8,760 the number of days since I fell in love with my daughter, sat and held her for hours in the still of the early morning wondering what adventures we would have. 8,760 the number of days since I happily took on the mission to do whatever I needed to clear the road for my child and see round all the corners.
thank you for saying what many of us are thinking. particularly the not having his hand when he slipped of the cliff. hope always that common sense and values will return, till then everything is just getting along everyday. joy lost for the holiday season for now.
Oh how you’ve conjured all of our intimate moments, deep as those emotions sink into our souls. I often think of the German doctors. What legacy did they leave and who else shared their views? These therapists, teachers, doctors, hollywood elite, tech thieves, and politicians along with corporate elites. They are preying on us and our children as we writhe in pain. I am with you. We must unite and hold strong.
The Bible speaks of “the great delusion” that will come near the end times. Are we there? I believe we are. The Bible also teaches that Satan prowls this earth like a roaring lion, looking for those he will devour. If you don’t know Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, ask Him into your heart now, John 14:6, and pray for your children continually for He hears your prayers. Have hope, this is not the end of the story.
There is no road that leads to happiness in living a trans life. These children get stuck in a maze with no exit, as even the detransitioners have to live with the results of their injuries. The Emerald City is an illusion: https://lucyleader.substack.com/p/follow-the-yellow-brick-road
We are all living this nightmare. Till I found PROGD, I thought it was just me. I've just been through 2 lumpectomies. My son has not called or checked on me - because I did not pay for his hormones, castration or fake breasts. Not the child I raised.
What an amazing and powerful essay. You did such a great job sharing what you have gone through and what you are currently going through. I love how you used the number of days to track time. Your honesty is raw and gripping and the truth you wrote about touches all of us. Thank you for sharing. I hope and pray your daughter returns home. It is what we all want for our lost loved ones. Their journey becomes our journey but they do not realize it.
T usually comes first, but I am sure there are exceptions. For my daughter, a quick fix was very appealing. Changing sexes offered that instead of dealing with trauma, bipolar and other underlying issues. Now she thinks all that stuff is all gone with a new body, name and life. It is all still there of course. I am sorry your daughter was indoctrinated in college. It is so hard to lose our daughters in this way.
So heartbreaking 💔. This evil cult is the cruellest and most malevolent ideology I've ever heard of in my lifetime. I pray for all those who are caught up in its malignant clutches. God Bless you all 🙏🙏🙏❤️
Thank you to the precious mom who wrote this. What a beautiful love you have for your daughter! You've no doubt planted countless seeds in her heart over the years.
“Anyone who professes to know the solution is not being honest. They are selling homespun hope to the desperate and anguished to bolster their own ego and self-righteous mission.” This! Our son’s sudden disappearance gave us little time to find “the answer.” As I have spoken with so many parents over the last nine years, I have longed to give them answers but found there is no formula. Every “homespun hope” I have read was full of holes. Change happens and what a victory when it does but we have no control over it.
People used the word feminism very lightly, I have studied the history of feminism and it is an interesting one, mainly pushed by men, go figure. I don’t like feminism at all because I was raised in a family where women were strong and did what they have to do to survive sometimes or strive in another cases, never in my life someone told me that I couldn’t do something because I was a woman but at the same time I would never wanted to do something that a woman cannot do, as physical and extenuated sports or activities. Never the need to compete, my understanding was that men and women are complementary and we always work as a team with men, they complete us in so many ways and viceversa. Feminism is an insidious ideology coming from well off women in the xIX century, well-off, poor women don’t have that luxury to fight for their rights. Feminism is not different of Machism, actually is the same thing. We are not equal, is good to have iqual opportunities but those were necessary to take women out of their houses and make them work in the factories or for other people because the wages of the husbands were reduced because of the pressure of the bankers on the owners of the factories, feminists think that is about women, but really is about economic factors. We used to be in much more power when we were the CEO of our homes and raised human beings, good level and mature human beings who would be good for the society. What this has to do with gender ideology? It wouldn’t be much confusion if women do what they do best and men as husbands are strong and strive in fortitude, women are not at home anymore, quality time is a big lie. Your children shouldn’t never be part of the calendar and stay with them one hour of “ quality time “ each day. Children should be with their parents who have a define role. If I would be in that situation that one of my daughters get “ confused” and until new development, i would grabbed my daughter and run!!! I would move the farther I can to a small town with the simple life and more control, I would not ask her anything or what she thinks, I would take her away to the first sign of disphoria or I would contact Dr Glassman that she is fighting this battle with medical knowledge but we can do both, move to protect our children and I know is not fair but it is only for few years, and thanks to technology fight back and collaborate with Doctors as Miriam Glassman.
28 at the beginning of the year, 29 now. Since she is an adult, I couldn't stop it. So she is on the older age range but still got sucked in. It is heart breaking. I hope your story has a different outcome.
Basically just this year. It went fast. Testostrone to mastectomy in 10 months. No contact now. When I didn't bend to the demand to celebrate, I was cut off.
