Every child is different. Every parent is different. What works in one situation may not work in another. We know our children best. My husband and I have been careful & patient but also truthful, slow and steady. We keep absolutes. My daughter was 17 when she was groomed by her “counselor.” She is 22 now and not completely out of the gender mindset, but it is so much better. She stopped binding, cutting her hair short and we started calling her by her actual name. That took 5 years! We loose so much as parents in this ideology. 😔 I lost my job of 13 years because I refused to sign anything that promises I’ll use gender language that was popularized by pedophiles. Businesses want the virtue signaling. It makes them feel superior, as if they know more than we do.
This is EXHAUSTING! This is NOT how any of us thought our lives would be. This is the hill I die on.
I agree that complacency in the general populace is a big problem.
However, below is a non-complacent couple who've filed a lawsuit worth following. It is a relatable horrific story out of Oregon. A win could be significant.
"A Christian mom and her husband are fighting back in court after Oregon’s Department of Human Services determined that they caused “mental injury” to her daughter by refusing to “affirm” her transgender identity.
“It has destroyed our lives,” Nicole Calaway, the mother of two daughters who are now estranged because they both claim a transgender identity, told the Daily Signal in an interview Sunday.
Child Protective Services took custody of her then-15-year-old daughter, K.A., on July 18, 2024, one day after Calaway and K.A. terminated the services of K.A.’s therapist, Jennifer Forster. According to court documents, Forster filed the complaint that resulted in K.A.’s removal."...
"The lawsuit accuses Forster of engaging in therapeutic malpractice because she “knew, or in the exercise of reasonable professional care should have known, that so-called ‘gender-affirming care,’ including social transition, is not a proven, safe, or effective treatment for an adolescent girl and is psychologically harmful.”
Now, that is ambitious. I sure hope they win. There are additional claims.
And - "couple seeks compensatory and general damages of at least $5 million, special and economic damages, punitive damages, a declaratory judgment in their favor, attorney’s fees, and an injunction removing them from a child abuse registry or a sex offender registry."
Thank you for providing such great reference information. “Gender identity is a belief, not a truth_” This sentence is so powerful as it describes this cult perfectly! I am shocked that so many people are supporting this gender crisis as “truth” instead of a belief which in truth is all make-believe by pretending and impersonating the opposite sex. I for one, will never buy into it or accept their belief as truth. There needs to be accountability and the “truth” must prevail. I am sad that your friend’s daughter got caught up in this cults snare and has now harmed and scarred her body for life. How could this dad ignore what happened in your family? Very sad. I understand that parents feel helpless and almost just give up. But if parents aren’t going to fight this cult and rescue their children, then who will?
My daughter talked her psychitrist and her therapist, she has C-PTSD and Borderline and the only cause is her terrible mother. How can I help this child?
He’s probably tried it all. He is probably traumatised, in shock and exhausted. How do we fight this cult? I only see two solutions. Either we bring about a financial crisis and bankrupt the enemy or we ta k e u p a r m s. Because nothing we’re doing is working.
It's less complacency for me, instead I am defeated. All I can do is watch the slow destruction of my daughter's physical and mental health, failure to develop into adulthood and disintegration of our relationship. But you are right, people don't get it until it happens to their child. Our friends have completely let us down, preferring virtue signal to retain their middle class status, rather than be a good friend/person.
Hang in there mom! Your daughter is looking to you for love and approval even if she doesn't say so. I find it helpful to remember every time I can have a relatively normal conversation or a hug with my son I am FIGHTING BACK against the hateful, destructive pile of lies he is told - which includes 'your parents don't love you.' I also take a lot of pleasure in annoying the self righteous former friends by regularly and often referring to him as 'him.' I was there, like, at the birth so I feel perfectly entitled to do this. You are the mom - the most beautiful word in any language.
I wouldn’t call what I’m doing complacency. I have an adult son who’s been on hormones for two years. For the first couple of years, I tried everything, thinking I could guide him through this the way I’d guided him through every other part of his life. Then I had an epiphany: this is beyond me. It’s a cultural phenomenon, not something one parent can reason a child out of. So I stopped agitating and now avoid the topic of gender unless it’s forced.
What I do have is leverage — financial, and some emotional, because we instilled real family values, even if he ignores them where I’m concerned. He listens to my husband a bit more, since my husband is wishy-washy and I won’t affirm.
We hold our boundaries: he doesn’t pick up after himself without a prompt, but I keep prompting anyway, because I don’t think letting it go is my duty. He stays connected by showing up to family events. We don’t give handouts, but we encourage him to work, and when he doesn’t have a job, we create paid tasks for him. He won’t learn from us — he needs life to teach him, and he won’t learn anything sitting at home on his devices. So we push him out into the world, and we hope he meets people who steer him toward a healthier path.
That’s not complacency. I like to think of it as strategy.
Thank you for writing this, and thanks to all those who have commented on it. I needed this today. Some days you just feel so alone and sad...Waiting for more lawsuits to play out.
Everything i tried just has made the things worse.
