I can’t believe my daughter’s words. She says to wants to be set free from loathing self, from evil lies that whisper cross-sex hormone dreams. Perhaps God made her as she is. The veil is lifting from her eyes. She’ll find her true identity. Her laughter, once again, will shine. I’m overwhelmed.
As a society, we need an off-ramp for all the young people who have gone down this medicalized route. (They are also encouraged to cut off family that disagrees.)
I am afraid you cannot fight one imagination with another one. Of course God is good and everything, but that has meaning for you and those who share in this belief. You see, your daughter apparently believes different things. Try to find a shared ground beyond ideas of right doing and wrong doing. There is a field. (Rumi)
Beautiful. Lately I been listening to the Greg Allman song, "Bring it on back" and always think of our daughter. I would love to have her back in our lives.
Mark, My "non-binary" daughter has consulted with a mutilation surgeon twice over the last two years. She had pre-surgery bloodwork and the appointment was set for last year (unbeknownst to me until I found a paper receipt crumpled up in her room. In July 2025, I got a text about her upcoming "surgery" appointment. My number was still listed in her medical file. I was furious at her psychiatrist, family doc and this nutcase of a surgeon. And terrified. She is 22 and lives at home. Two nights before this was supposed to take place, I spoke to her about my reservations.
(I have questioned her belief system before and tried to get her to open up about what she thinks a woman is. At one point she told me, "a woman is whatever I think it is in my mind." Oh boy, where to start. This was the most she has ever offered on this topic.)
After sharing my misgivings with her, she was, as usual, angry with me. She said little. For some reason, she did not go to her appointment that week, just didn't show up for the scheduled butchery. I did mention something non-specific to her later that month and asked if she's planning to go through with this. I told her I need to know if she's living under our roof. She responded, "Not now." As in I'm not going through with this now. I am still waiting for this to rear its head again. The anxiety in the pit of my gut never leaves.
If you can, tell your daughter what you think. Ask her to define what she thinks a woman/man is. Try to get specifics out of her. Tell her you don't agree with her decision. That she is harming her body. Google the surgical harms of a double mastectomy. I have a couple of articles somewhere and can't find them at the moment. - (that figures). I don't think my daughter is finished with this lie. Maybe your daughter will listen to something you say to her. I feel your pain.
We will do that. I have a feeling, based on past conversations, that it will lead nowhere and she will get angry, but at least she will know where we stand.
It’s so messed up. Prayers for all of us that our kids would see the truth ❤️
I'm so sorry. I will add my prayers for your daughter, that the lies may be exposed to her, and that she may rediscover and reconnect with her best self, as God made her to be, and find peace there. Prayers for you too!
I’m so sorry. I found out last August that my estranged mentally struggling son had been preyed on by surgeons, im still reeling. I hope for a miracle that your daughter
Thank God, I think our daughter is on her way out of this demonic phase. She began wearing more jewelry she created and isn't trying to pass for a guy or use the men's restroom anymore. It's a relief. I think her recent autism diagnosis helped. She learned that there could be a different reason she feels out of place.
🙏 This sounds really positive. I pray your daughter is finding her way back to reality ❤️ It truly is a demonic phase, this ideology is bigger than any of us. My 20yo niece has been swept up in it too, but thank god she also seems to be quietly developing a stronger sense of self, despite several friends are pursuing “transition”.
Book suggestion: "Jennifer Bilek, title: "Transgender, Transexual, Transhumanism"....
I actually ordered a copy through my local book store. Bilek explains the global-scale psy-op pushing the "trans" agenda. It's all to usher in TECHNOCRACY & TRANSHUMANISM.
Also, Patrick Wood writes at "Technocracy news", and has a daily email you can sign up for.
Understanding BOTH technocracy & transhumanism better, will help you talk to your daughter better, and help you help more people. May God bless you!....
Jennifer Bilek and GenSpec have some kind of "beef". I think they are both talking about important aspects. Could the issue be "true trans"? GenSpec believes that exists, and Jennifer doesn't? That hurts, we should be united against the monster. There should be room for debate on the gender critical side.