I'm sorry to hear this. Do you know why the rush? We have a family member on the verge of surgery. I do not know if she is taking T. Do you know if they always take T and then have surgery? She was indoctrinated in college.
Wow..what age is your daughter? This is heartbreaking to hear, I am 3 years in..I hoped the tide was changing for the next wave/upcoming generation. That this horrible ‘trend’ was starting to wear thin. I’m so sorry for your pain
Thank you for voicing what so many of us feel and know, particularly:
"0 the number of days that I haven’t blamed myself for losing my grip on my child’s hand when she was in the deep water."
"I am back in the pit of my stomach, lurching between tears and fury."
"... we’re also impotent to act, because we fear losing our children forever."
We find ourselves in such a strange place, grieving and terrified for our children, but knowing that if we try to pull them back, we'll only push them deeper in. We try to remove ourselves from the equation so that there's nothing for them to push back against. If we try to prevent our children from harming themselves with hormones and surgery, we are seen by society as hateful bigots. Intentionally, our voices are never included in stories about "trans youth," and so most people don't know we exist, that there is more to the story than "Liberals in favor, Conservatives against." We have all read about careers being ruined if people speak up, and so we mostly stay quiet except when we know it's safe, like here on PITT.
Am I crazy to think this might not be so different from Germany in the 1940s? The victims here are our own kids. We need to speak up, even if it's in subtle ways that go under the radar. Have bumper stickers that say innocuous-sounding things like "Love your mother" or "Science is real" (crazy that professing to believe in science is subversive now). Slide articles on the long-term health effects of hormones between the books on the library shelves. Request that your library order books like Helen Joyce's Trans or Bob Ostertag's Sex, Science, Self. Definitely boycott companies that cash in on this fad, like Budweiser and Target. If you're a teacher, tell kids that having a rough time during adolescence is normal, that people become more accepting of differences and comfortable with themselves as they get older. Anything at all to get people thinking.
You are not crazy to think this might not be so different from Germany in the 1940s. This is eugenics. The difference is the sterilisation is not forced, it is promoted using deceptive tactics such as the lie that people can change sex.
The problem is that so many people just don’t want to know. They actively avoid knowing. I find that when people question my decision to not affirm my best response is “you want me to affirm to my teenage daughter that she is a biological error, a mistake that can only be corrected with cosmetic surgeries and off label pharmaceuticals which will destroy her health?” They don’t have much to say after that. Make it personal.
thank you for saying what many of us are thinking. particularly the not having his hand when he slipped of the cliff. hope always that common sense and values will return, till then everything is just getting along everyday. joy lost for the holiday season for now.
Oh how you’ve conjured all of our intimate moments, deep as those emotions sink into our souls. I often think of the German doctors. What legacy did they leave and who else shared their views? These therapists, teachers, doctors, hollywood elite, tech thieves, and politicians along with corporate elites. They are preying on us and our children as we writhe in pain. I am with you. We must unite and hold strong.
The Bible speaks of “the great delusion” that will come near the end times. Are we there? I believe we are. The Bible also teaches that Satan prowls this earth like a roaring lion, looking for those he will devour. If you don’t know Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, ask Him into your heart now, John 14:6, and pray for your children continually for He hears your prayers. Have hope, this is not the end of the story.
This shit is tearing up families and pulling at the very fabric of society. I am so sorry you are going through this.
Thank you. Thank you for continuing to place one foot in front of another. It's a love action for your daughter.
There is no road that leads to happiness in living a trans life. These children get stuck in a maze with no exit, as even the detransitioners have to live with the results of their injuries. The Emerald City is an illusion: https://lucyleader.substack.com/p/follow-the-yellow-brick-road
We are all living this nightmare. Till I found PROGD, I thought it was just me. I've just been through 2 lumpectomies. My son has not called or checked on me - because I did not pay for his hormones, castration or fake breasts. Not the child I raised.
I am so sorry, Dee. I hope your prognosis is positive and that your son will wake up from his stupor.
What an amazing and powerful essay. You did such a great job sharing what you have gone through and what you are currently going through. I love how you used the number of days to track time. Your honesty is raw and gripping and the truth you wrote about touches all of us. Thank you for sharing. I hope and pray your daughter returns home. It is what we all want for our lost loved ones. Their journey becomes our journey but they do not realize it.
T usually comes first, but I am sure there are exceptions. For my daughter, a quick fix was very appealing. Changing sexes offered that instead of dealing with trauma, bipolar and other underlying issues. Now she thinks all that stuff is all gone with a new body, name and life. It is all still there of course. I am sorry your daughter was indoctrinated in college. It is so hard to lose our daughters in this way.
So heartbreaking 💔. This evil cult is the cruellest and most malevolent ideology I've ever heard of in my lifetime. I pray for all those who are caught up in its malignant clutches. God Bless you all 🙏🙏🙏❤️
Thank you to the precious mom who wrote this. What a beautiful love you have for your daughter! You've no doubt planted countless seeds in her heart over the years.
