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Helene's avatar

I am so sorry

For a minute, I thought my mom had written her memories about me and Google translated it since she doesn't speak English

All those stories are so eerily identical, it's mindboggling

I even used those very words she texted

But years have passed and I woke up from my trans coma

There is always hope

She'll never be the same but it doesn't mean her true personality cannot be reborn and the 2 of you can one day rekindle your mom/ daughter flame. In its time.

Take good care of yourself and protect your son in the meantime

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BowWow's avatar

"Friends, family, even coworkers. tell me to just accept, to move on, yet they can’t tell me how. Knowing my daughters at the very least is becoming mentally damaged, quite possibly poisoned, and eventually physically destroyed - how does a mother just move on?"

Imagine that gender were not a part of this. Imagine that our kids were transforming from joyful, sensitive, quirky kids with close family relationships to rage-filled, self-hating and self-erasing (and yes, self-poisoning and mutilating) young people who were cutting off their entire support networks and running into the arms of dubious strangers. If gender were not a part of this, the attitudes of friends, family, coworkers, and our institutions would be completely different.

People who aren't going through this think we're bigots who just can't accept our kids' "gender change." If our kids were identifying as the other sex but otherwise seemed to be living happily, taking care of themselves, and could discuss things and maintain family relationships, many of us would be fine with it. Someday those friends, family, and coworkers will have their eyes opened.

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