If you haven’t already seen this series of posts by Wesley Yang on X they are among the most informative that I have seen on this vital issue:
1/29/2025
“There are no "anti-trans extremists."
“There is a political party and professional apparatus that put male rapists and murderers in women's prisons, propagandized kindergartners that any of them could change sex, forced taxpayers and insurance customers to fund electrolysis and facial feminization surgeries, put any boy or man who claimed to be female into changing rooms with your daughters, forced you to declare the gender identity of your toddler at the doctor's office, deceived parents about the social transition of their children at school, banned psychological exploration of the mental health comorbidities that manifest as trans-ideation in the midst of an online social contagion generating 5000 percent increases in trans identification among youth, fined all-female nude spas run by immigrants for excluding men with penises who claimed to be women for violating the human rights of those men, imposed men on the athletic playing fields with your daughters, told thousands of parents to submit to the chemical castration of their children to avert imminent suicide risk for which no evidence has ever existed, subjected thousands of children to macabre sex changes procedures while lying about the existence of an evidence base where none ever existed while claiming on the basis of no evidence that the procedures were life-saving, investigated parents who refused to put their children on a pipeline to a lifetime of medicalized self-harm by pretending they had changed sex and sought to seize custody of them, and threatened to unperson you, attack your livelihood and leave you ostracized if you resisted it in any way with the aid of the monopolistic tech platforms that control the circulation of speech and money around the globe in a new surveillance and censorship regime that sought to dismantle biological reality in the name of narcissistic fantasies that it intended to entrench as the only truth while corrupting the truth-seeking apparatus of science itself -- and there is a majority of normal people in both parties who oppose this nonsense and want it stopped.”
6/20/2025
“Transgenderism must revert to being a form of private eccentricity. Recognition as one's preferred gender can be privately negotiated but with no coercion by any entity private or public. We all have an absolute right to affirm or not affirm, believe or not believe, that gender identity exists, that no one can infringe.
Sex segregated spaces and activities remain segregated by sex, not "gender identity."
Adults are free to inflict bodily self-harm on themselves in pursuit of an appearance they like but outside of any pretense of a medical protocol -- these are cosmetic procedures that come with no promises to relieve dysphoria or unlock an authentic self and the cost is borne solely by the person seeking them. Any such promises constitute consumer fraud. Children are of course unable to consent to such procedures.
The state has no role in affirming any aspect of cross-gender ideation, avoids proselytizing to children in schools or to anyone else in any interface it has with the public. The person who has inflicted bodily self-harm on his sex traits is no more a distinct class of person to whom special privileges or protections can be conferred than a person who has covered his face in tattoos. The person who believes with all his heart that he is a woman at heart and would die if others don't recognize him as such imposes no duty on any other person to share in that belief or to pretend to share in it. That person must develop resiliency about living in a pluralistic, liberal, democratic society where every person has a right to belief and a corollary right to unbelief that no one may legitimately infringe.
Any and all deviations from this resolution are morally illegitimate and practically untenable.
The attempt to turn a private eccentricity into a social cause that justified the remaking of society was a ghastly and destructive mistake. It was made inevitable by certain facets of the culture and certain aspects of our politics. We must learn the lesson that experience has now taught us.”
My understanding is that Obamacare included changes to HIPAA authorizing coverage for dependents up to 26 yrs old (& older in some circumstances). It also made certain pharmaceuticals (psychiatric, hormonal, gender-affirming, etc.) private for dependents 18+. Many of the young people swept up in this transgender craze are also on psychiatric medications which can be very expensive. Unfortunately, the parents who are paying for this insurance coverage cannot access relevant information unless their dependent opts in for family sharing.
What a wonderful testimony of returning to reality and self-acceptance. Thank you so very much for sharing your life with us. Please keep writing, your voice is being heard, and it is lovely. You are so important to your family and to the world. Wishing you all the very best and praying for you! Love, Indio
Who would not want to become one of the group with more power, respect, money, and be safer? Even someone as rich and loved and worshipped as Michael Jackson kept trying to make himself look like the race who has power over his people. What if there was no racism or sexism? What if girls really had equal rights and were not caricatured and pornified in the media and in constant danger of assault? How many would get sucked into the trans cult?
