as one who dropped out in 1965, I have an opinion of the "school" and its NOT positive.
Fact is, the Public School system has always functioned as an indoctrination factory . . major bummer! Also, there was a time when in the "school" system that an autistic child would be considered defective, like "there is something WRONG with that kid" . . .
This is brilliant. I'm glad to hear some of those little seeds you are planting are starting to make tiny differences. Prayers for your precious daughter. 💗
My heart is moved as always by your essay and others at PITT. I often suggest www.newdiscourses.com for help in coping with this decades-in-the-making contagion. God Bless.
The Democratic Party is today like Wile E. Coyote suspended in midair just after he has run off the cliff and afraid to look down and accept his fate. Few in America are buying what they are selling anymore with their ridiculous open borders policies, their openly racist (against whites, Asians and men) identity politics, their acceptance of black criminal behavior, their coddling of the addicted and mentally unstable homeless, their crazy beliefs related to transgender issues such as allowing men into women’s sports, locker rooms and prisons, the mutilation of children in pursuit of the impossible and their increasing distrust of free speech. Oh look, they are already falling.
On the other hand there’s the Republican Party. The mere fact of their following of the probably mentality unstable Trump is one clue of their deranged condition. I would add that their failure to acknowledge the reality of climate change, their antipathy towards vaccines, their belief that a single cell ( . ) is the equivalent of a 👶, and their constant use of their right to free speech to spread obvious lies is clearly disqualifying to me. I can’t vote for either party.
Well said. It is not okay for schools to keep secrets from parents, and it's not okay to lie about the sex binary. Also, given the hostile interactions I've had with "trans rights" activists, I can say with certainty that the trans movement is most definitely not about inclusion, kindness and acceptance.
Beautifully written, so heartfelt. I love this and my heart goes out to you.
The impact and persuasion of this trans community is incredibly strong, and in my opinion, frightfully so. My adult son who transitioned at 40 had none of the influences kids have today, no iPad, no cell phone growing up, and it wasn't until he was well into adulthood this topic even became so pronounced. I have seen many parents talk about the characteristics of the child that actually did transition at some point and they are all very similar. So many lack confidence in themselves, for one reason or another, and I believe our son did, I saw it. We were always very supportive, he was in sports, music, etc. and all his own choice. Incredibly smart. But there was obviously something deep down we never saw and had we known would have sought professional help while he was still a minor. I agree that it is a mental illness, there is no other explanation. But the psychiatric community has failed and largely supports this madness. It's criminal.
When even the LGB community refers to them as the Trans Mafia (I have seen it often) and distances themselves you know there is a problem.
Sending my very best to you for the very best possible outcome with your daughter. No one needs to suffer through this madness and it needs to come to an end.
this is deeply touching and speaks directly to our difficulty as parents.
My own child went ROGD after turning 18 and so I had no ability to do all the things PITT parents have recommended over the past years, but for those who have a child at home (whose activities you can direct if not entirely control) you can impact their health via strong parental safe-guarding.
Some of the pro-active things parents can do include:
* turn off the WiFi -- you can block access of the device to the web OR you can put time limits on web access
*take away the tablet and smart phone -- constantly being online is a big source of contemporary mental illness, this is currently being fought in law suits against big Social Media companies because they already know their platforms harm children's mental health
* remove the computer or game console from her room to a public place in the house (say: the kitchen counter or living room)
* install the strongest of parental filters on what your ISP allows into your home. (You can block words & sites -- so you can block "porn" or any other word and you can block Youtube, Discord, Reddit, Instagram, Facebook, TikTok and so forth)
* Engage your child in outdoor physical activities
* Encourage their personal growth and developing new friendship circles via changing schools, moving (to a foreign country), or joining a healthy club or organization that gives her new context
If I had the opportunity I would do all these things.
THIS. So much, this. I'm so exhausted of having these arguments and conversations only in my head, because in reality we only talk about other stuff, fun stuff, cool stuff, good, interesting stuff. Because gender isn't any of that. Gender is stupid, and one day everyone will see that.