Now Im ashamed to speak about the "trans" daughter openly. Not because she is "trans", not because she is mentally ill, but because she has cut us off, dehumanised us, and rewritten the family history.
I dont want pity, I dont want to define myself only through this situation. I want to ptotect my other childreen.
I throw every single rainbow thing in a garbage bin. But I can not change anything.
I have an adult son who has been on hormones for maybe 4-5 years. I don’t affirm or call him by his other chosen name. I tried at first and then I told him I thought this was nonsense and I’m not buying into it. I told him how hard it is on everybody and that I hate the whole situation. He’s always been into his own world and a relatively selfish person so I’m not sure how much it sunk in. I told him I will always love him because he’s my kid but I’m never going to embrace this identity. We still have a relationship but he lives in a different state so I don’t see him a lot. A pray every day for him to come to his senses. I just wonder if other parents have been able to get through to their kids or do you just wait and hope for the best?
I have long dreamed of creating little pamphlets for any time affirmation pushback is necessary.
On one side would be a diagram of the male body from baby to maturity. The facing page would show the graphic bloody images of real metoidplasties, vaginoplasties etc being performed. On the other side the female body would be shown, baby to adult. The facing page would have real graphic photos of chest masculinzatiom surgeries, arm/thigh scalping, penectomies, etc.
Even after my daughter was groomed online by an AGP and made to think she was a boy cause she likes girls and dislikes make up and feminine clothing, every single one of my friends went along the ‘Oh I don't have to worry about that with….. he/she tells us everything, we know they wouldn't do that” when I tried to warn them of the dangers. Complacency is extremely dangerous. I spend my life. On high alert these days. I'll never be complacent ever again. Sometimes I want to just shake and scream at my friends and family, and shout "If it was your child you would understand!'
Absolutely 💯! Fight. I testified at the July FTC Workshop last year on July 9th. Transgender Ideology is a cult. Through the grace of God I was able to pull my son out of the cult. Of note: we shut down the GAC at Mott Children's Hospital in Ann Arbor among others.
I will always fight to protect children, young people, and families. I am @resettosanity on X (Twitter).
Did these people fail high school biology?
Sex is determined by the gametes of which there are only two.
https://x.com/zaelefty/status/1892474090868384125?t=PBEZ5l1zJJZKBEYBX5YTjw&s=19b
Every child is different. Every parent is different. What works in one situation may not work in another. We know our children best. My husband and I have been careful & patient but also truthful, slow and steady. We keep absolutes. My daughter was 17 when she was groomed by her “counselor.” She is 22 now and not completely out of the gender mindset, but it is so much better. She stopped binding, cutting her hair short and we started calling her by her actual name. That took 5 years! We loose so much as parents in this ideology. 😔 I lost my job of 13 years because I refused to sign anything that promises I’ll use gender language that was popularized by pedophiles. Businesses want the virtue signaling. It makes them feel superior, as if they know more than we do.
This is EXHAUSTING! This is NOT how any of us thought our lives would be. This is the hill I die on.
I agree that complacency in the general populace is a big problem.
However, below is a non-complacent couple who've filed a lawsuit worth following. It is a relatable horrific story out of Oregon. A win could be significant.
Calaway et al v. Forster, LPC et al
https://dockets.justia.com/docket/oregon/ordce/6:2026cv01452/195336
"A Christian mom and her husband are fighting back in court after Oregon’s Department of Human Services determined that they caused “mental injury” to her daughter by refusing to “affirm” her transgender identity.
“It has destroyed our lives,” Nicole Calaway, the mother of two daughters who are now estranged because they both claim a transgender identity, told the Daily Signal in an interview Sunday.
Child Protective Services took custody of her then-15-year-old daughter, K.A., on July 18, 2024, one day after Calaway and K.A. terminated the services of K.A.’s therapist, Jennifer Forster. According to court documents, Forster filed the complaint that resulted in K.A.’s removal."...
"The lawsuit accuses Forster of engaging in therapeutic malpractice because she “knew, or in the exercise of reasonable professional care should have known, that so-called ‘gender-affirming care,’ including social transition, is not a proven, safe, or effective treatment for an adolescent girl and is psychologically harmful.”
Now, that is ambitious. I sure hope they win. There are additional claims.
And - "couple seeks compensatory and general damages of at least $5 million, special and economic damages, punitive damages, a declaratory judgment in their favor, attorney’s fees, and an injunction removing them from a child abuse registry or a sex offender registry."
https://www.dailysignal.com/2026/07/30/it-has-destroyed-our-lives-christian-parents-sue-over-accusation-they-caused-mental-injury-for-refusing-affirm-daughters-transgender-identity/
“This is just what this generation is doing,” he said.
I don't remember previous generations cutting off body parts!
My favorite quote is, "boys cannot be girls, and girls cannot be boys." Source unknown.
Thank you for providing such great reference information. “Gender identity is a belief, not a truth_” This sentence is so powerful as it describes this cult perfectly! I am shocked that so many people are supporting this gender crisis as “truth” instead of a belief which in truth is all make-believe by pretending and impersonating the opposite sex. I for one, will never buy into it or accept their belief as truth. There needs to be accountability and the “truth” must prevail. I am sad that your friend’s daughter got caught up in this cults snare and has now harmed and scarred her body for life. How could this dad ignore what happened in your family? Very sad. I understand that parents feel helpless and almost just give up. But if parents aren’t going to fight this cult and rescue their children, then who will?