The pharmaceutical companies get ONE LESS girl sacrificed on their "trans" mutilation altar because your parents didn't go for it and they were able to protect you.
Enjoy that healthy body, Woman!
Loved this regarding the fakeness of all that "happiness" of the ones who fall for it:
"They seemed a lot happier,
Or at least that’s what they showed to me".
And loved how you encourage people to SPEAK OUT. That's what I am doing in the "belly-of-the-beast" in NYC. If you want to watch, in the approximately 5 minute recent Video, I am doing just that at the monthly NYC school community meetings, and I call out the NYC Department of Education for being in bed with the body-ruining corruption of the pharmaceutical industry:
I pray all our children return to sanity and come home and get put back together again. Nature wins, good luck beating her because you won't. Come home to your families who love you.
Trans is a hard road to go down. Yes, you should explore all options including non-affirming therapy, simply being gender non-conforming as little or as much as you want, and do lots of research. There are many of us who, after all of that, still found ourselves drawn to medicalization, and that’s ok, too. We are not demons. We are not bad people. That was our choice. But it was a super hard, deeply considered choice. As it should be.
I have boundless love and respect for all detransitioners!
Nice to hear from a trans-identified person on this forum - especially someone who is not here to call us transphobes. I don’t like the idea of medicalising with opposite-sex hormones because of the long term health consequences. But I respect the rights of (fully- fledged) adults to make their own decisions as long as they understand the potential consequences of their decisions and are not under the control of an obsessive belief. It’s heartening to hear you say that you support detransitioners.
This is very relatable I have a very similar story I identified as trans for ~4 years. I joined a site called TrevorSpace for lgbtq people aged 13-24, it was recommended to me by the Trevor Project crisis chat line and I imagine thats how many people found the site. Full of mentally ill kids and young adults. People shared that they identity as trans because of stuff like hating your body or identity or being gender nonconforming, all stuff i related too. I thought this would fix my poor mental health. I thought the reason I struggled with depression anxiety and self hatred was because I was actually born in the wrong body. They share it as a purely positive thing, calling it life saving care and saying everyone against it is hateful. Lots of fearmongering saying people who disagree want trans people to die. I was afraid of everyone who didn't affirm me. I was probably pretty insufferable at the time actually cause every interaction started with saying I'm a boy and to use he/him for me and i wouldn't talk to anyone otherwise. My mom wasn't affirming so I was afraid of her. I thought she was going to become abusive to me as other people shared stories of being abused after "coming out", and that by not affirming me she was abusing me by denying me the care that would fix my mental health. I realized the people on TrevorSpace didn't care about me and were actually manipulative, love bombing and withholding affection or "canceling" people who stepped out of line. Ever changing rules especially around censoring posts and trigger warnings. I left that site and joined another one called TransPulse which had more adults. They told me the same message that my mom was abusive and I need to transition. I didn't have any friends for a time I had unrelated family issues and it stressed me out so I isolated myself a lot. I also saw other people online talk freely and I watched some content disagreeing with trans ideology at first to hate watch but then I kind of agreed with some but not all points. Actually for a time I thought I was like a Blaire White republican trans person who disagreed with some trans ideology but not it fundamentally. My trans identity was the last to go, after a while of nobody affirming me.
"I realized the people on TrevorSpace didn't care about me and were actually manipulative, love bombing and withholding affection or "canceling" people who stepped out of line."
Noticing the manipulative tactics may have saved you! The cancelling part is clearly a red flag. Well done (and stated)! And well done, Mom!
