I'm a long-time editor and publishing industry professional, and I never read modern fiction anymore. There is a great wealth of extraordinary fiction from before this toxic transgenderist nightmare corrupted our world:
Marilyn Robinson wrote a wonderful novel in the 1980s called Housekeeping, about a strange but moving childhood with an unusual young aunt.
There are Irene Nemirovsky's beautiful novels of France in the 1940s (including her gorgeous tour de force, Suite Francaise).
There are Rebecca West's brilliantly-written Cousin Rosamund novels of a unique family in early-20th century London: The Fountain Overflows, This Real Night, and Cousin Rosamund.
Isak Denisen wrote marvelous novellas of fabulous characters in dreamlike historical settings, as well as lovely nonfiction about her farm in Africa (Shadows on the Grass, Out of Africa).
Ivy Compton-Burnett invented the definitive "Modern" family novel, with her many sparely-written and insightful novels of vast Edwardian families with their conflicting hidden agendas.
For a little light nonsense, there's nothing like the dozens of brief comic novels and stories of PG Wodehouse.
And when in doubt, pick up Dear Theo, the Letters of Vincent Van Gogh--500 pages of wonderful, poignant, profound musings on art, spirituality, and the haunting lifelong search for beauty and meaning.
There are lots of us here for you who aren't in your shoes, so please keep writing and let us hold some of your burden. I don't have anyone close to me transitioning and I can't imagine how difficult it must be to watch a child go through this.
As a bodyworker, I see the absolute insanity that is transitioning as forcing the body to look the way the unhealthy mind thinks it should, when what really needs help is the mind. This is wild medical malpractice. It makes me so sad and angry. I have argued with many friends over what is the "compassionate" way to handle someone transitioning. Why would affirming mental illness be compassionate? And at the same time I don't know how I would handle being in your shoes.
I'm sorry you are having to deal with this, I'm sorry your daughter has gotten caught up in this lie. I hope life starts to crack through and give her little glimmers of truth that can put her on the path of healing. And in the meantime it sounds like you need help too. I hope you find a good therapist. Someone who isn't captured, maybe someone who deals with this subject. (There are so many options via zoom these days.) You sound like you could really use some grief counseling.
I am sending you love. You sound stronger than your words let on.
Thank you for being here and speaking compassion, as well as speaking truth in your community. For so long it seemed no one understood at all, unless it had hit your own child. It truly helps us parents to see that others now are making the effort to see what is happening, and to speak truth. It really means a lot. 🙏🏼
I am one of those parents you mentioned, "in this for 10 or more years." It's been 11, with my son. Time actually does not heal all wounds, as it turns out. However, one does learn to live with that pain, to partition it off, so that you can move forward every day. If there's one thing I've learned, it's to work on the relationships--all of them. I've been through two estrangements with my son and, though we've gotten past the most recent one, the threat is ever present. During those times, I'd periodically reach out with love, a small gift, food, or some help, such as, when his birthday rolls around or if I hear that he is sick. That kind of unconditional love is hard for anyone to resist. You don't have to be affirming. I am not. He knows where I stand and I will not beat a dead horse by reiterating all the evidence that this ideology is evil and destructive. You are right on this issue, so own it. If there are those in your life who get angry and try to defend it, simply say that, while you may be wrong on many things, you are not wrong on this one. As for your husband, many men suffer silently. His anger when you cry is likely caused by his inability to "fix this"--and he can't. I would turn some of your unrequited love toward him. He lives in this painful world of yours, too, so try to rekindle that relationship. Be intentional in nurturing the relationship with your younger daughter, too. We inadvertently neglect our other kids when one child's problems consume us. Keep doing more of the things you enjoy: running, talking to your supportive sister, getting out in nature. Hold fast to your faith in God, even if you can't find a spiritual community to call your own. Many churches--so desperate to not be off-putting to any congregation members--remain silent and morally ambiguous on this ideology. Life goes on, but life is not static--things will change. Bad days will become fewer and you will look back and realize that you did the absolute best you could.
Perfectly perceived and summed! I agree with paleblue, why burden a broken-hearted mother; instead the husband should support her and so both will be able to find solace in each other by workign together.
"You are right on this issue, so own it." Great advice, across the board! I do find your analysis of the husband's anger interesting. But as a man, I think those fathers who aren't cowards need to turn that anger in the direction it belongs, and most definitely NOT at the suffering mothers.
