Here is our story… In August 2021 we cheerfully prepared for our youngest son to head off to college. His first real time away, just 17 years old, and heading to a great big state university. We bought everything we thought he needed, some things he didn’t, and moved him to his new college and dorm room. We were thrilled for him— crazy brilliant, a bit of a loner, and dead set on studying Nuclear Engineering—college was going to be a great experience for him and we were excited and nervous. We thought: here is his big chance—he’s going to be with his own tribe—the geeky, engineering, goofy, Minecraft-playing, and space-loving kids! Unfortunately, he found, and joined another tribe, one we never anticipated.
God bless you and your family. This issue is terrifying and I pray we somehow find a way to show these confused souls we truly want the best for them, not just what WE think is right. Said a prayer for you all just now.🙏
I'm sorry for what you are going through. And it probably doesn't help, but you have a lot of company. Change a few details and this is the story of our child’s experience in college with ROGD. Facing anxiety and depression, she discovered her trans “identity” after a new friend suggested her problem was that she wasn’t female after all. After three visits with University Healthcare, she started T. According to the University doctors, someone is trans if they think they are”. All pleas for help or just reconsideration of the treatment plan, were dismissed out of hand. Her advisors, the dean of students and the president, dean of student washed their hands of us. That was three years ago.
If this nurse is encouraging the students to call her doctor, then she is pretending to be a doctor when she isn't. That's illegal and unethical. That should be grounds for a nursing board complaint.
Muchisismas gracias por contarnos, estoy pasando por este desagradable momento con mi hija de 12 años, la vida nos cambio, hasta ayer le prohibimos hablar con alguien en línea que es trans, y le da instrucciones de cómo convertirse , esta situación nos tiene muy mal, pero también somos sus terapeuta.
Thank you so much for your story. So praying that your son continues to heal. I think you have done a wonderful job with protecting your beloved son, and he will thank you someday, I feel. My grandson was 17 when he decided he was trans. Again, a brilliant and talented young person who spent his time gaming and writing poetry that made me cry. What else he did on the computer, I can only speculate, as I have now seen some of the brainwashing that is there. He had been diagnosed as autistic in another country while he was separated from us. We had suspected his ex-stepfather of abusing him, especially when it came out the stepfather had been addicted to porn and had actually shared it with "Buddy" as a younger child. My husband, his grandfather, was fighting terminal cancer, and I am unclear when our "Buddy" started hormones. We were horrified and mystified when it became apparent what was happening. His parents had been separated for years, and his mother had married once again. After my husband passed away, I was deep in grief and frankly do not remember much of what was going on. I only saw "Buddy" infrequently, through the years, as our family disintegrated more and more around Papa's death, financial and other issues. But God help me, I even sent him women's clothing for his birthday. Last year I could not even send him a card, somehow, I just could not address the card to my "Granddaughter". When I think of him and pray for him, I see that little boy who loved trains and Nerf guns.
I have come up with an idea. What if we kept a list of schools that gave children these terrible medications and publicized it? Schools are TERRIFIED of bad publicity these days.
This essay is confirmation. We started our oldest's college search a year ago with a plan to find a "purple" school" (neither lib or con) and are ending up with a very conservative college in Florida. You all were my inspiration. Whenever I thought I was being too reactive, too biased, another post from PITT would remind me of the danger in letting a little woke slide here and there. When the "science university," our first choice, let a little science slip to make room for GI, we turned our backs on a generous scholarship. A lot of folks are going to ask why the school in FL? I'll refer them to PITT.
You did right. So glad you trusted your instincts to go straight to your son and TALK with him.
The behavioral health and evolutionary psychology literature that came out before the Trans Moment had for decades, in study after study, emphasized just that very thing--talking with kids--as the single most important characteristic of good parenting.
That observation was no fad, for it stood on the shoulders of hundreds of thousands of years of unique human evolution, as the only species that talks its young through the stages of development.