Good-faith interactions and debates between people who believe in true trans, vs. people who don’t, should indeed be possible. Plus if we want true trans believers to change their minds, that is of course the only way they can possibly be reached. I think we would do well to remember that many true trans believers have good intentions. Plus that some are still going through the process of figuring this stuff out. Many people who eventually come to reject the WHOLE idea of “trans”, altogether, do indeed have to go through a trutrans stage at first. So speaking as someone who’s vehemently opposed to the idea of true trans, and who in SOME ways despises it even more than all-out “tucute” / “it is ALL valid” gender ideology..? I just wanted to take a moment to also recognize that. And to say that, if sincere believers in “true trans” at times find hardline Ultra TERFs like me to be really rabid, “extreme” and obnoxious? I get that many of them, (you?), mean well. And that it is bound to take TIME to fully deprogram from this EXTREMELY culturally ingrained belief system. Been there, done that.
Although personally, I don’t see trutransers as being on the same side as me, whatsoever. To me, that would be like an anti pedophile activist being encouraged to accept people that are fine with CSA happening on rare occasions, or only to SOME children, or somewhat OLDER children, (plus think that some of those children can consent, and that it is not ALWAYS abuse), but who think it currently happens unacceptably OFTEN, as allies. Or like vegans who have a DEEP ethical conviction that killing a sentient animal is always FUNDAMENTALLY morally wrong, being forced to accept lazy occasional vegetarians or pescatarians as allies. We do not share the same moral convictions, we do not want the same world, and trutransers still hold to residual elements of an EXTREMELY evil and despicable religion, that I personally find it incredibly important to REJECT, wholesale. If the trutransers eventually ditch their residual acceptance of gender ideology, we may become allies then. But as for now, we are not. To me, the allowance of “some people are truly TRANS” / “we are going to make EXCEPTIONS for just a few of the people we arbitrarily like and sympathize with” is like trying to put out a fire in a burning building, but still leaving a TINY little flame there, that you thought was harmless, and felt sorry for. (Never mind that if it’s not ALL put out, the fire will spread, again, and predictably wreak destruction, again.) Or like taking only HALF of a prescribed course of antibiotics against a bacterial infection, with the result that the infection will blossom back up again. That is the nature of the phenomenon that is gender ideology, too. We’ve already seen it happen once! It started with: “we will just pretend, and tell a few tiny lies, to be nice”, and just look at where we are now. Plus additionally, “true trans” is also extremely hypocritical, and unjustified by facts / evidence! Who is determined to fit the bill is more or less completely arbitrary! Okay, if you have “dysphoria”, and you medicalize, and you still currently cling to trans ideology. Which.. so bloody WHAT?? Droves of people have felt GENUINE discomfort with their sex for all their lives, for varied different reasons, then medicalized. Yet eventually still come to see that this belief system is a complete and utter LIE, that only harmed them, and rejected it. Which, what makes those detransitioners any less “true trans” than other people like them that are STILL hanging on to the belief system, and their fake “identities”? Their beliefs, and how honest they’ve been able to be with themselves, ONLY. Plus there is no brain scanner that you can put people through, or any biometric tests that you can run, to figure out if they’re supposedly the very special and elusive “true trans”. It simply does not exist, because “trans” is nothing but a strongly held BELIEF, that alters people’s self-perception! Or a culturally created CONSTRUCT, that they internalize, that then possesses them, increases their obsessive self-loathing, and drives them nuts! Some eventually wake up, while others never do. Just like it is with other cults, too. And absolutely NO ONE that is arbitrarily deemed to be “true trans” by the trutrans believers have actually changed sex, in the slightest. It is all equally fake, harmful, and defective, in EVERY single case. It is a lie, period, end of story. And being willing to lie for the sake of SOME dedicated “trans” believers’ feelings not only harms them, and further entrenches this lie / delusion in them, on a personal level, but it also further spreads and validates this ideological poison in society!! Every single time you call a man “she”, or a woman “he”, or speak as if “trans” or “gender identity” is real, you gaslight yourself, and you are complicit in warping the perceptions of other people, and helping to further spread this poison, that you claim to be against. (Not YOU, as in the second person “you”. The GENERAL “you”. You may not even believe in true trans, yourself. I don’t know. I just felt like writing about this, because always holding the line is something I feel really passionate about.)