I have one beautiful 14 year old daughter who is led to believe that her ambition and strength makes her a boy and that she should subject herself to a life of medical intervention. She already has a medical condition impacting her liver and any additional hormones/etc. would pose tremendous risks. My husband whom I've financially supported for the last 18 years is enforcing that any questioning is non-confirming and transphobic as opposed to helping our daughter love herself first. He does not even allow me to say that she is my daughter based on this insidious ideology and has destroyed my bond with my daughter. My heart is breaking daily for my daughter.
It's not my place to apologize for the actions of any other man who fancies himself an "ally" and acts as an enforcer of the cult, but damned if I don't feel like I need to.
My wife and I are in the same boat as you. We do our best to take care of ourselves and we have good friend groups thanks to my wife's extraversion and spiritual gift of hospitality. Yesterday my Wife was briefly texting our bearded breastless daughter who is now 31 YO, and mentioned to her an old neighborhood friend was mentioning her, our daughter got upset on the text, accusing us of miss gendering her to others knowing we had likely done so. The torture from this paganism never ends. We are not alone. Do not give up.
Just reading 'bearded breastless daughter' broke my heart for you. I might have escaped this terrifying pain of seeing one's kid mutilated, as my daughter seems ( she said not interested any more looking embarrassed, and reiterated her disinterest again when I questioned saying 'I need to be reassured by a clear answer'.) to have desisted, but my fear of internet remains, as she is till awkward about her body, and has very few friends, for she needs to lose body mass / weight ( which I believe sent her into this path, along with a schoolmate who showed her stuff not for a 12 year old). I am monitoring her internet a lot. 1 or 2 hours a day. And she seems to have discarded her old accounts linked to he/him rubbish. It is good that your wife is bringing in company thanks to her warm heart. yes, do stuff for yourselves which helps a great deal. It is crucial not to ruminate on the loss of a part of the child. Much love from France.
I know you're isolated but YOU ARE NOT ALONE, and trust me, we ALL feel isolated. I have a similar lack of patience or tolerance for this ideology too-- once I began studying the ideas that "wokism" relies on and developed a clear understanding of exactly how this happened, why people are so captured by this, and what is REALLY happening when they use the various tactics against any who challenges them, it both validated me AND made me furious. Trans and gender ideology is only one head of a multi-headed hydra. But what I find intolerable isn't trans people-- it's the ideology that activists have used to justify all of the many accomodations they have demanded (which is already an astounding display of privileged entitlement), but then when anyone tries to enforce this belief system on me, or immediately demonize me and become hostile because I have simply questioned some benign expression of this fucking brainrot. (It was someone condeming a really influential and trailblazing author in the witchcraft community named Scott Cunningham because in literally just a few paragraphs at the beginning of his book on Wicca that he wrong in the 80s or early 90s or something, he described witchcraft has being similar to "shamanism." They were pretentiously implying that he was a wilful idiot who was disrespecting indigenous cultures because shamanism was a term appropriated by "white colonization," and besides, his comments that were complimentary of shamanistic practices was a racist trope (apparently believing Western civilization is better than primitive cultures is a racist trope AND liking primitive cultures and believing their closeness with nature granted them additional access to ways of knowing that Western civilization was ALSO a racist trope). I defended him and said that it's unfair to apply fashionable modes of criticism of today onto works written 30 years ago. 10 people just became the most vile, rude, hostile people (including the leaders and the mods of the chat) in a community that's supposed to be like New Agey spiritually enlightened wiccans. Instead, it was a room full of braindead zombie fucking personal disorders inhabiting human bodies.
Anyways, I understand your rage, I understand your rebellion, I understand your refusal to allow any of them to force you to internalize these ideas and parrot them back to them, and I understand your restlessness and sense of panic. I can't imagine doing the research you've done, knowing more about the horrors and risks (and in most cases, complete waste of money and useless sacrifice of your body parts and health) and having to watch your child subject herself to all of this. It's so NEFARIOUS that they have subconsciously built into their ideology a sort of defense mechanism to protect them from being influenced by their parents or anyone else that might talk them out of it-- trans social media, under the guise of "loving and accepting you, even if you're parents don't" convince these people that anyone who disagrees not only with you transitioning, but disagrees with the IDEOLOGY behind it are people who don't love you and don't accept you. I lost a friend this way-- I accepted him and him taking hormones, even though I've known him since he was 18 and for his entire adulthood, he never experienced gender dysphoria and was always just an effeminate gay boy. But I admitted that no, I do not think trans women are LITERALLY women-- hormones and surgeries help you APPEAR more like the other sex, so that you can live your life AS IF you were the other sex, and your friends and coworkers can choose to treat you AS IF you were the other sex, but that you aren't actually changing sex. That the gender/sex thing is bullshit-- that they literally just took "gender ROLES" and "gender STEREOTYPES" and just called that gender, since all of their ideas about it seem to be extremely superficial and just a matter of how you dress. It's a costume.
