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Sweet Pea's avatar

Wow. This essay could have been written by me, right down to the 1.5 hour drive each way to a useful therapist, the sharing of music and philosophy and the binder. My daughter is 15 though, and we're only 3 years in. I DO believe in my daughter. I am devastated by the "do-gooders" who are trying to be supportive in the most misguided of ways. I do also realize that modeling a healthy relationship with my body and life as a woman, as well as healthy self-regulation and co-regulation of emotions and normalizing the ups and downs and challenges of being human in this day and age are the most important ways I can continue to influence and love my daughter as she navigates this crazy journey. I really appreciate these PITT posts because I know I'm not alone. I'm on a healthy path and can feel it in my bones. My heart hurts for our kids and for families who may not have the background and support that I have which have helped me get clear and be able to show up in healthier ways with and for my daughter and myself. Thank you for sharing. As we grow and change, we model for our kids and while they may not show it right now, they are watching and learning from us. May we model grace, compassion, wisdom, kindness and humility while standing strong in our truth in love.

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Erin Brewer's avatar

This is so important, kids need to know they can return home to loving parents. She is a lucky daughter to have such a caring and wise mom.

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