This is why I can never ever see the trutransers as being on the same side as me. We are not!!! I want ALL of the poison to be gone, and eradicated from society. (With the exception of a rare few nutty believers, that no one takes seriously. Sort of like what is currently the case with Scientologists. Because I do recognize that some people will ALWAYS keep believing in this, no matter what you tell them. As they are far too invested in it to turn back now. Again, like what happens with members of other cults or dysfunctional religions as well. Some people have it in them to eventually leave, and change their minds. While others don’t. But that does not make the latter group any more “true trans” than the former, and absolutely NONE of them should have their regressive, dangerous delusions validated and accommodated by society.) While the trutransers want the poison to stick around, to at least a certain extent, plus they refuse to realize that if we allow that, it will just keep SPREADING, like fire! As that is the nature of the thing! Or just how arbitrary and MADDENINGLY and insanely hypocritical their views are!! Which also drives me off the wall.
There you go. There’s my hardline / Ultra TERF perspective on this. I did not always think this way. It took me quite a few years to fully get here, and realize it. (Actually, I used to be a fully brainwashed believing gendie, for more than a decade, before I started questioning the belief system! But that is a different story. Although it absolutely has impacted my views, in the sense of: that is why I understand the aforementioned nature of the TRA worldview, and why it cannot be contained, as I do.) I just keep hoping that more people, that are currently still in the stages of deprogramming from it all, will eventually get there, too.
Thanks for your reply. I have a different view. I look at it the democratic way. True trans, GenSpec, Bilek, you and me, we agree on most points and disagree on some points, but that shouldn’t stop us from being allies in this enormous fight, this David versus Goliah fight to save our sons and daughters, step by step until the dam breaks.
Amen.
Beautifully written. Bring them all home.
Amen
Well done, loved this one
I'm so sorry.
As a society, we need an off-ramp for all the young people who have gone down this medicalized route. (They are also encouraged to cut off family that disagrees.)
🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I am afraid you cannot fight one imagination with another one. Of course God is good and everything, but that has meaning for you and those who share in this belief. You see, your daughter apparently believes different things. Try to find a shared ground beyond ideas of right doing and wrong doing. There is a field. (Rumi)
Amen!
🙏💔
Thank you for composing this - it is the continual prayer of my heart for my daughter. ❤️
💜🙏💜
Beautiful. Lately I been listening to the Greg Allman song, "Bring it on back" and always think of our daughter. I would love to have her back in our lives.
Great comment.
This hits hard, especially because in the last week we’ve learned our daughter is pursuing a double-mastectomy.
Please, God, show her Your truth, and save her from the wretched lie.
Mark, My "non-binary" daughter has consulted with a mutilation surgeon twice over the last two years. She had pre-surgery bloodwork and the appointment was set for last year (unbeknownst to me until I found a paper receipt crumpled up in her room. In July 2025, I got a text about her upcoming "surgery" appointment. My number was still listed in her medical file. I was furious at her psychiatrist, family doc and this nutcase of a surgeon. And terrified. She is 22 and lives at home. Two nights before this was supposed to take place, I spoke to her about my reservations.
(I have questioned her belief system before and tried to get her to open up about what she thinks a woman is. At one point she told me, "a woman is whatever I think it is in my mind." Oh boy, where to start. This was the most she has ever offered on this topic.)
After sharing my misgivings with her, she was, as usual, angry with me. She said little. For some reason, she did not go to her appointment that week, just didn't show up for the scheduled butchery. I did mention something non-specific to her later that month and asked if she's planning to go through with this. I told her I need to know if she's living under our roof. She responded, "Not now." As in I'm not going through with this now. I am still waiting for this to rear its head again. The anxiety in the pit of my gut never leaves.
If you can, tell your daughter what you think. Ask her to define what she thinks a woman/man is. Try to get specifics out of her. Tell her you don't agree with her decision. That she is harming her body. Google the surgical harms of a double mastectomy. I have a couple of articles somewhere and can't find them at the moment. - (that figures). I don't think my daughter is finished with this lie. Maybe your daughter will listen to something you say to her. I feel your pain.
We will do that. I have a feeling, based on past conversations, that it will lead nowhere and she will get angry, but at least she will know where we stand.
