Not sure if any of the families that post on PITT would be willing but maybe you can ask to see if any would be willing to become more personal with your daughter and her son about what they have experienced?
There are two books out from PITT parents that you can purchase. That being said, our children are unlikely to ever read them. If we ask them to read the books or individual posts, they will probably be repelled. If we seek to understand our kids first, over time, they may seek to understand us later. Steven Covey says in his book, "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People", "Seek First to Understand, Then To Be Understood." This habit is based on the principle of respect and is about listening before we speak." (Habit 5).
PITT is a valuable support for parents, but it may be unrealistic to hope our children will be able to hear any of the wise words spoken within the group. Consider sharing articles and the two books with other adults, outside the family, as a way to change the culture while seeking to understand your children one by one as best you can. The good news is that two of your daughters are moving towards you. So something is shifting!
I am grateful for every parent that speaks about their “lived experience” with having a “trans” child and estrangement. It’s so painful. I do hope deception is revealed for our kids sake. As for reconnection and healing, TBD.
My story is similar. My daughter estranged me almost three years ago because I questioned why my six year old granddaughter was suddenly a trans boy. She talked to my son who also then cut me off claiming I am not allowed to question. I have to accept it because that is what “he” wants. Now both my children are estranged and I am not allowed to see my three grandchildren . I am told I am toxic, a bigot and unsafe. I have connected with some other estranged parents but I have never found anyone with a situation like mine.
Oh my gosh, a 6 year old! I have three grandchildren, the oldest of which is 5. I am so sad for you. The older I get, the less afraid I am of leaving this world. It has just gotten so crazy that I don’t know where we go from here.
If only they knew how much we love them.
Not sure if any of the families that post on PITT would be willing but maybe you can ask to see if any would be willing to become more personal with your daughter and her son about what they have experienced?
There are two books out from PITT parents that you can purchase. That being said, our children are unlikely to ever read them. If we ask them to read the books or individual posts, they will probably be repelled. If we seek to understand our kids first, over time, they may seek to understand us later. Steven Covey says in his book, "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People", "Seek First to Understand, Then To Be Understood." This habit is based on the principle of respect and is about listening before we speak." (Habit 5).
PITT is a valuable support for parents, but it may be unrealistic to hope our children will be able to hear any of the wise words spoken within the group. Consider sharing articles and the two books with other adults, outside the family, as a way to change the culture while seeking to understand your children one by one as best you can. The good news is that two of your daughters are moving towards you. So something is shifting!
I am grateful for every parent that speaks about their “lived experience” with having a “trans” child and estrangement. It’s so painful. I do hope deception is revealed for our kids sake. As for reconnection and healing, TBD.
My story is similar. My daughter estranged me almost three years ago because I questioned why my six year old granddaughter was suddenly a trans boy. She talked to my son who also then cut me off claiming I am not allowed to question. I have to accept it because that is what “he” wants. Now both my children are estranged and I am not allowed to see my three grandchildren . I am told I am toxic, a bigot and unsafe. I have connected with some other estranged parents but I have never found anyone with a situation like mine.
Oh my gosh, a 6 year old! I have three grandchildren, the oldest of which is 5. I am so sad for you. The older I get, the less afraid I am of leaving this world. It has just gotten so crazy that I don’t know where we go from here.
Heartbreaking. I’m so sorry.
Yes! I stand with you on this belief as to many others!