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Michele H.'s avatar

As a therapist, I have really appreciated these essays from this parent. Some really great suggestions! Every day, I am struck by how insane it is that the vast majority of therapists are "affirming" - and I believe that it is largely because they have no idea what is really going on. I think some of it is they themselves are brainwashed in grad school and by the APA and ACA, etc; but I think a big part of it is like the rest of the population, they think it's a matter of kindness vs bigotry. When I speak one on one with other therapists, as well as friends, neighbors, etc - they are usually horrified when I tell them about ROGD, about the gaming-anime-porn gateway, the ease with which kids can get hormones, the fact that 12 year olds have had double mastectomies, that parents have lost custody of their kids over this, that the current Democratic nominee for VP has made his state a "sanctuary state" for trans-identifying kids, etc... Most people, including therapists, have no idea what is really going on, they just think they are being kind and compassionate and "inclusive" by being "affirming." So I hope that more parents continue to connect with each other and speak out about what is really going on. I know it's an excruciating path for you parents going through this, and I just want to encourage you to continue writing these posts, sharing your stories, creating and participating in support groups, educating your pediatricians, writing to your legislators. As this author said, nobody is coming to save you - but you are not alone, and your connecting with others is a big part of changing this tide.

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CA mom's avatar

The phrase, “no one is coming to save you,” resonates with me. I too, had a similar epiphany. It’s an extremely lonely place to be.

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