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Claire Frost's avatar

The author asks, "When this stranger moved in, where did our son go?" That's exactly what I wonder about too, I had a wonderful son. And now he is gone, when I look at the unhealthy confused young man I used to know - I think "where did you go? what have you done with my son"? Truly this trans nightmare is our children erasing themselves. It is a suicide with the body still in suspended animation. I miss my son.

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@TullipR / Ritchie's avatar

Great article. Never break contact, even if it means you cant discuss the things you want to. Breaking contact led me to get sucked in deeper, being challenged sucked me in deeper. I ended up convincing my mother i was okay, it was fine, she kept prodding and i kept withdrawing, i went to therapy to learn how to deal with her doubt and 'transphobia'.

Being detached from my family led me down the most destructive path - don't let him break contact and to do that may means at times you've got to let go of believing that your word alone will break this spell.

We are largely autistic, and become very attached to things we believe we need. Abandon the topic until he's ready to bring it to you, in the meantime just ask him whats he been up to, any shows he's watched? Tell him you havent seen anything worth watching, just curious what your into these days.

He'll probably say anime, to which you then just say "oh like Spirited away?" and he'll probably not shut up.

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