Heartbroken and determined

Ready to Sue

I’m the father of a large family of six girls and three boys. Their ages span from 18 to 36 years old. My daughters began exploring the LGBTQIA’s community about seven years ago. They were introduced to this stuff through college and, of course, social media.

About eight years ago, my youngest daughter told my wife and I that she thought she wasn’t straight. She was young enough at the time that we thought this would peter out with time and maturity. However, her sisters began supporting her in this. My wife and I were bewildered. We didn’t want to do anything that would destroy our relationship with our children, but neither did we want to encourage it.

We had many late night talks. Then, our youngest daughter began saying that she wanted to kill herself. So, we began making sure someone was always with her. I asked her to sign a note promising that if she ever made a plan to harm herself she would first contact me. And we got her on meds.

When she was 18 years old, she and two of her siblings contacted my wife and me saying they wanted a meeting with us. At this meeting my youngest daughter, with the support of her siblings, began detailing how she had never felt loved or safe in our home because we had never accepted or loved the real person that she was.

This meeting felt like a coup. She was separating herself emotionally from us and her siblings who were supporting her were now her surrogate parents. At this time, she was living with her oldest sibling because I couldn’t agree with how she wanted to handle her gender desires.

Fast forward eight years. All discussions of gender issues are now off limits with our daughters and youngest son, who believes he is gay. All discussions of conservative values are off limits. Our youngest daughter has cut contact with me and my wife for four years now.

She has had lots of therapy. The therapist didn’t direct her towards emotional and mental health. Instead our daughter received “gender affirming care”. I just found out that she had her surgery to remove her breasts. I’m past devastated. I can’t stop crying. I know that neither she nor her siblings had the funds to pay for this. Who did? Medicare?

I’m wondering if there will ever be enough support in the U.S. among parents who have been devastated this way to sue the government healthcare systems that pay for this butchery. The policy setting and governing systems that encourage universities to promote gender ideology. The psychology governing bodies that set policies on how psychologists and therapists counsel troubled young people. The healthcare systems that make a place for doctors to butcher our children and perform “sex change” surgery. These are the systems that need to be stopped and held accountable for what they have done.