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Evangeline's avatar

Your story is INSPIRING!!!!

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MK's avatar

I have a question here. The author credits her older daughter and sister-in-law's help, saying she couldn't have done it alone. Was her trans identified daughter "out" to the family? My trans identified son hasn't come out to any extended family and I wish i could enlist their help.

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AvgustMisrahi's avatar

Incredibly hard to read but also inspiring

You are consistently doing the right thing and despite being forced to fight against a system that is damaging your daughter, you aren't giving in

Congratulations on your successes

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Codebra's avatar

I was so relieved to hear that your daughter’s struggle ended on a note of restoration and healing. Our culture hasn’t truly grasped the depth of evil evident in the system arrayed against such children, sometimes culminating in horrific mutilation that is reminiscent of torture inflicted on prisoners during WWII. Such deep evil can only be counteracted through widespread spiritual resistance. Your spirit shines through brightly in this piece. God bless and protect you and your family.

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Adri Mans's avatar

I am so proud of you! A story with a happy end and it doesn't matter that there is more work ahead but be happy for everything you had done and specially for realizing that parents have a lot of power over their children that put to good used can save lives. The solution is not in the outside world but in the family. For that reason is that parents have to be aware and watchful of what is going on and don't dismissed the small signs of their children that can eventually become a big problem.

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Grandma Eileen's avatar

Hoping and praying that your story will have a happy ending. You rescued your daughter while you rescued yourself - you asked for family support, you got help for both of you. Well done Momma Bear. Our children need us to help them through the fog and storms that life brings. Growing up is not easy for kids in this world - too many influences, too many choices, too many obstacles. The evil trans cult has too many traps and snares. It is like a mine field and so difficult to maneuver without our help. Stay strong!!!

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Delightful Oddling's avatar

Thank you for sharing your story. Very happy for you! Our daughter also desisted and is doing well. I am always encouraged when I read of another desister.

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Edyth Meredith's avatar

I am a retired LAUSD school teacher. I now live in Southern Utah and am a writer for our local newspaper Iron County Today. I have written several series of articles on the the "trans" movement and have done a lot of research about it. The "detrans" movement is very strong and should be supported. Those trans youth who had chemical and surgical interventions and regret it are the most sad young people ever. I believe that loving them is the way for their recovery.

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PatoDreams's avatar

Thanks for sharing, your story is a spark of hope in the darkness. God bless you.

We started this nightmare with my daughter 30 months ago, and I haven't been able to talk to my family about it as I'm afraid that some relatives could support her demands :(

Was there anyone in your family who did not agree on supporting you? If that was the case, how did you handled that ?

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cathy's avatar

I was very fortunate that no one in the family wanted to support her belief that she was a boy, or should have been a boy. I did say to others that it would be helpful if we were on the same page, but they could refer to her however they wanted, but they continued to call her by her birth name/proper pronouns. I feel for families who do not agree, I think I was very lucky.

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Wendi Shaffner's avatar

Yes! I think this is the key. I am divorced with my daughter completely affirmed by her father and all of his friends. I am the evil that she hates. She is a bully to anyone that will not “respect” her. I cry and pray every day. She has asked me to not be in her life but that isn’t an option.

I’m so thankful for your strength and your story. You give me hope and a reason to NEVER give up or give in. ♥️

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Spacegirl32's avatar

Thank you for writing your story. My daughter is also showing signs of desisting after 5 long years. We need a support group for parents who have kids that are waking up as there are a new set of problems on the horizon. Building trust, finding good healthcare and overcoming shame are just a few issues we are working through. As usual, parents are left picking up the pieces.

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cathy's avatar

Right? I thought that everything would just go back to "normal", I will say that we are in a MUCH better place now, but I don't feel like I can relax. I am still not calling her by her name, using "sweetheart", "kiddo" etc and avoiding pronouns but I am letting "she/her" slip more than I used to, to test the waters. I still feel the need (and rightly so) to vet any therapist/psychiatrist/teacher she will be spending time with, also doctors, anyone. I think us parents of desisters are healing from our own trauma.

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Lydia A mothers roar's avatar

We are working on a parent support group for desisters. Follow on X and go to the website

https://www.parentsofdesisters.info/

https://x.com/DesisterParents?t=vqI0qOHhRxnV40ypPSDi5w&s=09

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Spacegirl32's avatar

Thank you so much!

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Lisa Salamone Coaching's avatar

I’m so glad you wrote this! You are an example of what’s possible when we get intentional— going within, taking back your mom reigns, connecting with yourself in order to better connect with your daughter. 😘

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CA mom's avatar

So happy for you. And thankful you shared this story with a happy ending.

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MKW's avatar

This story gives me hope. I’m always looking for what I can do or say to my FTM child to stop this madness.

How did you receive help from your family and relatives? Did they not affirm your daughter or just gave her love?

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cathy's avatar

everyone continued to call her by her birth name and proper pronouns. They gave her lots of love.

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Notorious P.A.T.'s avatar

I am always glad to read a happy result such as yours. Good job :)

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TDiaphanous's avatar

prayers...thank you for sharing this.

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Sweet Caroline's avatar

I am listening to this as I wonder through the grocery store in total despair. I think daily that it would be better for the trees to fall on me. I keep going one hour at a time. One chore at a time.

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cathy's avatar

I'm sorry you are in this, when I felt that I knew I needed to make a change so I could go on. I started on antidepressants and started going to therapy. Both helped me immensely. I totally understand, one hour at a time.

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