Anyways, I have suggestions for you. All of this energy that you have-- I think you would find it easier to stay motivated and keep going if the things you were directing your energy towards actually helped fight this ideology. I think you should start a youtube channel and start telling your story, and/or start or join an organization in South Africa that works to assist these young people, and/or write a book about this.
Of course, you'll need to do some research. Check out these books to learn about where the hell this ideology came from (all of these others might have other books you might want to check out too but these are some books recommended amongst gender critical groups):
1. The New Puritans: How the Religion of Social Justice Captured the Western World by Andrew Doyle (
2. Cynical Theories: How Activist Scholarship Made Everything About Race, Gender, and Identity -- And Why This Harms Everybody by Helenrose and James Lindsay
3. The Madness of Crowds: Gender, Race and Identity by Douglas Murray
4. How to Have Impossible Conversations: A Very Practical Guide - Peter Boghossian
And I expect you probably already read these but just incase, these are all books that trans activists have tried banning, have thrown out of book shops (often succeeding- Helen Joyce has a funny story about that somewhere on youtube):
- Trans: When Ideology Meets Reality - Helen Joyce
- Material Girls: Why Reality Matters for Feminism - Kathleen Stock
- Lost in Trans Nation: A Child Psychiatrist's Guide Out of the Madness - Miriam Grossman
Read. Write. Tell your story online. And get active politically, even if it means YOU start an organization yourself. You sound passionate and qualified enough considering your research, even if it's only a social and emotional support group where parents, family, and friends of people losing their loved ones to this can share their experiences together.
As a mother of another confused daughter, I can relate. The intectual dissonance of those around us is crazy I often feel I'm in a twilight zone episode. As a mother, it sometimes feels like we the only ones who care about our child. Sending hugs
You are not alone in your persecution, for we are many. Stay the course and instead of watching Netflix or reading a magazine, next time pick up the Bible. Go to Matthew chapter 5 verses 3-10 and read the Sermon on the Mount. No fake churches, just the Word. Ask the Lord to strengthen you in this battle. You are fighting a strong spiritual opponent, so you need to prepare, and be strong in your authority over the enemy.
The fact that this took off in South Africa, of all places, never ceases to amaze me. Stay strong mom. You are a good mom. The rest of the world is crazy, not you. What you are doing may feel pointless, but somewhere there is a kid and a family that won't be subjected to this barbaric pseudoscience because of you. <3 <3 <3
Im only just beginning in my nightmare. I find it hard to laugh, smile, or engage with people . I miss the old me. I miss my son. I have been blocked since the beginning. I cant even imagine doing this for 10 years. My son is clearly mentally ill and everyone says i cant do a thing about it. No one cares. That’s the sad part. God bless you
Try going on vacations , even cheap ones, no, actually especially ceap one sin third world countries , if you can afford the tickets, so that your child sees reality, instead of living in his head. Love.
Hello mom from South Africa, I am a mom from Mexico, this article is exactly how I feel, my husband also has a hard time, everyone asks me to accept it, my daughter suffers in silence, it is exactly the same feeling I have, my house is a mess, work is piling up, I can't stop reading about all this and it makes me want to throw up, I recognize my son less and less, physically, mentally and emotionally. he only thing that has brought me a little comfort is giving my son to God. I can no longer control, help, educate, and guide my son, but I faithfully believe in him, and only he can help him see things as they really are. His timing is perfect. We can only wait and hold on to God, a big hug and I realize that I'm not crazy, it's pain, love, worry, that only we as mothers know.
I'm a long-time editor and publishing industry professional, and I never read modern fiction anymore. There is a great wealth of extraordinary fiction from before this toxic transgenderist nightmare corrupted our world:
Marilyn Robinson wrote a wonderful novel in the 1980s called Housekeeping, about a strange but moving childhood with an unusual young aunt.
There are Irene Nemirovsky's beautiful novels of France in the 1940s (including her gorgeous tour de force, Suite Francaise).
