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Riot Grrl's avatar

He could also just be straight too. That's the beauty of a world not constricted by narrow suffocating gender stereotypes. I've dated many lovely effeminate males, gentle, caring, look great in guyliner (eye liner!) and skirts, many goth boys did this in my day, I miss them!

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Grandma Eileen's avatar

Bravo👏 Very good points! If we let kids be kids without gender pressure or stereotypes then it is possible that a boy or girl will learn to be comfortable in the skin they were born in. If your son wants long hair and keeps it clean - why not? If your daughter wants short hair - that is fine. 45 years ago when I was in high school I wore my hair short - I was tired of the electric curlers, hair spray, mouse, frizzy ends! I grew up when guys grew their hair long and I loved it. No one put pressure on us back then about what gender we identified with or questioned “why” - pink is a great color on anyone, pets included! I think parents should encourage more and worry less - discuss “feelings” and make sure that your voice is heard about the dangers of transgendering at young ages. Kids/teens change their minds often which is normal. It drives us parents crazy but that is part of a child learning to become an adult. Testing the waters, taking a step back, rethinking Plan A and liking Plan B better, only to chose Plan C. Normal. Effeminate males and Tomboy girls are sometimes just that. Still praying every day!

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