Sorry to hear your experiences but I'm glad you got out of it relatively unscathed. Something that I think older adults forget, is how much more significant a period like 4 years seems to a young person than it does to them. 4 years doesn't feel all that long to me but it's a big chunk of a teenager's life, so I can see how it would be difficult, maybe even embarrassing, to accept that you had been convinced to do and believe something self-harmful for all that time
Yeah I desisted at 16 so it was about a quarter of my life at the time. I think even worse so are the "trans kids" who are really little and the parents say they've known their whole life when they're like 7 and have only been self aware for like 3 years
Thank you for sharing this. I have often wondered if, even after people start to question the narrative and begin to let it go, they have this strong loyalty to the trans identity, which is much harder to let go of. My son seems to have a strong loyalty to it.
I think that often by the time people may want to detransition, they have eliminated all cis friends from their life and made new, LGBTQ ones. Detransitioning is hard when their entire social identity is wrapped up in the lovebombing, affirming LGBTQ community. If they walk away from that, what will be left?
And it's a community that doesn't take kindly to detransitioners. The very idea that someone could be mistaken in thinking they are trans threatens the ideology.
For me that was the case. It was hard to question ideology but it was easier to question ideology than my own self identity. I had such a strong association with transitioning being lifesaving and something I needed to do. A strong association with me being female as a bad thing, and becoming male a good thing. It was my "true self", so for a time I criticized some aspects of trans ideology while still identifying as trans, thinking I was "true trans"
Thank you for sharing this experience. I hope you consider, if you're up to it, writing a piece for PITT sometime. I'm glad you came through to the other side. We're all hoping our kids do the same.
If you haven’t already seen this series of posts by Wesley Yang on X they are among the most informative that I have seen on this vital issue:
1/29/2025
“There are no "anti-trans extremists."
“There is a political party and professional apparatus that put male rapists and murderers in women's prisons, propagandized kindergartners that any of them could change sex, forced taxpayers and insurance customers to fund electrolysis and facial feminization surgeries, put any boy or man who claimed to be female into changing rooms with your daughters, forced you to declare the gender identity of your toddler at the doctor's office, deceived parents about the social transition of their children at school, banned psychological exploration of the mental health comorbidities that manifest as trans-ideation in the midst of an online social contagion generating 5000 percent increases in trans identification among youth, fined all-female nude spas run by immigrants for excluding men with penises who claimed to be women for violating the human rights of those men, imposed men on the athletic playing fields with your daughters, told thousands of parents to submit to the chemical castration of their children to avert imminent suicide risk for which no evidence has ever existed, subjected thousands of children to macabre sex changes procedures while lying about the existence of an evidence base where none ever existed while claiming on the basis of no evidence that the procedures were life-saving, investigated parents who refused to put their children on a pipeline to a lifetime of medicalized self-harm by pretending they had changed sex and sought to seize custody of them, and threatened to unperson you, attack your livelihood and leave you ostracized if you resisted it in any way with the aid of the monopolistic tech platforms that control the circulation of speech and money around the globe in a new surveillance and censorship regime that sought to dismantle biological reality in the name of narcissistic fantasies that it intended to entrench as the only truth while corrupting the truth-seeking apparatus of science itself -- and there is a majority of normal people in both parties who oppose this nonsense and want it stopped.”
6/20/2025
“Transgenderism must revert to being a form of private eccentricity. Recognition as one's preferred gender can be privately negotiated but with no coercion by any entity private or public. We all have an absolute right to affirm or not affirm, believe or not believe, that gender identity exists, that no one can infringe.
Sex segregated spaces and activities remain segregated by sex, not "gender identity."
Adults are free to inflict bodily self-harm on themselves in pursuit of an appearance they like but outside of any pretense of a medical protocol -- these are cosmetic procedures that come with no promises to relieve dysphoria or unlock an authentic self and the cost is borne solely by the person seeking them. Any such promises constitute consumer fraud. Children are of course unable to consent to such procedures.
