So many similarities to our story too. The mingling of pain and love is so tangible.
I also hold fast to the truth and keep Jeremiah 29:11 at the forefront of my mind. It helped me to back up a few versus too.
We are encouraged to keep on living.
As parents going through this, my temptation had been to halt the progress of my own life. But we are to keep on living our own lives in the middle of turmoil.
Similar here. Only mine is my daughter who hasn’t spoken to us in over 3 weeks. We all got into a big fight and she accused us of abuse. The way she said it sounded like she was trying to convince herself it was true. How would I join your prayer groups?
I liked this post. It was simple yet powerful. Funny, nature was all I wanted or could deal with for probably the first 2 years of losing my son to this madness. I remember going on walks for hours into the night & actually touching shrubs & bushes after it had rained, it felt so soothing. The pain was so bad
"...when you stop trying to fight your own humanity." This seems to be the crux of this lost generation of teens and young people. Along with the idea that they are the opposite sex or non-binary (whatever that means), there is a host of other mental health issues with these young people. Where has it all gone so wrong? Touching grass is what we, the hopeful parents and these kids need in abundance, far away from the idea that someone's body is wrong. These confused souls need to feel whatever pain they are in, find a constructive way to deal with it, find their strengths and start living their lives. I grieve with you, Dad.
I am sad for your loss. At this point, no one knows if or when their children will return to them from this evil-cult. If they do return, what condition will they be in? What state will their physical, mental, spiritual and emotional self be like? It is almost unbearable to watch and be around your child while they are feeling trapped in the wrong body. They are depressed, sullen, withdrawn, secretive, and combative. Watching them change (and not in a good way) is heart wrenching. Then for some, their child leaves and your home is quiet, peaceful and comfortable once again, like it was before the dark trans-world crept its way inside. But then you begin to worry and fear the unknown every time you think of your child being out in this great big scary world all alone. It is so unfair! This trans-cult steals from everyone who crosses its path. First, it takes your child, disrupts your home, your sleep, your happiness. Next, when your child leaves (on his/her own terms) or goes off to school, you still feel like a prisoner to the ideology lies. So, now it is time to take care of yourself, grieve the loss and move on. Continue to find pleasure, even in the small things, and enjoy the beauty in the world. God made the trees and birds and flowers for us. Plant and harvest and thrive. Best wishes to you. Until this nightmare ends, I hope you can find happiness again.
Love to see the father's perspectives regarding this cult. I have to called a cult. I struggle with definitions when all this started but now I decided that the most appropriate is Cult because I see a lot of spiritual battles in the people who follow it. I know the approach is "a mental condition" but as many good psychiatrist will tell you there are other components. Any way, I digressed. I like that I see more and more fathers participating and sharing their emotions and thoughts and indeed it is very different from the moms. I see another kind of pain specially with boys, I can "see" their pain, specially if it is your only boy, I can "see" but I cannot be in your place, you are alone as we are all. We are alone because this is so devastating, and diabolical because we cannot do anything when they are older but we can be together to create solutions but we are at the beginning and it is a mountain up we have to climb.
It is wonderful when men also tell us what they are thinking. Men and women need to be friends again, we are compatible, never alike, never enemies but we need to recover the love for each other, maybe our children would be better if we show that love for each other lead our lives, and love is sacrifice.
So, thank you Dad! Your temperance and balance will keep you whole and faithful, God allows to this happens (permissive will)so we change our ways, we wake up because transgenderism is not an isolate issue, it is related with all the maladies of modern society, but specially hipersexuality (too much emphasis in sex as it's an identity without which we cannot live at all. A non sense idea because sex was created to create and perpetuate the species, without it we will disappear. Other cultures know this, but the west forgot all about it with the sexual revolution of the 60's that influenced what did happen in the rest of the west). Transgenderism would never had prospered or claimed so many victims in another times, it is a symptom of a sick society and as soon we acknowledge it the more close we are to be able to stop it. This cult is so contradictory that they advocate that biology doesn't make you male or female but the first thing they want to do is change their biological characteristics to the opposite ones. It defiles all logic. In normal times a person who wants to castrate themselves IT DOESN'T MATTER THE
AGE would have been taken care of and parents would have removed their legal persona, because age doesn't define maturity in these times, age had became just a number. I see 40
years old men behaving like teen agers as women too, it is sad really.
