coming on my podcast, please complete this form: https://bit.ly/stoicmamainterview
I would encourage listening to one or more of the growing collection of conversations with stoic mamas along the way to get a sense of whether your insights and strategies align with the approach we embrace at the SMP. This podcast is most well-received by families who’ve grown weary of the cultural divisiveness, who prioritize keeping their families together without sacrificing authenticity, and who are interested in topics that encourage developing inner peace, regardless of outcomes.
A huge THANK YOU to PITT for providing this platform for parents and others who need to anonymously share their stories, and for letting me introduce myself and extend this invitation. I’m certain there are more parents out there who’ve found ways to not only keep their sanity, but to grow and make profound changes in the way they’re navigating today’s oh-so-strange times. Your story just may be the one that inspires someone else do the same.
Thanks for taking the time to read through this and consider my invitation. Hang in there, Mama!
Love,
Stoicmom
P.S Visit https://bit.ly/stoicmamainterview to express interest in being a guest on The StoicMom Project. Please read and respond to the application thoroughly. It's important that I screen carefully to ensure interviews meet the SMP guidelines (described in the application.) Thanks again!!
I just have a suggestion about language since I believe language is the primary weapon used in this war. How about referring to these kids and young adults as trans-captured instead of trans-identified? My reason is that the "identity" word, and the "identify as" phrase, are some of the more key weaponized words and therefore, like "gender," I think it's best to avoid them altogether.
(Though recently I heard Andrew Doyle say something like, just because so many words have been co-opted / hijacked, that doesn't mean they should be discarded. I see his point but I think each case is different. I think it would definitely help if people simply quit using the word "gender", and quit saying "so and so identifies as".)
That said, I'm very sorry your daughter got caught by the cult. I'm not even a parent and yet I still was terrorized by a vicious trans-actor and the people under his contro. He was my next door neighbor. In fact my child-free status is one of the reasons he targeted me. (Think, "Of course that woman is dangerous to children, she doesn't have any.") It's an hours-long story but I'm trying to say, because of what's been done to me, including being dragged through family court, I often think about the parents whose children have been at least metaphorically if not literally kidnapped by this state cult, and I think about the fact that I would definitely be in jail if I was a parent in this situation.
I have in fact been criminally convicted. I was charged following a sign war that was started by these neighbors. I expect to win on appeal but the cost financially and personally has been massive.
Thank you for providing additional ways to talk and process, and move forward.