“Protective Services could come take you away from me if you tell the progressive California activist teacher at your school your mother isn’t on board!!”
I cannot think of a better reason to leave the Golden State immediately, regardless of consequences to employment, loss of friends or career. If there’s anything I’d make major sacrifices for it would be to prevent mutilation to my children. Yes, CA has great weather, but giving it up is a small price to pay to get away from tyrannical government. (FYI, I grew up in the Bay Area and thought I’d be there forever. It’s now been 20 years since I left over my dislike of the direction the politics were headed. Never for a day have I regretted the decision even though I still enjoy vacationing in CA.)
you have to be careful about the destination state as "pro-trans laws"/CPS practices & Family Courts exist at least in WA, OR, CA, MD, MN, NJ, and DC, I think NY might be on that list too.
Other people might know more or correct this list.
Stand strong dear parent! You see it clearly: "Non-binary and Trans movements are about a desired identity that requires the world around them to lie, under the guise of being kind and inclusive. It is not kind to lie." Let your grounding to reality and truth shine bright every day!
I love your essay so much. I also have the girl who ate, played and slept in her Frozen gown, so Let it Go is a perfect phrase to think about. After Bob Newhart’s passing a video went around where he tells a client 2 words that will help her for her whole life when it comes to unhelpful thoughts and feelings. “ STOP IT!” I just love it and have started incorporating that in some conversations. The other one that we love and plan to use soon is from “Good Will Hunting “ where Robin Williams tells Will “it’s not your fault.” Another incredibly powerful term that I think these kids need to hear as they start to understand the compounding influences all around them that led them here.
How about simply abandoning the "public" schools,
as one who dropped out in 1965, I have an opinion of the "school" and its NOT positive.
Fact is, the Public School system has always functioned as an indoctrination factory . . major bummer! Also, there was a time when in the "school" system that an autistic child would be considered defective, like "there is something WRONG with that kid" . . .
I pray Gender Ideology leaves our public schools soon.
Love this! The fact that you are a great mom comes screaming through your letter 😘 Stay strong!
This is brilliant. I'm glad to hear some of those little seeds you are planting are starting to make tiny differences. Prayers for your precious daughter. 💗
My heart is moved as always by your essay and others at PITT. I often suggest www.newdiscourses.com for help in coping with this decades-in-the-making contagion. God Bless.
Thank you! I will check it out.
James Lindsay is a brilliant thinker. THIS is the kind of thing they should be teaching in school, not gender nonsense.
The Democratic Party is today like Wile E. Coyote suspended in midair just after he has run off the cliff and afraid to look down and accept his fate. Few in America are buying what they are selling anymore with their ridiculous open borders policies, their openly racist (against whites, Asians and men) identity politics, their acceptance of black criminal behavior, their coddling of the addicted and mentally unstable homeless, their crazy beliefs related to transgender issues such as allowing men into women’s sports, locker rooms and prisons, the mutilation of children in pursuit of the impossible and their increasing distrust of free speech. Oh look, they are already falling.
On the other hand there’s the Republican Party. The mere fact of their following of the probably mentality unstable Trump is one clue of their deranged condition. I would add that their failure to acknowledge the reality of climate change, their antipathy towards vaccines, their belief that a single cell ( . ) is the equivalent of a 👶, and their constant use of their right to free speech to spread obvious lies is clearly disqualifying to me. I can’t vote for either party.
Well said. It is not okay for schools to keep secrets from parents, and it's not okay to lie about the sex binary. Also, given the hostile interactions I've had with "trans rights" activists, I can say with certainty that the trans movement is most definitely not about inclusion, kindness and acceptance.
Beautifully written, so heartfelt. I love this and my heart goes out to you.