Yes, Adri, "Men and women need to become friends again".
I would just add that it has to be the AWARE ones that need to be friends again. All of these trans-cult-mafia types are all men and women, even though they try to deny it.
Truth can't be denied, and it doesn't need an audience, like they usually do.
Thank you for sharing your story about your Beloved Son. God's Plan God's Will 🙏. I came to the feet of Jesus because of my son's rebellion. 2022 fell to my knees begging Jesus for help. Jesus showed up and pulled me from the pit. I say if God can do that for me He can do that for our children. Praying for all our children to be rescued from the pit. Thank you Jesus Amen
"Until then, I can only fight for other children caught in this cult." This is what I am trying to do too. And preventing children not yet in from getting in. I share your pain. Our voices must be heard.
I don’t know what to say, other than I’m just so sorry and I will pray for your son as I do mine. Your sentiments are so well written… beautiful, but also heartbreaking. I’ve been going through a devotional that has been encouraging: Wayward Children: Finding Peace, Keeping Hope, by Stuart Scott.
A beautiful Bible verse to end a beautiful essay. The stories from dads hit hard even though I'm a mom. I think dads want so badly to solve this problem, and it's even more heartbreaking for them when they discover they can't, thanks to a broken culture. Praying for you.
Wow dear father of a struggling son I love your share. This one line you wrote is something I want to whisper in my own son's ear " stop trying to fight your own humanity." Kinda says it all Thanks.
I love that definition of masculinity as well. One of our detransitioners, Kevin, made the point in a video that he now embraces his true identity as a male and protector, not only of females but of anyone who needs his help. Someone who wants to use his strength to help others is a great example of manhood.
So many similarities to our story too. The mingling of pain and love is so tangible.
I also hold fast to the truth and keep Jeremiah 29:11 at the forefront of my mind. It helped me to back up a few versus too.
We are encouraged to keep on living.
As parents going through this, my temptation had been to halt the progress of my own life. But we are to keep on living our own lives in the middle of turmoil.
Similar here. Only mine is my daughter who hasn’t spoken to us in over 3 weeks. We all got into a big fight and she accused us of abuse. The way she said it sounded like she was trying to convince herself it was true. How would I join your prayer groups?
Praying.
Love, Indio
A familiar story, beautifully written. I truly like the verse you chose.
I liked this post. It was simple yet powerful. Funny, nature was all I wanted or could deal with for probably the first 2 years of losing my son to this madness. I remember going on walks for hours into the night & actually touching shrubs & bushes after it had rained, it felt so soothing. The pain was so bad
"...when you stop trying to fight your own humanity." This seems to be the crux of this lost generation of teens and young people. Along with the idea that they are the opposite sex or non-binary (whatever that means), there is a host of other mental health issues with these young people. Where has it all gone so wrong? Touching grass is what we, the hopeful parents and these kids need in abundance, far away from the idea that someone's body is wrong. These confused souls need to feel whatever pain they are in, find a constructive way to deal with it, find their strengths and start living their lives. I grieve with you, Dad.
I am sad for your loss. At this point, no one knows if or when their children will return to them from this evil-cult. If they do return, what condition will they be in? What state will their physical, mental, spiritual and emotional self be like? It is almost unbearable to watch and be around your child while they are feeling trapped in the wrong body. They are depressed, sullen, withdrawn, secretive, and combative. Watching them change (and not in a good way) is heart wrenching. Then for some, their child leaves and your home is quiet, peaceful and comfortable once again, like it was before the dark trans-world crept its way inside. But then you begin to worry and fear the unknown every time you think of your child being out in this great big scary world all alone. It is so unfair! This trans-cult steals from everyone who crosses its path. First, it takes your child, disrupts your home, your sleep, your happiness. Next, when your child leaves (on his/her own terms) or goes off to school, you still feel like a prisoner to the ideology lies. So, now it is time to take care of yourself, grieve the loss and move on. Continue to find pleasure, even in the small things, and enjoy the beauty in the world. God made the trees and birds and flowers for us. Plant and harvest and thrive. Best wishes to you. Until this nightmare ends, I hope you can find happiness again.
