Last night a good friend told me she was looking for a job in another city. My immediate reaction was, “Don’t Move.” I quickly recovered and agreed that the new job was a good idea, she should go, and I wanted the best for her.
Wow, your life resembles the book of Job in the Bible. Do not be afraid to stand for what is right. Remain true to your beliefs, because those around your sons do not. Be the light in the darkness and lead them back to the truth of God, stay strong.
Your post touches me deeply. I appreciate your summoning the wherewithal and courage to express in a few words the vastness of your layers of terrible losses. In regards to your son: the dilemma between lying to a precious child about the primal reality of their birth sex versus sanctioning a self-destructive fantasy is truly a torturous bind for a parent. The trans cult attacks the sacredness of a parents' love for a son or a daughter. My son, too, is lost in the abyss of his self-descrutive fantasy enabled by a sick society. I hate this cult deep in my bones.
This is a powerful comment. It gives me strength to speak about it more. I’m denouncing anyone that goes along with it & losing friends & family on the way. I don’t yell & I don’t think I’m particularly aggressive. But I am passionate & won’t be silenced anymore. I listen as patiently as I can & then point out that it isn’t kind to affirm delusions. It’s typically met with ‘well…we all have our differing opinions’. The only difference being, mine doesn’t cause harm
This is a battle between reason and madness and madness is tyrannical. It doesn’t admit reality or facts. But mothers have feelings so many of them that pave the wonderful and lovely path of relationships. But love is not a feeling, love is an act of the will and mainly means as you so well stated to care or to want the best for the other person but in transgenderism what is the best? For us is simple the answer because we are not mad or corrupted but for them the right answer is lost in ideology and lies and deception. The transgender movement is so diabolical in nature that doesn’t give us mothers any opportunity because they know they will lose so indoctrination is a must. Your children and the children in this country have been indoctrinated without ceasing since a couple of decades ago, with all the arsenal in trans ideology, shows, movies, lectures, and radio frequencies and subliminal propaganda in video games and so on. Now you are awakening and your position is the right one, they are the crazy ones and sometimes it happens that we are the parents of the crazies ones. Continue to send texts and cards for their birthdays and tell them that one day you will not be here in this earth anymore, one day it would be too late and their remorse will eat them inside.
You're not only incredibly brave but your love is real. Your love for your kids is so pure and true that you can't lie or agree to ride along the lie with them. True love doesn't lie.
I'm sure it feels excruciatingly lonely and painful but the day they wake up, you'll be the only one they trust because you're the only one who passed the test of authentic love. You are an inspiration. Sending love and good vibes your way.
Thanks for your beautiful words. Needed to read this today to help me.
I text every once in a while so my son knows I’m here and pray for him daily. I try to give it to the Dear Lord and trust in his ways. Happy Thanksgiving.
It's through prayer that battles were won, the sea was parted, sick and crippled people were healed, blinds had their eyes open, and smelly corpses were brought back to life. We age and tire. God doesn't. Every new morning, you have the assurance that He is working on your son. Your prayers don't stop at the ceiling or hit a wall. Each one is heard and answered in His way and time. Your job, that you're doing faithfully and lovingly is to keep trusting. Let your son know, as you do, that you have not changed: you love him, always will, you're there, always have been and you're praying for him because you're living for something or someone I should say, higher than yourself. Through your message, you convey a sense of unconditional love, stability and significance. All 3 are missing elements in the trans lies.
Don't do it too often: you want him to silently expect and treasure your virtual presence. That's the open and welcoming door he'll go through when he's ready, in God's time. In the meantime, live your life to the fullest and let God's peace and joy surround you inside and out. Looking forward to reading the return of the prodigal son🩷
Helene, your love of the Lord and your support for me and others is an inspiration. I cannot express how much it helps. I pray my son someday uses his experiences to glorify God and serve others as you do.
I know the Dear Lord put you in my life via this website for a reason. I’m truly blessed that you take time to respond and help me through my darkness. I absolutely love what you wrote and will reread this when I feel down. ❤️
You are so right that I need to keep praying, trust in Gods ways, keep the faith and reach out every once in awhile so my son knows I’m here.
When I do wake up at 4 am, I’m usually praying for him to ease my anxiety and keep saying I trust you Lord with my son. He’s now in your hands do what you feel is right with him. Someday, my son will come to his senses and I’ll be here waiting for him.
Thank you for being you. Wish you were one of my children. You have touch my soul. God bless you. ❤️
This post reminds of a dream I had years ago, I think it was in those first few weeks of my son’s big announcement. All around me was affirm, get help, get used to the new name & sympathy for how hard it’s going to be & that I had no choice. I must have been trying to because in my dream, he was standing over me, laughing, saying ‘I can’t believe you fell for this too’. It was horrible…evil…
Wow, but such a clear representation of what you were going through, what we all are dealing with. Your subconscious was helping you work things out. Our children are at the mercy of evil forces.
