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Mama Ain't Playin''s avatar

"I didn't understand how something so very wrong could be embraced by other influential adults in my child’s life." This is it, exactly--and why parents feel so alone. Schools, clinicians, physicians, academia--all have been infested by the insane idea that girls can really be boys, and boys can really be girls, if only we clap hard enough so that Tinkerbell doesn't die!

Congratulations at recovering your instincts. This is what's so disorienting--the women who gave birth to these children, who knew their sex as fetuses, are being told that they don't know that their daughter is "actually" their son. Family is everything in this fight--I'm so glad your other daughter and your sister-in-law were helpful--they probably served as positive female role models for your younger. Keep her connected to these women, and other strong role models, OFFLINE, and in-person!

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Lydia A mothers roar's avatar

So much of every story we tell as parents of kids caught up in the gender trap are the same. Feelings of dispare so heavy we want to exit this world. Betrayal of the very people we go to for help. The one thing I have been looking at myself when I was in the thick of it with my girl is my blind spots. I knew she needed for me to step my parenting. Mine too has desisted. It's been a long hard 4 years. It's aged me. I am so happy for you mama! She will never question. "What did you do during the gender wars mom?" You never gave up on her.

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