From the father of an adult trans-identifying daughter

After several years of struggling with our daughter on the trans issue, we have officially been relegated to “personae non grata” status with our own child because we recognize the immutable reality that our daughter’s sex doesn’t change simply because she wants to live her life in accordance with trans ideology, which she has adopted, and now identifies as a male.

There are few people that understand the topic of trans as an ideology. Even fewer people understand this ideology from the perspective of a parent whose child has been inculcated in it.  Our current culture is split between those who unquestioningly support and promote a lifestyle that denies reality yet seem to be willfully ignorant of the upper hand they enjoy in our society and those who refuse to kowtow to what ultimately is a destructive ideology at the social and personal level and are publicly excoriated for it.

We, the parents of trans-children, know our children. Not everything they believe requires that *we* change our viewpoints.

In the case of our daughter, and perhaps many other trans-identifying daughters, there seems to be a combination of issues including lack of personal identity, anxiety, depression, social expectations and great offense at one’s own body when puberty hits.

All these issues are complicated by porn-misinformed socio-sexual issues which surround the biological phenomenon of a girl becoming a woman.  Social media exacerbates all these conditions.  There also seems to be an overlap with trans-identification and being on the Autism spectrum, at least for some.  (There is significant on-spectrum behavior on the male side of my family and considerable anxiety-depression on the female side of my wife’s family.  Fortunately, our adult son, while exhibiting these same traits somewhat differently than our daughter, does NOT identify with the trans-community.)

A trans-positive ideology, perhaps even an agenda, is pushed throughout the nation in elementary schools, television and social media. It is reinforced via legal means, not to mention sociological pressures.  Those who disbelieve the previous statement ought to attempt opposing trans-positivity, which is merely a part of the LGBTQIP+ sociopolitical agenda and see what reaction they get.

Trans individuals accuse “non-believers” of “erasing people like them” if we oppose the ideology they have adopted.  This seems to reflect a lack of personal identity and extreme ideological tribalism.  While we do not want to “erase trans people”, we do want to eliminate the social promotion of what is a fringe ideological movement and its elevation to practically religious levels of belief. 

The underlying anxiety and depression associated with trans-ideology seem to be caused by an inability to adopt the social behavior expectations of what they feel is required for their sex.  At the least, there is a sense of “unwillingness to participate” in all the sociocultural expectations associated with their biological sex.

We know the pain of watching our children destroy their own lives.  But we are NOT alone.  There are more of us than most would believe.  We are stronger when allied than we could ever be individually.  This is why our voices are so opposed.

Refuse to comply.  Refuse to be silenced.