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EyesOpen's avatar

Parents are walking on eggshells due to their child's "trans" declarations. Everything is a micro-aggression and potentially triggers them or makes the parental home "toxic". It is exhausting and cruel of the child to behave that way, but they do.

Thank you for articulating it. I'm sorry you cannot relax and continue the traditions that meant something to you.

For me, my daughter is older, and I am spending my second Christmas alone. I didn't even get out the Christmas ornaments my daughter made, many of them have her picture on the ornament. It is just too painful to see them at all. It is a hard holiday for parents with kids who self-ID as trans/non-binary whether they are home or not home.

My wish for you (and all parents) is that your child can find the spot inside her that used to love all the things you mentioned. May something pull her back to herself and you. May she reconnect to the goodness and love that remains but that she seems to be trying to disrupt due to her angst. Keep showing her the things that mean most to you. Some part of her may connect to it. If not this year, maybe next year or the year after. Hold the hope as best you can.

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JM's avatar
Dec 23Edited

This beautiful and bitter sweet. It perfectly captures the triggers that the minutiae of this time of year can set off. Every little thing becomes a big controversy. You’re playing ’guess the reaction’ to every decision you make, every present you buy. It’s devastating and exhausting. You see the person they once were, the potential for them to be the adult that you’ve nurtured, but this cancer; this ideology, has turned them into a stranger. Thank you for putting into words what so many of us are going through. I pray that God will rescue all of our children and restore them to us and to themselves.

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