The impact and persuasion of this trans community is incredibly strong, and in my opinion, frightfully so. My adult son who transitioned at 40 had none of the influences kids have today, no iPad, no cell phone growing up, and it wasn't until he was well into adulthood this topic even became so pronounced. I have seen many parents talk about the characteristics of the child that actually did transition at some point and they are all very similar. So many lack confidence in themselves, for one reason or another, and I believe our son did, I saw it. We were always very supportive, he was in sports, music, etc. and all his own choice. Incredibly smart. But there was obviously something deep down we never saw and had we known would have sought professional help while he was still a minor. I agree that it is a mental illness, there is no other explanation. But the psychiatric community has failed and largely supports this madness. It's criminal.
When even the LGB community refers to them as the Trans Mafia (I have seen it often) and distances themselves you know there is a problem.
Sending my very best to you for the very best possible outcome with your daughter. No one needs to suffer through this madness and it needs to come to an end.
Grooming has been going on in the school system for decades.
this is deeply touching and speaks directly to our difficulty as parents.
My own child went ROGD after turning 18 and so I had no ability to do all the things PITT parents have recommended over the past years, but for those who have a child at home (whose activities you can direct if not entirely control) you can impact their health via strong parental safe-guarding.
Some of the pro-active things parents can do include:
* turn off the WiFi -- you can block access of the device to the web OR you can put time limits on web access
*take away the tablet and smart phone -- constantly being online is a big source of contemporary mental illness, this is currently being fought in law suits against big Social Media companies because they already know their platforms harm children's mental health
* remove the computer or game console from her room to a public place in the house (say: the kitchen counter or living room)
* install the strongest of parental filters on what your ISP allows into your home. (You can block words & sites -- so you can block "porn" or any other word and you can block Youtube, Discord, Reddit, Instagram, Facebook, TikTok and so forth)
* Engage your child in outdoor physical activities
* Encourage their personal growth and developing new friendship circles via changing schools, moving (to a foreign country), or joining a healthy club or organization that gives her new context
If I had the opportunity I would do all these things.
“So, for now, I would like you to focus on everything about you that is not trans.” Beautiful piece and good advice. ❤️
THIS. So much, this. I'm so exhausted of having these arguments and conversations only in my head, because in reality we only talk about other stuff, fun stuff, cool stuff, good, interesting stuff. Because gender isn't any of that. Gender is stupid, and one day everyone will see that.
“Protective Services could come take you away from me if you tell the progressive California activist teacher at your school your mother isn’t on board!!”
I cannot think of a better reason to leave the Golden State immediately, regardless of consequences to employment, loss of friends or career. If there’s anything I’d make major sacrifices for it would be to prevent mutilation to my children. Yes, CA has great weather, but giving it up is a small price to pay to get away from tyrannical government. (FYI, I grew up in the Bay Area and thought I’d be there forever. It’s now been 20 years since I left over my dislike of the direction the politics were headed. Never for a day have I regretted the decision even though I still enjoy vacationing in CA.)
you have to be careful about the destination state as "pro-trans laws"/CPS practices & Family Courts exist at least in WA, OR, CA, MD, MN, NJ, and DC, I think NY might be on that list too.
Other people might know more or correct this list.
I think MA has pro-trans laws too.
Stand strong dear parent! You see it clearly: "Non-binary and Trans movements are about a desired identity that requires the world around them to lie, under the guise of being kind and inclusive. It is not kind to lie." Let your grounding to reality and truth shine bright every day!
This is so beautiful.
I love your essay so much. I also have the girl who ate, played and slept in her Frozen gown, so Let it Go is a perfect phrase to think about. After Bob Newhart’s passing a video went around where he tells a client 2 words that will help her for her whole life when it comes to unhelpful thoughts and feelings. “ STOP IT!” I just love it and have started incorporating that in some conversations. The other one that we love and plan to use soon is from “Good Will Hunting “ where Robin Williams tells Will “it’s not your fault.” Another incredibly powerful term that I think these kids need to hear as they start to understand the compounding influences all around them that led them here.
Thank you for your essay.
I think writing an old fashioned letter to your daughter is a great idea.