This could be our story. Our son came out to us as trans a few months ago and has started on hormones. Unfortunately our son is 30 yrs old and not living under our roof anymore, so we have even less control and influence. You are correct in that the quirky, social awkwardness of the neurodivergent mind makes them susceptible to self hatred, thus more likely to embrace a disassociative identity. This is not true gender dysphoria. This is a new type of dissociative identity disorder encouraged by media and "gender affirming care."
Our only hope is to remain in relationship with him while not affirming his desire to be female; still loving and supporting him, but not supporting this path he is taking.
This is such a wonderful essay. The part about maintaining strong relationships is so important. When I was amidst this nightmare, a very wise person said to me, “your connection with her is all you have to get her out of this.” That turned out to be so true. It saddens me when I see parents giving up the connection, when I think that is one big piece of the way back.
I just have to say that as a Lesbian I do hate the "GBTQIA" list that includes our worst enemies, heterosexual men who demand we accept them as Lesbians. They have destroyed our community, threatened to rape and murder us for saying no to them (and they have murdered some Lesbians), are re-writing our history, and are targeting children to prey on. I object to being identified with them and the trans cult in any way, but what can we do when they have massive amounts of money and power?
Your writing and poetry are beautiful. Our daughter just desisted after 5 years in this craziness. I set up an inspirational quote wall in our kitchen and one of the quotes is Timothy Keller quote about not accepting truth without love and love without truth. You used it here beautifully. I’m so glad your daughter has found peace and love within herself. Praying for all of our children.
While she has come a long way, she is still not willing to give up this ROGD crutch that supports her sense of self-esteem. She still struggles to understand that you can love someone without agreeing with them. The brainwashing wears off slowly.
This is great. Prayer is one of the few effective strategies we can use. Apart from prayer, we control very little apart from our attitudes and actions. We can't control what our kids think or do.
Hard wisdom here. IMHO, coming to the realization that control is a figment of our imagination is key. I certainly don't have all the answers to navigating the journey, but what I do know is that nothing good ever comes from a lie. Truth is what sets us free. I'm praying for that for everyone who comes to PITT, their children, families, and friends. God bless you all.
I completely resonate with your essay. This started for my son at age 27 when he decided he really was a girl. He is 33 now and I am completely not affirming still. the beautiful thing is that we still connect about once a week we have great phone conversations and we love each other, but I do not endorse his lifestyle and I do not call him by his new name. I use nicknames like honey and Sweetheart.
The story is not over for your daughter or my son keep loving keep praying and keep doing the next right thing!
The author mentions the 'LGBTQ community'. This so-called community is not monolithic and there are many serious divisions within it. Many LGBs do NOT support gender idealogy, are opposed to the transing of children (we do not believe that any child is 'born in the wrong body'), and want nothing to do with the Ts and the Qs.
Yes, but the radical, vocal activist members of the community are the ones who have the stage and spend the money to advance the LGB cause and capture the Ts and the Qs along with them to expand their scope. How do you separate them at this point?
This could be our story. Our son came out to us as trans a few months ago and has started on hormones. Unfortunately our son is 30 yrs old and not living under our roof anymore, so we have even less control and influence. You are correct in that the quirky, social awkwardness of the neurodivergent mind makes them susceptible to self hatred, thus more likely to embrace a disassociative identity. This is not true gender dysphoria. This is a new type of dissociative identity disorder encouraged by media and "gender affirming care."
Our only hope is to remain in relationship with him while not affirming his desire to be female; still loving and supporting him, but not supporting this path he is taking.
This is such a wonderful essay. The part about maintaining strong relationships is so important. When I was amidst this nightmare, a very wise person said to me, “your connection with her is all you have to get her out of this.” That turned out to be so true. It saddens me when I see parents giving up the connection, when I think that is one big piece of the way back.
Indoctrinate then with religious woo instead of gender woo. Got it. If evidence matters not sure how Christian school is better.
I just have to say that as a Lesbian I do hate the "GBTQIA" list that includes our worst enemies, heterosexual men who demand we accept them as Lesbians. They have destroyed our community, threatened to rape and murder us for saying no to them (and they have murdered some Lesbians), are re-writing our history, and are targeting children to prey on. I object to being identified with them and the trans cult in any way, but what can we do when they have massive amounts of money and power?
Beautiful!
Your writing and poetry are beautiful. Our daughter just desisted after 5 years in this craziness. I set up an inspirational quote wall in our kitchen and one of the quotes is Timothy Keller quote about not accepting truth without love and love without truth. You used it here beautifully. I’m so glad your daughter has found peace and love within herself. Praying for all of our children.
I love Tim Keller.
Congrats to you and your daughter! So happy for you. If you haven''t done so already, please write your story for PITT
While she has come a long way, she is still not willing to give up this ROGD crutch that supports her sense of self-esteem. She still struggles to understand that you can love someone without agreeing with them. The brainwashing wears off slowly.
yes, definitely!
Please join us in praying tonight! Go to PittPrayer(dotcom) to access the link!!
This is great. Prayer is one of the few effective strategies we can use. Apart from prayer, we control very little apart from our attitudes and actions. We can't control what our kids think or do.
Hard wisdom here. IMHO, coming to the realization that control is a figment of our imagination is key. I certainly don't have all the answers to navigating the journey, but what I do know is that nothing good ever comes from a lie. Truth is what sets us free. I'm praying for that for everyone who comes to PITT, their children, families, and friends. God bless you all.
I totally agree, Karole.
I completely resonate with your essay. This started for my son at age 27 when he decided he really was a girl. He is 33 now and I am completely not affirming still. the beautiful thing is that we still connect about once a week we have great phone conversations and we love each other, but I do not endorse his lifestyle and I do not call him by his new name. I use nicknames like honey and Sweetheart.
The story is not over for your daughter or my son keep loving keep praying and keep doing the next right thing!
Thanks, Jenn.
Me too! Exactly the same, never call my son by his new name. I use a nickname.
The author mentions the 'LGBTQ community'. This so-called community is not monolithic and there are many serious divisions within it. Many LGBs do NOT support gender idealogy, are opposed to the transing of children (we do not believe that any child is 'born in the wrong body'), and want nothing to do with the Ts and the Qs.
From what I hear, there isn't much love between L, G, and B either...
Yes, but the radical, vocal activist members of the community are the ones who have the stage and spend the money to advance the LGB cause and capture the Ts and the Qs along with them to expand their scope. How do you separate them at this point?
They all use the same playbook. Separation from unbelievers, indoctrination via the need to belong, all or nothing thinking, special status.
Yes. It's the playbook of all cults.
Love this! We need an article on this non-monolithic community
You've pointed out very important truths for us to remember in this battle for our children.
Thanks, Diana.