There are Rebecca West's brilliantly-written Cousin Rosamund novels of a unique family in early-20th century London: The Fountain Overflows, This Real Night, and Cousin Rosamund.
Isak Denisen wrote marvelous novellas of fabulous characters in dreamlike historical settings, as well as lovely nonfiction about her farm in Africa (Shadows on the Grass, Out of Africa).
Ivy Compton-Burnett invented the definitive "Modern" family novel, with her many sparely-written and insightful novels of vast Edwardian families with their conflicting hidden agendas.
For a little light nonsense, there's nothing like the dozens of brief comic novels and stories of PG Wodehouse.
And when in doubt, pick up Dear Theo, the Letters of Vincent Van Gogh--500 pages of wonderful, poignant, profound musings on art, spirituality, and the haunting lifelong search for beauty and meaning.
"Very few of my family and friends support me. They are either aggressively pro-trans or they are deathly silent."
This, me too. Yes, I feel your pain.
Thank you for writing and sharing. Your story is so relatable, other than our son caught up in the delusion.
It truly is a club we never wanted to join and people on the outside really can't understand the grief.
Praying for strength in the battle and comfort in the trial.
There are lots of us here for you who aren't in your shoes, so please keep writing and let us hold some of your burden. I don't have anyone close to me transitioning and I can't imagine how difficult it must be to watch a child go through this.
As a bodyworker, I see the absolute insanity that is transitioning as forcing the body to look the way the unhealthy mind thinks it should, when what really needs help is the mind. This is wild medical malpractice. It makes me so sad and angry. I have argued with many friends over what is the "compassionate" way to handle someone transitioning. Why would affirming mental illness be compassionate? And at the same time I don't know how I would handle being in your shoes.
I'm sorry you are having to deal with this, I'm sorry your daughter has gotten caught up in this lie. I hope life starts to crack through and give her little glimmers of truth that can put her on the path of healing. And in the meantime it sounds like you need help too. I hope you find a good therapist. Someone who isn't captured, maybe someone who deals with this subject. (There are so many options via zoom these days.) You sound like you could really use some grief counseling.
I am sending you love. You sound stronger than your words let on.
Thank you for being here and speaking compassion, as well as speaking truth in your community. For so long it seemed no one understood at all, unless it had hit your own child. It truly helps us parents to see that others now are making the effort to see what is happening, and to speak truth. It really means a lot. 🙏🏼
I see you & hear you & care.
Some days I find I just have to let the barriers down- sob & walow in pool of sadness. The effect on parents is so unacknowledged
Thank you for keeping at it, and for helping us all feel a little less alone.
Keep speaking the truth!
But please let yourself take a break once in a while.
You are not alone. You are not alone. I see you and I am here hoping for us all to see an end to this nightmare.
I am one of those parents you mentioned, "in this for 10 or more years." It's been 11, with my son. Time actually does not heal all wounds, as it turns out. However, one does learn to live with that pain, to partition it off, so that you can move forward every day. If there's one thing I've learned, it's to work on the relationships--all of them. I've been through two estrangements with my son and, though we've gotten past the most recent one, the threat is ever present. During those times, I'd periodically reach out with love, a small gift, food, or some help, such as, when his birthday rolls around or if I hear that he is sick. That kind of unconditional love is hard for anyone to resist. You don't have to be affirming. I am not. He knows where I stand and I will not beat a dead horse by reiterating all the evidence that this ideology is evil and destructive. You are right on this issue, so own it. If there are those in your life who get angry and try to defend it, simply say that, while you may be wrong on many things, you are not wrong on this one. As for your husband, many men suffer silently. His anger when you cry is likely caused by his inability to "fix this"--and he can't. I would turn some of your unrequited love toward him. He lives in this painful world of yours, too, so try to rekindle that relationship. Be intentional in nurturing the relationship with your younger daughter, too. We inadvertently neglect our other kids when one child's problems consume us. Keep doing more of the things you enjoy: running, talking to your supportive sister, getting out in nature. Hold fast to your faith in God, even if you can't find a spiritual community to call your own. Many churches--so desperate to not be off-putting to any congregation members--remain silent and morally ambiguous on this ideology. Life goes on, but life is not static--things will change. Bad days will become fewer and you will look back and realize that you did the absolute best you could.
Perfectly perceived and summed! I agree with paleblue, why burden a broken-hearted mother; instead the husband should support her and so both will be able to find solace in each other by workign together.
