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I am so sorry! Will they watch any of the detransitioners' documentaries?

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It may not feel like it, but your children are lucky to have you as their parent. Some parents are so onboard with the trans agenda, they actively abandon safeguarding their children, actively encouraging them into the self-harm that is the trans life. https://lucyleader.substack.com/p/what-the-hell-is-wrong-with-parents

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The grief parents go through is real and profound. It’s disenfranchised grief. Grief that is not allowed.

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One thought experiment always plays out in my mind. If tomorrow the world turned into a post apocalypse and the trans people were suddenly unable to access their medications or undergo surgery anymore, would they still spare a moment to think about how they wish they could be running for their lives in high heels and a bra? Or would they more realistically ditch the whole idea of their gender in favor of merely surviving til the next day?

The point is, these depressed people only have time to spare on these matters because they're not living in a 3rd world slum like the favelas of Brazil or on the streets of Baltimore. So if their enablers had their financial support cut from them, no more taxpayer funded interventions and a fast, hard halt on insurance coverage for the procedures and HRT medicines, they wouldn't have time to advocate for the cause either because they would never open up their own wallets enough to pay for everyone they're wish to push into having the transformation done to them. They would be forced to be more selective in who they wish to pursue for their cause.

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Yeah I was in shite place last night but still stand by my innocence of pride. I saw no sexual depravity in the ones I have been to. I do not think LGB is about sexual depravity so maybe that's where we differ. I also still think, in the beginning, supporting my kids on their identity journey was important. If that meant accepting flags badges and marched then so be it. It wasn't until things took am ugly turn with trans ideology that we started taking a step back from *that* kind of support.

*snoozed should read annoyed. I know what NIMBY is now so ok.

I agree I probably am reactive because I'm always upset. We all are that have kids captured by this so I'm not apologising for my emotions.

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My heart goes out to anyone dealing with this utter madness. Many of us see similar patterns or went along with it all at first. I even took my own daughter (gay not trans but very much an ally) to pride with a trans friend of hers. It was all pronouns and make believe and like many of us I thought it was just a phase.

It's not a phase it's a fucked up mind virus.

One of my daughter's friends has had a double mastectomy. Mutilated herself as a sacrifice to this cult.

This madness is blowing up too many families. Concern is taken as hate and resentment builds as the cult dictates what these youngsters believe. Unfortunately these vulnerable young people are told anyone who tries to put the brakes on or suggests therapy hates them and is trying to get them to erase their true selves.

No amount of logic breaks the spell. No amount of pointing out the dangers breaks the spell. They are programmed in such a way that anything said against their beliefs only makes them dig in deeper.

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I just saw this on instagram:

“A transgender, biological male student sneaks up on a female student at Hazelbrook Middle School in Tualatin, Oregon. He SLAMS her to the floor before pulling her hair and punching her in the face multiple times.”

https://www.instagram.com/reel/CxvxTJpPygd/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

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To the author, thanks for sharing your story. I can relate to the idea of the 'wasted years' -- years of missing out on good conversations, vacations, and spending time together. Many of us were blindsided, especially those of us whose kids were over 18 and living far away when they discovered this ideology. We couldn't take away their phones and threaten to ground them, could we? We were cut off just for asking some curious questions.

No one here should be making you feel to like you're to blame. Most of us using this website are parents who can relate to the pain, suffering and estrangement. Lately, however, the audience for the website has extended to include trolls and conspiracy theorists looking to score political points or perhaps even foreign actors trying to foster political instability. I hope you won't take those kinds of comments too personally. Those of us are parents hear you, and we were blindsided too. Wishing you good thoughts that the tide is turning and your kids will come out of this okay.

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Sep 29, 2023·edited Sep 29, 2023

Sounds like someone experiencing the consequences of their own actions.

You invited this culture in willingly then expected to be able to control the outcome.

But the genie's out of its lamp now and there's no way it's going back in because that lamp is shattered.

Best hope is to cut them off any insurance in case you're in a state the won't pay the costs of transition and they'll need that lifeline to do it. Also don't allow any Rx purchases to your plan for their HRT.

And if they push on through still, stop all payment of their phones, internet etc. Let them experience real life earlier than 18 if they want to play grownups enough to also claim to have the right to transition at will.

Read this other ladies story to give you encouragement that it would be the right thing to do.

https://pitt.substack.com/p/when-the-glitter-mom-replaced-me

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{{HUGS}} to you. I am so incredibly sorry for your struggle. And I am also very grateful for your willingness to be so open and raw, and share this with others to teach. Your effort to shed light on this can impact others in a way that could literally save a family! Bless you for that.

I have to also say that the red flags in this account are definitely there, and it is very useful for parents to see these stories so we can clearly see where something may have gone wrong. I think it is clear from many of these tragedies that the best course of action for parenting is to stand FIRM and steadfast in our convictions, live TRUTH always, and never budge an inch in what we know is right. As apposed to what will cause the least amount of friction or relationship angst in the moment. It is so so very difficult to knowlingly, willingly enter a situation where you know your adolescent child is definitely going to be angry with you, and/or distance him/herself from you. Purposely knowing you will "hurt" your relationship is GUTWRENCHING thing to do! We just want them to "be happy"! We want them to love us! And it "feels" like when they are angry or frustrated with us, or when they pull away, that is not love, and that is not acceptance. It "feels" wrong sometimes! But it is RIGHT. It is still the correct thing to do...even though it can be the most difficult. My children know that even if it literally means they stop talking to me or sever ties with me (which happened for a time) - I will never say something is true that I know is not. Or vice-versa. They may disagree with my views...but they have respect for my integrity and my untouchable moral standards and my relationship with God. They just have to be okay with you telling them you love them as much as a human can love someone - and that is one reason why you will NOT lie to them just to "be friends". One of the first things I told my adult daughter when she found out she was going to be a mom was to never forget "motherhood is not for wimps". It takes so much courage and it takes (in m yopinion) a constant, healthy, active relationshuip with your Creater to be successful as a mom today. We can't do it alone. It's tough. Bless you and your family, I pray for all of you struggling with anything like this. Keep stong! XO

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Gosh. I am a 76 year old woman and I have NEVER, in my whole life , heard of anything more horrific and life destroying than this insidious ,dangerous cult. It is a toxic MONSTER ,and I pray for everyone who's been infested with its poison and affected by the consequences. The people behind it must be soulless ,heartless maniacs. God Bless X❤️

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Abigail Shrier’s book ‘Bad therapy’ will be a good one to read. Too late for most of us unfortunately but maybe it will promote change for the future

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It’s a really powerful movement & I struggle to this day to understand how it triumphs over us. Depressing beyond belief that once happy families are so disappointed in each other

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Those who are "accepting" of LGBTQ open themselves up for this deranged psychosis. If somewhat marginal lunacy is acceptable, more marginal lunacy will follow.

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Thank you for sharing your story. My hope is that all will come back to themselves whole and healthy and escape the pernicious cult 'religion' that is 'transgender identity' and that is a disrupting, malign influence on society. I hope that people will not use their language, their fraudulent, deceptive pronouns. And that we refer to mothers as mothers and women as women and LGB people as gay, lesbian or bisexual or as homosexual but not as 'queer' as it is an insult and 'queer' now includes all manner of loons and troons including heterosexuals trying to be edgy. https://fairplayforwomen.com/pronouns/

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