Our story is much the same only our son is older and has happened since Covid...2023...we are heartbroken as we know this is a broken road
Love to see the father's perspectives regarding this cult. I have to called a cult. I struggle with definitions when all this started but now I decided that the most appropriate is Cult because I see a lot of spiritual battles in the people who follow it. I know the approach is "a mental condition" but as many good psychiatrist will tell you there are other components. Any way, I digressed. I like that I see more and more fathers participating and sharing their emotions and thoughts and indeed it is very different from the moms. I see another kind of pain specially with boys, I can "see" their pain, specially if it is your only boy, I can "see" but I cannot be in your place, you are alone as we are all. We are alone because this is so devastating, and diabolical because we cannot do anything when they are older but we can be together to create solutions but we are at the beginning and it is a mountain up we have to climb.
It is wonderful when men also tell us what they are thinking. Men and women need to be friends again, we are compatible, never alike, never enemies but we need to recover the love for each other, maybe our children would be better if we show that love for each other lead our lives, and love is sacrifice.
So, thank you Dad! Your temperance and balance will keep you whole and faithful, God allows to this happens (permissive will)so we change our ways, we wake up because transgenderism is not an isolate issue, it is related with all the maladies of modern society, but specially hipersexuality (too much emphasis in sex as it's an identity without which we cannot live at all. A non sense idea because sex was created to create and perpetuate the species, without it we will disappear. Other cultures know this, but the west forgot all about it with the sexual revolution of the 60's that influenced what did happen in the rest of the west). Transgenderism would never had prospered or claimed so many victims in another times, it is a symptom of a sick society and as soon we acknowledge it the more close we are to be able to stop it. This cult is so contradictory that they advocate that biology doesn't make you male or female but the first thing they want to do is change their biological characteristics to the opposite ones. It defiles all logic. In normal times a person who wants to castrate themselves IT DOESN'T MATTER THE
AGE would have been taken care of and parents would have removed their legal persona, because age doesn't define maturity in these times, age had became just a number. I see 40
years old men behaving like teen agers as women too, it is sad really.
Yes, Adri, "Men and women need to become friends again".
I would just add that it has to be the AWARE ones that need to be friends again. All of these trans-cult-mafia types are all men and women, even though they try to deny it.
Truth can't be denied, and it doesn't need an audience, like they usually do.
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Thank you for sharing your story about your Beloved Son. God's Plan God's Will 🙏. I came to the feet of Jesus because of my son's rebellion. 2022 fell to my knees begging Jesus for help. Jesus showed up and pulled me from the pit. I say if God can do that for me He can do that for our children. Praying for all our children to be rescued from the pit. Thank you Jesus Amen
Amen ♡♡♡
We love you.
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"Until then, I can only fight for other children caught in this cult." This is what I am trying to do too. And preventing children not yet in from getting in. I share your pain. Our voices must be heard.
I don’t know what to say, other than I’m just so sorry and I will pray for your son as I do mine. Your sentiments are so well written… beautiful, but also heartbreaking. I’ve been going through a devotional that has been encouraging: Wayward Children: Finding Peace, Keeping Hope, by Stuart Scott.
A beautiful Bible verse to end a beautiful essay. The stories from dads hit hard even though I'm a mom. I think dads want so badly to solve this problem, and it's even more heartbreaking for them when they discover they can't, thanks to a broken culture. Praying for you.
Wow dear father of a struggling son I love your share. This one line you wrote is something I want to whisper in my own son's ear " stop trying to fight your own humanity." Kinda says it all Thanks.
I love that definition of masculinity as well. One of our detransitioners, Kevin, made the point in a video that he now embraces his true identity as a male and protector, not only of females but of anyone who needs his help. Someone who wants to use his strength to help others is a great example of manhood.
Can you link a video or contact for this Kevin? Today is my son's birthday and I'm seeking a sprig of hope. Thank you
Thinking of you, birthdays are hard. I’m always so relieved when they are over
I wish I could, but the video was a few years ago and I believe it's no longer online. I will ask him for a copy and send it if he has one.