I have no gift to give you this year. For the first time in 14 years I am not making a giant fuss, in fact, I am doing very little in way of celebrating what once was your favorite holiday. Usually by December 1st we are picking out the best possible tree and you would be dragging out the box of decorations. You preferred to do much of the decorating on your own because you are very particular about the placement of things. There is a method and only you could pull it off, or so you believed.
Cry about it and grow up, maybe. Your kid doesn't owe you an identity as cis. They are who they are, and you can either accept that or moan about how your family is broken--newsflash, it's broken because of YOU! Because you'd choose your ideology over loving your transgender child. For that, you deserve every bit of heartache you feel.
Sounds like those were less friends than fiends... I'm reading another autistic girl being preyed upon by a predatory cult that makes Westboro look "tolerant."
Sometimes, especially of lately, I think of giving in. Go be a boy if you want to. Go ruin your life. The adversity is yours in the making. This will be the REAL TRUE victimization that you cry about now. Whatever. I want MY joy back. I never want to even utter or think the word trans again. You'll have to live with your Dad because I can't bare to watch. I'll have to defund you because I refuse a cent of my hard earned income to go to this ridiculous delusion. But if this is worth destroying your body, your relationships, your future and if you're so God damn smart, then go right ahead, be a boy!
And then I read parents comments and see their undying stand against this disgusting pathetic life ruining cult, and I would rather die then give in and let go of my precious captured innocent daughter. I WILL FIGHT TO MY DEATH AGAINST TRANS IDEOLOGY. And I will do so with an army of moms and dads by my side. Please dear Universe, give us the strength of warriors and the hearts of giants. 💪🙏🤍
My daughter desisted. Her joy IS back. And so is mine, thanks for caring. She finally matured and realized the lies she had absorbed via TRAs social contagion and predatory tactics. She no longer says she is a boy or trans. As a matter of fact, shes quite embarrassed by it all. So maybe another, Idk.. reasonable option, is to sit back and wait for all these thousands of 'trans' children to mature. Unfortunately, some will have their bodies still in tact and some will have to live with their mutilated bodies for the rest of their lives. When all they really wanted was attention, acceptance and belonging. So very adolescent of them. Or perhaps they are crying for help for their mental instabilities and comorbidities. But thank goodness there's all the wonderful thoughtful kind caring people like you who support the biggest lie of their lives. Will you be there as they desist or detrans and have to live with the lies they've been told and the destruction they were pushed in to? The lies forced upon us all by good kind folks like yourself. All you perfect people who NEVER made bad decisions in your teenage or young adult years.
Please never have children. You are brainwashed and weak.
It's Christmas, and I want to send a hug to all the other grieving parents who are without their children today and don't know when or if they will ever be reunited. This community is a lifesaver. Thank you for being my family over the past year.
Heartbreaking but beautifully written. You’re doing the right thing, sticking to the value of reality and of not colluding with harm. I feel for you and hope you have support.
My heart breaks for you my fellow mother and I am in tears reading your Christmas letter. I pray that one day soon your beautiful daughter returns back to you as your beautiful daughter.
I am so moved by your letter of grief and sadness. Life is empty without the love and happiness of our children. Stay strong. Don’t allow the hormone treatment. She will thank you one day.
Perhaps hearing Sinead Watson’s story of detransitioning will give you strength now when you miss your child so much and need it the most. Sinead put her family through hell. Now she speaks eloquently on the dangers of trans ideology and condemns hormone treatment.
So many broken hearts, ruined families, and girls fooled, deceived, and dragged by internet 'friends' and teachers into believing in a fantasy that destroys their future lives. And doctors who are supposed to provide help instead use these girls as money-generating guinea pigs without thinking about what would happen to them when they grow up and realizing what has been done to them.
I'm glad for you and your daughter that she is too young yet to make medical decisions by herself. Hopefully, by the time she is an adult woman, this insanity will be over. In the meantime, stay strong and don't give up on your girl. She will thank you later for providing her the love and support that she needs, not the 'affirmation' she wants now but will regret in a few years.
Dear Mother, so your Gift this year is Patience and Endurance. You know that children have to grow up and find their own ways, but this child is your child. She seems very peculiar.
I cannot say anything about her, but it popped into my crazy mind that maybe this year, you are going to give yourself gifts. One of them would be freedom. When I think about this, I imagine you living in your own house or apartment. A place where you can do as you please, because you are a grownup. What if you were to walk around in very feminine clothes or just run around naked, as if you were celebrating your womanhood. I have no idea what that means to you, but as a woman, you know.
This time it is alright to be weird, to be embarrassing, even if it is just by little things, like lightning a candle for all women, for life and the mystery of creation, for the dark forces hiding in the shadow, so that they too may get the respect they deserve. Be a memorable figure, someone to look up to. Invite some friends, do things your way.
14 is a weird age. The children know that, but they have to go through this. Seduce her not to take pills that kill her beauty. Celebrate men, but be reluctant to idealize them. Maybe this is a very sensitive topic. That is why you should feel sovereign in your own life. This is what it means to be a mother.
Tell her that you love her, but that you firmly reject the ideas that trans-cult is suggesting. There is no such thing as the other side. It is just a game, but she is playing with fire.
It's actually very easy to not be isolated from your trans kid over the holidays. Simply don't be transphobic.
Cry about it and grow up, maybe. Your kid doesn't owe you an identity as cis. They are who they are, and you can either accept that or moan about how your family is broken--newsflash, it's broken because of YOU! Because you'd choose your ideology over loving your transgender child. For that, you deserve every bit of heartache you feel.
