Generational estrangement
Generational estrangement is a familiar concept for my wife and me. Our sons talk to us occasionally but not in any particular pattern. Although they are not transgender, their behavior is only a degree or so removed from it.
I have been so moved by PITT’s letters of fear, anger, worry, grief and sadness, I decided to accept an invitation from the author of “An Open Letter to a School Board Anywhere” to read it at my local board meeting.
Thank goodness I live in one of the 22 states that have a ban on transgender medicalization. My school board responded politely, which tells me I need to continue advocating for vigilance against harming children. Even in what appears to be a conservative district, awareness of the issue needs to grow, because the promotion of trans-ideology is so well funded and organized.
I have a suggestion that may turn the tide sooner if enough people follow it. Become more-involved citizens. Join two or more charitable groups unrelated to transgenderism. And find 55 people in those groups with whom you can be candid about something, even if it’s not the most burning issue in your life. This will help balance out the powerlessness you may feel in your gender-confused child’s life.
I promise you; I will be following this advice myself. Allow the increased dialog you experience as a result to move you into journaling or even authoring. Every book or journal page written is first for yourself, second for your social circle, and third for a broad audience.
Go in stages but get started now. The act of speaking generates endorphins in your nervous system. Share nature’s innate feel-good hormonal chemistry where you can, and avoid the traps of excess TV, excess social media, and excess alcohol or legalized cannabis. Over time, we will all regain our sense of country, family and self. God bless everyone reading this.
Thank you for writing this. There are many reasons for estrangement. Some adult children who are identifying as trans just can't handle being questioned or having a conversation. In our experience with parent groups, the adult child has deep depression and anxiety and is so convinced by the trans ally mob that we are bigots, a conversation is just not possible. Which makes this a cult. A cult member cannot leave the cult. Twin flames is a great example. Watch any cult show and you will see lots of parallels to the trans community. So, it's up to the adult child to realize that the cult is not serving their best interest any longer. This could mean regret of surgeries initially or irreversible endocrine damage, joint pain, a stroke, an emergency hysterectomy. At this point in an adult's life - they don't want to ask parents for help because they are so worried about "I told you so". They have a poor view of parents who were just trying to help and would be there for them - post transition - because we love our kids and nothing can ever, ever change that. Yet, with regret, comes stages of grief. Denial, anger, etc. When you have mental problems, it takes a lot of self respect and knowledge to say you were actually wrong. These trans identifying adults really believe that something is wrong with them and they are the wrong sex because that is what the medical industry is telling them. And the industry is telling them that if their parents are Christians or question this then they are unsafe. This is what type of therapy they get. It's a medical scandal, cult and cultural rebellion. The parents are the enemies to the cult because parents are the only folks who love their children enough to share cold hard truths and try to protect them. Even the greatest in the field (Joshua Coleman) are missing the mark and listening to the radicals that let children lead this. It's bizarre and sad. It's a let down and I can't wait for 10 more years to roll by. The medical community will be forever mistrusted. As a cancer survivor, I am pretty disgusted with the medical community but I am a medical patient for life so I don't have much of a choice but to love the ones who I know what a true pathology is and try to talk to them a bit about this. The rest of them are pathological liars. No one wants to look at it. These estrangement specialists like to say: "You need to accept your daughter for who she is." Um well, I am the only person who accepts that my son can't change sex. So, f... off, parentphobe"
Thank you for reading the letter to your school board and putting it on public record. When I read the letter out loud, it took me just over 5 minutes. I am sure it could be read faster, but it did it at a calm and easy listening pace. Some school boards allow 5 minutes for public comment, some 3 minutes, and some just 2 minutes. I hope it is a good template that anyway can use to edit as they see fit.