No words of mine could ever lessen the pain you feel, just know you are not alone and that God through his son Jesus Christ loves you very, very much. Everything Jesus did or said can be trusted and you can trust Him and his words for counsel, wisdom, help, for it all.
Yes, I do not see how I could go through this without my savior. I do take comfort that this truth is in the very first chapter of the Bible. Genesis 1:27.
Sometimes I just want to change the whole ‘unconditional love’ thing to ‘actually I really only love you on the condition that you show a little respect’. There’s more to you than your identity & if it’s going to hurt you so much that you are referred to as your true born self then you really don’t stand to survive very well in this world. There are far more perilous things that may come your way in life. It almost makes me want to say bring back bullying on the playground so they can learn to get over it & build resilience. Apologies already if this sounds callous. One of those days where I think I’ve had enough
No sometimes I think a punch in the nose would do my son a world of good. Particularly if he received because he went into the ladies room with someone’s wife, girlfriend or daughter. I also believe if we put delusional people in Inpatient care we would have much fewer delusional,people.
That sounds a bit draconian - might it not have the effect of hardening resistance/resolve ? In the days of widespread anorexia nervosa our Women's group hosted a talk by a psychiatrist who worked extensively with teenagers affected by this and she was very clear that 'effective' force-feeding was disastrously counter productive . People who are delusional may have very faulty perceptions but are remarkably clever at evading treatment for them .
Yup. Some days you just run out of patience. Particularly when every time you think of your kids it brings you down. It’s a coping mechanism to allow me to get on with my life. Just as well I don’t work in mental health. Eternally grateful for those that do. Keeping a level head in this mess is exhausting
Nothing is more evil than the cult directing young, vulnerable, delusional people to go no contact. It is not selfish to be upset by this. No contact is the epitome of selfishness and cruelty, especially towards those who love them most. When a parent can't even wish their child a happy birthday or tell them they love them, it erases & negates their basic humanity. Nothing is more demoralizing and cruel than being cast out and voided from a life that you created and nurtured from the moment of conception. This deluded, evil cult has lost their way as decent humans. Although they may no longer deserve our love, by their horrid actions and parental abuse, we continue to love unconditionally. We never give up hope, as with the prodigal son. We want only the best for our children, damaged as they may be. That's what it means to be a parent. There is nothing selfish about parenting and it's tragic that the young generation is so blinded to see us as narcissistic. They need to get over themselves, as the most selfish of people in history. Attempting to share our love is not about us! Never was.
Can understand the son who struggles with mental condition rejecting as part of his absorption into cult ideology. Do wonder why the other son can not find compassion for both his brother and Mother.
It's a cult. Both my sons are indoctrinated into it. My older ally son has not talked to me in over a year despite. They have to cut off non-believers - it's in the zeitgeist.
At a certain age, children feel a natural urge to go out and find their own tribe. These trans-tribes are not any different. Look at some african cultures, where the children go through some physical initiation. This transformation of the body as a means to find and experience ones unique identity, is a contemporary search for such meaningful rituals. It is necessary for the formation of an identity.
Sex, gender, hormones, surgery, being "assigned" a gender at birth, distancing one self from those that do not play along, all fits in with this cult-like phenomenon.
You must go and reconnect with your children. They know, that you love them, but they have to get social proof, that you are willing to cross the border and let go of prejudices. Of course a boy will never be a girl, everbody knows that. "Birthing" people is such a crazy new-speak, it makes me feel nauseous. I don't hate trans-people, but I am afraid of the hype.
I stand in solidarity with you. I would hate for my son to ever return to me and say, "Why did you lie to me and tell me I could be a woman? Why did you call me this name that was not the name you gave to me at birth? Do you think I was born an accident?" To all this and more, I can say I always told him the truth and through that, I know he will know my true love has always been there for him. He knows I miss him. I am his only Mama. Someday, I will say, "Welcome back my son."
You love your son and cannot lie to him. YES. To lie, to pander to the delusion, to gaslight reality, to create momentary happiness through the deceitful connection— it is immoral. It breaks one of the commandments. I truly believe we will meet again on the Other Side. What would I say to a child after we have both died when asked why I lied about the most innate feature of their reality? I cannot. I suppose I will just have to wait until then for the conversation because she hasn’t talked to me since July 2017 when I told her I do not agree she is now a man.
I'm so sorry that life is being so cruel. When will the world wake up to how families are being distroyed.
Peace and love to you. I’m so sorry.