My daughter talked her psychitrist and her therapist, she has C-PTSD and Borderline and the only cause is her terrible mother. How can I help this child?
He’s probably tried it all. He is probably traumatised, in shock and exhausted. How do we fight this cult? I only see two solutions. Either we bring about a financial crisis and bankrupt the enemy or we ta k e u p a r m s. Because nothing we’re doing is working.
Can we work to get the public and private health insurance to not cover harmful drugs and destructive elective surgeries? Sue!
Cancel your insurance and sign up to one that doesn’t cover mutilation
It's less complacency for me, instead I am defeated. All I can do is watch the slow destruction of my daughter's physical and mental health, failure to develop into adulthood and disintegration of our relationship. But you are right, people don't get it until it happens to their child. Our friends have completely let us down, preferring virtue signal to retain their middle class status, rather than be a good friend/person.
Hang in there mom! Your daughter is looking to you for love and approval even if she doesn't say so. I find it helpful to remember every time I can have a relatively normal conversation or a hug with my son I am FIGHTING BACK against the hateful, destructive pile of lies he is told - which includes 'your parents don't love you.' I also take a lot of pleasure in annoying the self righteous former friends by regularly and often referring to him as 'him.' I was there, like, at the birth so I feel perfectly entitled to do this. You are the mom - the most beautiful word in any language.
I wouldn’t call what I’m doing complacency. I have an adult son who’s been on hormones for two years. For the first couple of years, I tried everything, thinking I could guide him through this the way I’d guided him through every other part of his life. Then I had an epiphany: this is beyond me. It’s a cultural phenomenon, not something one parent can reason a child out of. So I stopped agitating and now avoid the topic of gender unless it’s forced.
What I do have is leverage — financial, and some emotional, because we instilled real family values, even if he ignores them where I’m concerned. He listens to my husband a bit more, since my husband is wishy-washy and I won’t affirm.
We hold our boundaries: he doesn’t pick up after himself without a prompt, but I keep prompting anyway, because I don’t think letting it go is my duty. He stays connected by showing up to family events. We don’t give handouts, but we encourage him to work, and when he doesn’t have a job, we create paid tasks for him. He won’t learn from us — he needs life to teach him, and he won’t learn anything sitting at home on his devices. So we push him out into the world, and we hope he meets people who steer him toward a healthier path.
That’s not complacency. I like to think of it as strategy.
Thank you for writing this, and thanks to all those who have commented on it. I needed this today. Some days you just feel so alone and sad...Waiting for more lawsuits to play out.
Everything i tried just has made the things worse.
Now Im ashamed to speak about the "trans" daughter openly. Not because she is "trans", not because she is mentally ill, but because she has cut us off, dehumanised us, and rewritten the family history.
I dont want pity, I dont want to define myself only through this situation. I want to ptotect my other childreen.
I throw every single rainbow thing in a garbage bin. But I can not change anything.
I have an adult son who has been on hormones for maybe 4-5 years. I don’t affirm or call him by his other chosen name. I tried at first and then I told him I thought this was nonsense and I’m not buying into it. I told him how hard it is on everybody and that I hate the whole situation. He’s always been into his own world and a relatively selfish person so I’m not sure how much it sunk in. I told him I will always love him because he’s my kid but I’m never going to embrace this identity. We still have a relationship but he lives in a different state so I don’t see him a lot. A pray every day for him to come to his senses. I just wonder if other parents have been able to get through to their kids or do you just wait and hope for the best?
Love this!
I have long dreamed of creating little pamphlets for any time affirmation pushback is necessary.
On one side would be a diagram of the male body from baby to maturity. The facing page would show the graphic bloody images of real metoidplasties, vaginoplasties etc being performed. On the other side the female body would be shown, baby to adult. The facing page would have real graphic photos of chest masculinzatiom surgeries, arm/thigh scalping, penectomies, etc.
In bold letters on bottom of each side:
Born male. Mutilated by surgeons.
Born female. Mutilated by surgeons.
Hell yes!!!
Even after my daughter was groomed online by an AGP and made to think she was a boy cause she likes girls and dislikes make up and feminine clothing, every single one of my friends went along the ‘Oh I don't have to worry about that with….. he/she tells us everything, we know they wouldn't do that” when I tried to warn them of the dangers. Complacency is extremely dangerous. I spend my life. On high alert these days. I'll never be complacent ever again. Sometimes I want to just shake and scream at my friends and family, and shout "If it was your child you would understand!'
Speak up family members- have courage
Absolutely 💯! Fight. I testified at the July FTC Workshop last year on July 9th. Transgender Ideology is a cult. Through the grace of God I was able to pull my son out of the cult. Of note: we shut down the GAC at Mott Children's Hospital in Ann Arbor among others.
I will always fight to protect children, young people, and families. I am @resettosanity on X (Twitter).