Hi is there anyone in Australia who would like to share their story with a journalist? Or anyone detransitioning overseas who would like to share and warn Australians of the consequences?
This is a tragedy. You were failed. But there is so much more ahead and you have much to offer. Your honesty, eloquence, and clarity will lift everything you touch. Be well. Love yourself.
Thank you for giving us such an honest glimpse into your private life that became very public. You have traveled on a very difficult journey but it is not finished yet! You have so much to give to the world! Your story is powerful and you are not alone. I find you to be so brave and I wish you the very best that life has to offer. There is a young male in my family who believes he should be a she and I am worried that he will make decisions that he will one day regret. I said a prayer for you! Best wishes.
Thanks for your honesty. I don’t know what it was and is like being you, but as others have written, who you were created to be does not need to have all the impossible standards and perfect feelings. Life is messy and so are we. Keep up the fight to be yourself and know there are people praying for you to find a contentment that surpasses all understanding.
Thanks for offering a brutally honest perspective.
At the end of the day, the only thing that can get us through is the belief that life has meaning...that we have meaning...that we're here for a purpose...that despite our ugliness and imperfections, God did not make a mistake...that we should not presume to interfere with His plan.
The world is full of suffering...and rejects. Christ himself was a reject, which is why he ended up on a cross. Our culture worships false gods. But there is only one God. Find Him and you will find the peace that you seek. But you have to look for Him with an open heart first.
It is so sad to hear how much you once hated yourself. Your diary piece however shows very clearly how stereotypes and expectations got you there, how you and the shadow of many equally vulnerable young people fell prey to them. How in today's technological societies it is relatively tempting to embrace apparently easy solutions which in fact alienate and deny the true self. Your account shows how worthy you in fact are, that you deserve so very much more than a cheap, undignified solution that will never encompass the complexity of your beautiful person.
It's like you were living inside some nine inch nails song. I don't get the internalized homophobia thing nowadays - these days they literally through you a parade for being gay. Of course, self hatred doesn't have to be rational. It can be a feeling in search of a rationalization.
Terrifying testimony. I pray that God will continue to provide you with revelations, inspiration, support, and courage to heal from this terrible journey. I thank you so much for sharing this. I was amazed by the way you write, the brilliance and insight into yourself at that time. And how you ignored it. Sadly, my young adult child, while a brilliant woman like you, is still caught up and fixated by this transgender cult, which has taken her away from all contact with those that really love and know her. How soon will it take for our young adults to firmly understand that the way God creates our bodies is much better than a Surgeon with a knife?
Beautiful writing about honestly facing a brutal reality. What I want to say again and again to every parent and every detransitioner is: it is not your fault. You or your children were told very powerful lies. The lies lead to misery. So many other highly intelligent and beautiful people have believed these lies too. It is not just children who are impressionable, who believe in magical transformations--that longing is within all of us. It is a deeply human theme, the wish to metamorphosize into our "true self." So of course the lie FELT true, because this desire to be "saved" and renewed is universal. You are saving YOURSELF now, by actually beginning to accept who you are, exactly as you are, even with this painful leg of your journey. You are beautiful and wonderful and strong. Your strength and beauty shines through your writing, even this piece from a time of deep anguish. Sending you love.
Your realization just breaks my heart and your courage for sharing has me awestruck. Thank you for this deeply personal piece. Keep stepping into the dynamic human that you are.
Thank you for sharing these deeply personal thoughts. I hope you are finding peace and contentment as your true self. Sending you my very best wishes <3
Thank you so much for writing this and for sharing immensely personal feelings. I am truly and genuinely sorry for the struggles you're enduring. Your story resonates not only with my own child who has yet to arrive to this understanding but with a multitudes of others. You are aiding thousands of parents whose hearts jump daily when this email arrives because we hope and pray that maybe today's letter might help make sense of this madness. It gives us the strength to keep our shit intact one more day as we struggle to stay sane for the sake of our families. It strengthens the slippery grip between our hand and our child's as we try to prevent them from sliding further down this hole until we can no longer see or recognize them. Please don't feel that your life has no worth - the "mom" in me worries for your personal safety. Please seek help from someone impartial. No matter how you feel, you are loved. I promise.
Thank you for your vulnerability to share such personal thoughts. So glad you are finding your way now. I wish for you grace and gentleness to yourself as you grow stronger with you.
Sharing these words shows a lot of courage. As a parent, I so badly want to know the magic words that will stop my daughter following this lie she is living in. I feel like she is under a spell and can't snap out of it. I wish you happiness and love.
Heartbreaking, but proud of you for the courage you found to shake off lies and live in the Truth. The Truth will set you free. Lie no more or lie as little as you possibly can at least. Find good role models, find good friends that you can share the good and the bad news with who will be genuinely happy for you and who will also lament with you when needed. Try to put your family back together if possible. I am sure they miss you. Speak internally to yourself positively and try to chase out negative conversations in your mind with yourself. You are incredibly resilient and can bounce back from this. The evidence of people bouncing back from so much catastrophe in their lives is all around us. Take solace and strength from that. Put your life back together and small incremental steps add up over time.
“Create a plan, take on as much responsibility as you can tolerate, you have a vital role to play in the world, the lack of your best efforts hurts everything.”