Wow, your life resembles the book of Job in the Bible. Do not be afraid to stand for what is right. Remain true to your beliefs, because those around your sons do not. Be the light in the darkness and lead them back to the truth of God, stay strong.
So sorry for your pain. I hope your sons will wake up soon.
Your post touches me deeply. I appreciate your summoning the wherewithal and courage to express in a few words the vastness of your layers of terrible losses. In regards to your son: the dilemma between lying to a precious child about the primal reality of their birth sex versus sanctioning a self-destructive fantasy is truly a torturous bind for a parent. The trans cult attacks the sacredness of a parents' love for a son or a daughter. My son, too, is lost in the abyss of his self-descrutive fantasy enabled by a sick society. I hate this cult deep in my bones.
This is a powerful comment. It gives me strength to speak about it more. I’m denouncing anyone that goes along with it & losing friends & family on the way. I don’t yell & I don’t think I’m particularly aggressive. But I am passionate & won’t be silenced anymore. I listen as patiently as I can & then point out that it isn’t kind to affirm delusions. It’s typically met with ‘well…we all have our differing opinions’. The only difference being, mine doesn’t cause harm
And yours is based in fact.
Never ever give up. ❤️
This is a battle between reason and madness and madness is tyrannical. It doesn’t admit reality or facts. But mothers have feelings so many of them that pave the wonderful and lovely path of relationships. But love is not a feeling, love is an act of the will and mainly means as you so well stated to care or to want the best for the other person but in transgenderism what is the best? For us is simple the answer because we are not mad or corrupted but for them the right answer is lost in ideology and lies and deception. The transgender movement is so diabolical in nature that doesn’t give us mothers any opportunity because they know they will lose so indoctrination is a must. Your children and the children in this country have been indoctrinated without ceasing since a couple of decades ago, with all the arsenal in trans ideology, shows, movies, lectures, and radio frequencies and subliminal propaganda in video games and so on. Now you are awakening and your position is the right one, they are the crazy ones and sometimes it happens that we are the parents of the crazies ones. Continue to send texts and cards for their birthdays and tell them that one day you will not be here in this earth anymore, one day it would be too late and their remorse will eat them inside.
You're not only incredibly brave but your love is real. Your love for your kids is so pure and true that you can't lie or agree to ride along the lie with them. True love doesn't lie.
I'm sure it feels excruciatingly lonely and painful but the day they wake up, you'll be the only one they trust because you're the only one who passed the test of authentic love. You are an inspiration. Sending love and good vibes your way.
Helene,
Thanks for your beautiful words. Needed to read this today to help me.
I text every once in a while so my son knows I’m here and pray for him daily. I try to give it to the Dear Lord and trust in his ways. Happy Thanksgiving.
You're doing the best and most you can.
The power of prayer is underrated.
It's through prayer that battles were won, the sea was parted, sick and crippled people were healed, blinds had their eyes open, and smelly corpses were brought back to life. We age and tire. God doesn't. Every new morning, you have the assurance that He is working on your son. Your prayers don't stop at the ceiling or hit a wall. Each one is heard and answered in His way and time. Your job, that you're doing faithfully and lovingly is to keep trusting. Let your son know, as you do, that you have not changed: you love him, always will, you're there, always have been and you're praying for him because you're living for something or someone I should say, higher than yourself. Through your message, you convey a sense of unconditional love, stability and significance. All 3 are missing elements in the trans lies.
Don't do it too often: you want him to silently expect and treasure your virtual presence. That's the open and welcoming door he'll go through when he's ready, in God's time. In the meantime, live your life to the fullest and let God's peace and joy surround you inside and out. Looking forward to reading the return of the prodigal son🩷
Helene, your love of the Lord and your support for me and others is an inspiration. I cannot express how much it helps. I pray my son someday uses his experiences to glorify God and serve others as you do.
Oh Helene thank you for your beautiful words. 😭😭😭
I know the Dear Lord put you in my life via this website for a reason. I’m truly blessed that you take time to respond and help me through my darkness. I absolutely love what you wrote and will reread this when I feel down. ❤️
You are so right that I need to keep praying, trust in Gods ways, keep the faith and reach out every once in awhile so my son knows I’m here.
When I do wake up at 4 am, I’m usually praying for him to ease my anxiety and keep saying I trust you Lord with my son. He’s now in your hands do what you feel is right with him. Someday, my son will come to his senses and I’ll be here waiting for him.
Thank you for being you. Wish you were one of my children. You have touch my soul. God bless you. ❤️
Thank you.