It’s so messed up. Prayers for all of us that our kids would see the truth ❤️
Oh Mark. I'm so sorry that the lie has taken her this far down this wretched path. I pray that she will see the light before surgery.
So very sorry Mark 😥😥😥😥😥 please God, thwart her plans!!!!! And rescue her 🩵🩵🩵🩵🩵
I'm so sorry.
I'm so sorry. I will add my prayers for your daughter, that the lies may be exposed to her, and that she may rediscover and reconnect with her best self, as God made her to be, and find peace there. Prayers for you too!
Thank you so much. Her name is Linnea. (She hates her name.)
Linnea is a beautiful name!
I’m so sorry. I found out last August that my estranged mentally struggling son had been preyed on by surgeons, im still reeling. I hope for a miracle that your daughter
I'm so sorry, Hayley. You have found a safe place to share your deep sense of loss and grief. Praying for your family and especially your son.
Thank you Joy🫂
Sorry I’m typing on my phn… i wanted to say I pray your daughter doesn’t go through with the surgery.
Thank God, I think our daughter is on her way out of this demonic phase. She began wearing more jewelry she created and isn't trying to pass for a guy or use the men's restroom anymore. It's a relief. I think her recent autism diagnosis helped. She learned that there could be a different reason she feels out of place.
🙏 This sounds really positive. I pray your daughter is finding her way back to reality ❤️ It truly is a demonic phase, this ideology is bigger than any of us. My 20yo niece has been swept up in it too, but thank god she also seems to be quietly developing a stronger sense of self, despite several friends are pursuing “transition”.
Book suggestion: "Jennifer Bilek, title: "Transgender, Transexual, Transhumanism"....
I actually ordered a copy through my local book store. Bilek explains the global-scale psy-op pushing the "trans" agenda. It's all to usher in TECHNOCRACY & TRANSHUMANISM.
Also, Patrick Wood writes at "Technocracy news", and has a daily email you can sign up for.
Understanding BOTH technocracy & transhumanism better, will help you talk to your daughter better, and help you help more people. May God bless you!....
I like your characterization of a global-scale psy-op. So true.
Jennifer Bilek and GenSpec have some kind of "beef". I think they are both talking about important aspects. Could the issue be "true trans"? GenSpec believes that exists, and Jennifer doesn't? That hurts, we should be united against the monster. There should be room for debate on the gender critical side.
Good-faith interactions and debates between people who believe in true trans, vs. people who don’t, should indeed be possible. Plus if we want true trans believers to change their minds, that is of course the only way they can possibly be reached. I think we would do well to remember that many true trans believers have good intentions. Plus that some are still going through the process of figuring this stuff out. Many people who eventually come to reject the WHOLE idea of “trans”, altogether, do indeed have to go through a trutrans stage at first. So speaking as someone who’s vehemently opposed to the idea of true trans, and who in SOME ways despises it even more than all-out “tucute” / “it is ALL valid” gender ideology..? I just wanted to take a moment to also recognize that. And to say that, if sincere believers in “true trans” at times find hardline Ultra TERFs like me to be really rabid, “extreme” and obnoxious? I get that many of them, (you?), mean well. And that it is bound to take TIME to fully deprogram from this EXTREMELY culturally ingrained belief system. Been there, done that.