The state has no role in affirming any aspect of cross-gender ideation, avoids proselytizing to children in schools or to anyone else in any interface it has with the public. The person who has inflicted bodily self-harm on his sex traits is no more a distinct class of person to whom special privileges or protections can be conferred than a person who has covered his face in tattoos. The person who believes with all his heart that he is a woman at heart and would die if others don't recognize him as such imposes no duty on any other person to share in that belief or to pretend to share in it. That person must develop resiliency about living in a pluralistic, liberal, democratic society where every person has a right to belief and a corollary right to unbelief that no one may legitimately infringe.
Any and all deviations from this resolution are morally illegitimate and practically untenable.
The attempt to turn a private eccentricity into a social cause that justified the remaking of society was a ghastly and destructive mistake. It was made inevitable by certain facets of the culture and certain aspects of our politics. We must learn the lesson that experience has now taught us.”
You were one of the rare smart ones who saw the light.
Unfortunately, the groomers target the stupid who stay stupid.
From a wrecked parent who knows.
My understanding is that Obamacare included changes to HIPAA authorizing coverage for dependents up to 26 yrs old (& older in some circumstances). It also made certain pharmaceuticals (psychiatric, hormonal, gender-affirming, etc.) private for dependents 18+. Many of the young people swept up in this transgender craze are also on psychiatric medications which can be very expensive. Unfortunately, the parents who are paying for this insurance coverage cannot access relevant information unless their dependent opts in for family sharing.
What a wonderful testimony of returning to reality and self-acceptance. Thank you so very much for sharing your life with us. Please keep writing, your voice is being heard, and it is lovely. You are so important to your family and to the world. Wishing you all the very best and praying for you! Love, Indio
So very glad that you found your way out of this! My teen years were the worst of my long life. Growing out of it is liberating.
Who would not want to become one of the group with more power, respect, money, and be safer? Even someone as rich and loved and worshipped as Michael Jackson kept trying to make himself look like the race who has power over his people. What if there was no racism or sexism? What if girls really had equal rights and were not caricatured and pornified in the media and in constant danger of assault? How many would get sucked into the trans cult?
YES! RESTACKED.
The pharmaceutical companies get ONE LESS girl sacrificed on their "trans" mutilation altar because your parents didn't go for it and they were able to protect you.
Enjoy that healthy body, Woman!
Loved this regarding the fakeness of all that "happiness" of the ones who fall for it:
"They seemed a lot happier,
Or at least that’s what they showed to me".
And loved how you encourage people to SPEAK OUT. That's what I am doing in the "belly-of-the-beast" in NYC. If you want to watch, in the approximately 5 minute recent Video, I am doing just that at the monthly NYC school community meetings, and I call out the NYC Department of Education for being in bed with the body-ruining corruption of the pharmaceutical industry:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EluKBYxKrsM
Thank you for your bravery and clarity, speaking out in the "belly-of-the-beast".
Bold and beautiful! Thank you for inspiring us as parents NEVER to lose hope!
We need more stories of hope and change like this. Thank you for sharing it.
This is so good! Thank you for writing it and sharing it with us! May God bless you and continue to shower you with His light and grace.
Thank you for sharing this!
Oh, dear... You are so brave to share your story with us! And there are so many parents who will feel addressed while reading it. Myself included....
The 56K must get louder, louder than those who propagate this madness!
You are the heroes of a terrible war between good and evil!
You must be supported!
So happy you came out of the dark...into the LIGHT !
God bless you and your parents!
Standing with you and Praying for others
I pray all our children return to sanity and come home and get put back together again. Nature wins, good luck beating her because you won't. Come home to your families who love you.
Nice poem!
Trans is a hard road to go down. Yes, you should explore all options including non-affirming therapy, simply being gender non-conforming as little or as much as you want, and do lots of research. There are many of us who, after all of that, still found ourselves drawn to medicalization, and that’s ok, too. We are not demons. We are not bad people. That was our choice. But it was a super hard, deeply considered choice. As it should be.
I have boundless love and respect for all detransitioners!