Hi is there anyone in Australia who would like to share their story with a journalist? Or anyone detransitioning overseas who would like to share and warn Australians of the consequences?
This is a tragedy. You were failed. But there is so much more ahead and you have much to offer. Your honesty, eloquence, and clarity will lift everything you touch. Be well. Love yourself.
Thank you for giving us such an honest glimpse into your private life that became very public. You have traveled on a very difficult journey but it is not finished yet! You have so much to give to the world! Your story is powerful and you are not alone. I find you to be so brave and I wish you the very best that life has to offer. There is a young male in my family who believes he should be a she and I am worried that he will make decisions that he will one day regret. I said a prayer for you! Best wishes.
Thanks for your honesty. I don’t know what it was and is like being you, but as others have written, who you were created to be does not need to have all the impossible standards and perfect feelings. Life is messy and so are we. Keep up the fight to be yourself and know there are people praying for you to find a contentment that surpasses all understanding.
Thanks for offering a brutally honest perspective.
At the end of the day, the only thing that can get us through is the belief that life has meaning...that we have meaning...that we're here for a purpose...that despite our ugliness and imperfections, God did not make a mistake...that we should not presume to interfere with His plan.
The world is full of suffering...and rejects. Christ himself was a reject, which is why he ended up on a cross. Our culture worships false gods. But there is only one God. Find Him and you will find the peace that you seek. But you have to look for Him with an open heart first.
A very touching, moving essay. I admire your courage. Thank you for sharing this.
Sincerely, Frederick
It is so sad to hear how much you once hated yourself. Your diary piece however shows very clearly how stereotypes and expectations got you there, how you and the shadow of many equally vulnerable young people fell prey to them. How in today's technological societies it is relatively tempting to embrace apparently easy solutions which in fact alienate and deny the true self. Your account shows how worthy you in fact are, that you deserve so very much more than a cheap, undignified solution that will never encompass the complexity of your beautiful person.
It's like you were living inside some nine inch nails song. I don't get the internalized homophobia thing nowadays - these days they literally through you a parade for being gay. Of course, self hatred doesn't have to be rational. It can be a feeling in search of a rationalization.
Terrifying testimony. I pray that God will continue to provide you with revelations, inspiration, support, and courage to heal from this terrible journey. I thank you so much for sharing this. I was amazed by the way you write, the brilliance and insight into yourself at that time. And how you ignored it. Sadly, my young adult child, while a brilliant woman like you, is still caught up and fixated by this transgender cult, which has taken her away from all contact with those that really love and know her. How soon will it take for our young adults to firmly understand that the way God creates our bodies is much better than a Surgeon with a knife?
Beautiful writing about honestly facing a brutal reality. What I want to say again and again to every parent and every detransitioner is: it is not your fault. You or your children were told very powerful lies. The lies lead to misery. So many other highly intelligent and beautiful people have believed these lies too. It is not just children who are impressionable, who believe in magical transformations--that longing is within all of us. It is a deeply human theme, the wish to metamorphosize into our "true self." So of course the lie FELT true, because this desire to be "saved" and renewed is universal. You are saving YOURSELF now, by actually beginning to accept who you are, exactly as you are, even with this painful leg of your journey. You are beautiful and wonderful and strong. Your strength and beauty shines through your writing, even this piece from a time of deep anguish. Sending you love.
Your realization just breaks my heart and your courage for sharing has me awestruck. Thank you for this deeply personal piece. Keep stepping into the dynamic human that you are.
Thank you for sharing these deeply personal thoughts. I hope you are finding peace and contentment as your true self. Sending you my very best wishes <3
Thank you so much for writing this and for sharing immensely personal feelings. I am truly and genuinely sorry for the struggles you're enduring. Your story resonates not only with my own child who has yet to arrive to this understanding but with a multitudes of others. You are aiding thousands of parents whose hearts jump daily when this email arrives because we hope and pray that maybe today's letter might help make sense of this madness. It gives us the strength to keep our shit intact one more day as we struggle to stay sane for the sake of our families. It strengthens the slippery grip between our hand and our child's as we try to prevent them from sliding further down this hole until we can no longer see or recognize them. Please don't feel that your life has no worth - the "mom" in me worries for your personal safety. Please seek help from someone impartial. No matter how you feel, you are loved. I promise.
Thank you for your vulnerability to share such personal thoughts. So glad you are finding your way now. I wish for you grace and gentleness to yourself as you grow stronger with you.
Sharing these words shows a lot of courage. As a parent, I so badly want to know the magic words that will stop my daughter following this lie she is living in. I feel like she is under a spell and can't snap out of it. I wish you happiness and love.
Heartbreaking, but proud of you for the courage you found to shake off lies and live in the Truth. The Truth will set you free. Lie no more or lie as little as you possibly can at least. Find good role models, find good friends that you can share the good and the bad news with who will be genuinely happy for you and who will also lament with you when needed. Try to put your family back together if possible. I am sure they miss you. Speak internally to yourself positively and try to chase out negative conversations in your mind with yourself. You are incredibly resilient and can bounce back from this. The evidence of people bouncing back from so much catastrophe in their lives is all around us. Take solace and strength from that. Put your life back together and small incremental steps add up over time.
“Create a plan, take on as much responsibility as you can tolerate, you have a vital role to play in the world, the lack of your best efforts hurts everything.”
J.B. Peterson