For-profit ideologues are trying to undo evolution, logic, and the framework of reality. They will fail, and deservedly so. And, as long as colleges give them the bully pulpit, colleges deserve to fail as well. Let them crumble, and we will rebuild something true in their place.
Best of luck with your son. I know from experience that it's hard to ever sleep with both eyes closed again, but you've got him on the path to healing. He's lucky to have you.
I would also consider NOT paying for next year for the son. Get him a job on a farm or as a laborer. I worked for a year between soph and junior years in a factory. Best decision I ever made. Get him OUT of the university environment. That's the one thing which has been shown to be effective - removing the child from the toxic environment.
I would file a report with the Student Health Service about this incompetent NP. Make sure that you document all this shit she has done. You may wish to speak to a lawyer. And the Planned Parenthood connection is infuriating. We have contributed a lot of money to Planned Parenthood over the years, and now they are destroying children with the malpractice and butchery.
Well done trusting your gut. College can be really toxic right now. High school, too. This really is a cult that has taken over our institutions and it is so scary. My daughter is much like your son. I'm hoping for the best for your family. Also, this whole cult ideology capture of our society must end.
What this movement has brought to crystal clarity for me is how our culture developed in such a way to fray the bonds between parent and child. We're wired for this bond--it makes perfect sense from an evolution standpoint. With that bond comes intuition--I'm so glad the author was able to listen to hers! Please do not let anyone tell you you are not the eminent expert on your child.
I call myself a recovering teacher, and I'm so grateful for the aversion being in education gave me when it comes to the prescribed pathway that insists college is the only way to success. I'm carefully discouraging my children from this pathway. Their most vulnerable years are early adulthood when they've reached the age of consent but still have underdeveloped pre-frontal cortices. Our captured academic institutions seem to be the most dangerous places for our quirky, sensitive teens who are so vulnerable to this ideology. I am so incredibly grateful we had a few years of influence on our underage daughter after discovering her trans-ID. She turns 18 in a few months... (crossing my fingers we've done enough; emotionally preparing myself for the worst)
God bless you and your family. This issue is terrifying and I pray we somehow find a way to show these confused souls we truly want the best for them, not just what WE think is right. Said a prayer for you all just now.🙏
Thank you for sharing and wishing you all the very best in your difficult journey
I'm sorry for what you are going through. And it probably doesn't help, but you have a lot of company. Change a few details and this is the story of our child’s experience in college with ROGD. Facing anxiety and depression, she discovered her trans “identity” after a new friend suggested her problem was that she wasn’t female after all. After three visits with University Healthcare, she started T. According to the University doctors, someone is trans if they think they are”. All pleas for help or just reconsideration of the treatment plan, were dismissed out of hand. Her advisors, the dean of students and the president, dean of student washed their hands of us. That was three years ago.
If this nurse is encouraging the students to call her doctor, then she is pretending to be a doctor when she isn't. That's illegal and unethical. That should be grounds for a nursing board complaint.
https://www.ncsbn.org/filing-a-complaint.htm
Muchisismas gracias por contarnos, estoy pasando por este desagradable momento con mi hija de 12 años, la vida nos cambio, hasta ayer le prohibimos hablar con alguien en línea que es trans, y le da instrucciones de cómo convertirse , esta situación nos tiene muy mal, pero también somos sus terapeuta.
Ty for sharing your story. Good for you for trying to ssve your son from this and being brave enough to make tough decisions to do it.
I agree. Colleges are no place for kids...any of them really. They're after our children.