"You are right on this issue, so own it." Great advice, across the board! I do find your analysis of the husband's anger interesting. But as a man, I think those fathers who aren't cowards need to turn that anger in the direction it belongs, and most definitely NOT at the suffering mothers.
I have one beautiful 14 year old daughter who is led to believe that her ambition and strength makes her a boy and that she should subject herself to a life of medical intervention. She already has a medical condition impacting her liver and any additional hormones/etc. would pose tremendous risks. My husband whom I've financially supported for the last 18 years is enforcing that any questioning is non-confirming and transphobic as opposed to helping our daughter love herself first. He does not even allow me to say that she is my daughter based on this insidious ideology and has destroyed my bond with my daughter. My heart is breaking daily for my daughter.
It's not my place to apologize for the actions of any other man who fancies himself an "ally" and acts as an enforcer of the cult, but damned if I don't feel like I need to.
My wife and I are in the same boat as you. We do our best to take care of ourselves and we have good friend groups thanks to my wife's extraversion and spiritual gift of hospitality. Yesterday my Wife was briefly texting our bearded breastless daughter who is now 31 YO, and mentioned to her an old neighborhood friend was mentioning her, our daughter got upset on the text, accusing us of miss gendering her to others knowing we had likely done so. The torture from this paganism never ends. We are not alone. Do not give up.
Just reading 'bearded breastless daughter' broke my heart for you. I might have escaped this terrifying pain of seeing one's kid mutilated, as my daughter seems ( she said not interested any more looking embarrassed, and reiterated her disinterest again when I questioned saying 'I need to be reassured by a clear answer'.) to have desisted, but my fear of internet remains, as she is till awkward about her body, and has very few friends, for she needs to lose body mass / weight ( which I believe sent her into this path, along with a schoolmate who showed her stuff not for a 12 year old). I am monitoring her internet a lot. 1 or 2 hours a day. And she seems to have discarded her old accounts linked to he/him rubbish. It is good that your wife is bringing in company thanks to her warm heart. yes, do stuff for yourselves which helps a great deal. It is crucial not to ruminate on the loss of a part of the child. Much love from France.
I know you're isolated but YOU ARE NOT ALONE, and trust me, we ALL feel isolated. I have a similar lack of patience or tolerance for this ideology too-- once I began studying the ideas that "wokism" relies on and developed a clear understanding of exactly how this happened, why people are so captured by this, and what is REALLY happening when they use the various tactics against any who challenges them, it both validated me AND made me furious. Trans and gender ideology is only one head of a multi-headed hydra. But what I find intolerable isn't trans people-- it's the ideology that activists have used to justify all of the many accomodations they have demanded (which is already an astounding display of privileged entitlement), but then when anyone tries to enforce this belief system on me, or immediately demonize me and become hostile because I have simply questioned some benign expression of this fucking brainrot. (It was someone condeming a really influential and trailblazing author in the witchcraft community named Scott Cunningham because in literally just a few paragraphs at the beginning of his book on Wicca that he wrong in the 80s or early 90s or something, he described witchcraft has being similar to "shamanism." They were pretentiously implying that he was a wilful idiot who was disrespecting indigenous cultures because shamanism was a term appropriated by "white colonization," and besides, his comments that were complimentary of shamanistic practices was a racist trope (apparently believing Western civilization is better than primitive cultures is a racist trope AND liking primitive cultures and believing their closeness with nature granted them additional access to ways of knowing that Western civilization was ALSO a racist trope). I defended him and said that it's unfair to apply fashionable modes of criticism of today onto works written 30 years ago. 10 people just became the most vile, rude, hostile people (including the leaders and the mods of the chat) in a community that's supposed to be like New Agey spiritually enlightened wiccans. Instead, it was a room full of braindead zombie fucking personal disorders inhabiting human bodies.
