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Ghost12's avatar

This is very relatable I have a very similar story I identified as trans for ~4 years. I joined a site called TrevorSpace for lgbtq people aged 13-24, it was recommended to me by the Trevor Project crisis chat line and I imagine thats how many people found the site. Full of mentally ill kids and young adults. People shared that they identity as trans because of stuff like hating your body or identity or being gender nonconforming, all stuff i related too. I thought this would fix my poor mental health. I thought the reason I struggled with depression anxiety and self hatred was because I was actually born in the wrong body. They share it as a purely positive thing, calling it life saving care and saying everyone against it is hateful. Lots of fearmongering saying people who disagree want trans people to die. I was afraid of everyone who didn't affirm me. I was probably pretty insufferable at the time actually cause every interaction started with saying I'm a boy and to use he/him for me and i wouldn't talk to anyone otherwise. My mom wasn't affirming so I was afraid of her. I thought she was going to become abusive to me as other people shared stories of being abused after "coming out", and that by not affirming me she was abusing me by denying me the care that would fix my mental health. I realized the people on TrevorSpace didn't care about me and were actually manipulative, love bombing and withholding affection or "canceling" people who stepped out of line. Ever changing rules especially around censoring posts and trigger warnings. I left that site and joined another one called TransPulse which had more adults. They told me the same message that my mom was abusive and I need to transition. I didn't have any friends for a time I had unrelated family issues and it stressed me out so I isolated myself a lot. I also saw other people online talk freely and I watched some content disagreeing with trans ideology at first to hate watch but then I kind of agreed with some but not all points. Actually for a time I thought I was like a Blaire White republican trans person who disagreed with some trans ideology but not it fundamentally. My trans identity was the last to go, after a while of nobody affirming me.

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EyesOpen's avatar

Thank you for sharing. My daughter is not so lucky. She is still pressed in from all sides except from me her mom, who she has shut out of her life.

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