Thank you so much for your story. So praying that your son continues to heal. I think you have done a wonderful job with protecting your beloved son, and he will thank you someday, I feel. My grandson was 17 when he decided he was trans. Again, a brilliant and talented young person who spent his time gaming and writing poetry that made me cry. What else he did on the computer, I can only speculate, as I have now seen some of the brainwashing that is there. He had been diagnosed as autistic in another country while he was separated from us. We had suspected his ex-stepfather of abusing him, especially when it came out the stepfather had been addicted to porn and had actually shared it with "Buddy" as a younger child. My husband, his grandfather, was fighting terminal cancer, and I am unclear when our "Buddy" started hormones. We were horrified and mystified when it became apparent what was happening. His parents had been separated for years, and his mother had married once again. After my husband passed away, I was deep in grief and frankly do not remember much of what was going on. I only saw "Buddy" infrequently, through the years, as our family disintegrated more and more around Papa's death, financial and other issues. But God help me, I even sent him women's clothing for his birthday. Last year I could not even send him a card, somehow, I just could not address the card to my "Granddaughter". When I think of him and pray for him, I see that little boy who loved trains and Nerf guns.
I have come up with an idea. What if we kept a list of schools that gave children these terrible medications and publicized it? Schools are TERRIFIED of bad publicity these days.
Sounds like a very good idea.
Definitely should happen.
This essay is confirmation. We started our oldest's college search a year ago with a plan to find a "purple" school" (neither lib or con) and are ending up with a very conservative college in Florida. You all were my inspiration. Whenever I thought I was being too reactive, too biased, another post from PITT would remind me of the danger in letting a little woke slide here and there. When the "science university," our first choice, let a little science slip to make room for GI, we turned our backs on a generous scholarship. A lot of folks are going to ask why the school in FL? I'll refer them to PITT.
Inspirational. You are right. We need to be bold to protect our children from the gender ideology.
You did right. So glad you trusted your instincts to go straight to your son and TALK with him.
The behavioral health and evolutionary psychology literature that came out before the Trans Moment had for decades, in study after study, emphasized just that very thing--talking with kids--as the single most important characteristic of good parenting.
That observation was no fad, for it stood on the shoulders of hundreds of thousands of years of unique human evolution, as the only species that talks its young through the stages of development.
For-profit ideologues are trying to undo evolution, logic, and the framework of reality. They will fail, and deservedly so. And, as long as colleges give them the bully pulpit, colleges deserve to fail as well. Let them crumble, and we will rebuild something true in their place.
Best of luck with your son. I know from experience that it's hard to ever sleep with both eyes closed again, but you've got him on the path to healing. He's lucky to have you.
As someone has already said "what a nightmare". So glad that you had the courage to show 'tough love'.
Sendin a' best wishes to you and hyour family from Scotland.🏴
I would also consider NOT paying for next year for the son. Get him a job on a farm or as a laborer. I worked for a year between soph and junior years in a factory. Best decision I ever made. Get him OUT of the university environment. That's the one thing which has been shown to be effective - removing the child from the toxic environment.
I would file a report with the Student Health Service about this incompetent NP. Make sure that you document all this shit she has done. You may wish to speak to a lawyer. And the Planned Parenthood connection is infuriating. We have contributed a lot of money to Planned Parenthood over the years, and now they are destroying children with the malpractice and butchery.
I mean....its always been butchery...literally. They murder babies for a living.
Well done trusting your gut. College can be really toxic right now. High school, too. This really is a cult that has taken over our institutions and it is so scary. My daughter is much like your son. I'm hoping for the best for your family. Also, this whole cult ideology capture of our society must end.
What this movement has brought to crystal clarity for me is how our culture developed in such a way to fray the bonds between parent and child. We're wired for this bond--it makes perfect sense from an evolution standpoint. With that bond comes intuition--I'm so glad the author was able to listen to hers! Please do not let anyone tell you you are not the eminent expert on your child.
I call myself a recovering teacher, and I'm so grateful for the aversion being in education gave me when it comes to the prescribed pathway that insists college is the only way to success. I'm carefully discouraging my children from this pathway. Their most vulnerable years are early adulthood when they've reached the age of consent but still have underdeveloped pre-frontal cortices. Our captured academic institutions seem to be the most dangerous places for our quirky, sensitive teens who are so vulnerable to this ideology. I am so incredibly grateful we had a few years of influence on our underage daughter after discovering her trans-ID. She turns 18 in a few months... (crossing my fingers we've done enough; emotionally preparing myself for the worst)