This post reminds of a dream I had years ago, I think it was in those first few weeks of my son’s big announcement. All around me was affirm, get help, get used to the new name & sympathy for how hard it’s going to be & that I had no choice. I must have been trying to because in my dream, he was standing over me, laughing, saying ‘I can’t believe you fell for this too’. It was horrible…evil…
Wow, but such a clear representation of what you were going through, what we all are dealing with. Your subconscious was helping you work things out. Our children are at the mercy of evil forces.
No words of mine could ever lessen the pain you feel, just know you are not alone and that God through his son Jesus Christ loves you very, very much. Everything Jesus did or said can be trusted and you can trust Him and his words for counsel, wisdom, help, for it all.
Yes, I do not see how I could go through this without my savior. I do take comfort that this truth is in the very first chapter of the Bible. Genesis 1:27.
Sometimes I just want to change the whole ‘unconditional love’ thing to ‘actually I really only love you on the condition that you show a little respect’. There’s more to you than your identity & if it’s going to hurt you so much that you are referred to as your true born self then you really don’t stand to survive very well in this world. There are far more perilous things that may come your way in life. It almost makes me want to say bring back bullying on the playground so they can learn to get over it & build resilience. Apologies already if this sounds callous. One of those days where I think I’ve had enough
Entirely understandable !
No sometimes I think a punch in the nose would do my son a world of good. Particularly if he received because he went into the ladies room with someone’s wife, girlfriend or daughter. I also believe if we put delusional people in Inpatient care we would have much fewer delusional,people.
Very good point!!
That sounds a bit draconian - might it not have the effect of hardening resistance/resolve ? In the days of widespread anorexia nervosa our Women's group hosted a talk by a psychiatrist who worked extensively with teenagers affected by this and she was very clear that 'effective' force-feeding was disastrously counter productive . People who are delusional may have very faulty perceptions but are remarkably clever at evading treatment for them .
Yup. Some days you just run out of patience. Particularly when every time you think of your kids it brings you down. It’s a coping mechanism to allow me to get on with my life. Just as well I don’t work in mental health. Eternally grateful for those that do. Keeping a level head in this mess is exhausting
Nothing is more evil than the cult directing young, vulnerable, delusional people to go no contact. It is not selfish to be upset by this. No contact is the epitome of selfishness and cruelty, especially towards those who love them most. When a parent can't even wish their child a happy birthday or tell them they love them, it erases & negates their basic humanity. Nothing is more demoralizing and cruel than being cast out and voided from a life that you created and nurtured from the moment of conception. This deluded, evil cult has lost their way as decent humans. Although they may no longer deserve our love, by their horrid actions and parental abuse, we continue to love unconditionally. We never give up hope, as with the prodigal son. We want only the best for our children, damaged as they may be. That's what it means to be a parent. There is nothing selfish about parenting and it's tragic that the young generation is so blinded to see us as narcissistic. They need to get over themselves, as the most selfish of people in history. Attempting to share our love is not about us! Never was.
Can understand the son who struggles with mental condition rejecting as part of his absorption into cult ideology. Do wonder why the other son can not find compassion for both his brother and Mother.
It's a cult. Both my sons are indoctrinated into it. My older ally son has not talked to me in over a year despite. They have to cut off non-believers - it's in the zeitgeist.
Sigh.
At a certain age, children feel a natural urge to go out and find their own tribe. These trans-tribes are not any different. Look at some african cultures, where the children go through some physical initiation. This transformation of the body as a means to find and experience ones unique identity, is a contemporary search for such meaningful rituals. It is necessary for the formation of an identity.
Sex, gender, hormones, surgery, being "assigned" a gender at birth, distancing one self from those that do not play along, all fits in with this cult-like phenomenon.
You must go and reconnect with your children. They know, that you love them, but they have to get social proof, that you are willing to cross the border and let go of prejudices. Of course a boy will never be a girl, everbody knows that. "Birthing" people is such a crazy new-speak, it makes me feel nauseous. I don't hate trans-people, but I am afraid of the hype.
I stand in solidarity with you. I would hate for my son to ever return to me and say, "Why did you lie to me and tell me I could be a woman? Why did you call me this name that was not the name you gave to me at birth? Do you think I was born an accident?" To all this and more, I can say I always told him the truth and through that, I know he will know my true love has always been there for him. He knows I miss him. I am his only Mama. Someday, I will say, "Welcome back my son."
You love your son and cannot lie to him. YES. To lie, to pander to the delusion, to gaslight reality, to create momentary happiness through the deceitful connection— it is immoral. It breaks one of the commandments. I truly believe we will meet again on the Other Side. What would I say to a child after we have both died when asked why I lied about the most innate feature of their reality? I cannot. I suppose I will just have to wait until then for the conversation because she hasn’t talked to me since July 2017 when I told her I do not agree she is now a man.
I know whatever God has planned will be good and right.
Eventually yes - but it could be a long and difficult time first .