Although personally, I don’t see trutransers as being on the same side as me, whatsoever. To me, that would be like an anti pedophile activist being encouraged to accept people that are fine with CSA happening on rare occasions, or only to SOME children, or somewhat OLDER children, (plus think that some of those children can consent, and that it is not ALWAYS abuse), but who think it currently happens unacceptably OFTEN, as allies. Or like vegans who have a DEEP ethical conviction that killing a sentient animal is always FUNDAMENTALLY morally wrong, being forced to accept lazy occasional vegetarians or pescatarians as allies. We do not share the same moral convictions, we do not want the same world, and trutransers still hold to residual elements of an EXTREMELY evil and despicable religion, that I personally find it incredibly important to REJECT, wholesale. If the trutransers eventually ditch their residual acceptance of gender ideology, we may become allies then. But as for now, we are not. To me, the allowance of “some people are truly TRANS” / “we are going to make EXCEPTIONS for just a few of the people we arbitrarily like and sympathize with” is like trying to put out a fire in a burning building, but still leaving a TINY little flame there, that you thought was harmless, and felt sorry for. (Never mind that if it’s not ALL put out, the fire will spread, again, and predictably wreak destruction, again.) Or like taking only HALF of a prescribed course of antibiotics against a bacterial infection, with the result that the infection will blossom back up again. That is the nature of the phenomenon that is gender ideology, too. We’ve already seen it happen once! It started with: “we will just pretend, and tell a few tiny lies, to be nice”, and just look at where we are now. Plus additionally, “true trans” is also extremely hypocritical, and unjustified by facts / evidence! Who is determined to fit the bill is more or less completely arbitrary! Okay, if you have “dysphoria”, and you medicalize, and you still currently cling to trans ideology. Which.. so bloody WHAT?? Droves of people have felt GENUINE discomfort with their sex for all their lives, for varied different reasons, then medicalized. Yet eventually still come to see that this belief system is a complete and utter LIE, that only harmed them, and rejected it. Which, what makes those detransitioners any less “true trans” than other people like them that are STILL hanging on to the belief system, and their fake “identities”? Their beliefs, and how honest they’ve been able to be with themselves, ONLY. Plus there is no brain scanner that you can put people through, or any biometric tests that you can run, to figure out if they’re supposedly the very special and elusive “true trans”. It simply does not exist, because “trans” is nothing but a strongly held BELIEF, that alters people’s self-perception! Or a culturally created CONSTRUCT, that they internalize, that then possesses them, increases their obsessive self-loathing, and drives them nuts! Some eventually wake up, while others never do. Just like it is with other cults, too. And absolutely NO ONE that is arbitrarily deemed to be “true trans” by the trutrans believers have actually changed sex, in the slightest. It is all equally fake, harmful, and defective, in EVERY single case. It is a lie, period, end of story. And being willing to lie for the sake of SOME dedicated “trans” believers’ feelings not only harms them, and further entrenches this lie / delusion in them, on a personal level, but it also further spreads and validates this ideological poison in society!! Every single time you call a man “she”, or a woman “he”, or speak as if “trans” or “gender identity” is real, you gaslight yourself, and you are complicit in warping the perceptions of other people, and helping to further spread this poison, that you claim to be against. (Not YOU, as in the second person “you”. The GENERAL “you”. You may not even believe in true trans, yourself. I don’t know. I just felt like writing about this, because always holding the line is something I feel really passionate about.)
This is why I can never ever see the trutransers as being on the same side as me. We are not!!! I want ALL of the poison to be gone, and eradicated from society. (With the exception of a rare few nutty believers, that no one takes seriously. Sort of like what is currently the case with Scientologists. Because I do recognize that some people will ALWAYS keep believing in this, no matter what you tell them. As they are far too invested in it to turn back now. Again, like what happens with members of other cults or dysfunctional religions as well. Some people have it in them to eventually leave, and change their minds. While others don’t. But that does not make the latter group any more “true trans” than the former, and absolutely NONE of them should have their regressive, dangerous delusions validated and accommodated by society.) While the trutransers want the poison to stick around, to at least a certain extent, plus they refuse to realize that if we allow that, it will just keep SPREADING, like fire! As that is the nature of the thing! Or just how arbitrary and MADDENINGLY and insanely hypocritical their views are!! Which also drives me off the wall.
There you go. There’s my hardline / Ultra TERF perspective on this. I did not always think this way. It took me quite a few years to fully get here, and realize it. (Actually, I used to be a fully brainwashed believing gendie, for more than a decade, before I started questioning the belief system! But that is a different story. Although it absolutely has impacted my views, in the sense of: that is why I understand the aforementioned nature of the TRA worldview, and why it cannot be contained, as I do.) I just keep hoping that more people, that are currently still in the stages of deprogramming from it all, will eventually get there, too.
Thanks for your reply. I have a different view. I look at it the democratic way. True trans, GenSpec, Bilek, you and me, we agree on most points and disagree on some points, but that shouldn’t stop us from being allies in this enormous fight, this David versus Goliah fight to save our sons and daughters, step by step until the dam breaks.