Anyways, I understand your rage, I understand your rebellion, I understand your refusal to allow any of them to force you to internalize these ideas and parrot them back to them, and I understand your restlessness and sense of panic. I can't imagine doing the research you've done, knowing more about the horrors and risks (and in most cases, complete waste of money and useless sacrifice of your body parts and health) and having to watch your child subject herself to all of this. It's so NEFARIOUS that they have subconsciously built into their ideology a sort of defense mechanism to protect them from being influenced by their parents or anyone else that might talk them out of it-- trans social media, under the guise of "loving and accepting you, even if you're parents don't" convince these people that anyone who disagrees not only with you transitioning, but disagrees with the IDEOLOGY behind it are people who don't love you and don't accept you. I lost a friend this way-- I accepted him and him taking hormones, even though I've known him since he was 18 and for his entire adulthood, he never experienced gender dysphoria and was always just an effeminate gay boy. But I admitted that no, I do not think trans women are LITERALLY women-- hormones and surgeries help you APPEAR more like the other sex, so that you can live your life AS IF you were the other sex, and your friends and coworkers can choose to treat you AS IF you were the other sex, but that you aren't actually changing sex. That the gender/sex thing is bullshit-- that they literally just took "gender ROLES" and "gender STEREOTYPES" and just called that gender, since all of their ideas about it seem to be extremely superficial and just a matter of how you dress. It's a costume.
Anyways, I have suggestions for you. All of this energy that you have-- I think you would find it easier to stay motivated and keep going if the things you were directing your energy towards actually helped fight this ideology. I think you should start a youtube channel and start telling your story, and/or start or join an organization in South Africa that works to assist these young people, and/or write a book about this.
Of course, you'll need to do some research. Check out these books to learn about where the hell this ideology came from (all of these others might have other books you might want to check out too but these are some books recommended amongst gender critical groups):
1. The New Puritans: How the Religion of Social Justice Captured the Western World by Andrew Doyle (
2. Cynical Theories: How Activist Scholarship Made Everything About Race, Gender, and Identity -- And Why This Harms Everybody by Helenrose and James Lindsay
3. The Madness of Crowds: Gender, Race and Identity by Douglas Murray
4. How to Have Impossible Conversations: A Very Practical Guide - Peter Boghossian
And I expect you probably already read these but just incase, these are all books that trans activists have tried banning, have thrown out of book shops (often succeeding- Helen Joyce has a funny story about that somewhere on youtube):
- Trans: When Ideology Meets Reality - Helen Joyce
- Irreversible Damage: The Transgender Craze Seducing Our Daughters - Abigail Shrier
- Material Girls: Why Reality Matters for Feminism - Kathleen Stock
- Lost in Trans Nation: A Child Psychiatrist's Guide Out of the Madness - Miriam Grossman
Read. Write. Tell your story online. And get active politically, even if it means YOU start an organization yourself. You sound passionate and qualified enough considering your research, even if it's only a social and emotional support group where parents, family, and friends of people losing their loved ones to this can share their experiences together.
As a mother of another confused daughter, I can relate. The intectual dissonance of those around us is crazy I often feel I'm in a twilight zone episode. As a mother, it sometimes feels like we the only ones who care about our child. Sending hugs
You are not alone in your persecution, for we are many. Stay the course and instead of watching Netflix or reading a magazine, next time pick up the Bible. Go to Matthew chapter 5 verses 3-10 and read the Sermon on the Mount. No fake churches, just the Word. Ask the Lord to strengthen you in this battle. You are fighting a strong spiritual opponent, so you need to prepare, and be strong in your authority over the enemy.
The fact that this took off in South Africa, of all places, never ceases to amaze me. Stay strong mom. You are a good mom. The rest of the world is crazy, not you. What you are doing may feel pointless, but somewhere there is a kid and a family that won't be subjected to this barbaric pseudoscience because of you. <3 <3 <3
Im only just beginning in my nightmare. I find it hard to laugh, smile, or engage with people . I miss the old me. I miss my son. I have been blocked since the beginning. I cant even imagine doing this for 10 years. My son is clearly mentally ill and everyone says i cant do a thing about it. No one cares. That’s the sad part. God bless you
Try going on vacations , even cheap ones, no, actually especially ceap one sin third world countries , if you can afford the tickets, so that your child sees reality, instead of living in his head. Love.
Hello mom from South Africa, I am a mom from Mexico, this article is exactly how I feel, my husband also has a hard time, everyone asks me to accept it, my daughter suffers in silence, it is exactly the same feeling I have, my house is a mess, work is piling up, I can't stop reading about all this and it makes me want to throw up, I recognize my son less and less, physically, mentally and emotionally. he only thing that has brought me a little comfort is giving my son to God. I can no longer control, help, educate, and guide my son, but I faithfully believe in him, and only he can help him see things as they really are. His timing is perfect. We can only wait and hold on to God, a big hug and I realize that I'm not crazy, it's pain, love, worry, that only we as mothers know.