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Luz Ardiden's avatar

This is so familiar and your story touched me so much. You are doing all the right things and I am sure your daughter will emerge one day and know you did the absolute best for her. My own daughter is now 18 months post desistance after almost five years of trans identification. For years, trans dominated our lives, she was obsessed, and utterly miserable. We held our ground, providing love and balance to the prevailing narrative that she could somehow find happiness and escape from her body in another gender rather than in learning to celebrate herself with all her quirks. Our relationship was rocky to say the least during the teen years, but now we are her first port of call when she needs advice or assistance. She acknowledges the part we played in preventing her making irrevocable mistakes. Scenario one will give you an adult who knows you put your child first, whatever she ultimately decides. Hang in there.

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BG's avatar

I know we did it from love, but we raised a generation of children who have NEVER been uncomfortable. We've loved them and sheltered them and kept them from all harm, and then they hit puberty, which is inherently a time of uncomfortablness. Then we tell them that if they are uneasy about these changes they are trans. It's like we wrote a script for this to all happen.

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