Sounds like those were less friends than fiends... I'm reading another autistic girl being preyed upon by a predatory cult that makes Westboro look "tolerant."
Sometimes, especially of lately, I think of giving in. Go be a boy if you want to. Go ruin your life. The adversity is yours in the making. This will be the REAL TRUE victimization that you cry about now. Whatever. I want MY joy back. I never want to even utter or think the word trans again. You'll have to live with your Dad because I can't bare to watch. I'll have to defund you because I refuse a cent of my hard earned income to go to this ridiculous delusion. But if this is worth destroying your body, your relationships, your future and if you're so God damn smart, then go right ahead, be a boy!
And then I read parents comments and see their undying stand against this disgusting pathetic life ruining cult, and I would rather die then give in and let go of my precious captured innocent daughter. I WILL FIGHT TO MY DEATH AGAINST TRANS IDEOLOGY. And I will do so with an army of moms and dads by my side. Please dear Universe, give us the strength of warriors and the hearts of giants. 💪🙏🤍
"I want MY joy back."
What about you kid's joy? You're supposed to live for your child, not the other way around.
Dear Brynn,
My daughter desisted. Her joy IS back. And so is mine, thanks for caring. She finally matured and realized the lies she had absorbed via TRAs social contagion and predatory tactics. She no longer says she is a boy or trans. As a matter of fact, shes quite embarrassed by it all. So maybe another, Idk.. reasonable option, is to sit back and wait for all these thousands of 'trans' children to mature. Unfortunately, some will have their bodies still in tact and some will have to live with their mutilated bodies for the rest of their lives. When all they really wanted was attention, acceptance and belonging. So very adolescent of them. Or perhaps they are crying for help for their mental instabilities and comorbidities. But thank goodness there's all the wonderful thoughtful kind caring people like you who support the biggest lie of their lives. Will you be there as they desist or detrans and have to live with the lies they've been told and the destruction they were pushed in to? The lies forced upon us all by good kind folks like yourself. All you perfect people who NEVER made bad decisions in your teenage or young adult years.
Please never have children. You are brainwashed and weak.
I wish I had your strength! God bless you, you give me hope!
It's Christmas, and I want to send a hug to all the other grieving parents who are without their children today and don't know when or if they will ever be reunited. This community is a lifesaver. Thank you for being my family over the past year.
Beautifully said. I'm there with my son. 🥀
Heartbreaking but beautifully written. You’re doing the right thing, sticking to the value of reality and of not colluding with harm. I feel for you and hope you have support.
Thank you so very much for your comments. I say you are on to the right idea. I'm a church organist, so maybe this year I can focus on church :)
Absolutely heartbreaking 💔
Does anyone know when Generation Affirmation (documentary) is out? I am desperate to peak friends of mine and I think this will do the trick.
Mid January. We will do a post the day it comes out.
Thank you so much. Well done on all your amazing work! ❤️❤️❤️
Never heard of it. Would love to know more
Hey Brielle!
https://youtu.be/5s1pg7UByoU
I am so sorry for your pain. Please know we are all here for you should you need support.
My heart breaks for you my fellow mother and I am in tears reading your Christmas letter. I pray that one day soon your beautiful daughter returns back to you as your beautiful daughter.
I am so moved by your letter of grief and sadness. Life is empty without the love and happiness of our children. Stay strong. Don’t allow the hormone treatment. She will thank you one day.
Perhaps hearing Sinead Watson’s story of detransitioning will give you strength now when you miss your child so much and need it the most. Sinead put her family through hell. Now she speaks eloquently on the dangers of trans ideology and condemns hormone treatment.
you are not alone. We have to hold on to the God, the True and the Beautiful!
So many broken hearts, ruined families, and girls fooled, deceived, and dragged by internet 'friends' and teachers into believing in a fantasy that destroys their future lives. And doctors who are supposed to provide help instead use these girls as money-generating guinea pigs without thinking about what would happen to them when they grow up and realizing what has been done to them.
I'm glad for you and your daughter that she is too young yet to make medical decisions by herself. Hopefully, by the time she is an adult woman, this insanity will be over. In the meantime, stay strong and don't give up on your girl. She will thank you later for providing her the love and support that she needs, not the 'affirmation' she wants now but will regret in a few years.
Dear Mother, so your Gift this year is Patience and Endurance. You know that children have to grow up and find their own ways, but this child is your child. She seems very peculiar.
I cannot say anything about her, but it popped into my crazy mind that maybe this year, you are going to give yourself gifts. One of them would be freedom. When I think about this, I imagine you living in your own house or apartment. A place where you can do as you please, because you are a grownup. What if you were to walk around in very feminine clothes or just run around naked, as if you were celebrating your womanhood. I have no idea what that means to you, but as a woman, you know.
This time it is alright to be weird, to be embarrassing, even if it is just by little things, like lightning a candle for all women, for life and the mystery of creation, for the dark forces hiding in the shadow, so that they too may get the respect they deserve. Be a memorable figure, someone to look up to. Invite some friends, do things your way.
14 is a weird age. The children know that, but they have to go through this. Seduce her not to take pills that kill her beauty. Celebrate men, but be reluctant to idealize them. Maybe this is a very sensitive topic. That is why you should feel sovereign in your own life. This is what it means to be a mother.
Tell her that you love her, but that you firmly reject the ideas that trans-cult is suggesting. There is no such thing as the other side. It is just a game, but she is playing with fire.