“Anyone who professes to know the solution is not being honest. They are selling homespun hope to the desperate and anguished to bolster their own ego and self-righteous mission.” This! Our son’s sudden disappearance gave us little time to find “the answer.” As I have spoken with so many parents over the last nine years, I have longed to give them answers but found there is no formula. Every “homespun hope” I have read was full of holes. Change happens and what a victory when it does but we have no control over it.
People used the word feminism very lightly, I have studied the history of feminism and it is an interesting one, mainly pushed by men, go figure. I don’t like feminism at all because I was raised in a family where women were strong and did what they have to do to survive sometimes or strive in another cases, never in my life someone told me that I couldn’t do something because I was a woman but at the same time I would never wanted to do something that a woman cannot do, as physical and extenuated sports or activities. Never the need to compete, my understanding was that men and women are complementary and we always work as a team with men, they complete us in so many ways and viceversa. Feminism is an insidious ideology coming from well off women in the xIX century, well-off, poor women don’t have that luxury to fight for their rights. Feminism is not different of Machism, actually is the same thing. We are not equal, is good to have iqual opportunities but those were necessary to take women out of their houses and make them work in the factories or for other people because the wages of the husbands were reduced because of the pressure of the bankers on the owners of the factories, feminists think that is about women, but really is about economic factors. We used to be in much more power when we were the CEO of our homes and raised human beings, good level and mature human beings who would be good for the society. What this has to do with gender ideology? It wouldn’t be much confusion if women do what they do best and men as husbands are strong and strive in fortitude, women are not at home anymore, quality time is a big lie. Your children shouldn’t never be part of the calendar and stay with them one hour of “ quality time “ each day. Children should be with their parents who have a define role. If I would be in that situation that one of my daughters get “ confused” and until new development, i would grabbed my daughter and run!!! I would move the farther I can to a small town with the simple life and more control, I would not ask her anything or what she thinks, I would take her away to the first sign of disphoria or I would contact Dr Glassman that she is fighting this battle with medical knowledge but we can do both, move to protect our children and I know is not fair but it is only for few years, and thanks to technology fight back and collaborate with Doctors as Miriam Glassman.
It’s Miriam Grossman.
Yes!! Sorry, I always confused those two last names. Thanks!
28 at the beginning of the year, 29 now. Since she is an adult, I couldn't stop it. So she is on the older age range but still got sucked in. It is heart breaking. I hope your story has a different outcome.
Basically just this year. It went fast. Testostrone to mastectomy in 10 months. No contact now. When I didn't bend to the demand to celebrate, I was cut off.
I'm sorry to hear this. Do you know why the rush? We have a family member on the verge of surgery. I do not know if she is taking T. Do you know if they always take T and then have surgery? She was indoctrinated in college.
Wow..what age is your daughter? This is heartbreaking to hear, I am 3 years in..I hoped the tide was changing for the next wave/upcoming generation. That this horrible ‘trend’ was starting to wear thin. I’m so sorry for your pain
Thank you for voicing what so many of us feel and know, particularly:
"0 the number of days that I haven’t blamed myself for losing my grip on my child’s hand when she was in the deep water."
"I am back in the pit of my stomach, lurching between tears and fury."
"... we’re also impotent to act, because we fear losing our children forever."
We find ourselves in such a strange place, grieving and terrified for our children, but knowing that if we try to pull them back, we'll only push them deeper in. We try to remove ourselves from the equation so that there's nothing for them to push back against. If we try to prevent our children from harming themselves with hormones and surgery, we are seen by society as hateful bigots. Intentionally, our voices are never included in stories about "trans youth," and so most people don't know we exist, that there is more to the story than "Liberals in favor, Conservatives against." We have all read about careers being ruined if people speak up, and so we mostly stay quiet except when we know it's safe, like here on PITT.
Am I crazy to think this might not be so different from Germany in the 1940s? The victims here are our own kids. We need to speak up, even if it's in subtle ways that go under the radar. Have bumper stickers that say innocuous-sounding things like "Love your mother" or "Science is real" (crazy that professing to believe in science is subversive now). Slide articles on the long-term health effects of hormones between the books on the library shelves. Request that your library order books like Helen Joyce's Trans or Bob Ostertag's Sex, Science, Self. Definitely boycott companies that cash in on this fad, like Budweiser and Target. If you're a teacher, tell kids that having a rough time during adolescence is normal, that people become more accepting of differences and comfortable with themselves as they get older. Anything at all to get people thinking.
You are not crazy to think this might not be so different from Germany in the 1940s. This is eugenics. The difference is the sterilisation is not forced, it is promoted using deceptive tactics such as the lie that people can change sex.
The problem is that so many people just don’t want to know. They actively avoid knowing. I find that when people question my decision to not affirm my best response is “you want me to affirm to my teenage daughter that she is a biological error, a mistake that can only be corrected with cosmetic surgeries and off label pharmaceuticals which will destroy her health?” They don’t have much to say after that. Make it personal.
That is a great response.