Nice to hear from a trans-identified person on this forum - especially someone who is not here to call us transphobes. I don’t like the idea of medicalising with opposite-sex hormones because of the long term health consequences. But I respect the rights of (fully- fledged) adults to make their own decisions as long as they understand the potential consequences of their decisions and are not under the control of an obsessive belief. It’s heartening to hear you say that you support detransitioners.
This is very relatable I have a very similar story I identified as trans for ~4 years. I joined a site called TrevorSpace for lgbtq people aged 13-24, it was recommended to me by the Trevor Project crisis chat line and I imagine thats how many people found the site. Full of mentally ill kids and young adults. People shared that they identity as trans because of stuff like hating your body or identity or being gender nonconforming, all stuff i related too. I thought this would fix my poor mental health. I thought the reason I struggled with depression anxiety and self hatred was because I was actually born in the wrong body. They share it as a purely positive thing, calling it life saving care and saying everyone against it is hateful. Lots of fearmongering saying people who disagree want trans people to die. I was afraid of everyone who didn't affirm me. I was probably pretty insufferable at the time actually cause every interaction started with saying I'm a boy and to use he/him for me and i wouldn't talk to anyone otherwise. My mom wasn't affirming so I was afraid of her. I thought she was going to become abusive to me as other people shared stories of being abused after "coming out", and that by not affirming me she was abusing me by denying me the care that would fix my mental health. I realized the people on TrevorSpace didn't care about me and were actually manipulative, love bombing and withholding affection or "canceling" people who stepped out of line. Ever changing rules especially around censoring posts and trigger warnings. I left that site and joined another one called TransPulse which had more adults. They told me the same message that my mom was abusive and I need to transition. I didn't have any friends for a time I had unrelated family issues and it stressed me out so I isolated myself a lot. I also saw other people online talk freely and I watched some content disagreeing with trans ideology at first to hate watch but then I kind of agreed with some but not all points. Actually for a time I thought I was like a Blaire White republican trans person who disagreed with some trans ideology but not it fundamentally. My trans identity was the last to go, after a while of nobody affirming me.
"I realized the people on TrevorSpace didn't care about me and were actually manipulative, love bombing and withholding affection or "canceling" people who stepped out of line."
Noticing the manipulative tactics may have saved you! The cancelling part is clearly a red flag. Well done (and stated)! And well done, Mom!
Sorry to hear your experiences but I'm glad you got out of it relatively unscathed. Something that I think older adults forget, is how much more significant a period like 4 years seems to a young person than it does to them. 4 years doesn't feel all that long to me but it's a big chunk of a teenager's life, so I can see how it would be difficult, maybe even embarrassing, to accept that you had been convinced to do and believe something self-harmful for all that time
Yeah I desisted at 16 so it was about a quarter of my life at the time. I think even worse so are the "trans kids" who are really little and the parents say they've known their whole life when they're like 7 and have only been self aware for like 3 years
Yeah, I have some, ahem, "strong opinions" about those parents
Thank you for sharing this. I have often wondered if, even after people start to question the narrative and begin to let it go, they have this strong loyalty to the trans identity, which is much harder to let go of. My son seems to have a strong loyalty to it.
I think that often by the time people may want to detransition, they have eliminated all cis friends from their life and made new, LGBTQ ones. Detransitioning is hard when their entire social identity is wrapped up in the lovebombing, affirming LGBTQ community. If they walk away from that, what will be left?
And it's a community that doesn't take kindly to detransitioners. The very idea that someone could be mistaken in thinking they are trans threatens the ideology.
For me that was the case. It was hard to question ideology but it was easier to question ideology than my own self identity. I had such a strong association with transitioning being lifesaving and something I needed to do. A strong association with me being female as a bad thing, and becoming male a good thing. It was my "true self", so for a time I criticized some aspects of trans ideology while still identifying as trans, thinking I was "true trans"
Thank you for sharing this experience. I hope you consider, if you're up to it, writing a piece for PITT sometime. I'm glad you came through to the other side. We're all hoping our kids do the same.